We aren't the same age, but we have the same history. I started gaining weight when I was 8-yrs old. I never stopped. In high school, I was known as the largest person in the building.....for four years. I've been on every diet known to mankind (cabbage soup diet, HCG shots, Weight Loss Clinic, Weight Watchers, Nutrisystem, T.O.P.S. banana diet, Atkins diet, Beverly Hills Diet, hospitalization at 13-yrs of age, etc, etc.........) My husband is not the problem anymore (we're divorced: happy, happy, joy, joy), though my adult son, despite all my years of trying to teach him good eating habits, has become a meat-rice-junk food eater. After being diagnosed with breast cancer, I gained 65 pounds. I think I may be the only person who GAINED weight during chemotherapy!!! I'm healthy again, but I am FAT FAT FAT. My current scale stops at 270, so I'm guessing at 285. I have never made a New Year's resolution in my life...until now. My goal is to "baby-step" my way down the scale. My first action plan: stop eating between meals. I didn't think it would be this hard, but, geez......my knees shake, and suddenly I can't think of one good reason I shouldn't be eating pb&j. The good news is, I'm actually succeeding (not %100, but at least 95). So, if you want encouragement, I'd certainly be interested. I didn't want to be fat and forty...well, ok, it's too late for that.....now I'm trying NOT to be fat and fifty!!!