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Topic : 06/25 "What's Age Got to Do with It?"

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Created on : Friday, January 04, 2008, 02:11:13 pm
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(Original Air Date: 01/10/08) As we age, we want to continue to feel and look young, but it helps to know a few secrets. Dr. Phil is joined by his wife, Robin, who reveals her tips for looking younger, feeling better and getting slimmer. She uses resources from her personal Rolodex to make over five moms who say they appear and feel older than they should. After visiting with a personal trainer, consulting with a skin care expert and working hard for a few weeks, the women are rewarded with a surprise trip to Robin's house. Find out the special gifts she presents to them. Then, Robin is joined by her daughter-in-law, Erica, and fashion guru Cojo for a shopping trip at L.A.'s popular store, Kitson, where she shows how to create hip, youthful looks for any age. With Cojo's help, Robin picks out outfits for the five women, and they reveal their new looks to their family members for the first time on Dr. Phil's stage! Don't miss Cojo's solutions for dressing disasters that add decades to your looks. Join the discussion.

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January 5, 2008, 1:21 pm CST

"What's Age Got to Do With It?"

I am 64. I don't understand why you are so upset about being 50.  I enjoy my birthday every year when it rolls around and I can celebrate with my friends.

 

 

 
January 5, 2008, 2:12 pm CST

We Aren't Getting Any Younger

I have been worried about my looks since I was 49. I finally got Botox around my eyes and mouth, what a difference it made. I have always been told I look younger than my age but to me I noticed every wrinkle. I even quit smoking to help with my looks. I drink lots of water daily and walk on my treadmill for 40-45 minutes a day at 6-6.4 mph. I do indulge on junk food once in a while like popcorn or choclate bars but I'm not over weight, thank God. My husband loves long hair so I dare not change it. I use  good face creams and I wash with a face only cleanser. I am 55 and I am told I look 10-15 years younger so I feel pretty good about that. I also wear clothes that are comfortable but young looking. I will buy a pair of nice dark blue jeans and a tee shirt that looks good. I try to wear proper fitting bras and outer wear so I don't look frumpy or like I have no waist. I guess we all have to do what makes us feel good and healthy. I think water and exercise are the two best things we can do for ourselves. I will be watching Dr. Phil & Robin to find out her secrets to staying young and fit. I hope we all learn something that will help us in our jouney to older age.
 
January 5, 2008, 2:36 pm CST

47 and happy

Quote From: hpmx59

Age Do Doctor Got Is It Phil What With? Doctor Phil I am 49 year old but I will be 50 year old on Friday July--

18th, 2008.  So why are you asking me about it?  See you on Janurary 10th, 2008. Sincerley Your. Russel--

l Vlaanderen.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Hello there I never bothered to give a hoot about my age. It's part of the life process/ or cycle if you like that one better. I know it bothers a lot of women including a lot of my friends but maybe I'm an odd ball it doesn't bother me. I don't hide my age and would never consider plastic surgery even if someone paid for it. I'm a 47 year old who is going through menipause, could lose 40 pounds and laugh lines around my mouth and eyes that show years of happy memories. Why would I want to erase that? It's not that I don't care how I look on the contrary I do care. I'm a mother of 3 and grandma of 3 and I look the part. I'm happy with my life. I hope all these women find what they are looking for and find some peace and happiness within them selves. Liz

 
January 5, 2008, 2:46 pm CST

Losing It

I will be 52 in March.  I found myself in the hospital on my 50th birthday having open heart surgery.  I then return to work to only find myself back in the hospital and subsequently had to have an ICD implant and am no longer able to work.  I look in the mirror at myself and see a different person.  I am aging fast.  Before the surgery people thought I was in my thirties.  I am single and have not been on a date in years.  I don't think anyone will have me now because I have stopped taking care of myself.  I only go out if I have to, to the doctors and store for food and am putting on a few pounds.  I have had the same hair style for the past 2 years (a ponytail).  I would like to get back a little of my life any suggestions.
 
January 5, 2008, 4:54 pm CST

Whats age got to do with it?

Quote From: susielries

i may be in la la land but i am turning 60 in august, am overweight( and losing weight)....but i don't obsess about my age. i don't think i look it, every says i don't..i don't feel it inside--sometimes the outside does!!!! i bought into oprah's ''50 is the new 30'' and i am living like it is the truth! i remember what my grandmother looked like at 45-50 and she was an old woman. i see older --maybe they are my age!?- women and wonder why the hairdo, why the clothes? color your hair, wear comfortable stylish clothes and have fun.

I Think the secret to not getting older is how we feel about ourselves.

 

As I got into my late forties and early 50's when I realized that I needed to change how I saw myself.

I took note of what I had going for me. Whether it was a nice smile, good communicator, smart, etc.

We need to capitalize on that.

 

Changes need to happen such as hair color.. highlights, color change, gray works for very few woman as well as long straight hair as we age, different make up and yes, some make-up is needed.

 

Appropriate clothes. Jeans do not need to be worn all the time.

 

I will be 64 soon and feel like I'm in my late 40's.

 

I love life and I hope it shows and besides, it helps being surrounded by younger people.

 

So, in a nutshell, if women work from the inside out she will find a beautiful woman who knows who she is and what she finds and wants in life.

 
January 5, 2008, 5:02 pm CST

Sensual Seniors

I agree with Shirley. Contrary to popular belief, old age does not end when one is in their fifties. I am an African American, sixty three years young female, who expects to  receive her Master's degree in Mental Health Counseling in May 2008. I presently intern as a Behavioral Counselor. However, I would appreciate an appropriate, updated, and stylish look, as I begin my new career. By the way, May is Senior Citizen's month. I think that would be the most appropriate time to do a program for the "Over Sixty Super Sensual Set" of people. 

Dr. Phil, I would like your feedback on this.

Thanks for your attention to this matter.

Sincerely,

Ms. Over Sixty Super Sensual Senior 

 
January 6, 2008, 4:16 am CST

looking older everyday

Dr Phil or Robin, Please lets get real and give some real life tips instead of the ones only very rich can afford. I am 54 and I make around 40,000 per year i cant afford to go to some makeover salon so i have to do it at home any ideas for that  and how about what to wear that is affordable to most of america i know there has to be something  nancy pallace  nanpal2@cox.net

 
January 6, 2008, 6:26 am CST

I wonder too, how does he pick his guest

Quote From: k7k6c7

What about the larger ladies?  Any makeover or shows with suggestions on how to improve your looks and self confidence have mainly chosen slim to average women.  Those of us who are 250 lbs or more (I'm 52 and closer to 300 lbs) have excessive "curves" that we would like suggestions on how to diguise until we can lose the weight.  In some cases we need our selfconfidence built up to even try the make up suggestions without making expensive mistakes (buying the wrong product and never using it). 

 

Some of the clothes suggested on these makeover shows run on the expensive side for the average person.  Comments like..."and her slacks from XYZ store are only $150 or $75.... not everyone can afford that much on a single item.  I am a single person and only work part-time so I'm doing good if I can afford $150/yr on new clothes shopping mainly at Walmart and Penningtons (in Canada) and only on sale.

 

Makeover shows; I just watch and dream, because that's all I can afford.  I hope Robin or one of her assistants read this post and think of us.

 

 

Linda

Jones Falls, Canada

I wonder the same as you.  I am 38, have 4 kids ages 5, 8, 9 &19.  A 20 year old son-in-law and a 4 month old grandson.  Two years ago I weighed 130lbs.  Now I weigh 200.  I feel so old, frumpy & ugly.  I am so busy taking care of my family that I haven't changed my hairstyle in years and all my clothes are a size 7.  When I had lost my weight 2 years ago I got rid of all my "fat" clothes.  Now I am left with stretch pants and big t-shirts.  I would give anything to be picked for a makeover and for ideas on how to look "better" in clothes.  I don't think we will ever be picked because at the reveal, we will still be fat.  I'm going to try and lose weight again and fit back into my size 7.  My logo is "70 for 7".  Good luck to you and maybe one of these days us "chubby" women will get picked for a makeover.
 
January 6, 2008, 8:28 am CST

Thank you

Quote From: stillwed

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.  What is your life like?  Have you accomplished some things that you wanted to by the time you reach 50?  Have you established a family?  Are you happy with your life in general?  The reason I ask is because those things have been so important to me.  I will also turn 50 this year.  I started my family at a very young age (18), I've been married (sometimes happily and sometimes unhappily) to the same man for almost 32 years, I have 3 grown children and 5 grandchildren.  I did not work much outside of the home as the kids were growing up.  I also didn't think much about nurturing myself.

 

I've been told I'm a "hot" grandma, but it wasn't always so, LOL!  I have finally started to nurture myself and it shows.  I've learned to say "no" more often to demands on my time.  I have found passionate pursuits that nurture my soul.  Sometimes I don't even actually get around to doing them, but just knowing that they are there is wonderful!  For example, I've found that I love photography, and I'm good at it!  Even if I wasn't good at it, the fact that I feel passionate about it is what is important; that is what has brought the satisfaction and healing that I needed. 

 

I would like to look my best for my age, but I don't want to look like I'm 35 again.  That would be holding onto the past.  To live in the present for me means to love who I am and who I've become.  I've earned these wrinkles, these stretch marks, this tummy that has expanded a bit to help me keep up my estrogen levels naturally.  When I'm getting dressed in the morning I make it a point to look in a full length mirror and tell my body that I like it.  And I do it even though I'm somewhat overweight, have some loose skin from past weight loss, and a few wrinkles and lumps and bumps here and there.  My aging body is not my enemy any more than my granddaughter's pre-adolescent body is her enemy.  We are just ever changings.  We were not meant to stay the same.  The only way it can feel like our enemy is if we try to hold onto the past.  If we let the past go then it becomes much easier to embrace who we are becoming. 

 

Try to think of the things you have accomplished in your life.  Maybe you've had a great career, or you've raised a family, and devoted all of your energy to that as I have.  Now try to take some time for you.  Find your passion, something that transcends your physical body, and feeds that young girl inside of you.  She'll always be there and it's your job to nuture her.  Think of some older people that you admire and figure out what it is that you admire about them.  I'll bet it has little to do with how they look. 

 

As far as your body goes, find out what really looks good on YOU.  Find your best style and stick to it.  If I find a shirt that flatters my shape I buy one in my three best colors...LOL!  Think classic rather than trendy.  Add a trendy accessory here and there to keep yourself up-to-date, but for your basic wardrobe, keep it classic.  Find a pair of jeans that really fit and flatter you...buy two!  If money is an issue, don't forget about the thrift stores.  It takes a lot of time to find what you are looking for, but the hunt can be a fun one. 

 

Take good care of your skin.  I have found a line of natural skin care products that work beautifully for me and have taken a good 5 years off of my face.  They are not expensive either!  Another tip is to take good quality supplements.  I take a fist full every day.  My doctor chuckles at me, but I feel great, and I didn't feel great in my late 30s and early 40s because I have fibromyalgia and CFIDS.  I believe that they've also helped my skin a great deal.  I have found an online source with very reasonably priced supplements. 

 

Guard your sleep.  Sleep is nature's spa in my opinion.  You need good quality sleep and a good amount of it.  Because I don't work outside of the home I have a huge luxury here.  I can sleep as long as I need to.  But do try to get your sleep.  It makes a world of difference in how you look.  Take a short, hot bath before bed each night to prepare your body for sleep, then slide into the most luxurious sheets that you can afford.  You are worth it!  And luxury doesn't have to be expensive.  I buy my luxury sheets at TJ Maxx and they are never over $40 a set. 

 

Exercise, or at least pursue a gentle art, like Tai Chi or Qi Gong.  This is my most challenging area.  I really struggle with it and hope to do better this year.  I'd also like to learn to meditate. 

 

Well, those are my ideas for you.  I hope that one or two of them will help.  Every time you think of yourself as getting older, try to give it some perspective.  For example, what would you say to a 6 or 7 year old that was disappointed that they couldn't look like a baby any longer?  It would simply be impossible and unreasonable, right?  How's that any different than you wanted to continue to looking just as you do now?  It isn't reasonable.  What is reasonable is to take care of yourself, and look your daily best as you continue to age, and to love who you are becoming.   The important part of yourself right now is that teenage girl that you abandoned at about age 14 to impress the boys (or other girls depending on your sexual orientation).  She needs to be nurtured. 

 

Take care and here's an early "Happy Birthday!" 

I am 45yo. My body has changed and my face has changed too. Life has not been easy with me, but I am healthy and have two hands to work hard for what my sons and myself need. Now I am on the road of aging.... I did not know how to handle it. With all the women that you see on tv and magazines that are older than I am but look younger than I am. Gee! I wish they all were honest with the rest of us who cannot afford plastic surgery and tell us all the procedures that they have undergone. It is so unfair that they make us feel older because we do not have the means, or we have other priorities (like paying bills or take care of our family)  to face a liposuction, a face lift or whatever other alternatives are available.... This is how I was feeling UNTIL I read your email. The perspective that you have shared with us is REALLY WISE! For that I am going to thank you for the rest of my life.  We all should repeat your words of wisdom: 

 

For example, what would you say to a 6 or 7 year old that was disappointed that they couldn't look like a baby any longer?  It would simply be impossible and unreasonable, right?  How's that any different than you wanted to continue to looking just as you do now?  It isn't reasonable.  What is reasonable is to take care of yourself, and look your daily best as you continue to age, and to love who you are becoming. 

 

 
January 6, 2008, 11:34 am CST

01/10 "What's Age Got to Do with It?"

Quote From: miraclesto

I definitely will watch this show topic. I survived cancer and other things, but after a traumatic brain injury, I feel like I am aging 10 years in a single year. I just turned 50 and feel like the women on the show all rolled into one. When you concentrate on just surviving an illness, a tragedy, and such year after year, it takes a toll on your looks. I have the same long hair, but now much thinner and turning gray and my once natural looking face looks haggard, saggy, and wrinkly. I tried the BriteSmile to perk me up, but instead I ended up with a huge burnt fat lip and my teeth and gums were left sore and my teeth were still dingy. I even tried Retin-A and to me it made my wrinkles worse. Now I have wrinkles around my mouth where I didn't think wrinkles developed and my eyes when I smile look like thin ice cracking when someone steps on it. I look horrendous now. I was borderline osteoporosis in 2005 and after menopause and allergies, I know it didn't help my skin any. So I sure could use some tips since nothing I seem to try helps. I thought about Thermage but don't think it could help the loose skin around my eyes and I don't know what would help the wrinkles, expecially around my mouth. With allergies, I wonder if I would be allergic to injections or if they even work or for how long. I want to cry expecially when I watch television and see all these older stars (some in their 60's and 70's) that have such firm, tight, wrinkleless skin. What are they using or doing? I could stare at Robin all day with her flawless, glowing complexion. I hope she goes over specific beauty regimens to follow or try, expecially the herbal, natural ones. Thank you.

I've had great success with the Derma-e line.  I have to admit that I was blessed with good skin to begin with, but I had started to see signs of aging, like the wrinkles around the lips.  Their products have helped a great deal.   Those particular lines around my mouth have been gone for 2 years now.  My favorite two products are the Pycnogenol Eye Gel with Green Tea Extract and the DMAE-Alpha Lipic-C-Ester Retexturizing cream.  Awesome!  Sounds like you've been through a lot.  I'm so sorry!  Good for you for keeping your chin up!  If you search around the web you'll find those products pretty inexpensively. 
 
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