Topic : 03/27 "Get Your Act Together!"

LOSERS is putting it mildy! These women and their parents are fools! First, the women who put up with it and then the parents who allow it.

I have read many of the comments about this show that aired.  One that really got to me is from a woman that is caring for her parents and is 53 years old and whining about defrosting the freezer.

Listen lady, be thankful you still have parents.  I moved from TX to OH in 1995 when I could tell that my Mother's health was starting to fail.  I gave up my entire life in order to move to OH to care for my Mother. My daughter was getting ready to start high school and I wanted her to attend her full 4 years of school in one place, not moving from state to state. So the solution, move.

My Mother's health started getting really bad when my daughter was still in high school. Between driving to and from work everyday, a 1-1/2 drive each way (we lived in the country and it was definitely a long commute), going to my Mother's apartment in the city where I worked, to clean, do her laundry, get her groceries, take her to and from the doctors, specialists, emergency hospital visits and stays, etc., I was worn out. This did not include my responsibilities I had at my own home and trying to stay involved in everything my daughter was involved in at school, youth group, upcoming college visits, etc. You name it, I did it. I didn't care how much work it was, how tired I was, I managed. And believe me, I was no spring chicken.

I sent my daughter off to college at 17 years old in the summer of 1999. Finally, when my daughter went off to her second year of college in 2000, I had a serious discussion with my Mother about me moving to the city and us moving in together into a home. We rented a nice place together and I have been caring for her on a daily basis ever since. I am proud to say that my Mother is now 85 years old and still alive. And believe me, if I had not stepped up to the plate and took on the responsibility that every child should do, she would not be alive today. I am an only child, have no help with my Mother, but I handle it. Her doctors made me give her things to do at home to keep her active and moving around. Her chores are this - do the dishes a little at a time and run the sweeper when you feel up to it. My Mother is a CHF patient, has A-Fib, has had I cannot tell you how many life threatening surgeries over the years that I have been her caregiver. I actually lost a very good job because I had to choose to be at the hospital when my Mother had surgery or be at work. Jobs are a dime a dozen. Parents are not. Yes, we fuss at each other from time to time but that is because we are both stubborn.

I was just diagonised with a brain tumor that is inoperable. Do you think that is going to stop me from caring for my Mother? NO! Do think I came home from the neuro surgeon's office and laid this burden on my Mother? NO! She will never know about the tumor. What is the point? So she can worry herself to death about me? NO!

So stop your whining and get it together. Be thankful you have parents and are able to defrost the stupid freezer and be there when your parents need you. I do everything, the yard work, the laundry, the grocery shopping, the cooking, the gardening, the canning - EVERYTHING!  Yes, I have slowed down since the headaches started and the brain tumor was diagonised. Sometimes we eat frozen food. So what? I cannot do as much as I did before, but I will be darned if my Mother is not taken care of.

So my advice to you is to STOP WHINING, STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND BE THANKFUL YOU STILL HAVE PARENTS TO LOVE AND CARE FOR. You said you were 53 years old, well you are acting like you a 5 years old. I am almost 52 years old, have numerous health problems myself, but it is not stopping me.

When things get overwhelming, go see a friend, go to a movie, call a friend on the phone, talk to people in general, go for a drive, anything. But don't blame this on your poor parents. You should be ashamed of yourself. No if's, and's or but's about it. Just extremely ashamed.

 

 

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     If I won the Powerball lottery, I would give myself the gift of the judge's school.  I would enjoy being judge #5 (USA) at the World Championships.  Next year, they are in Los Angeles.  I am one of the few people you know who can actually tell you the difference between a salchow and a lutz.  I can explain why a flying sit-spin into a back-cross-foot spin should have the same point value as a triple Axel!  

   

I have taken in several people to help them get on their feet .And Ive learned to hate it .Not one of them made things for them better .So Im a loser at helping people get on their own .So I decited NEVER TO LET ANYONE ELSE MOVE IN.But now im locked in with another loser that is causeing me nothing but trouble.I have to have her evicted .People that have nothing will never have anything ,best thing to do with them is dont take them in .Let them go to a shelter and they will have 30 days to get on their feet or out the door .I hate people living with me because I do all the cooking ,cleaning and if they have kids I have them to raise also .Its li,e they have signed into a high dollar hotel .They take over the TV and eat all the time ,but never feed their kids that is left up to me .They sit and decide to visit friends but wants me to watch their kids .going shopping im to watch their kids .Well Im not going to take it any more .Ive learned a loser is a loser all their life .My niece is 41 years old and will move in to take over .shes lazy and want help do anything and it you say something they throw a piss fit .Ive got to where I tell her I didnt ruin your life and its not my place to take care of you .At 41 shes in a lots better shape that I am .I say throw them out and let them learn to servive any way they can .But they go from one people to another useing them .They make family just hate them .Its going to cose me monry to have a judge evict her from my property .So when they ask to live with you just say NO and mean it .If she has any money she dont want to spend it on some of her care .she wants to buy what she likes .I have a dear friend that is going threw the same thing Im going threw .And they do threatened you with their kids ,but pay no attention to that its jusr a good form of blackmail so they have a place to flop .I say dont let them in or kick their azz out .If I  was the Parents and renting a apartment I would go find me another apartment and move off and leave them there .Do what you have to ,to get rid of freeloaders.

Girl you are just afraid to call it quits because it is your third marriage .But you need to cut the apron strings and stop mothering him .Its a womans nature to to mother him.And Ive been married 4 times and I got a good one .Thoose you had and have now is just a starter husband .But do this stop letting men pick you ,that was my mistake .I just knew they were my night in armer,boy was I wrong They were my nightmare .If you learn to be a door mat for a man then live alone for a year or better ,and get a plant and if it dont die then you can start looking for a man .But look at what he has and how well he takes care of it .If he has nothing its just because so other woman just kicked him out .Men that are good men have things that makes living good .And DATE dont move in with him or let him move in with you .Get to know that person real good .

What a pair of bums Amanda and Mike are. She only wants him to get a job so SHE can stay home and do nothing. She should be mad because he is insulting and using her mother. I had to stay with my mother once when I moved from one state to another. I cooked, I cleaned, I ran errands, I did the laundry, and worked at the same time until I found an apartment. It was just what I felt I should do.

He's never going to leave because he is comfortable there, and has to do nothing. She has no pride and he has no backbone.

I have rarely seen two more selfish, egotistical, lazy people, and using "baby blackmail" just typifies them. Not to mention the look of hate Amanda gave her sister. $400 in 6 months amounts to maybe $75 a month, and that isn't going to pay for baby needs, food, utilities, etc. And neither Amanda or Mike look like they are skipping the meat portion.

"Gramma" should file for CINS custody, legally evict them, and change the locks. They are not going to stop sucking off others, and frankly, once they go, they will probably repeat this behavior with another family member (maybe his?) or friend who misguidedly takes them in.

Do you work, do you have an income, do you do anything else beside care for your parents and complain? You say you would not want to see your parents in an assisted living situation or in a nursing home, so then why are you complaining about defrosting a freezer? Goodness lady, get it together, they are your parents. if the freezer needs defrosted, do it. How hard is that? Unplug the stupid thing, clean it out and move on. Oh my, what a hard days work.

I so agree with you about both parents working, and sacrificing valuable quality time with their children, just to maintain a materialistic lifestyle. The dual income is often a choice, not a necessity. But, in Dr Phil's quests' case, I think they both need to work. While the husband's stupid choice to smuggle drugs into the prison where he worked does limit the field of employers willing to hire him, there are jobs available to him. That won't pay him well enough for his wife to stay at home with their child. But, he put himself into that predicament by breaking the law. And, he's just using his criminal record, and opinion that  certaisatn jobs are beneath him, as an excuse not to work. He's just too damn lazy. And, his wife doesn't have the experience, or skills, to be the sole breadwinner, either. So, they might as well both work. Until one of them is making enough that the other can stay at home with their child. Under their own roof.