Topic : 03/27 "Get Your Act Together!"

Im watching the show at this very moment and im laughing so hard i almost peed my pants!!!

When my daughter was born i rented a 2bdroom apartment and worked two jobs. its part of the responsibility of having kids. Yes i had help, i signed up for state assistance on daycare and my parents babysat sometimes 8hrs in one day. but i was never a mooch. i dont kno where these people get off just living on a living room floor?!? Invading her parents space and taking advantage of them.

Dr. Phil if you ever want to do a show on strong willed women contact me!!

I am in total agreement with Dr. Phil about the couple to get out and get a job!  But what agency does a person go to if they can not find a job on their own?  There is a young man 25 years of age who has looked for a job in Grand Prairie, TX.  Unfortunately he has a 2nd degree felony on his record and no driver’s license. He has applied at several fast food chains/franchises all say they do not hire someone with a felony conviction on their record.  He has gone to Project Rio for the State of Texas and all they did was speak to him in a ugly way…. Say “you convicts come last, just sit down.”  So my question is where in the world do felons find a job if a state agency doesn’t even care?  I would love to know what agency Dr. Phil turns to that will help this gentleman find a job. 

Enabler: - parents, grandparents, usually MOTHERS of adult children who perpetuate the situations by allowing themselves to be taken advantage of - all in the name of LOVE

Emotional blackmail:  Using a child to emotionally blackmail a parent - this is right on, too, because what grandparent (especially GrandMOTHER) would want their grandchildren on the street?

It is not mean and cruel to raise your children with the constant that they are to develop skills, obtain educational goals and make smart choices in order for them to be self-sufficient to lead an authentic life.

I know what I'm talking about, people.  4 years ago when my m-i-l was dying and we had to evict her alcohol and meth-addicted 48 year old loser of a son (and his illegimate young son) who lived off her, trashed her 4 bedroom suburban home into squalor, jacked her ATM for $300 every 3 days yet there was never food in the house, etc.    He didn't last 5 months in the apartment we fronted him the money for - was evicted by the time we moved her into a nursing home - if we hadn't sold her home so quickly (thank you, God, you always come through!), his plan was to just slink back in there - I'm cutting this off now but, believe me, my husband (the good son) and I pleaded with her for years (because she was just heartsick about how he was leading his life) to cut him loose but she was a classic enabler under the guise of MOTHER LOVE and didn't want  her grandchild to suffer - she did this guy no favor at all. 

P.S. - I realize when addictions are involved, that ramps up the problems but why do you think a lot of these people don't have any money - even if their addictions are just cigarettes?

Here is a scenario:

What if the son wants to work and get out? Unfortunately his parents are successful at blocking his

efforts. They go out of their way to stop him including accusing him of being mentally ill and incompetent.

No one has ever made such a diagnosis and no one questions the claims.

The son knows it is a buch of dung and his parents are lieing but no one asks him for his input.

The son finds himself being illegaly forced to remain in their custody with no options whatso ever.

The son is now on anti depressants and his parents don't even get involved in his treatment. They

stay in the background running his life or ruining it by denying him the right to to make his own decisions.

Here's the kicker, they don't have legal rights of him.

The son knows that he should be working and supporting himself especially since his parents aren't

able to. He needs legal help and can't get it. Basically he is screwed on every front when he attempts

to make the right decisions.

What if parents just refuse to let go.