Topic : 03/27 "Get Your Act Together!"

 When does "PARENTING " end, 18, 21 , 40 when exactly.
This is NOT about Special Needs kids, or kids with dibilitating diseases, this is about NORMAL, HEALTHY ADULTS.

it sounds like you love your mom and dad very much, i live at home with my mom,im now 51, i moved back home with her several years ago, she had to under go cancer sergury kemo and raditaon treatment, people NOT  knowing this would peg me as a mooch becouse im home with mom, b4 i see my mother spend her remaning days in a dame nursing home ill walk through the very pits of HELL and make satan himself run like the wind from me, yeah i love mom that much!!! shes 76 now and doing very good she still drives cooks and even gets to keep her flowers pretty, i do let her do what she can and is able to do, it helps her keep in shape, but its hands off to all the cleaning and yard work, i have a son now 18 who lives here as well, and hes a god send, he has a job at a computer shop, hes very gifted in building computers and repairing them, and with him here to help out i am able to go and work some to help pull my weight, i have 4 living sisters, all who seem to be pleased that im here, seems none of them were able to throw away all there belongings to be here when mom needed them, hell it was only stuff to me tho, and i know i can always get more stuff, hahah, what i cant get is another mom. ohhh yeah i have 1 true friend in life aswell, he comes to pick me up so i can help him build his auto shop in south georgia, its a building over 100 years old and we converted it into a auto shop, no easy task i may add, we kept it in the historic scocity followed all the guide lines as to make sure the restrations were not taking away from all the beauty and artistic work the masters of the 1800 did, ohhh yeah too what ever money my friend gives me i give it to my mom and my son, i gave my life to jesus , and i go where he leads me, he takes good care of my needs too i may add, i trust him with my very life. if im a mooch for trying to take care of my mom then so be it. so all you will hear from me at this time is stay there and help your mom and dad if your heart tells you too. and let those who do not like it be unhappy till your nolonger needed there. i know i would, i really do not give a damn what any man or woman think about me, i know me almost as good as god knows me.

is brianne mentaly handacaped? should she cut her losses and move on? wow you tell me, i do think greg needs a bit of a push here, mostley to the nearest door leading to the drive way.

 

    Afraid,

   

      I am the only one living with my parents here in my entire county in southern Idaho.  I know this because when I had the nerve to apply for food stamps, they told me so.   The county insists I work part-time.  They always bring up the subject that I have placed myself in a severe financial bind.

     I'm glad to hear that your sisters are pleased that you are there.  My situation is a little different.  My sister lives alone, three miles away.  She has her own home and yard.  It is very important to her that she doesn't live here.  Both of my  brothers are married.  Their wives, my sisters-in-law, are concerned that I am going to inherit the house and leave them with nothing.  

    I got in trouble here on the message board because Easter came the same weekend as the World Championship in figure skating. I have inherited the problem of being hostess at all family gatherings.  Do you have that problem, too?  When my sister and her family show up, they are important company.  My sister expects to be waited on.  I am supposed to forget that Johnny Weir is in second place after the short program and listen to all her problems.  She has a whole bunch.  Sometimes, she does politely ask me what I am doing.  We have had rows because she is not interested in the things I am interested in.

Normally, I tell her I am fine.           

 

 

    

    

i know he is your brother but you have lemated funds so dont be shy tell them ether get off ther lasy back side and help you out or get out my mom is 74 and she told me yrs ago to do the same thing im 49 now but you hafto be ferm its your house thay may get mad but thay can get glade in the same pants thay got mad in i hope you get it stratend out ill i can say is dont back down ........you have a grate day

Don't gripe!! Canning (in the Summertime) and defrosting the freezer...what...maybe once or twice a year...is pretty cheap labor in exchange for living for free!

 

Get your OWN tv if you want to watch figure skating....or, get real and get your OWN place!

This is a rerun, so it's my hope that Amanda and Mike got the heck out of her parents' home....but, if not, then the parents deserve all the hassle they are getting because Dr. Phil gave everyone help to get out of this situation.

 

As for the statement Amanda's mother made about Mike having a temper and being afraid of what he'd do......that little sh** could throw himself around...just ONCE...before I called the police and had him removed, and then filed charges....let's see how his parole officer would like THAT!

 

Using a child to blackmail Amanda's parents into letting them live there is shameful!! They should not have even had the nerve to get pregnant in those circumstances, but that's what happens when spoiled, lazy, self-entitled children want to play at having adult fun while avoiding adult responsibilities!

 

As for the other couple....I truly hope that she got rid of that loser and has made a better life for herself and her child. I can't believe she wasted nine years already!

 

www.nononsensegrammytree.blogspot.com.....click on February and go to "Before You Say I Do" and "But I Love Him". There are some tough questions to ask yourself before you get involved with someone. 

People can only do to you what you allow them to do!!

 

If you let these moochers back into your home again for even ONE DAY, then you are beyond stupid and deserve whatever you get. No one can "refuse" to leave; it's your house. Throw them and their crap right out the door, shut and lock it and call the police if they don't move on down the road! The best solution, of course, is to not to allow them in your home in the first place! 

Simple.

Here's a thought:  your husband does not have the luxury of waiting to find a job until he "finds something that he enjoys, not just go get the pay check."

 

While he's waiting to find THAT one, he needs to get off his butt and get something that will pay the bills NOW! Until that happens, he is NOT "doing the right thing"!

 

No one owes you a place to stay. Yours and his parents already raised both of you. Grow up! 

Quote From: derevna33

 

    Fifty-three.

    Do you know what CoPD is?  My father is 78, and he had his first major heart attack at the age I am now.  After surgery, he had several good years.  As his heart has failed,  he has developed the accompanying pulmonary problems.  He is on oxygen 24 hours a day.  He is one tough ole bird because he can still walk to the bathroom with his walker!  He needs assistance at any task requiring him to stand for more that two minutes.  The hospice nurses (for terminal cases)  come three times a week.

   I think I forgot to tell you about the diabetes. 

   My mother is 74.  She spends most of her day sitting in the lounge chair beside Dad.  They watch television and gossip about the rest of the family.  There isn't much else they can do.  If I wasn't here, they would be in a nursing home.  That is much, much more expensive than I am.

   Before you attack me, ask how I spend my day.  (Today, I am defrosting a downstairs deep freeze.  It is in the pantry.  There are 300 quart jars down there.  I do all the gardening in the summertime, too) ///////////////////  IT SEEMS I MISSED SOMETHING HERE, i read this post 3 times and i still cant find where the poster said he wanted to watch figure skating lol,maybe your trying to be a bit too hard here ya think? who was complaining about the poster being home to help his parents in the first place? i think i missed that part as well, I'm sure it may be in another post buried some where here but i just don't feel like looking for it as of yet, but i will say this, MORE PEOPLE SHOULD CARE ENOUGH ABOUT THERE PARENTS WHEN THEY GET OLD AND TAKE CARE OF THEM INSTEAD OF BEING SO FAST TO POKE THEM IN A NURSING HOME WITH INCOMPETENT EMPLOYEES WHO DONT REALLY CARE ABOUT NOTHING BUT DRAWING A PAY CHECK.