Topic : Over 40 and Pregnant

Yes i think every women no matter how old should have a chance of having a family i am 24 and i have three boys they are the most precious people in my life and i would not change it for the world so i hope everyone that has children or are going to have children think about it alot  it is a big step in your life but it is the best challenge you could ever want.

thank you

Denise

A few years after I gave birth to my 3rd and last child at age 40, I wrote an illustrated humour book about life as a midlife mom, entitled "Parentally Insane:  Insights From The Edge...of Midlife!".   Having a child in midlife certainly has its nuances.  You are much more tired (I call myself Zombie Mommy, Queen of the Walking Dead), but you have acquired wisdom:   You no longer sweat the small stuff and are more relaxed about parenting.  Baby dropped the binky?  Younger moms boil it or have it examined by men of science.  Not so with a midlife baby - you just pop it in your mouth for a cleansing suck, then give it back to Junior!  Pre-midlife babies get a diaper change every time they pee a spoonful.  Midlife babies learn to tread water.  And how many of us midlife parents are raising our kids to be future gerontologists, since Lord knows we will need someone to change OUR diapers in another couple years! LOL!! :)

Oh, I could go on...but you should read my book! :)

One more thing,. Older children should not have to help out, They did not ask you to have another baby. My Step grandmother  was the oldest of the girls,, she was the 2nd child and she had to help her mother and my grandma never had kids b.c she had to help raise her sibs. She said she had enough and so she never got a chance to have that joy of her own. So its not the kids job.

So, I suppose that women who might be overweight or those with a disability, lower back pain, should not have kids then because being able to get up a slide is what counts as a parent.  I would think that maturity, self-confidence, experience, knowlege, etc, all those things gained by 40 would count.  I know I would rather a confident, self-secure, intelligent and wise woman, over a 20 to 30 year old who might go up the slide but is constantly insecure, still trying to figure out the world and how to be a woman and an adult.  Someone who is gaining their learners permit on me.

I know this might come as a shock to you, but 40 is not ancient, your body doesn't disintegrate when you turn 40 or 50.  I have seen 70 and 90 year olds doing things that I would find difficult, like digging the back yard to build a garden.  It doesn't matter what age you are, you can still be fit and strong.

Besides, children should be spending most of their time with other children.  I have now raised two of my own, they only wanted to know me for as long as it took to get them to kindi and later school.  Once they hit five, you are only cramping their style if you try and hang out with them. lol.