Quote From: icoacheswifeGee, I do not know where to begin. You seem well educated in the area of Psychology/Psychiatry; so, did it ever occur to you that through Prayer to our Almight Holy Abba God that Heidi was nervous about being on National T.V. Do you really not think that Heidi has not sought out counseling and by the Grace of God has been able to have some healing. Yes it is hard to believe someone who wants to constantly make excuses instead of just owning up to what you have done and asking forgiveness. So, I believe the rolling of the eyes and the 'yeah rights!' come from many years of hearing the same old story time and again.
As for the physical proof. Wouldn't you know that I too would LOVE to see documentation. My mother has never provided me this PROOF. Don't you think you would hold on to something like that if you were the Mom??
Thank God that we all have a right to own opinions and beliefs! I commend you for trying to see the a 'Good' side to Susan. Hopefully that will help her. As for me, I have asked for Susan to attend counseling for many of my years growing up and she never understood what we could possibly go to counseling for. So, it was a BIG SHOCK to be called by a National T V program (which by the way, I have never seen prior to this incident) and told that my Mom wrote in because she wanted to Heal our Relationship.
I prayed for a very long time and the ONE and the ONLY reason I agreed to climb up there and 'air' my dirty laundry is in HOPES that I could be a BEACON to those people out there who feel that they CAN'T heal. Quite honestly I was a wee bit dissappointed as well because I GAVE GLORY TO GOD for being able to move on and that was apparently edited.
Also, Susan was with another man prior to this one who supposedly abused her. We lived in Belgium at the time and Susan had no problem at all getting away from him. THis was also edited from the show. Susan has two amazing parents who would walk to the edge of earth for her. Her father was a Chief of Police and both her Mother and Father raised foster children.
Again, I commend you for trying to take the pressure off of Susan. Unfortunately, I believe that is half her problem. She has never had to face up to REALITY.
hi. If you are Heidi replying to me here, which your letter seems to indicate, first, I want to COMMEND you for going to counseling after your abuse. I pray that you are still continuing to get the help and healing you need and deserve. NO CHILD DESERVES TO BE ABUSE OR MOLESTED, etc.
If you are Heidi, please understand that, although I saw narcissistic tendencies in you, I do not see you overall as an evil person. Susan, as I said, showed true BPD characteristics, so how COULD you have turned out any differently than you did. I'm sorry for your dysfunctional upbringing. It was wrong and you didn't deserve that.
Now, that being said, I did find your 'yeah right' attitude to be rather disturbing, not because your mother, Susan didn't deserve to be scoffed at, but because it does no good to act sarcastic. I speak from experience in that, having raised children with a lot of sarcasm that they now dish out to me. Really, it does better to just let the abuser keep their delusions and let the Lord handle all the rest. Don't harbor bitterness. See your mother as the sick person she truly is. I can see delusional thinking in her, don't worry. You are not to blame for her choices. You are accountable for yours and your reactions to her ignorance and illness.
I met someone very much like you at one time and that's why I chose to comment. I'm hoping she also went from help, though I have no proof either way.
~PL
(Original Air Date: 02/13/08) When people think of sexual predators, they often envision a pervert wearing a trench coat walking the streets. But research shows that a family friend, helper or relative is often the person who victimizes innocent children. Heidi was sexually molested by her stepfather, John, for 12 years. Her mother, Susan, knew it was happening because she walked in on an attack when Heidi was 9, but she stayed with her husband for years after, even as the molestation continued. When Dr. Phil confronts Susan, will she apologize to her daughter? After two decades and years of mental anguish, will Heidi receive answers from her mother? The sparks fly as mother and daughter go head to head. Will they heal their wounds and reunite? Then, the man who Heidi accused of molesting her joins the show. Find out what he reveals and why Dr. Phil doesn't believe him. And, why does Heidi say she has more respect for her abuser than her mother? The twists and turns in this story will shock you. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
