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Topic : 07/24 Behind Closed Doors

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Created on : Friday, February 08, 2008, 12:21:46 pm
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(Original Air Date: 02/13/08) When people think of sexual predators, they often envision a pervert wearing a trench coat walking the streets. But research shows that a family friend, helper or relative is often the person who victimizes innocent children. Heidi was sexually molested by her stepfather, John, for 12 years. Her mother, Susan, knew it was happening because she walked in on an attack when Heidi was 9, but she stayed with her husband for years after, even as the molestation continued. When Dr. Phil confronts Susan, will she apologize to her daughter? After two decades and years of mental anguish, will Heidi receive answers from her mother? The sparks fly as mother and daughter go head to head. Will they heal their wounds and reunite? Then, the man who Heidi accused of molesting her joins the show. Find out what he reveals and why Dr. Phil doesn't believe him. And, why does Heidi say she has more respect for her abuser than her mother? The twists and turns in this story will shock you. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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July 24, 2008, 2:05 pm PDT

That mother is just like my own.

My own did the same thing in that she did not protect me when I told her what my 2 brothers did.  That woman is sick to not have at least tried to protect her daughter, especially after witnessing it happening.  What in the world is wrong with her that she was being so defensive and, yes, the daughter had every right to "have an attitude."  I do, too, and personally hate my own mother for not protecting me.  My own mother was more worried about how my brothers "took it" when I wrote them all letters explaining my feelings.  Mine was the worst kind of mother.  I feel for Heidi because my mom was the same.  Shame, shame, shame on sick mothers like this!! 
 
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July 24, 2008, 2:05 pm PDT

07/24 Behind Closed Doors

I think Susan is disgusting trying to put the blame on Heidi.  I know how a victim of child molestation starts to have confused feelings for the predator.  I'm sure Heidi has felt like she was wrong at times too.  But if something like that had happened to my beautiful daughter, I wouldn't care if I had to swim with her on my back across to the United States.  Once she returned here she could have gone to a shelter.  She was pimping her daughter out for rent, health insurance, car, what a disgusting human being.  Maybe she should have never had those children.  Also, her excuse that she was young only 27.  Come on, by 27 you should have a little bit of common sense & especially once you become a parent no matter what age you know that it is your responsibility to protect them, at all costs.  Heidi, I will keep you in my prayers, I was molested as a child too, and I know how hard life can be.  I think sometimes I'm a little over protective with my daughter now, but I rather be overprotective than have her suffer what I went through.  Good luck, Heidi.  And to Susan, justify it all you want, God will know

 
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July 24, 2008, 2:05 pm PDT

why dr phil?

I need to understad how my hero...dr phil...can shake the very hand that touched that little girl...even if it was years ago...Dr. phil you and i both know he is currently touching, invading, lusting  another little girl with those very hands that you touched. And he is sent back out there by everyone.....unexposed for the next tiny girl. How can we allow this to go on? HOw can he be sent back?
 
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July 24, 2008, 2:06 pm PDT

dissapointed!

I am very disappointed in today's show about the molester and Heidi.First of all, let me assure you that I believe what the mom did was WRONG!  But, I also believe it is highly possible if not probable that she did receive bad advice and that things were covered up.  Cover ups are done all the time and back in the 8o's this issue was not in the fore front. Has no one ever heard of the "Blue wall" in police matters ?  If you think there is not such a thing in the military then you are naive. I also am very disappointed that an active pedophile was allowed to continue to be free for the sake of ratings!  IF Dr. Phil does have evidence that he is still active or has had more victims then why in the world would he be allowed to continue living free?  it also seemed that Heidi was not being completely truthful either .  This is one show that has reduced my respect greatly for the Dr. Phil Show!
 
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July 24, 2008, 2:07 pm PDT

Behind closed doors

I just want to say that had I caught my husband molesting my daughter, I would still be serving a prision sentence for MURDER.

 
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July 24, 2008, 2:08 pm PDT

Mother Trying to Make Herself the Victim?

Watching this mother, and I use the term mother loosely, is like watching my own mother.  Not one time in listening to this mother tell her "side" of the story has she mentioned anyone other than herself as the victim.  Listening to what are clearly outright lies makes my blood boil.  How can she say to her daughter who tells what happened, "she doesn't remember".  My mother also brought a known abuser into our home and I can promise you, while I was only 5 years old when my abuse occured, I remember every detail 50 years later.  For this mother to outright lie and try to distort the truth to put herself in a better light is so very sad.

This courageous young woman has clearly moved on with her life.  Neither her mother or stepfather have taken any responsibility for their actions or lack of actions.  They both tell their stories like they are the victims, and not one time has either of them recognized the real victim, Heidi.  I think Heidi should know that she has done all that she could to (1) get answers and (2) try to find any common ground their might be with her mother and since her mother clearly does not get it, Heidi should continue to move on.  Remember, the best revenge is living well.

 
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July 24, 2008, 2:08 pm PDT

Abuse

Thing is DR Phil was not there and does not know what abuse the mom had to deal with, years ago I know the police protected their own, another words, if you spoke out against a cop, you were disregarded. 

   I know from experience how hard it is to get away from an abuser, who threatens ( to kill)you, (kill)your family if you try to leave, I know what its like to feel trapped, feel like you have no where to go, to not have skills to support yourself

  Shame on the Chaplin for not helping her get away from her husband, as well as any Doctors who saw this child when this happened.  Aren't they also to blame for the "dads" abuse, by not making sure the child was not put back into that situation. 

 
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July 24, 2008, 2:16 pm PDT

dr phil will do something about it

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I am very disappointed in today's show about the molester and Heidi.First of all, let me assure you that I believe what the mom did was WRONG!  But, I also believe it is highly possible if not probable that she did receive bad advice and that things were covered up.  Cover ups are done all the time and back in the 8o's this issue was not in the fore front. Has no one ever heard of the "Blue wall" in police matters ?  If you think there is not such a thing in the military then you are naive. I also am very disappointed that an active pedophile was allowed to continue to be free for the sake of ratings!  IF Dr. Phil does have evidence that he is still active or has had more victims then why in the world would he be allowed to continue living free?  it also seemed that Heidi was not being completely truthful either .  This is one show that has reduced my respect greatly for the Dr. Phil Show!

I understand your frustration.  It SEEMED as if dr. phil did nothing; but I believe, and hope, you are wrong.  He promised not to expose him on air but I believe, with all my heart, that he will be watching this man very closely.  Dr. Phil has always appeared to have our children as his primary concern and I can't believe he

'd just ignore this situation.  Yes, there is much cover-up in the world but I think Dr. Phil WILL do something about this.  I PRAY I'M RIGHT!!!

 
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July 24, 2008, 2:19 pm PDT

THAT IS WHAT i THOUGHT TOO

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I just want to say that had I caught my husband molesting my daughter, I would still be serving a prision sentence for MURDER.

But the reality is; your brain goes into a cofusional swirl;  Hopefuly the only thing you can really focus on, is getting her out to safty. Later you will have to deal with the rage.

 
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July 24, 2008, 2:20 pm PDT

WHY!?

 The mother kept saying that she didn't and still doesn't know anything about child molesters. You would think that after all these years that she would have found out somethings about a child molester! It happened in her home to her child!! There are no excuses for what she did, but the ones that she gave are ridiculous. I would live in a box to keep from subjecting my child to this!!

 
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