Topic : 05/06 Moochers

Hello,

I have been vicitmized by moochers and I watch my mother in law support her 54 yr old son that has never left home.  They all have some common factors.  Somehow they think that life for them must feel good or they quit.  Jobs are only kept until a boss requires normal effort, then they quit and tell family the same story of being treated badly.  They all have a long list of jobs where they were treated badly.  The enablers that support their lazy backsides buy into their story.  The moocher is well aware of what buttons to push and they like "guilt" and "fear."  Those that love the moocher think that helping them will result in getting them to be responsible independant people.  The problem is that moochers do not learn life skills when someone is standing between them and the sting of real life.  In my opinion those character types that mooch should be given tough love.  In order to function in life your "sword" needs to be sharp, and the only way to get sharp is to spend some time getting ground by the wheel.  Because death is a part of life, it is absolutely tragic for a moocher to be thrust into the working world with no life skills, and at an age when others are retiring.  Moocher enablers are setting them up for potential poverty and dispair by not requiring them to get on their feet before their meal ticket leaves this earth.  If we truly love those that mooch off of us, we need to treat them like children.  Make a clear demand of them, and if they hurt themselves to get your money then you need to say "wow that must hurt, you better fix that."  Moochers that wave their children in front of them as a way of getting money are the bottom of the barrell.  That is a nightmare if you ask me.  Good old fashion values are needed.  Moochers that get pregnant should be given some really hard facts about the cost of life........they have no right to reproduce and expect society to carry them and their kids.  Once again tough love is in order.  Cut the bank to a moocher and when they are done pitching the inevitable fit, they will get any job that comes along, and look at it this way - the anger that they have at the enabler might inspire them to achieve more than they ever did before.  Just my thoughts.

OMG did you watch the  show? his daugher live in his mothers home, how hard is it to go see your child when they live where you grow up, and you are welcomed there.and how hard is it to send monies to the address you learned in grammer school, NO sorry, he just moved on to the newest sucker that would take him , he cheated on her already!!!! history repeating it self.

 As long as people like you make excuses for men like Ryan, they will be happy to sit on the couch and let you take care of them.

Here are some "what ifs" to consider: (Not excuses)

First, what if, the WHOLE story was not told on this show?

What if, Ryan and the baby's mother lived together throughout the pregnancy and until the baby was two months old?

What if, that is when Ryan's mother and the mother of his baby moved into a house together and Ryan was not allowed to move in with them?

What if, the mother of Ryan's baby was the one that refused to work on their relationship?

What if, the mother of Ryan's baby received way more support than she claimed?

What if, the mother of Ryan's baby is "MOOCHING?"

What if, Ryan is not allowed or welcome to visit his mother and/or brother without the permisson of the mother of his baby?

What if, Ryan was not even allowed to see his mother on "Mother's Day." 

What if, the mother of Ryan's baby is determined to do everything she can to keep him from having a relationship with his daughter?

What if, the mother of Ryan's baby is doing everything she can to turn all of Ryan's family against him?

What if, Ryan has NOT cheated on the woman he is with now?

Would you sill evaluate the story in the same way?

And, finally........

What if, nobody ever got a second chance?