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October 2, 2008, 2:52 pm PDT
YAY! To Dr. Phil and Dr. Lawlis. Thanks y'all
Now, we just need y'all and y'all's colleagues to begin EMOTIONAL AND LIFE SKILL EDUCATION K-12 DAILY CLASSES in our schools because our EQ's are as important as our IQ's. Long has been the debate if parents or schools should teach best behavioral responses. However, parents cannot teach what they have not learned like the 4th R (Respect for ourselves and one another) which includes healthy habits, behavior and ways of interacting "and" coping. Becoming best CEO of life because as Dr. Phil says, "Life isn't cured. It is managed."
A class ideally led by a man and woman teaching side by side with mutual respect to address age appropriate topics, role playing, and a wonderful place for all those 4 year sociology and psychology persons to get a teaching certificate to teach. Clinton Administration thought a good idea in 1998, and sent me every Department of Eductions address to submit too. I didn't have the credentials or wherewithal y'all have to implement. Until implemented THANK GOD for the Dr. Phil Show and his expert colleagues like Dr. Lawlis while everyone plays emotional catch up to better cope with life and life's challenges.
ABSOLUTELY... Shallow breathing has been linked to anxiety, panic and depression. Literally, many things can take the wind out of our sails. Even just walking to the corner and back thinking a mantra like:
"Head up straight
Shoulders back
Calm Relaxed
Poised & Confident"
OR
"Head up straight
Shoulders back
Healthy Diet
Healthy Lifestyle"
Lightly touch thumbs simultaneously to each finger of hand as you think so you do this ten times. That way you don't have to focus on counting and can enjoy relaxing.
Even a funny saying to DEstress. "An apple a day keeps the doctor away." A banana a day brings sweet dreams to stay.
Words have a mind/body connotative relationship. For instance if you get carried away with negative WHATIF(itis) you can exacerbate stress. However, simply writing an entire notebook of "Fear Not. Have Faith" can be calming in word/mind/association.
DR. PHIL QUOTE: "You are the one who talks to you all day, every day. Characterize messages you send yourself by a rational and productive optimism.
As well, you can begin individual and family SELF MATTERS ME or FAMILY (WE) notebooks. Leave in a visible place as an eye/sight cue reminder.
INDIVIDUAL:
Title inside or outside of cover:
SELF MATTERS INCLUDES: sign your name with confidence like an autograph.
Then DAILY make an entry:
Title each page this way...
SELF MATTERS INCLUDES: sign your name with confidence like an autograph.
Then write ten compliments, goals or affirmations.
FAMILY:
Title notebook and each Daily or Weekly entry: Family last name.
Team players
each family members name autographed by each member
Then beneath Team family name and team players names write:
"one for all all for one"
Then, two compliments or goal for each member.
Two compliments or goals as a family.
Scroll down at first link and begin reading at HOME CARE to maintain homeostasis ... balance ... equilibrium:
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003213.htm
When you keep consistent healthy habits your body and mind have an idea what to expect. If you get your habits out of kilter pretty soon your body and mind have no idea what you plan to do next which. Life is mostly habit. I wish us all the best habits. Life is like economics: choice. I wish us all the best choices one healthier choice at a time.
As well, Exercise even walking to the corner and back is a natural mood elevator and raises endorphin level as well as oxygenates the brain. Putting the wind back into your sails.
Dr. Phil's son, Jay, says to the count of five in his book for teens and
most women say to count of five works best. So for those of us not six feet
tall football players like Dr. Phil...I changed to Jay's count of 5.
Relaxation Script by Dr. Phil
Appendix A, page 285 - 286 WLC book
BREATHE to count of FIVE each way ...in and out... (7 FOR FOOTBALL STARS)
"Focus on your breathing: (UWS, PAGE 286) "Breathing out EXACTLY to count of
1-2-3-4-5. So focus on letting go of everything you want to let go,
especially stress, fear and any other destabalizing emotions. For a few
moments, practice letting go of any tension, stress, feelings, or thoughts
that you don't need right now. Let them go. Then breathe in EXACTLY to the
count of 1-2-3-4-5...
Next, I want you to know that when you let these things go with your
out-breath, you are replacing that space with good, nurturing air with your
in-breath. Visualize that good air coming into your body and healing
whatever needs restoration. Send that air to anywhere in your body and feel
the love and caring you are giving yourself right now. Bring it into
yourself. Practice this for a little while.
What you need to do next is to balance these in-breaths with the
out-breaths, so that you will feel soothing relaxation and balance coming
into your body. Practice breathing in to a count of five, 1-2-3-4-5, now
breathe out, 1-2-3-4-5, in-breath, 1-2-3-4-5, and out-breath 1-2-3-4-5.
count for yourself for each in-breath and out-breath for at least five
minutes.
Note to yourself that you are balancing your out-breaths and in-breaths,
letting the stress and tension leave your body, and allowing the good
nurturing air to come in. You are releasing the stress and bringing the
healing forces in. "
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