Topic : Teen Talk

First of all i would lik to say your parents are crazy saying that c's are lik f's so don't listen to then i'm your sam age and i used to cut to and your parents hitting you probably didn't help you at all. them calling you names is just uncalled for so just don't listen to them. and i have nothing to say about the guy.

-Crystal

Hi! my name is Bella. I am the same age as u. I have been in the DCS system for almost 4 and 1/2 years now. My actual name is Jenny. but I am about to be adopted! I am deeply sorry about what is going on in your life right now. The advice I can give is to talk to your caseworker. Or if you have a CASA talk to them. Or even the next time you go to court, tell the judge what is going on. he may be able to help you. but one BIG BIG word of advice that I can give is, don't just sit back and take it. voice your opinion. But don't be rude or volger about it. Stay calm. If you stay calm they are more liable to listen to you.

Sincerly,

Bells

Bella,

Thank you soo much! i talked to my CASA worker and she told the jude how i felt. He said its ok if i didnt want to go back, that he understands and he will not makeme. so in December my foster parents are going to adopt me!

thank you sooooo much!!!!!

im almost 14 but i feel like im so much older besause of my waight. i hate looking at myself and i never want to do fun things all because im over waight i want to know ways i can lose about 70 pounds by the end of the summer but i dont know how

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Okay so first off, it's summer and since we just got out of school for a week, aren't we supposed to be having fun and relaxing.

My answer -- yes
My mom's answer -- no, you're supposed to be doing chores when I'm at work since you have so much time.

Now, I think that's a little messed up. We've (my sister and I) been on summer break for barely a week and she's already all mad at us because we refused to.. are you ready for it??..

1. Water her 50 plants everyday.
2. Clean the house every other day. Cleaning means vacuum, mop, clean the bathrooms, and taking out the trash.
3. Clean our room -- our rooms are already clean though. My sister and I are complete neat freaks.
4. Download songs into her iPod
5. Not call her when we want lunch. Take care of lunch by ourselves.
6. Finish all our summer homework as soon as possible.
7. Find community service hours to finish even BEFORE school starts.
8. Do the laundry when we see that the basket's full.
9. Pick up hair from the bathroom.
10. Wake up extremely early every morning to help her plant more plants.

Oh and did I mention that we have to VOLUNTEER to do all of this. If we're not happy to do the chores without her asking us, she'll get mad and basically ignore us for the rest of the week.

Everything is always our fault and if we try to defend ourselves, she'll go all "Okay! Fine! Everything's my fault! It's always my fault!" and start her daily dose of tears.

Also, if we're not downstairs every night, she'll get upset. She never seems to let go of the past and move on. Every time we fight, she'll bring up our past mistakes and once again, focus on what we did wrong.

There are a lot more things for me to say but I'm off to download songs for her in an attempt to get her to start talking and stop asking us to pay her back for every cent she gives us. I'm at the point where I don't even want to come home.
This is basically just my ranting spot as I have no one to spill to. Any advice is GREATLY appreciated!

~Sam

I am the very same. Im 19 and i sleep with a night light ha, im perfectly fine when i have a bit of light and theres not pure darkness but i get terrified of darkness and what i cannot see. if im walking down the hall of my house i have to turn on the light, i dont know what im afraid of. My mom kills me cuz i leave on my bathroom light at night and its a waste of power but i'd actually get so anxious and almost have a panic attack otherwise. i feel like someones guna grab me or grab me by the ankles its scares the hell out of me. I dont know if theres anything I/we can do to stop it but i know when i have the light coming into my room im pretty much perfect, not very often i get paranoid about whats outside but we got a house alarm so im pretty much fine now. Security and a bit of light is helpful 

I'm 20 years old and I understand your situation better than most I'd say. I've been there.

It's a very frustrating situation, for every party in this case. You and Theresa love each other and want to be together, and it may seem like you are at the same level of maturity, but you're not. Theresas mother sees that and she is terrified that being with you Theresa you will pressure Theresa into something she's not ready for. Theresa is her baby, she has cared for Theresa since she was a baby. And only wants the very best for her 'baby girl'.

I actually agree with you 4 years isn't too big an age difference, in fact my fiancé is 5 years older than me. But 4 years at this age you are now is a lot.

So here comes my advise: Make friends with Theresas mother. Make her see that you love Theresa and really would do anything to be with her. Because if you really love her, you'll do what it takes, and if you only can have superviced time with Theresa until her parents trust you, it should be a whole lot better than no time with her.

If her parents hate you to the core and won't let you see Theresa superviced then wait. If you are meant to be together then you can wait a few years. 19 and 14 aren't too bad or too long a wait.

Hope it helps.

I saw your show today about teachers crossing the ine, and felt compelled to write down my experiences from the school system.

The years from I was 9 to 13 there was a real mess in the schools administration, and my class ended up with an 18 year old 'teacher'. She had no education, except two years of high school with norwegian and maths as her majors. Of course this was bound to go wrong. My class had five special needs children, none of them recived any extra help, which made them outcasts. I myself was in this period of time bullied. The class disliked me because of my intelligence. I'd always been a smart kid (i. e. I could write all of my familys names when I was two and read when I was 3,5 - 4 years), who did my home-work. After years of both fysical and psychological bullying I stopped doing my home-work and worked hard to fit in.

I went to my teacher several times, but as an 18 year old, she just didn't know what to do.

When I started middleschool things got out of hand. Even though I did no home-work I had still just A's and B's so I didn't try harder. I didn't see the point. My parents worked desperatly to get the teachers give me challanges in the subjects I exceeded in, so I would have to work harder and learn good habits for university. Second year of middleschool we got a new teacher. He was a man in his fifties. He picked out a handfull of pupils and humiliated them by yelling things like "YOU LOOK LIKE A SLUT, YOU WALK LIKE A SLUT, YOU TALK LIKE A SLUT, YOU ARE A SLUT!!!" or "YOU ARE SO STUPID WALL MART WON'T EVEN WANT YOU AS A CASHIER, YOU'LL END UP CLEANING THE FLOORS AT WALL MART!!!".  If somebody talked back or tried to defend theirself he hit them. He never hit me, but called me names and yelled at me till I weept. All this and always in front of the rest of the class.

When we brought it up with the head master, he said he'd talk to him and find out what all this was. Nothing happened, and we understood nothing.It turned out that my teacher was best friends with the head master....

My class started as a class of 25, when we graduated three years later only 14 were left...

Now am I almost 20 years old, I don't trust med particularly good, I don't co-operate with teachers well because I don't trust them. Because of the bullying I started wearing black clothes and hanging with the wrong sort of people. I started drinking (moonshine mostly) when I was 13 and lost my virginity the year after, to a 22 year old man.

Fortunatly I'm strong and try not to let my past influence my future.

Bullying.

I really hate that word, because it changed my life.
It happens everywhere also in The Netherlands, I started when I was 9 years old.
Someone called me ‘ugly’ and that was one word I cant stand, so it made me cry
everyone in my class saw it happening. And since that day I’ve been called ‘ugly’ day in day out.
When I was 10, I went to a teacher and sad that I couldn’t take it anymore.
‘I’ll talk to them, so stop overreacting!’ she said
It only mad it worse! Now they called me ugly and a cry baby. When I was home it wasn’t fun either. My dad usually hit me, and there where a lot of fights! So what should I do?
And on that moment I used a knife en cut it in my leg. It felt great, and now on this day I’m still addicted..
Anyway, when I was 14 I go to the VMBO ( I don’t know what you call that in America/England) So it became even worse. I got beaten up,  when I did gymnastics people hide my clothes, or threw them in the trashcan or made it wet. I feared everyday of school.
So I decide to go to a another school, and so be it. And when I came to that school I’ve never been bullied again, because the school had discipline, and strickt rules! If you bullied someone, you could be suspended for more than a week!
And on this day I’m still struggling with my automutilation problem. And I became a rough, rough, rude someone, because now I’m to scared to let someone in my life. I’ve never shown any feelings to my friends, because I’m scared that suddenly they see that I’m also weak.
And that is someone I’m not, I’ve a mask on. I  think I’ll never get it of my face

And sometimes, the people that bullied me, I see them in my village. And damn than they are nice, but why now ?? I always wanted to ask them what their problem was about bullying me. I always wanted to say what it did to me, and what is does it to me right now.

-sorry for my bad English-