Quote From: fwrinkledsolesI am so glad in the days I went to college we didn't have co-dorms, because girls and boys are so different it is very obvious and can the so-called responsible adults understand what is on young girls and young boys minds because at some point in their lives they were a young adult.
Rape in this country has always gone on and the real rapist has always got away. Did you know that a white man has never been convicted of raping a black woman in the history of this, this, this country. Some white men has been accused but has not went to jail.
It is sad, it is sad that this so-called greatest country on god green earth has so many problem with males and females relationship. The reason is big business!
Personally, I think most females of college age is not ready to leave home and stay on a college campus by themselves. I think these young girl of college age today act like 12 or 13 year old girls compared to the girls went I was of college. When I was in college in the 1960s you didn't hear of rape, well I didn't and my friends didn't. I think one of the problem with young girls today is their mom's. Also, these mom's today don't have a back bone because from working for corporate america because most women today care more about their jobs than raising their young daughter to be a future women of tomorrow. Instead, today this is the worst time in history for a young male to go out and choose a mate.
Oh, by the way, my mother, first and second wife was rape. My second wife was rape on a college campus.
The young girls of college age today seem so young to you because now you are old. When you were in college, you were the same age and you didn't think of the girls as being young but I bet your parents or grandparents looked at them as too young to be out on the own. Back in the '50's and '60's it wasn't unusual for women to get married at 16, 17 or 18 and not even finish high school. Women stayed home and raised the kids, husbands went out to work. Women were raped in the '50 and '60's also, ones that were raised by mothers who were house wives, those who were house wives themselves. Rape happened in the Biblical times even! I doubt that your mother's mother or your first and second wife's mothers worked outside the home. Just because you and your friends didn't hear of it happening doesn't mean it didn't happen. Chances are the women didn't report it because of the shame, they blamed themselves because that is what women who have it happen does. Even if they did report it, it may not have been taken seriously since there was no DNA testing back then, it was his word against hers and like you and a lot of people, think that she deserves it because she is independent, she dresses a bit to sexy, she put herself in a position to have it happen to her.
Back in the 60's no white man would be convicted of raping a black woman, that is a shame of our country, not an excuse on why it happens. The crimes against the blacks back then were horrible and the fact that prejudice is a taught trait makes it even worse. I was young in the 60's but I remember the one little black girl who came to our white school. She was treated harshly and even as young as I was I knew it was wrong. I remember how adopted children were treated as something strange too, anything that made you different. I, for one, am glad that things changed from back then. Kids now days are much more diversified then back then and much more tolerant. One thing that hasn't changed is men trying to think they own women or are owed sex and that has to stop.
Someone said rape isn't about sex, it is about power. That is true in a lot of cases but not all. Some think it is a game, how many women can you have sex with? Some think of it as a way to show they are macho with "talking" women into having sex however they can. We as parents need to teach our children, boys and girls, that sex isn't something to do as a pass time, it isn't a game. We as parents need to teach our kids to respect each other, not to bully, to respect women. I remember my dad always saying "only a sissy would hit a girl" and that is true but it should be only a desperate person would use violence to make themselves feel important. I taught all my children if you resort to hitting, you lose because you aren't winning it by the facts. Respect is the answer to most of our problems but to teach it, you have to show it and most rapists weren't raised with respect to their parents, respect from their parents and most of all respect for others.
This problem will get worse as time goes by because sex isn't something that you do with someone you plan on spending your life with, it is something that you do for fun and the challenge of getting something you shouldn't.
Parents and college students, listen up! College campuses all across the country are dealing with issues relating to sexual assault, drinking deaths and hazing. Did you know that as many as one in four college women are victims of rape or attempted sexual assault? And that 84 percent of college men who committed rape said that what they did would not be defined as rape in their own minds? Know the safety tips and warning signs before you or your child is caught in a crisis. Dr. Phil’s first guest, Cynthia, is a mother in anguish over the loss of her daughter, 19-year-old freshman, Megan. Seven months after Megan was allegedly gang raped by at least three men in her dormitory, the student took her own life. Attorney Gloria Allred represents Cynthia in a civil lawsuit claiming that Dominican College failed to investigate Megan’s alleged attack in any meaningful way. Hear the bizarre and disturbing twist in this story. Then, meet another freshman who’s already had two frightening experiences in her first month of college that left her mother wanting to bring her home. Plus, learn what you can teach your teen before he or she heads off to college, and the top five safety tips all students need to know to protect themselves on campus. Talk about the show here.
