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Created on : Friday, January 23, 2009, 12:31:12 pm

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(Original Air Date: 01/27/09) From sending sexual text messages to taking a punch to the face for fun, today’s teens are engaging in outrageous trends. First up, 13-year-old Reina made headlines when she racked up 14,528 texts in one month! Her father, Greg, wrote an article about her excessive texting but says she's just being a teenager. What does Dr. Phil think? His observations may surprise you. Then, Gwen and Mike say they’re worried about their 12-year-old daughter who has sent risqué text messages, otherwise known as sexting, since she first owned a cell phone. When Dr. Phil meets with the preteen backstage, what does she say drives her behavior? Could she be headed down a dangerous path? Plus, 16-year-old J.R. says he allows his friends and family to sock him in the head and then posts the videos on YouTube. His mother, Tammy, says his videos are hilarious, and she supports his dream of training for the reality show The Ultimate Fighter. Dr. Travis Stork, host of the hit show The Doctors, warns about the dangers of J.R.’s hobby. Plus, meet a teen who played the punch-out game with tragic consequences. Join the discussion.

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jewelsf

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January 27, 2009, 8:49 pm PST

We think alike!

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That's exactly what i was thinking too! Ok, maybe not a psychological problem but a real problem if parents are paying these bills! Also, the fact that she thinks this is funny is so disrespectful!
I have done the same thing, taking things off my plan like that. I kept texting but took off the plan of unlimited weekends because it got me into the habit and then i just continued into my paying time. I am living fine without all of it too!

And what, preytell, is wrong with taking away cell for good??? So what if she is mad at you? We (As i'm a parent as well) are not their friends! We are their parents. Dr. Phil, totally disappointed in your response to this one.

Also to the person who was commenting on how he repeats shows...I KNOW!!! I've noticed it too! And Oprah is doing the same thing. I'm noticing myself deleting many days (i tape) because of this.

Wow, we sure seem to think a lot alike! I'm the one who mentioned the shows being repeated with only the faces that change. I agree that a parents role is not to be their child's friend, it is to be their parent. What is so wrong with that?! My own mother didn't become my friend until I was grown and old enough & mature enough to make my own decisions, the way it should be. We're great friends now that I'm an adult but I sure do appreciate that she was the mother that I needed while I was growing up.

P.S. I have a sister with the same name as you and she happens to be a mother of 2.

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January 27, 2009, 8:56 pm PST

Probably!

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I watched with my jaw on the floor as this boy's mother laughed at how funny it was that her son was encouraging others to punch him in the face, and she and her husband solemnly expressed their support for their son as he builds up a resistance to being punched in the head. Right. These people think you can build up a resistance to HEAD TRAUMA!!! I'm at a loss for words, this is so ridiculous. Maybe his parents had some sort of head trauma...

Maybe both parents were dropped on their heads when they were born? Deprived of oxygen? Have taken way too many drugs? Unfortunately whatever is wrong with them has been done or passed down to their son.

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January 27, 2009, 9:08 pm PST

I have a question.........

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I am raising my teen sister and she needs a cell phone. She needs it so when she is out I can get a hold of her or her call me. For me and my family it is about safety. She walks home from school sometimes or she takes walks around the neighborhood, what if something were to happen? With a cell phone she could hit speed dial and someone would be there asap. Or what if she went to party that got out of hand and she needed someone to come get her? Her having a cell is about knowing where she is at and keeping her safe. The good thing is she doesn't abuse the cell phone like so many other teens.

How did the millions of us grown ups make it through childhood without cell phones before they became the norm? And BTW, as someone who has had to call 911 in a medical emergency, they do NOT get there very fast at all. You have to go through an operator and tell them what city of 911 that you need and then give an address. If you don't have time for this they can find you but it will take awhile. I also want to make another point that I feel is important. As a victim of an attempted kidnapping, (myself) a woman usually doesn't have time to use a cell phone for help. This happened well before cell phones were as common as they are today but what happened to me happened so fast and caught me off guard so badly, I was completely helpless. A cell phone would have done me no good at all. The reason that I bring this up is because I worry that owning cell phones will give women a false sense of security. Everyone please keep in mind that cell phones can come in handy for only certain emergencies. Please do not get any false sense of security and never let your guard down.

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January 27, 2009, 9:15 pm PST

Correct!

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What is wrong with the people in our world anymore? Have they forgot who the parent is and how to parent? For god's sake that is a 12 year old, who bought the phone & pays the flipping bill? Duh, it is the parent and they have the control or should!!! Buy a phone with out a camera!! Do not include texting in phone package of options you pay for!! And if you can't then take the damn thing away, YOU are the parent be fricken resposable.

I hear and see so many things I think are just so WRONG on so MANY levels in the society we live in today it makes me sick at times. I personally feel that is what is so WRONG with society today is parents are not allowed to discipline their child/chilren it is deemed as child abuse. I can tell you only once did my daughter ever threaten to call the police on me for child abuse and I told her here go for it if you really want to find out the difference between discipline and child abouse and handed her the phone. She didn't call!

I have to agree with you on so many of the points you have made here. I too am disgusted by how wild teenagers have gotten and how sexually advanced they are. What's funny is that people say that todays children are a lot more mature than they were years ago but that simply is not true. They are participating in adult activities on a much larger basis but their actual maturity level has slid down quite a few levels. I believe it's obvious by the dumb and immature choices they are making. As to the discipline issue, that's been a thorn in my side for a very long time. You hit the nail on the head!

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January 27, 2009, 11:00 pm PST

EXCESSIVE TEXTING

Give me a break.....has anyone heard of setting limits. A teenager having a cell phone is a privilege and it is a parent's responsibility to monitor its use and set limits. If the teen can't abide by the rules of the house...bye bye phone.

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January 28, 2009, 7:01 am PST

I am shocked

I have never posted a message board in my lifetime. However, I cant even put into words how disgusted I feel after watching yesterdays show regarding crazy teen trends. I'm surprised to see so many comments regarding the texting. It is obvious that all children involved have parents with common sense who are addressing the issues appropriately. What is SHOCKING to me is the care-free attitude JR's parents in regards to the "punching game". PURE IGNORANCE! In her own words, his mom finds it "hilarious". ad "funny". There is absolutely nothing funny about watching your child (or anyone for that matter) being harmed physically. The fathers ridiculous statement saying he doesn't know what the rules are but he knows his son follows them...ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? As tough as Dr.Phil gets with guests in order to send tough messages, I was disappointed he didn't get more tough with JR's parents. Comments were made that indicated his disbelief in their view on the matter, but I dint feel he got serious enough in his words. Talon's story definitely sent a strong message. However, I feel that JR's parents are so IGNORANT that even Talon's story won't make much a difference in the way JR's parents think. How ridiculous that anyone has the right to be a parent! Good for Talon's mom sharing her disbelief towards JR's parents condoning this behavior.

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January 28, 2009, 7:05 am PST

01/27 Crazy Teen Trends

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Maybe both parents were dropped on their heads when they were born? Deprived of oxygen? Have taken way too many drugs? Unfortunately whatever is wrong with them has been done or passed down to their son.

I cant agree more. I almost stopped watching when the punching game story was shared because I cant stand to see this type of behavior, yet a mother finds it hilarious to watch her son being punched in the head???? The one word I use to describe how I feel....DISGUSTED! I just posted a message with my feelings about this story...actually about JR's parents. I wish Dr.Phil would have told them how ignorant they are.

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January 28, 2009, 7:21 am PST

01/27 Crazy Teen Trends

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I don't want to get into a debate but I just want to say that I am the 12 year olds mother. You all can rest assured that the phone is gone. I am so glad that you all are perfect parents and therefore can pass judgement on me and my husband who love our daughter very much. This issue goes much deeper than what you see on television. Our daughter's issues are not just "phone" related. Have we made mistakes....absolutely. Should we have never gotten her a cell phone...absolutely. Should we have removed it much sooner...You got it. We are trying and we do want to help our daughter. That is the only reason we stepped foot on that stage is because we know Dr. Phil can help with the issues that go so much deeper than you have seen. As a mother that used to pass so much judgement like this on others I have learned never to cast a stone until you know the whole story and have walked in someone else's footsteps.

MOM & DAD of 12 year old - PLEASE READ!! - I posted a message before reading yours. Just as I shared in my posting, I want to share with you that all parents who were on the show regarding the texting their children do seem to be caring parents with common sense only wanting to help their children. I applaud you and your husband for sharing a difficult story on national TV. Many parents would either turn their heads and deny a problem or believe that punishment was the only option. You and your husband recognized that her actions were due to deeper routed issues. In sharing your story, I'm sure many parents learned that finding out why our children choose their actions is even more important than punishing them for actions they take. You are GREAT parents. I can only hope that as a mother of 2 young boys I can be as loving, caring and smart as the 2 of you. Now as far as JR's ignorant parents....in my opinion, that should be the only thing people are judging in their messages!

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January 28, 2009, 7:37 am PST

Old School

Excuse me, but I have grown children and may be "out of touch" with teenagers and their lifestyles today, BUT.......why is it necessary for every child to have access to a cell phone and a computer and be in constant contact with their friends 24/7? These items are luxuries and it should be a privilege to have either. If a kid does not follow the rules, the luxuries are gone...how difficult is that? It appears to me that they cause more problems than they solve and kids are making them "their lives". When are parents going to learn how to say NO again?

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January 28, 2009, 7:41 am PST

01/27 Crazy Teen Trends

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Its quite sad to see such a smart man get onto a topic that he is dealing with all wrong. That poor little girl does NOT need a map done of her brain. She does not need any of what you are talking about...she needs a good friend, a best friend, a good group of girls to hang out with and confidence. Confidence in herself as a young lady. She needs some sort of program whether it be dance, singing, or a Dove program. Every young lady goes through this...I did. I'm fine now. I'm strong, I'm a wonderful mother to two girls myself now. Putting her through that will not help her at her age. It will make it worse... You said she's a good girl and is more good than not, so why do that to her. Kids also rebel. PLEASE, to her parents...don't put her through that. I'll talk to her. She needs a friend and confidence.

She needs the things you say...but Dr.Phil is right. He is a doctor! Many people take actions that most people do not understand or have the ability to relate to. There are psychological reasons behind actions. In the case of this little girl, you cant turn on a magic light switch for self esteem by giving her a best friend and a dance class. I have been surrounded my entire life with friends, activities and accomplishments...none of which have helped me with my self esteem issues. Graduating top of my class both graduate and undergraduate along with a string of promotions at work has built my confidence. However, my self esteem issues still exist. The professional in this, Dr.Phil, understands that people feel/react differently for different reasons. Reasons that aren't so obvious. If they were, psychologists and psychiatrists wouldn't be needed.

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