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Topic : 09/05 Phobias

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Created on : Friday, September 02, 2005, 11:04:09 am
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Imagine having an overwhelming, irrational fear that dominates your day-to-day life. Monica is petrified of leaving her house and being separated from her husband, who actually quit his job to stay home with her. For Michelle, it's small pieces of paper that leave her physically ill, while Pam is so terrified of birds that she'll only leave the house at night. Find out what Carey is deathly afraid of and if it even prevented her from getting on the plane to come see Dr. Phil! How can these guests get on with their lives and learn to control their phobias? Share your stories and talk about the show here.

 

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September 3, 2005, 7:41 am CDT

agoraphobia and marriage

 I just wanted to say that I myself am in the same situation.I am an agoraphobic.My husband just left me one week ago.We also have 3 children.He said i was always angry.We were together for 14 1/2 years and he said says he is done with me but i am trying my hardest to get out more and take medication I want to get better for my self.I know its not going to happen over nite but i have lost my world and I want it back.I think i was hitting rock bottom and i needed a wake up call,which i got one but he also left me at the same time.I know the biggest thing he said was he did'nt have freedom to do things with his friends and have a real life he said he was just used to this kind of life and enough was enough.I have only been agoraphobic for 8 yrs now,but i do drive a little bit.I know how i got my illness and it was due to having an allergic reaction to some medications and now i am so petrified to take any kind of meds,but i have to if i want to get mylife and husband back,if there still is a chance.I myself rite now is a basket case I have reached out for help for many years and there is noone to help you for this kind of a illness,and i think that is partly why i hit rock bottom.But i have had enough i want my life back i am still young enough to enjoy my kids and be happy again..I know i have been very depressed and now of course it is even worse for me rite now.well i hope some one reads this and has a idea for me or some kind of medical treatment..
Thank you,
Lisa
 
September 3, 2005, 8:06 am CDT

I understand and can relate to Monica

 It is me Lisa again,i just read monicas story and i can relate to her alot.I also was very dependent on my husband he was my security blanket for me and i had seperation anxiety from him to.I also wonder about my children getting it also.My children have missed out on so much and its not fair to them at all..and i have it in me to get better,i force myself to go to the grocery store and kmart.I can only go no more than 2 miles from home,and to get that far took alot of workI have also lost my drivers license to do this to and it makes it hard for me to practice driving cause i am afraid acop is going to pull me over.I feel the same way as you do,when i go somewhere i have to know i can get out of there fast before i loose control,i always make sure i know where the exit is no matter where i amI also do tha same thing i shake really bad my heart pounds i feel like passing out,get dizzy and just straight up fear.,but now i am stuck here with no husband,no job and 3 kids.I wish there was doctors in my area but theres not i call evey doctor in the phone book when we get a new phone book every year..i have reached out for help but cannot get any,i think that is why i hit rock bottom,but now i had my wake up call and i want my life back..i know once i am out in the real world again things are gonna be so much better.I know i will be very happy again like i used to be.So monica if you read this please work hard i know its a battle but you do not want to end up like i have (loosing your husband).Monica I would also be happy to talk to you on the phone if you would like.I also wanna say I am happy that Dr. Phil has found a doctor for .I wish i had that chance..I think this is a illness that needs more attention for people like us and more resorces.

 
September 3, 2005, 10:59 am CDT

Phobias

Hello, I am a seventy year old woman and I have so many phobias. I am embarrassed for people to know how many I have .About 8 years ago I had a serious break down , all from stress.I have a good husband that helps me with lots of things , but he wants to stay home and watch tv . I think I should be getting out .I don't want to go out , not ever to visit my family or friends. I can't go to the mall because my legs get so weak and I can't see down the mall and I feel as if I am going to fall.I can;t even go out for my walks any more . I always went for a 30 minute walk every morning, now I try , my husband did go with me twice , but he does not like to walk and the farther away I get from home I get so weak .I was in a deep dark pit when I had my break down and I am afraid I am going there again.i want to go out but I am always afraid and feel I can't wait to get back home.I feel terrible but as soon as I get home I feel better. I love  shopping ,but have not been out to a mall in about 2 months.I want my live back ,but don't know how to get it back.I can't wait to go to bed at night  although I stay up as long as I can and when I wake up in the morning the first thing I think about  is how am I going to feel today .I have a good husband , but he has taken over my live and sometimes I think he is happy that I don't want to go any place because I don't drive and if I stay home that means he does not have to take me places.I worry about everything and am afraid of everything, I really mean I am terrified of everything , you  name it ,I am afraid , I am even sitting in the back seat of the car now  when we do go any place.I could go on and on ,I feel so sorry for anyone that has this problem . Thank you for listing .  

 
September 3, 2005, 11:42 am CDT

fear of Needles

I have many phobia.s . Sometimes I can't go outside . If I go outside, I am always aware if people are behind me & I move so they can get in front of me. 

My biggest phobia however is needles. I absolutely hate getting blood tests & shots. I used to pass out while getting blood tests. I have discovered EMLA cream though for the times when I can schedule my blood tests but getting an injection on demand is rough. It helps to have my husband there but I usually end up dislocating his fingers in the process. 

I would love to get over this fear. 

 
September 3, 2005, 5:17 pm CDT

Monicas To

Monica. I am surprised that you afraid of leaving your house and go see Doctor Phil and you need--- 

to get real and get going. Good luck. I avise you to out to Los Angeles, California and see Doctor---- 

Phil McGraw. Well I had better close now. Sincerly Your. Russell Vlaanderen.---------------------------- 

 
September 3, 2005, 11:22 pm CDT

Finaly peacful

After many years, first with psycoterapi and than medication I feel happy and peaceful.  Without help from and understanding G.P I got medication with SSRI-tablets.  I was a person who was afraid to go out. I had my work fulltime. I was isolated. To day I try to get friends and I look forward to have a new life. Psycoterapi is great but I couldn´t have deald with the situation without the SSRI-medication.   If I get worried I use to think; I deal with this situation another day. I can think like this now. I understand that every minut you  thinking is a kind of  fear. In my situation was so called SSRI-medication the best.  I hope you get well. 

 
September 5, 2005, 2:30 am CDT

Separation Anxiety:(

I've been struggeling with feelings of not being in controle, loosing myself and going crazy for the past 2 months. Basically I'm afraid of being by myself and loosing controle of my emotions and mentally dragging myself so far down that I'm without chance of being "me" again. I've sreached the internet, read books, talked to friends and family, even my doctor, but it seemed that the answer to my fear was nowhere to be found. Anxiety, depression, basic "loonety" or what. But after watching the "Dr Phil - Phobia show" I saw a light; Before I met my present boyfriend I was fine, I had no problem being alone, I knew me, I knew what to expect form life, I was allright. But a few weeks after meeting him, the anxiety raised it's ugly head again and I started having problems being alone, by myself. I got panic attacs, couldn't thing rationally, started sweating, couldn't eat, sleep or function for days at a time.. It's been like that for 2 onths now, some days are better, some days are worse. I try to locate the source of the fear; what am I afraid of? Why am I doing this to myself. I realized after sometime that I'm so afraid of him not missing me when we're not togheter, that he doesn't really really care (allthough he has given me no reason what so ever to believe this) and so on.. On a bad day I'll wake up at his place, being so on the edge that I just wanna go die somewhere, IF I don't know when I'll be seeing him again. It's exhausting, it's so energy draing that I'm constantly tired, I'm always on the edge, I'm alwsys thinking "What if he doesn't want me in his life???"  But seeing the show I realize it's an irrational anxiety, it's a negative thinking pattern that doesn't make sense or give me anything at all! I need to face this, i need to turn my way of thinking around, I need to realize that the worst case scenario (aka, we break up, won't be as bad as I think, sad, painful, yeah, but I'll get over it) ain't the end of the world! Knowing this, I hope I'll be able to cope, to turn my life around. I feel so much better knowing that I can do this myself, I can change it back to the way it was!  

 
September 5, 2005, 8:03 am CDT

Emetophobia

 I am a 21 year old emetophobic, and have been this way since I was in 2nd grade.  I am not sure what exactly triggered this fear but I do remember a time before that when I was not afraid of vomit.  I am relieved in a sense, to know that there is someone out there who also experiences what I experience.  It completely takes over my life, and I do not go a day without thinking about whether I'm going to be sick or not.  My fear definitely accelerates in more foreign surroundings and that is when more anxiety takes flight.  The worst time is when a family member gets sick however.  It completely consumes every breath of me.  My habits take a turn for the worst so as to avoid the contagious germs.  I also have this immense sense of guilt for people who vomit because to me, it is the worst feeling in the world.  I have no idea how to go about curing this phobia because it doesn't seem like there are specialists out there who know how I am feeling.  You really don't know what a phobia is like until you have to constatnly deal with one...I'm sure all of you can relate to that. 
 
September 5, 2005, 9:39 am CDT

We're in the same boat!

Quote From: hunny7784

 I am a 21 year old emetophobic, and have been this way since I was in 2nd grade.  I am not sure what exactly triggered this fear but I do remember a time before that when I was not afraid of vomit.  I am relieved in a sense, to know that there is someone out there who also experiences what I experience.  It completely takes over my life, and I do not go a day without thinking about whether I'm going to be sick or not.  My fear definitely accelerates in more foreign surroundings and that is when more anxiety takes flight.  The worst time is when a family member gets sick however.  It completely consumes every breath of me.  My habits take a turn for the worst so as to avoid the contagious germs.  I also have this immense sense of guilt for people who vomit because to me, it is the worst feeling in the world.  I have no idea how to go about curing this phobia because it doesn't seem like there are specialists out there who know how I am feeling.  You really don't know what a phobia is like until you have to constatnly deal with one...I'm sure all of you can relate to that. 
I'm a 37 yr. old female who's lived with this same phobia pretty much my entire life and i'm not sure what triggered it. I'm sure most people hate vomiting but what makes it that we are so deathly afraid of it??? I literally runs my life! It definitely keeps me from living (what i feel is) a normal life. I have passed on many vacation trips due to it...sadly, i will not have children because of it, for fear of morning sickness, let alone the fact that small children vomit quite frequently, and what kind of mother would i be when i would want to run away when the poor child gets sick? :-( I even become fearful of going to church now because once a poor man suffered what i believe was a heart attack and started vomiting and eventually was taken away by ambulance. That event replays in my mind each time in church and at times it brings on horrible anxiety attacks to the point where i want to just run out of there, but the thought of people seeing me leave brings on another fear, that of embarrassing myself. So i can surely relate to your situation, hunny!! I feel too, like certain therapies that cure most phobics, just could not cure one like ours! Such as the desensitization terapy...what do they think they're going to do...make us vomit until we're desensitized??? I THINK NOT!! It's a bummer that you and I, along with others who share our specific phobia cannot get together whenever we want to, although it's sure comforting to know we are not alone in this. May God bless you, and may He one day grant us a miracle, which is freedom of this paralyzing fear!!
 
September 5, 2005, 11:40 am CDT

Fear of birds, moths and butterflies

Hi I've always wanted to write to Dr. Phil about my phobia. I've had this phobia for as long as I can remember. It's of Birds, Moths, Lady Bugs, and yes Butterflies basically anything that can fly. If no one is home to kill a moth that is in the house I'll lock myself into my room with the lights off, and wait.  It's so embarressing. I often get hurt while running and bulldozing anything in my path. I hate the sound of a flag moving in the wind b/c it sounds like wings.  There were a few days where I wouldn't go to school because my neighbour would feed the birds in the morning and they were everywhere. I remember crying a few times because I could see their shadows on my curtain and hear their awful sounds. My mother thinks this fear came from going to the duck pond as a baby. She says that my father use to chase the ducks with me in the stroller. So this explains it. But how do I learn to control this! and is there any other people who fear the same thing as I.
 
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