Topic : 12/22 Little Mean Girls

Has anyone else noticed that Dr. Phil looks really uncomfortable in these new chairs??  

I really cannot comment too much on today's topic. I have one child and he's 7 months old, so who am I to judge? I'll wait to see how my son does in four or five years. Hopefully, the things I learned in Family First and from watching shows like the one today help! 

Did Dr. Phil ever do a show on how to deal with children who bully other children?  

Is Alissa's mom a daycare provider?  There are a lot of kids there, more than her three.  I myself was in a daycare situation where the child of the provider was a "brat" and I and the other kids felt like second class.   

I had a stepson that was maniputative and hard to handle.  He was bigger than the other 3yr olds.It was harder to stay at home with him that it was to go to work and have a daycare provider deal with him.  At pre-school he was placed in a class of of children that were older than him.  This kept him "beat down" (by no way was he abused) but couldnt get to the smaller children and it was easier to handle him even at home.   

I hope that the parents know what they are doing by letting that "bratty child" be with the daycare children at her house.  These kids will always feel the way I did. 

I worked with behaviorally challenged kids for twenty years.  Have you had him seen by a specialist?  He sounds like he may have brain damage.  A lot (most) of the kids I cared for had Alcohol related Brain Injury but some of them had problems from early childhood illnesses or strokes.  The fact that he 'had colic" for so long maybe he had headaches or what ever.  These kids have normal intelligence but they cannot quite figure out consequences.  They will do things over and over, or variations of the same scenerio and can't connect the dots. 

They have trouble understanding that TV is pretend, that people, animals etc. all hurt.  Most were hyperactive..I didn't ;know until one child taught me that some kids don't sleep.  He could go for days.  Burn out.  If it was just me I would have thought he was out to get me but he had a history. 

It starts with social problems but when others reject them they reject back.  They are emotional immature, can't focus, have no impulse control.  They are so confused after a while.  They get distracted, they're hypersensitive, a label rubbing on their skin is excrusiatingly painful but they will burn themselves (badly) and not notice. 

I've been retired for awhile but there must be programs etc. to support mothers with high end kids cause they need lots of support, both the child and the mother. 

I am so tired of little brats being given everything they want & throwing temper tantrums when they don't get it. I'm also tired of hearing people say "Don't spank the little darlings. You'll hurt their ego". That's exactly what these girls need is a good spanking.  

My father was WWII Army and didn't tolerate any misbehavior or disrespect from us kids, either at home or at school. Breaking the rules resulted in a leather belt being applied to our bare bottoms,  then we had to face the corner for at least an hour & depending on the "crime", we were grounded for at least a weekend. There were 6 of us kids and none of us became an ax murderer or has low self esteem because our parents cared enough to punish us when we needed it. We also were not given everything we wanted. We had a good home, clothes to wear, food to eat and yes, we had toys that we had to share with each other. When we wanted something & it wasn't Christmas or our birthday, we had to earn that item.  

Due to medical reasons, I am the only one of the 6 who does not have any children, but my nieces and nephews are all very well behaved and very polite. That is due to the fact that their parents don't give them everything they want and are not afraid to discipline them when it is necessary.  

These 3 little girls are badly in need of discipline and a few minutes in time out isn't going to solve the problem. The parents also need to learn how to be parents and stop giving the kids everything they want. A little old fashioned discipline will do wonders for how those 3 little brats behave.  

I think it is too easy to just blame the father. being parents is a 50/50 job   the mother needs to step up and  be a mom run the house and be a parent. stop being run my your kids  you run there lifes not the other way around.    

I also think that mark is a great cute guy and dont beleave as everyone else on this  message board that it was his falt  and that the child  picked up the way she is from him.  If the mother was tuff like him the kid would have no problems and would be a normal little girl. 

did i say that i think mark is a big cute guy yet.......LOL     well he is.      

watching the show i can see that every one was walking over the wife. she needs to take command a little.  yes mark shouldnt have called her names in front of the kids. but  seeing there home where were they to go to have there fight  where the kids were not. and dose any one plann a fight or do they just happen...hummm  i think that there cant be a fight unles both side are involed.    

Doc Phil is 100 % right  take everything away from the kid until she learns respect,  and learns her boundries. then over time slowly when she earns them, give stuff back.  if you only have one parent that inforce, punish , is stricked,  it is like driving a car wiht only 2 full tiers. i am just saying that if the wife was more strick wiht the kids and not give in so much and be upfront and forceful with this kid there wouldnt be an issue.