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Topic : 05/31 Falsely Accused

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(Original Air Date: 11/2/2005) False accusations have ruined lives and divided families. No one knows this better than Terry. She claims she was falsely labeled as a gossip at her son, Steve's, rehearsal dinner and was escorted out of his wedding by security! Now, she confronts her son and daughter-in-law for the first time in almost five months. Can this family ever reconcile, or are they better off apart? Then, a former high school principal made headlines when a 16-year-old student accused him of having sex with her. The scandal rocked the town, and now he struggles to regain his reputation and move forward.  Share your thoughts here.

 

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November 2, 2005, 1:02 pm CST

I agree!

Quote From: wuviee

When the mother in law used a term such as 'chick' to describe another woman, the page was 

pretty well colored for me. This is obviously not a mature woman with any class. If the young married couple wanted peace and joy at their wedding, they are by all means entitled.  

  

How self-absorbing of the mother and sister to carry on like petty young girls. Shame on them both! 

  

I would not want a blabbering, gossiping mouth at my wedding either, mother or no mother.  

The sister's behavior seems parallel to the mother in law's. What does that tell you? 

  

If it takes security to escort a disrespectful, disgruntled woman from my wedding to preserve pleasantry, I'd do it, too.  

  

Thank goodness my MIL is out of our lives as well. Five children from the first marriage  

feel the same way and have since felt a big sigh of relief, while the other two are basking  

in the thought of snatching the last will and testament. Sad, but true.  

  

  

  

  

 
November 2, 2005, 1:08 pm CST

I agree!

Quote From: wuviee

When the mother in law used a term such as 'chick' to describe another woman, the page was 

pretty well colored for me. This is obviously not a mature woman with any class. If the young married couple wanted peace and joy at their wedding, they are by all means entitled.  

  

How self-absorbing of the mother and sister to carry on like petty young girls. Shame on them both! 

  

I would not want a blabbering, gossiping mouth at my wedding either, mother or no mother.  

The sister's behavior seems parallel to the mother in law's. What does that tell you? 

  

If it takes security to escort a disrespectful, disgruntled woman from my wedding to preserve pleasantry, I'd do it, too.  

  

Thank goodness my MIL is out of our lives as well. Five children from the first marriage  

feel the same way and have since felt a big sigh of relief, while the other two are basking  

in the thought of snatching the last will and testament. Sad, but true.  

  

  

  

  

You can see clearly like me.  You could tell by the way Terry was acting/saying that she is a trouble maker.  I don't blame her for being upset that her husband cheated on her, but I am sure she was not the perfect wife either.  I can't believe that Dr. Phil didn't stand up for the couple more.  I believe that evil thrives when good people do nothing.  Terry had plenty of time to confront her ex-husband's wife (I think it was stated the divorce happened 6 years ago).  But she shouldn't confront them anyways, leave those people alone!  Terry and her daughter need to mind their own business (very unlikely).  People like that do not change, unfortunately.  I was shocked by Dr. Phil's reply that we should all get along because some day we will all be deceased.  I disagree.  I am not spending my life here on earth surrounding myself by people that are rude and disrespectful.  I am not going to miss spending time with people like that! 
 
November 2, 2005, 1:08 pm CST

For Dr. Wilson

I would like to commend you for your hard work.  I think you and your wife are amazing people, after everything you have been through you have remained dedicated to education and children.  I think you set an example for what a marriage should stand for, sticking together and the love and support you show for each other.  I wish you luck in the future. God Bless you both.   

  

  

 
November 2, 2005, 1:12 pm CST

11/02 Falsely Accused

Quote From: treecalais

 I was heartsick for the young teacher-my husband, an ER physician, was also falsely accused of a crime over 10 yrs. ago.  Although he continued as a a very busy and highly respected physician and human being, he has still suffered with incidents that haunt him from the past.  His innocence proven, there has never been an apology from the accusors-I don't know how they lay their head on a pillow at night knowing what they did to this man-a total yr. of hell and $72,000 in legal fees.  I trust they will read the book when he completes it. 
T.B.
I am so sorry about what happened to your husband.  We also had a similar situation...my husband was accused of touching a little girl he never even spent time alone with!!!  Her sitter did not like us and decided to fill the little girls head full of ideas and and ask her leading questions.  The sitter later admitted she did so and all was dropped.  It destroys your life, your belief in good,  and even weighs down your faith.  People can be so cruel and heartless.  My husband still is very standoffish around children.  Counseling is helpful.....but there is a hole in your heart ,a space and a fear that can never be filled.  Check out a group called VOCAL ...these people are a god send to those who have been accused and are automatically "guilty before proven innocent".
 
November 2, 2005, 1:12 pm CST

Falsely accused

I know what it is to falsely accused, especially when you are in a disciplinary role.  I spent ten years substitute teaching and a year as the first hall monitor at our local high school.  After two months as hall monitor I had 100 kids walk out of school.  The kids brought in students from a local university and wrote letters that I was a woman beater and I beat children.  None of it was true but my own children were exposed to all of the lies.  I stayed at the school another three months then said enough was enough.  I can understand what your going through.  Good luck in your future endeavors. 
 
November 2, 2005, 1:16 pm CST

Falsely Accused! WHO WEARS THE PANTS AND KEEP THE PANTS ON!

 I certainly believe that the son is whipped in this case.  Theresa has full control, and it seems that what she says goes.  She spoke for him throughout most of the show.  I think that Theresa is very selfish!  She is recorded stating that she could care less whether her mother-in-law was a part of their life or not.  This is not being to considerate of her husband.  From what was witnessed on the show today, if the son were to want to have a relationship with his mother, it would be nearly impossible to cross the line of evil within his wife!  WHO WEARS THE PANTS IN THIS RELATIONSHIP!  Theresa better watch her back, because if her husband is anything like his father..he isn't wearing pants around other women as well! 

 
November 2, 2005, 1:18 pm CST

also falsly accused

 i dont usually respond to shows but this one mirrored our unfortunate story my husband of 14 years was falsly accused of the same sort of incident as the dr. it has been over a year and we cant get beyond it we have moved and tried to get on with life but it haunts us ,my husband has lost his will( zest for life) and doesnt know how to trust anyone again . the stress is ongoing and strong. all charges were dropped but not until after my father had past away.its another stress that he will never know the truth. ty dr phil for standing up for this man. it does happen and it ruins lives .
 
November 2, 2005, 1:22 pm CST

In Total Agreement!

Quote From: blackberry

  I'm a little upset with what I just watched on the show.  I can't believe that he had his mother escorted away from his wedding and more importantly I can't believe that Dr. Phil didn't cut into the son and his wife!  To me it was more then obvious that the wife has a problem with the mother!  Now don't get me wrong I totally agree with the idea of their wedding day being all about them.  I also agree with it not being the time or the place for anybody to air their dirty laundry or put on any embarrassing performances.  However, I don't agree with them saying what can and can't be discuss in private conversations.  They made a big deal out of something the mother was supposedly reported to have said and put her out of the wedding then their excuse for that was the had sad that anyone gossiping would be put out.  Well explain to me why the aunt who the mother was talking to, who by the way was the one gossiping and repeating things, wasn't also escorted away from the wedding?  If the two, the mother and the aunt , were discussing divorces how was it okay for the aunt to voice her feelings but wrong for the mother?  Also what made the aunt run back and tell the wife other then her need to gossip.  The wife had so much negative to say about the mother being a gossip and this and that, but then in the next breath she stated that the mother never took the time to get to know her.  Well, if the two of them never took the time to know each other how is it that the wife has so much to say about her unless she herself has been involved in a little gossip.  I think the wife just had a problem with the fact that the mother express concerns about the quickness of the marriage and in return didn't want her at the wedding.  For them to have so much to say about the mother and her being too mouthy it seems like the wife was the one who talked too much and relied on gossip to make judgements.  The wife stated that she didn't want to welcome the mother into her home and if they had children wouldn't feel comfortable with her children being around her and I'm still sitting her trying to figure out where that came from. 

 MMM .. MMM ... MMM ..

 I'm not saying the mother isn't a gossip or hasn't had horrible things to say regarding the divorce, but that daughter-in-law appeared to be a sheep in wolves attire today. It's clear that she was pulling that wagon. I have no doubts that she was the one who originally suggested the mother be escorted away from the wedding. I don't care what the mother has done or said, there's nothing (that was revealed today) worth that kind of treatment. If I heard right, the son lived with both his father and mother until their divorce 6 years ago. This means that she cared for him, supported him financially (I'm sure), and helped raise him for heaven sakes! I'm sure the mother endured far worse things out of her son during his adolescent years. This is beyond me. I can't imagine anyone escorting their MOTHER away from their marriage ceremony, excluding the idea of bodily harm. None of which I heard today.

Also, when Dr. Phil asked the son questions, the daughter-in-law quickly answered most of them. Sorry, I'm sure they are all good people and it's easy to feud with mother-in-laws, but it seems to me that the daughter-in-law was running one agenda. Basically, I believe this was/is to completely isolate her mother-in-law and prevent her from being a part of her son's life. If she wants the marriage to be successful, she's got to get over that.
 
November 2, 2005, 1:22 pm CST

Accountability For Lying

I think it's absolutely awful that in our society, lying about sexual abuse and misconduct is so lightly thought about.  What kind of punishment did this girl have to suffer?  No one even knows her name because she is a minor.  More punishment is needed to deter false accusations that can seriously damage a persons professional and personal business.  Dr. Wilson should not be shunned by his town because of a lie and his community should be working extra hard to help him recover from this awful situation.  Considering that most of my principals growing up never left their office, that school district will suffer greatly by losing such a dedicated and passionate educator.  It's absolutely awful and the issue of these lies needs to be addressed.  Between lies about these situations, and lies about abductions, our society is lying about everything and nothing seems to be getting done about it.  What are the punishments for these lying individuals?  They need to be held accountable for their actions.
 
November 2, 2005, 1:23 pm CST

This is a loving aunt?

What kind of  "aunt" goes to her niece and repeats something her future mother in law said?  And on her wedding day no less....please.  The only way to stop gossip is to not repeat it.  I think the aunt should have been tossed out, not mother in law.  Better yet why not ignore the comment and let everyone share in the the celebration?
 
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