Quote From: juliana67Hello everybody. I have never posted on this message board before, but after yesterday's show I feel compelled to. I want one point to get across and that is that eating disorders are not a choice. Anorexia nervosa is a brain disorder, the causation lies in the brain. Our brains are abnormal, just like the young girl with PWS. Triggers are the underlying issues, not the causation. The causation is in our brains. It is a disease, and there is no cure (management, yes, but no cure). That is the first point I want to make clear. I have been suffereing with anorexia for over 6 years and have been to many treatment centers and researched more than my fair share of information on anorexia. If you don't believe me about the causation being in the brain, see for yourself at this medical page http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?DB=pubmed  
I was very upset with Dr. Phil after yesterday's show. The first thing I heard Dr. Phil say to Kathy was that she looked wonderful. Hello?? WOnderful, good, great, healthy, etc. all equate FAT in our minds! I was livid by that time and should have turned the channel, but I chose not to. Dr. Phil, don't you understand that eating disorders are not a choice and that any comment on our appereance is not needed and only a trigger? I was also upset by how the show kept flashing Kathy's emaciated pictures and her extreme weight. Weight is not reflective of the amount of pain we are all in. One does not have to be extremely emacaited in order to be suffering imensly. I felt so bad for Kathy because of how her weight and pictures were right there in front of her the whole show. I'm sure it was a BIG trigger! Kathy, I am so proud of you for having the strength and courage to go on the show and give yourself a voice. You are an inspiration, and girl, you are stronger than you think you are.  
I am also upset because it seemed as if Dr. Phil was saying that Kathy is now recovered. SHe has worked very hard, yes, but the hell will live on for MUCH MUCH longer and it seems to minimalize her pain and suffering. I am sorry if I sound like I am lecturing, but I just cannot stay quiet. Too much misinformation and stereotypes are out there. People with eating disorders are anything but selfish. We did not choose this way of coping. Please understand that. We did not choose this. We live with undescribable pain and hurt each and everyday. The battle in our minds is out of control, however, we percieve anorexia to be the only thing we can control. Anorexia is hell and recovery is much more hell. People do not understand how HARD it is to eat or to not purge. It is a battle each and every day. Our minds scream at us how fat, lazy, worthless, selfish, and undeserving we are. Anorexia is PAIN! If any of you have anything in response to this, I would love to talk with you. Anorexia has killed me every single day I continue to hold on, and I understand just how horrible and painful this road to health is. Thank you all for listening, 
Julie 
You are right that anorexia will be with you for a long long time, but the pain and the anxiety do lessen.
I was an anorexic many years ago when I was a teenage girl. I used to eat 3 pieces of melba toast, 1 single serving can of pears and a great deal of black coffee each day. Finally, perhaps as I matured, or perhaps as the circumstances of my life changed, I changed and it became easier to eat and not feel as if I were getting 'fat'.
The time came when I threw my scales away - and then lived in angst about whether I was gaining an ounce.
Now, I'm a normal weight - 30 years later. But still I avoid people who are dieting. I don't join 'weigh in groups' at my workplace. I don't sit near the people who are on diets. I don't read magazines that feature weight loss articles. Just as an alcoholic is wise to avoid bars and people who drink a lot, I'm wise to avoid the weight-obsessed.
So when Dr. Phil does an eating topic, I turn off the television set and go for a walk instead. I don't even know what made me come to this discussion page today, but I did, and reading your letter I could have been reading about myself 3 decades ago.
Time can heal - and I hope for you it does. Take care. Be well.