Topic : 08/25 Extreme Food Obsessions

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(Original Air Date: 11/03/05) What if you were so obsessed with eating that it almost killed you, or craving food so badly that you yelled, kicked and screamed when you couldn't get enough. Nichelle's 6-year-old daughter has Prader-Willi Syndrome and constantly wants to eat. She once threw a fit so loud, the neighbors called the police. Can Nichelle learn to control her own temper when her daughter has a tantrum? Then, Dr. Phil follows up with Kathy, an anorexic whose condition was so severe, she weighed only 68 pounds. She spent three months in treatment, but her struggle is not over yet. Can her family learn the difference between supporting her and enabling her? Talk about the show here.

 

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November 3, 2005, 6:46 am PST

THINK OF BETTER PARENTING SKILLS

Hi,  

I was observing the difficulty of the younger mom with her child's handicap and all she needs is the parenting skills to provide the STRUCTURE needed for this child's successful outcome. I can offer the advice to her to simply look for a DISTRACTION FOR SATISFACTION. And THIS IS LOVE. When she throws a tantrum for food remain calm, give eye contact, physically console her by stroking her face with love, and offering a distraction with the smile and assurance she will need. ADD TO HER ROUTINE GYMNASTICS OR SOME OTHER EXTRA ACTIVITIES THAT DOESN'T REQUIRE HER TO BE AT HOME WITH THE TEMPTATIONS. 

 

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November 3, 2005, 6:55 am PST

Thank you

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hey nichelle, 

   im sorry for what i wrote earlier it was a mistake too confuse the situation you have too understand what i seen on the preveiw made me upset now i know it is hard too be a mom i am a new mom but understabd what i seen really upset me. I hope you get all the help you need for you and your daughter becasue you both need it i hope you did not get too upset for that im am trully sorry please get help for savannahs sake god bless 

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November 3, 2005, 7:06 am PST

THANK YOU :-) FROM THURSAYS SHOW

Thank you so much to all the people who posted messages here for me. Nice or mean I have taken the time to read everybodys opinion and take all said into consideration. I apologize that I said the kids were brats. They just act that way sometimes, I DO Love them and Ill do my best to handle the situation. I should not have been so negative in my postings...I guess I was just blown away by all the meanies who hadnt even seen the show yet. Thanks so much to the nice, positive, people who left such great messages. It IS appreciated. "you get more flies with sugar then with vinigar" (not that anyone wants flies! but you get my point! :)Thanks again to everyone. 

 

Sincerely, Nichelle 

 
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November 3, 2005, 7:17 am PST

I have a child wit a disabity

Dear Dr Phil,   I have a child with autism and when she was little she would hit herself and hit her head on the floor,cut her hair when we were sleeping and a lot of other things. Instead of yelling at her we got help no matter the cost and learned to teach her not to do those things to her self. We had to teach her to potty and still at 14 when she gets up set as problems going to the bath on time. I love her with all of my heart and she has come along way . This woman  needs to get help and understand the god gave here to her for a reason. She needs to help here. If she can't then she needs to give her up. I love my daughter and I would do anything for her and so would her dad and brother and all my family. You need help to help her. Daughter is a loving and caring  child and you need to learn how to love her back and love your self. My god help you find your way to help her. 

Autism as no cure and this dose not either but you can help her and stop hurting this child you are doing more harm them good. Thank you for your time !!!1   

 
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November 3, 2005, 7:30 am PST

Living with PWS

My daughter also has PWS.  She will be 12 in a couple weeks.  While we do have our  "moments",   for the most part, she is a wonderful kid - smart, funny, compassionate, helpful and extremely determined to be like other kids.  It's wonderful to see her face light up when she has finally accomplished a task that maybe other children just take for granted.  But then I have seen her succeed at other things that other kids haven't mastered yet.  Patience and unconditional love is what makes this all work.  Having everything locked up and structure helps too!  God bless and know that you are not alone in having a child with PWS.  

  

  

 
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November 3, 2005, 7:30 am PST

I understand where Nichelle is coming from!

Nichelle, I used to babysit at Disneyworld part time and babysit a child with this disorder, I was in my late 30's then and took care of her for about 10 hours, by the end of the day I was exhausted...I went home to my husband and my daughter, who I thought was difficult....I had a whole new appreciation for my daughter....I even kissed the wall when I got home! Until someone walks in your shoes they have no idea what it is like, I did it for one day no less the rest of your life....
 

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November 3, 2005, 7:34 am PST

Love your children

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Thank you so much to all the people who posted messages here for me. Nice or mean I have taken the time to read everybodys opinion and take all said into consideration. I apologize that I said the kids were brats. They just act that way sometimes, I DO Love them and Ill do my best to handle the situation. I should not have been so negative in my postings...I guess I was just blown away by all the meanies who hadnt even seen the show yet. Thanks so much to the nice, positive, people who left such great messages. It IS appreciated. "you get more flies with sugar then with vinigar" (not that anyone wants flies! but you get my point! :)Thanks again to everyone. 

 

Sincerely, Nichelle 

Dear Nichelle, 

Please heed Dr. Phil's advice and utilize the resources he is giving you.  I felt compelled to to write you and tell you a true story of my grandmothers faith and love.  She passed last year, but spent 42 years of her life caring for my aunt.  My aunt was mentally challenged, and ate all the time without much exercise to compensate for the calories.  She may or may not have PWS.  I just want to say that I never one time saw my grandmother speak to her daughter in any negative way.  She was pushed to the brink at times I'm sure, but she always responded with love.  The state tried to take my aunt from her (In the 50's it was common) but my grandmother told them that no one could love and care for her daughter better than she could.  My aunt did flourish with the love from our family.  She cannot live on her own, but functions well in a world that can be very cruel to her.  We never even used the word "retarded" and I was 12 before I ever heard such a thing.  Please please please be very aware of how your words effect your daughter, and people who love her.  (Yourself included.)  Pray for the patience you need to have with yourself and your daughter.  You can do it Nichelle.  I know it is not what you ever wanted for your child, nor for your own life, but you are strong and you can raise your daughter with love.  Hug her every moment that you can!  My prayers are with you, and I hope you find the strength to be the loving mom that I know you can be. 

Sincerely, 

Danielle 

 
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November 3, 2005, 7:36 am PST

Control

Nichelle, 

In my opinion, I think that you are totally letting your child get over on you. For one I understand that you are a single Mother of two and you are only 24, but let me tell you something. I am am also a young Mother of two. I am only 21 years old. But, I feel like this if you really want your daughter to stop going on like she does then you need to buckle down and get yourself some guts! I totally understand that it is hard for you to deal with your little girls violent tantrums but, as a parent sometimes you have to go through a lot just to get to where you want to be. Eventually she will get tired of throwing her tantrum and calm down and if its that bad put her in her room until she can calm down. See my kids are one and two yrs. old perfect ages for throwing tantrums but, I can assure you that they NEVER carry on like that because I made it clear that I am the Mother and when I say no, thats what I mean and there are no if -ands, or buts about it!!  Somewhere along the line you need to teach your daughter self-disapline and you also need some yourself! No one ever said that being a parent was easy. Let me break it down for you.........no, I am not a single Mother but, I am the one who is home with my kids all day long and i teach they right from wrong eventually you need to teach you daughter that NOBODY in this world gets everything they want just when they want it. But let me also say this if you dont feel like you can handle your childs tantrums just that much try changing what she is eating. You are the on in the house buying the food so buy healty food change your eating habits and change hers. Instead of eating chips for a snack and getting mad when your daughter is right there ready to eat some with you why not try eating fruit for a sncak or something like that. In my opinion your whole situation is all about self-control and you need to get some and install it into your daughter. Cause let me tell you anytime there is something in here to eat or drink my kids want if I say no, I dare them to act up, you really have to get on you daughters level and let her know whos boss! To me it looks like right now she thinks she is, she is 6 yrs old and I can promise you she knows that if she wants something and you tell her no all she has to do is throw a fit and she knows she will get. My two year old is smart enough to know what to do to get what he wants so I know she is. You shold have nipped whats going on in the bud a long time ago, and if you dont get some self control to get her where she needs to be it will only get worse.  

 
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November 3, 2005, 7:39 am PST

11/03 Extreme Food Obsessions

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Thank you so much to all the people who posted messages here for me. Nice or mean I have taken the time to read everybodys opinion and take all said into consideration. I apologize that I said the kids were brats. They just act that way sometimes, I DO Love them and Ill do my best to handle the situation. I should not have been so negative in my postings...I guess I was just blown away by all the meanies who hadnt even seen the show yet. Thanks so much to the nice, positive, people who left such great messages. It IS appreciated. "you get more flies with sugar then with vinigar" (not that anyone wants flies! but you get my point! :)Thanks again to everyone. 

 

Sincerely, Nichelle 

Hi Nichelle, 

 I saw you were on here this morning. I just wanted to let you know, also that you can have your daughter tested in the school district you reside in for her developmental delays. If she qualifies for services they will provide pt, ot, speech and language and developmental assistance at no charge to you. They have to provide this by Federal Law. I believe its public law 94-457 being that she is not school age yet . Even if she is you still have the right to get her tested and placed in services. I thought this might help some. Or you may already know. I am not sure. But I believe that if us moms stick together and help each other thats a really great way to be. Also alot of services are out their and you dont know it because no one tells you. I have learned most of mine by parents and going to Nichy and printing out my state resource sheets everytime I move.  Well I hope this will help. Take care and keep working hard.  

 
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November 3, 2005, 7:48 am PST

Kathy

Wow, I can't believe how good Kathy is doing.  It really shows how strong of a fighter she is.  Great job, I am sure you have put a lot of hope and insight in others with the same problem. 

  

Did you see the previews of that lady fighting Dr Phil.....OH MY GOSH!!  This november looks amazing!!  How did Robin refrain from stepping in between them???? WOW, CANNOT WAIT! 

 

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