Quote From: peepinbud As Im noticing on this board, most are angry at those who sink instead of swim.
I have a friends from overseas whose friend said this...
"Its nice that Americans pride themselves so much on being self-reliant but too bad compassion has been thrown out the window along with it"
Young adults can get sick...PHYSICALLY and there is mental illness too. When young adults in some cases are not even given resources to take care of themselves and have to do things like work 80 hour weeks at demanding part-time jobs pieced together with no health insurance, thats a problem. Some of the tougher people can make it, but get sick, God have mercy on you!
There is a selfishness prevelant in American culture. Its part of the problem why young adults grow up unable to take care of themselves. They are left unprepared and cast out into a world where they ARE BLAMED for not measuring up right away. Its almost like if you dont get that plum job right out of college, even ones own parents turn on you like vicicious dogs adding to the cacophony of the world outside. "LOSER"! "GET A JOB"! "WHY DO YOU MAKE SO LITTLE MONEY?"
I am of the belief that those who come into the most success, while hard work is a big part of the equation, have help getting there. When they stumble and fall, they dont have a family that kicks them in the teeth while they are down. They have people who help them up [not enabling but real help, and answers and EMOTIONAL support.
I have to admit for me, the MONEY in some ways is the last thing some of these young people need, they need families who care about their well-being.. Emotional support instead of looks of disgust because they didnt come out of college making $50,000 a year I had a family so well-off, they considered my first teaching job of 14 bucks an hour in 1990, a LOSER job
I believe college costs are a big part of this too. Some of the parents who help with the college degree, resent the money spent. They think college degree means instant wealth. It doesnt. Its a racket and now instead of helping young people start off with some type of foundation, we got them starting off with loans so huge hanging over their heads, it isnt funny. The whole thing is a racket!
Isnt it natural that YOUNG PEOPLE will stumble and fall? They are
young. If older people are fighting over the jobs in the working class range, with far more experience, should we be surprised we got so many young people finanically struggling. What are we offering them? Stigma, hatred, asking the impossible--to somehow turn $5.15 an hour into a sustainable wage?
Is it all THEIR FAULT?
Sure with some of them there is responsiblity...giving up as some of them seem to have done is not the answer...
But then you ask yourself for some of the moochers, where did they learn to be selfish to begin with?
In a society that says every person for yourself, sink or swim...[where families no longer pull together to help one another out
Where else did they learn it?
i agree with pretty much eerything you have said.
As much as I love America, we are becoming a very self-centered, uncaring, materialistic, and godless society. People today are acting like they are invincible and those who don't contribute right away are labeled as deadbeats, moochers, users, and pathetic. I think those who are making all those statements are the pathetic ones.
Maybe what these people need is a hand up, someone to encourage them and letting them know that the Lord will guide them and has their back. I also think that we need to look into a person's situation before we make a judgment.
So come on everyone, let's start encouraging and stop discouraging