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March 13, 2007, 8:02 am PDT
Lemme compare to what he really did.
I really think, this guy is smart. But let me compare this kind of behaviour. I live in holland by the way, the shows come in later here, much later. But still I think I just gotta get this out of my mind. Take this mathematical example, where it gets explained that 2 = 1.
You may have seen this little proof that 2=1:
a = x [true for some a's and x's] a+a = a+x [add a to both sides] 2a = a+x [a+a = 2a] 2a-2x = a+x-2x [subtract 2x from both sides] 2(a-x) = a+x-2x [2a-2x = 2(a-x)] 2(a-x) = a-x [x-2x = -x] 2 = 1 [divide both sides by a-x]
First of all, don't focus on the explaination of this very thing. It's about the reasoning of this.
2 = 1 is wrong, everyone knows it. Lets compare this to polyfidelity. Everyone knows it's wrong.
Now, Charles here, had a good marriage. But he met this women, this over-the-top attractive women.
He is the type of person that's really smart. He thought in steps, he thinks in steps how to get to his result.
What he did is the above comparison. He heard somewhere, about this solution 2=1. What I really mean is,
he heard about polyfidelity. He knew it was wrong from the very start.
He wanted the wrong solution though. He began thinking if he could reason it out. If he could twist maths (his relationship)
in súch a way, he might pull it off. So he began thinking of this way to get there. What he came onto, was this calculation above.
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He had it. He figured out a way to get what he wanted. Cause he made an error in his calculation, in his reasoning.
He knew it though, but it was such a small twist, almost unnoticed, that he knew his wife wouldn't see the error in this reasoning.
He began to make steps, all right, he made conclusions and discussed every step with his wife. He said it wasn't working out,
that he had met someone else, and he said that he didn't want to leave his kids and wife alone. Sounds very like the person who
is really kind.
But then he comes to the step where he makes the error. After all the preperations, the acting, the creating of circumstances,
he comes to his conclusion. He does it in a way that he says he "never expected this to be the answer, but he accidently reasoned towards it."
His wife falls for it, and mr.Charles doesn't warn his wife that she makes an error and that she should correct him on it.
Right, so...his wife allows it, for a while! She begans to realise something is wrong, she doesn't see where though.
Charles notices it, but he acts like he doesn't know "why" either, but he says he's sure he did it right and it's the thing to do.
They came to the doctor phil show, because his wife was sure something was wrong, but didn't blame him. After all, his reasoning sounded innocent.
Now, after this show, doctor phil pointed out the error. And mr.Charles knows he made a very little error, and he now doesn't have to apologise to his wife.
Because he "made a mistake he couldn't see" and doctor phil understands that he made a mistake whilst not knowing it.
But the thing no one ever pointed out, is that he was a very very arrogant person, and selfish.
Cause he didn't reason towards a conclusion. He wánted the conclusion, and searched a way to be completely safe and explain it to his wife.
That's exactly why it all happened this way. Long post, sorry, but I know these type of persons.
And although this problem is over, other person have these problems as well. But they should see what someone is out to do when,
they're acting like this.
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BTW, the error in this math test is, that you can divide through (a-x) cause 1 - 1 = o, and you're not allowed to divide through zero.
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(Original Air Date: 02/02/06) Charles says he has exhausted his relationship with his wife of 19 years, and he's ready to try an alternative lifestyle. Instead of getting a divorce, Charles wants to explore polyfidelity -- a relationship where he is shared between his wife and his mistress. The mistress says she'll give it a try, but his wife, Tracy, says the thought makes her sick. Can Charles convince his wife to share him for the sake of their marriage? And what does Dr. Phil think? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
