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Created on : Friday, February 03, 2006, 04:17:21 pm

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(Original Air Date: 02/07/06) Follow Dr. Phil inside an incredible family drama. Sixteen-year-old Amanda has been missing for over four months. Her parents, Paul and Linda, say she ran away with her boyfriend, George, and what they call his "Gypsy family." Dr. Phil puts his own investigator on the case in a hunt that stretches across 10 state lines. See Amanda’s tearful reunion with her mother, but then learn why their sweet moments together soon turn sour. Dr. Phil hears the teen's emotional confession about where she's been, and where she hopes to go next. Plus, the family erupts in a conflict so explosive, authorities have to be called to their hotel. What sets Amanda off? Dr. Phil puts some tough questions to George, and Amanda's family makes a heart-wrenching decision about their daughter's future. Can Amanda's life be set straight? Talk about the show here.

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sunybear6

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February 7, 2006, 1:07 pm PST

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I can't believe the behaviour of this teen. I think she was missing a good spankings while growing up. She has no boundaries or respect for her parents. I think is better if since she is a minor to put her in foster care or something and not deal with it. I am discussted with her childish attitude. Once she turns 18 let her run to her looser boyfriend and ruin her life. Everyone has a choice to make.

Yes, everyone has a choice to make and Amanda has made hers. Yes, she is a minor but that doesn't mean she doesn't know what she wants. What were you like at 16?

When I was 15, I started dating a 14 year old boy. His parents didn't allow the relationship and did everything in their power to end it. A week after my boyfriends's 16th birthday he "ran away" to live with me and my parents. It's been 7 years now and we are happily married and leading a successful life. If he hadn't left his parents home, our relationship probably would have ended and who knows where we would be now.

Also, teens sometimes leave their homes because of family issues or problems. Has anyone checked the family history?

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mdw2005

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February 7, 2006, 1:08 pm PST

02/07 The Hunt for Amanda

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On Sunday, Feb 5, 2006 my 14 year old niece left her home in Lincoln, NE to go for a walk around 9a.m. She has not been seen since. We have no leads on the case. If there is anything that you can help me with in finding her. Please contact me.

Deanna Goble

My thoughts and prayers are with you I hope you can find the help you need. God Bless

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noellskie

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February 7, 2006, 1:08 pm PST

seriously

I understand not liking her behviour as she was being very disrespectful, but you know what, so where some of teh adults. Furthernore, we have to keep in mind the power of editing. We only get to see the 'bad blow-ups' it makes for better TV. How would it be if the showed some of the more clamer moments as well. I can understand that the parents are going out of their mind and obviousy they all need help. I just don;t like the idea of blaming a child for being that, a child. This is her time to learn and grow and make bad decisions. We can serve her and help her first by seperating who she is from her behaviour. I am sure she is really a terrific person who happens to be acting out with a little evil demon on her shoulders. I just think we owe it to the family to not judge their daughter, but try to understand the pain that they are all in. Focusing on the problem behaviour opposed to working towards a solution does not help anyone.

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tmystery

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February 7, 2006, 1:08 pm PST

02/07 The Hunt for Amanda

I feel bad for this family. I hope they can work out there problems.

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jessilynn5

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February 7, 2006, 1:08 pm PST

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I think that Amanda's mom had done the best thing possible for that child. Amanda was out of control and had no respect. She didn't even show any shame for what she put her parents through, and thats sad. She cliams that she is almost an adult, but by the way she was acting i wouldn't have guessed that. No one talks to their parents that way no matter what age you are.

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paveit001

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February 7, 2006, 1:11 pm PST

THE HUNT FOR AMANDA

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I have a granddaughter who's 16 and I watch her fluctuating moods from child to grownup .It goes with the territory. The people who took Amanda on the run are not innocent . They had to have known that what they were doing was wrong. Is there a law in the States that can charge the people who are assisting her? I feel really sorry for the parents. This kid is completely out of control and she desperately needs someone to straighten her out. I was married at seventeen and I wish someone had been there stop me. It was a horrible,sadistic, nasty time I had for the next 14 years. I wish someone could explain to this kid that the 'honeymoon period' wears off and when it does,reality sets in and it isn't fun any longer. THe parent(s?) of that boyfriend needs to get a rude awaking .AS soon as the heat is on, they 'don't know nuttin'' Real class act

HELLO, WE ARE TALKING ABOUT A SEVENTEEN YEAR OLD GIRL. NOT FAR FROM BEING AN ADULT. WHERE WOULD YOU BLAME THE MOTHER OF HER BOYFRIEND? SHE WASN'T FOUND WITH GEORGE OR HIS MOTHER. HOW DO YOU KNOW THESE PEOPLE ARE NOT INNOCENT PEOPLE?

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tottie1971

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February 7, 2006, 1:12 pm PST

BAD PARENTING ...... NOT ALWAYS

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What are you and your husband doing while your daughter is away at Copper Canyon to make yourselves better parents and to understand your past mistakes so that you can change YOUR behavior for your daughter's sake? Too many people think that these situations are all just about a misbehaving, willful child when there's so much more to it than that. Dr. Phil always says you can't change what you won't acknowledge. Have you stepped up to the plate and admitted that there are some aspects of your own behavior that you will need to change in order to help your daughter become a successful adult? Or are you just willing to blame everything on your daughter and shell out the $5,400 per month for Copper Canyon for years to come so they can warehouse her until she's ready to do everything YOUR way?

I can not believe how many of you think it all comes down to bad parenting when a kid acts out. If you noticed she has another daughter that she also raised and does not act that way. I have seen it in families many times. One child well behaved and acts like a civilized human and the other one is completely belligerent and mean acts out over every little thing that happens. The have no respect for authority and do not make the right choices. So how is it that one child is fine well the other is not. I do not think you can blame it all on parenting. I firmly believe that what it truly comes down to is the choice of friends one child makes over the friends the other makes. In reality how can a parent force their kids to make the right choices in picking friends. "her mom is so cool, lets her do whatever she wants, your mean I hate you" this is something I believe most parents go through it is not necessarily what the parent does it is how the child perceives things. They know it is wrong but don't care. They want what they want and they want it now. This attitude can come from all different influences it is not just the parents. What can a parent do now A days to punish their kids? Not much. OHHH Take away their stuff they go get more stuff from friends, Grounding, now there is a personal favorite of mine. It does nothing if it did work they would only get grounded once in their life. Instead of automatically blaming the parent in all of this look to the child. It is no wonder kids do not take responsibility for their actions I mean come on it is all their parents fault......... Give Me A Break.

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hopeful62

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February 7, 2006, 1:12 pm PST

R U kidding me?

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Wow!!!! What a show! I got really angry while I was watching this show. First of all I felt like if Amanda wants to be away from her family then let her. If she wants to ruin her life...let her it is her's to ruin. I just know that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Alawys trying to take her phone away is crazy...she'll just buy another one. It's like the parents don't really love her but they want to control her and not let her grow up or be her own person. They want to turn her over to an agency because this way they don't have to deal with her. I guess in this story it is really important to me that Amanda knows I am own her side. She feels like no one is. I hope that she will live her own life make her own choices good or bad because once a child is 14 or 15 years old they are the person they are going to be. Amanda you can go to a judge and tell them you want to llive on own and as long as have a steady job and show you have means of support they will allow this. You may be happier going this rout I don't know. I hope that things work out with you and your boyfriend and if it is meant to be it will be no matter what. Maybe your boyfirned's family will adopt you...be certain of what you want and go for it. I hope you find happiness in your life be it with your family or not. Good luck to you.

You said "once a CHILD is 14 or 15 years old they are the person they are going to be"? You must be a teenager yourself. This is absolutely NOT TRUE> most people are not the "person they are going to be" until well in their 40's! Get realistic. Hormones, anger issues, rebellion, Drugs? are ruling this girls life and she needs long term counseling.

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lysten2up

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February 7, 2006, 1:13 pm PST

WAKE UP

Point blank teenagers have fluxuating moods, they're growing up and often bump heads with authority. Amandas mom seems overbearing as hell to me! She needs to chill out a little bit because Amanda told her that thats why she ran away in the first place. She didnt want to hang with her boyfriend at home simply because they had more freedom at the boyfriends house. Makes sense! Her mom has an unrealistic view of how things should be with her daughter and of how things were before she left I think. The girl is 16, been with the boyfriend for two years. Her developing an attitude could and probably is due to growing pains and adolescence. The mom had every right to find her daughter and to try and take the phone away from her, but she should realize that by fighting it, she's just going to push amanda further into bad choices.

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nasale

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February 7, 2006, 1:15 pm PST

Why shouldn't she???

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I am a 37 year old who (like Amanda) fell in love with a GYPSY Blacktopper. We have been married for 17 years and have three wonderful children. I am thankful that my parents supported me in my decision to marry who made me happy. We met at age 15 and it was obvious that we were very much inlove and should be together. I think that Amandas family have prejudices against George because they do not actually know of the "GYPSY" culture. I can say that I have lived a very fufilled life as a mother and wife of a blacktopper.

You are very lucky that it worked out for you. It doesn't work far more often than it does. She could be walking into a situation that will make her home life look like a walk in the park. She NOT emotionally mature enough (proven by her actions) to make any decisions that could affect the rest of her life. Did you not see how quickly those people were ready to give her over when they knew they were in hot water??? Yup, A real nice bunch. I'm glad it worked out for you. God knows this world doesn't need more pain. Its not right to encourage this kid to take that kind of chance.

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