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Topic : 02/09 Family Secrets, Family Lies

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Created on : Friday, February 03, 2006, 04:20:48 pm
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On the outside, they seem like an all-American family, but behind closed doors is a household spinning out of control. Dr. Phil follows up with Bridgette, a self-proclaimed shopaholic, and her husband, Michael, who is a rageaholic.  Bridgette's excessive spending was covering up a much darker problem. She reveals a secret she has been hiding for 30 years: self-mutilation. Dr. Phil reveals that her son, David, cuts himself as well. And that's not all! Tempers flare as the children reveal that they are addicted to porn, and say it’s a habit that started when they were children. Will this family in crisis be able to pick up the pieces and move forward? Talk about the show here.

 

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February 9, 2006, 8:22 am CST

cutting

I work with teenagers in a church setting and have just recently started helping a young lady with an abusive history.  she has revealed to me that she is a cutter.  i have brief blocks of time ot pour into her life.  what are some of the key elements to share with her regarding overcoming the cutting? please give me some ideas so that i may help her.  her family life stinks, but she does have a family which makes access to her even more complicated.
 
February 9, 2006, 8:24 am CST

02/09 Family Secrets, Family Lies

Quote From: margaritta

Some here have said that Dr. Phil should just forget about this family. 

I don't think that he should, and I don't believe that he would. 

Any counsellor, therapist, psychologist, etc, should not give up and continue to help as long as necessary.  That is their job.  People come to them, and to Dr. Phil, for help.  If psychologists give up on someone when help could still be offered, then who are people supposed to go to? 

  

Margarita 

Very good point, I absolutely agree.
 
February 9, 2006, 8:38 am CST

I agree

Quote From: margaritta

Some here have said that Dr. Phil should just forget about this family. 

I don't think that he should, and I don't believe that he would. 

Any counsellor, therapist, psychologist, etc, should not give up and continue to help as long as necessary.  That is their job.  People come to them, and to Dr. Phil, for help.  If psychologists give up on someone when help could still be offered, then who are people supposed to go to? 

  

Margarita 

I havn't gotten to see the 3rd show yet but I saw the first 2 I have to wait till 3 to see the show and probably won't get to because I have an appointment at 2 oh well...  But I do know that this is a troubled family who needs alot of help befor they get any worse...  The wife needs to straighten up and stop resenting her husband he loves her and just wants them to all be a family... They need to teach their children how to be adults instead of everyone acting like children but if anyone can help them Dr. Phil can...  I'll continue praying for them and hopefully Dr. Phil will get threw to them this time<3
 
February 9, 2006, 8:43 am CST

Child Abuse

I personally think that exposing those children to porn at such a young age and continuing to expose them to it througout their early development is akin to child abuse. Too bad that can't be prosecuted now because that woman needs major help. I hope she realizes how much she damaged her own dear children with her selfish behavior. And the husband Michael needs to start acting like a man and grow some testicles.
 
February 9, 2006, 9:27 am CST

out of it

Did you notice how the mother tried twice to hint to Dr. Phil for him to give them a vacation trip?  She said once when he asked her something that she and her husband have never gotten to go on a vacation, and then at the end when he turned her chair to face him and spoke to her very seriously about the problem and about recovery, she again said she just wants to be able to go on vacation trips with her family.  She was expecting Dr. Phil to cough up a cruise or something.  It was sad to see her talk like that at the end because it showed that she doesn't have a clue about recovery at this point.  Hope she makes it. 
 
February 9, 2006, 9:33 am CST

I agree

Quote From: birdofprds

I personally think that exposing those children to porn at such a young age and continuing to expose them to it througout their early development is akin to child abuse. Too bad that can't be prosecuted now because that woman needs major help. I hope she realizes how much she damaged her own dear children with her selfish behavior. And the husband Michael needs to start acting like a man and grow some testicles.

I am really sad for this whole family and where they have ended up as result of a series of poor decisions.  I do not want Dr. Phil to give up on this family.  Especially the "children".  I know they are not minors anymore but they did not ask for any of this.   

 
February 9, 2006, 10:03 am CST

02/09 Family Secrets, Family Lies

Quote From: tvbaby

Did you notice how the mother tried twice to hint to Dr. Phil for him to give them a vacation trip?  She said once when he asked her something that she and her husband have never gotten to go on a vacation, and then at the end when he turned her chair to face him and spoke to her very seriously about the problem and about recovery, she again said she just wants to be able to go on vacation trips with her family.  She was expecting Dr. Phil to cough up a cruise or something.  It was sad to see her talk like that at the end because it showed that she doesn't have a clue about recovery at this point.  Hope she makes it. 
What are you talking about?  You need to watch the show again, because I think you completely missed the boat on this one.
 
February 9, 2006, 10:37 am CST

Her side of the story?

It seems that most of the messages posted are hostile towards the wife.  She is really under attack.  Certainly, she is not an innocent victim in this relationship; however, she has emotionally justifiable reasons for acting as she did.  When someone is neglected and abused, it is natural for that person to lash back.  She is hurting emotionally and unfullfilled, so she looks for ways to feel better about her situation (i.e.--shopping or pulling away from her husband).  She is trying to hurt him back, in ways she can.   

  

Also no one has mentioned the husband's behavior towards his wife and children.  Sure, he works hard and makes the money, but he also treats his family terribly.   

 
February 9, 2006, 10:55 am CST

I understand Bridgette

I believe I truly understand the pain that Bridgette is feeling.  I think she closed her feelings off long ago because she has a spouse who feels his only duty is to provide money for his family.  Anyone can bring home a paycheck, but it takes much more than money to be a good husband and father.  I think Bridgette gave her children everything they wanted because she loved them and she was trying to make up for their father not being around.  The children probably used to appreciate Bridgette when they were younger, but now they are selfish and blame her for all their problems.  Yes, she has made some bad choices, but she has probably not gotten a "Thank you" or an "I'm so proud of you" in a long time, if ever.  I think her shopping and cutting problems stem from being ignored by her husband.  She has a void that her husband should be filling.  I think she is getting a bad rap on these message boards.  She has been down the road of loneliness and misery for the past 24 years.  Can you blame her for acting out?  I really hope Dr. Phil can help her find peace.  I was happy to see her show emotion today.  That is the first step towards her happiness.  Good Luck, Bridgette.
 
February 9, 2006, 12:17 pm CST

i dont know what the h**** is going on here....

 It might be sporting to point and snicker at Bridgette for being totally inept in every category about being a loving and trusting spouse--which that seems where the evidence points, but I am more amazed at the husband.  I am a struggling author, and I feel that anyday now the word about my book will get out, so I feel that I am on the verge of success.  If I did have a g/f or wife, I truly would not mind spoiling her, but I would not want her to treat me like a sucker.  All those years of college, and all the money spent on medical school, for what?  It just seems like a total waste to me.  Sad...truly sad....
 
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