Messages By: puzzled

 I feel for the both of these families. It has to be a horrific thing to lose your child, whether it be to prison or to death. I don't know whether Daniel was abusive or not, he still should not have died. I don't know if the accident was intentional or not, but I don't think that this young girl should have to spend 12 years in prison. All I know is that all of these people are going to live with this pain for a long time. It will take time to heal, but they need to start this process, holding on to this bitterness is just going to hinder them from living life to the best of their abilities. I pray for everyone that was involved, and I hope that they can somehow find peace. 

I have been the topic of many mean a vicious rumors. I know first hand how it can make a person feel  (rejected, unaccepted, and lonely.)  I eventually found out that the rumors stemmed from my boyfriend, not my ex-boyfriend, but my boyfriend (at the time.) That made it hurt all the more. He explained to me that the reason he started all of the nasty rumors because I wouldn't have sex with him ( I was still a virgin.) The rumors were not about be being a virgin, they were about me being a trap, a slut, a whore. Which really hurt, because they were not true by any means. I am looking forward to this show. I know how depressed a person can be because of cruel kids. I would like to see what Dr. Phil has to say. 

I think that the man who has the dream to become a ultimate fighting champion, should go for it! If you don't reach for your dreams you will never be able to experience them. I understand his wife's concerns. Everything in life has potential danger. If this man does not go for his dream, he will end up resenting his wife. He will also wonder "what if."  

I think that the 30 year old virgin has made a decision that everyone has to make for themselves. I think that it is important to have absolute morals and values. I honestly wish that I could have waited myself. My plan was to wait, but things didn't necessarily go the way I planned.  

Annabelle 's grandmother is a quack. This young girl of 8 years old is fine! She is going to have major problems in the future if her grandmother and aunts do not stop this non-sense. I feel like this is a form of abuse for Jodi and Annabelle. This grandmother is pushing her daughter to do something she does not want to do. It is putting stress on their relationships, and will eventually throw Annabelle into the mix where her relationship with them will be affected 

I have an aunt who was not fat at all as a child (in my opinion.) My grandmother, her mother, was constantly telling her she was a "cow", "fat", "beached whale" and so on. This all started when she was 5 years old.  Now my aunt is in her early thirties and she is very over weight. She tries every kind of diet and exercise programs, and she still can't lose the weight. It stresses her out. She now has panic attacks, she has had two nervous breakdowns, and she has a very low self-esteem. Her self-concept is almost non-existent. She is obsessed with her appearance.  

This grandmother is hurting her grandchild, not helping. She is hurting her daughter as well. In my opinion if Jodi feels that her daughter does need to lose some weight she should set an example herself!  Jodi looks like she could use some toning up, so maybe she could take her daughter out on a regular basis that they could get some exercise outside TOGETHER (playing sports or something.) This would start a healthy routine, some needed exercises, and would bring the two of them together. Maybe the grandmother could join in as well.  

      I read your message and thought, "you don't need to worry." Things are in His control. I have a true story for you.  

     Growing up my best friend (Anna) and I did everything together.  I got Anna and her mother (Lisa) going to my church. They absolutely loved it and went every service after the day I brought them. About a year later Lisa's husband died in a horrible accident, when Anna was 9 years old. Everyone was devastated. He had never accepted Jesus, he thought that he didn't even exist. Lisa prayed every moment of everyday that God would help her and her family and bless them. A couple years later she prayed that God would send her someone, if that was his plan for her. She stayed faithful. She did go on some dates but nothing serious. When she would get discouraged she would pray that God would help her to be strong. To make a long story short. Lisa went on about her life. Anna started college and got married. Lisa did meet the man of her dreams ( who is very active in the church, he is a family man, he makes great money, and he loves is wife and step-daughter (Anna) with all of his heart. He does everything for them, they do everything together. I have never seen such a happy family. What is wild is that Lisa was told after she had Anna that she would not be able to have children again. Anna grew up as an only child, I think that is why we were so close. We were like sisters. The man that she married had a medical problem were he could not have kids either. They discussed adopting because they wanted a child together so badly. Lisa prayed that God help her to know what to do. A few weeks later Lisa found out that she was pregnant with a little boy. It was a miracle!  

God will send you "Mr. Right" Just be patient. You will be blessed tremendously. 

Our society's way of thinking is so screwed up. How can a grandmother say these things about her own grand daughter. Annabelle doesn't need to lose weight, she needs to tone up. Why is society so focused on the "perfect body." This view is what causes eating disorders. Why is our society this way. If we want this problem to be fixed, we need to change our perspective on things.  

I am so glad that you said "the hardest part is loving yourself and realizing that there are people out there that love you too."  

I have a very hard time excepting the fact that my fiance' clams to love me unconditionally. I feel like that once I do something wrong or say the wrong thing he will reject me (like kids did in high school.) I started believing the things that kids said to me at school. I have tried so hard to overcome this feeling of rejection. I think that I have came along way. I am still struggling with my self esteem and self-concept. I am thankful that you said that. I felt like I was all by myself with this feeling that my fiance'  will eventually walk out on me.