Messages By: fredastare

Quote From: tiffrock

Hi everyone!  My name is Tiffany.  I was one of the girls on the show, but not a featured girl.  I am reading these messages, and honestly, I am getting a little upset.  I don't think that  any of you are realizing that this is TELEVISION.  First of all, for the people yesterday who said that we are all shallow women with no real lives, I must disagree completely.  These women have impressive careers, are intelligent, fun, and outgoing.  I for one had an amazing time getting to know all of them that weekend.  And as for the cruel comments towards January...you saw her on camera for 5 minutes...I spent an entire emotionally intensive weekend with her.  January is a sweet, wonderful woman.   By the way, again a television thing, she was JOKING when she called herself a 10, although, personally, I think she's right on!  I think that what she is dealing with is, just like she said on the show...how do you rewire your brain to be attracted to things that it just isn't.  Granted, the things that make me attracted to a man aren't nearly what hers are, but still, I must say, I understand.  You are either attracted to someone or you aren't...and getting past that can be very difficult.  I give her kudos for realizing that problem, and sincerely wanting advice on how to deal with it.   

As for the generalizing of all the girls on the show...please keep in mind, there were 17 of us there that weekend...there was over 400 hours of footage shot...what you are seeing is merely a glimplse of who we are and what we have to offer.  And in many cases, it's not at all showing the best of these women.  It was a stressful, crazy weekend, and it's difficult for anyone to maintain the upmost class and dignity in that situation.  People are human.  If someone had a video camera on you for a week, what little snippets could they pull out?  

Anyhow, I am really glad that I did the show.  I made friends with some of the most incredible women and men I've ever met in my life, and I am sad that you guys didn't really get to see them for what they are.     

Quote From: jewelerboy

I wanted to chime in and tell you how right you are.. and hope you could introduce me to the lady they pictured at the top of this discussion board.. 

She looks so much like Lee Meriweather did when she was 30.. I hope I can get her phone number... 

Quote From: calimoon

That's because little girls who are in dance have make-up so they can be seen on stage and through bright lighting. They are being judged or watched for the talent they have learned, not how gorgeous or beautiful they are individually.  

It IS creepy to see little girls dressed up like hookers or grown-ups with fake hair and make-up on. What is wrong with little girl pageants with clothes on that fit their age, no sexy poses and no make-up?? What is wrong with natural beauty and by the way, what do they have to look forward to when they grow up if they are already  wearing make-up, hair pieces and dressing like an adult?  

Fun? 

My grand daughter has Cinderella and Tinkerbell costumes she wears at home playing dress up and has a blast playing make believe, what's wrong with that? We put on shows and she dances and sings in her little dress up clothes, AT HOME. She also looks forward to Halloween. 

Quote From: zzsmom

I would just like to say, my daughter competes in Pageants and has been competing since she was about 9 months old. She is now 3. I do not make her do the pageants, she does them when she wants to. We have actually went to a pageant, she didn't want to do it, so we left. I disagree with alot of what is being said. Pageants do build self esteem and self awareness for young ladies. It isn't only about beauty, it's about talent and brains. The Georgia Forestry Scholarship System is the system that I am very involved in, I co-direct our local pageant. The teen girls have a platform, perform a speech, participate in an interview, as well as answer an on-stage question. The speech and interview part counts as 75% of the total points. There are parents who use pageants to "live" through their children, but not all. As far as the little girl today, looking "Scary", that was cruel! My little girl wears makeup and a hairpiece, she has beautiful hair of her own, but instead of teasing her hair, it is easier to put it in a pony tail and pin in the hair piece. Those of you who don't know the ins and outs of pageants, should just keep your mouths shut!! Or do some research. 

I also would like to comment on the judging aspect of pageants, I judge local, state and national pageants. If at ANY time a director comes to me and says that they are changing my scores then I  will excuse myself. I was hired to judge that pageant and it is made plain, my scores stay. I have never been to a pageant where we see the girls or speak to them before the pageant. I am certified to judge Georgia Forestry Pageants as well as Miss GA Prelims in the Miss America System. 

Some people do take it too far, but not all. I have met some wonderful people through the pageant system and we don't use the voy boards to bash or demean, we use them for information and to congratulate girls. 

So before you decide to bash pageants and call these little girls "creepy" do some research! All they are doing is playing dress up!!! Its all about fun! I don't see any of you saying these things about the little girls who take dance for years and years 

Quote From: zzsmom

I would just like to say, my daughter competes in Pageants and has been competing since she was about 9 months old. She is now 3. I do not make her do the pageants, she does them when she wants to. We have actually went to a pageant, she didn't want to do it, so we left. I disagree with alot of what is being said. Pageants do build self esteem and self awareness for young ladies. It isn't only about beauty, it's about talent and brains. The Georgia Forestry Scholarship System is the system that I am very involved in, I co-direct our local pageant. The teen girls have a platform, perform a speech, participate in an interview, as well as answer an on-stage question. The speech and interview part counts as 75% of the total points. There are parents who use pageants to "live" through their children, but not all. As far as the little girl today, looking "Scary", that was cruel! My little girl wears makeup and a hairpiece, she has beautiful hair of her own, but instead of teasing her hair, it is easier to put it in a pony tail and pin in the hair piece. Those of you who don't know the ins and outs of pageants, should just keep your mouths shut!! Or do some research. 

I also would like to comment on the judging aspect of pageants, I judge local, state and national pageants. If at ANY time a director comes to me and says that they are changing my scores then I  will excuse myself. I was hired to judge that pageant and it is made plain, my scores stay. I have never been to a pageant where we see the girls or speak to them before the pageant. I am certified to judge Georgia Forestry Pageants as well as Miss GA Prelims in the Miss America System. 

Some people do take it too far, but not all. I have met some wonderful people through the pageant system and we don't use the voy boards to bash or demean, we use them for information and to congratulate girls. 

So before you decide to bash pageants and call these little girls "creepy" do some research! All they are doing is playing dress up!!! Its all about fun! I don't see any of you saying these things about the little girls who take dance for years and years 

Quote From: alicefusco

These parents are clearly filling their own needs. This is unhealthy - and no toddler can make decisions about whether they should do something like this. It gives the wrong messages - I am very concerned about these kids.

Quote From: themommie

There is not feather Boa anywhere but in your imagination.  there is a feather in the Prince's costume hat that is based on the costume of the Prince from Sleeping Beauty the one he wore dancing to the Song "Do you Love Me now that I can Dance" and The Singing In The Rain yes that may not be blue wool but it is a reproduction of the costume worn by Gene Kelly in Singing in the Rain. The Beach Outfit I asked my Mom to make the jacket and beach shorts because I don't think the speedos some of the other boys wear is appropriate and it is quite cute not girly. 

You are just a very mean bully  

Quote From: rdslots

 I have lived under the assumption for years that my family was/is the only dysfunctional one.  The previews were scary because that could soooooo easily have been my mother on the screen.  The worst thing I recall mine telling one of us was,  "you should've been one that went down the toilet."  We grew up fully aware of several miscarriages between the births of the three of us.  I never realized, until I had a child of my own, just how vicious my mother is.  I would sooner cut my tongue out before I'd say such a thing to my daughter.