Messages By: sagem1

Quote From: steprachel

You didn't mention your age of you and your boyfriend so I'm not sure how old you are.  I will tell you though based on my life that it is a hard thing to deal with.  These feelings are normal.  Your parents are looking out for what is best for you.  You are still young and there is plenty of time in life for sex.  I don't know where you stand religiously, but the bible does tell us to wait until marriage.  It makes sense.  There is more to love and being in a relationship than sex.  I think lately society is making sex too casual.  Sex is supposed to be a sacred thing.  Yes you love your boyfriend and I totally understand you there.  You do not have to have sex just because you are in love.  If you need to continue to have sex with him to keep him around, I'm not so sure it is even love on his side.  It is very common that women give sex to get love and men tend to give love to get sex.  Sex has a way of clouding true feelings and it actually can hurt a healthy relationship.  It is good that you are being careful to protect yourself from pregnancy and STD's, but there are other reasons for waiting.   Also at a young age it is not likely that you will spend the rest of your life with him.  I know you may want to but you have to realize that it may not happen.  The statistic I think is that you will have 3 new partners per year.  Think about your age now and the age you think you will be when you get married.  Do you think that is appropriate?  If you give in to your temptations now, when will it stop.  True strength comes from resisting the temptation and going for the longer goals.  If your relationship was meant to be, it will be stronger and better if you wait and build your relationship with out the sex.