Messages By: elffie

Quote From: nm71136

You just keep getting more and more dramatic and overboard in your attempt to compare something to gay marriage.  Since when is down's syndrome a danger to society?  You probably were one of those people who tried to say if we "allow" gay marriage, we are going to end up with people wanting to marry animals!!!  You are taking this point to such an extreme just so you can make a point because you know so many of the things you are mentioning nobody would agree with.... so when we say, "of course there shouldn't be a marriage between 4 people"  you can say, well then the same argument should go for gay marriage.  You can keep coming up with continuosly outrageous ideas all you want, you will never agree with my opinion, just as I don't agree with your close minded opinion. 

  

Sorry to be harsh.  I understand your religious beliefs and more power to you for having them, but I don't believe that all of our rules and laws should be governed from the word of the Bible. 

Quote From: meghansmom

Hi All,
  I am writing to you with some very scary information.  This started yesterday when I took my 5 year old daughter to Mc Donalds after school (this is our Monday thing).  I pulled the toy out of the bag before giving her her food, and when I saw the toy I was absolutely disgusted!  They are currently including toys called "W.I.T.C.H.", which is aboth a comic book and Disney Channel series, that depicts young girls practicing REAL WITCHCRAFT, not the Halloween playtime stuff.  Here is a link to the characters on Disney channel:
 http://tv.disney.go.com/jetix/witch/games/witchteamrescue/index.html

I am not a religious nut, but I believe in good and evil, right  and wrong, so I have to say something.
  This is just not acceptable to be geared at little girls!  Please make this information available. and contact your local McDonalds or their corporate office- McDonalds.com

Quote From: jettav

Whatever, I guess this could be considered "right to free speech" and if she and others are offended then they have the right to voice this. I personally will not allow my children to have the toy either, just like there will be absolutely no Harry Potter items in my home either. It is all in how we see things. In fact, we don't even celebrate Halloween becasue it only encourages our kids to go to strrrangers and ask for candy and it is about scary and evil, just look at the decorations. My children will never step foot in a haunted house becasue it is redicoulous. My point is, every one of us have our views and opinions and have the right to feel as we do, like some think that Halloween is nothing but fun, I think it needs to be banned, in the same way that this lady is against the with stuff, others might think it is ok, to each their own.

Quote From: jettav

I teach my children biblical values and morals and to respect others but at the same time to stand up for what they believe regardless of what others might think. it is my responsibility as the parent of my children to teach and to guide them in the way they should go and to teach actions come with consequences whether good or bad. My children are growing up in a Christian home and I will teach them as I see fit. They will eventually be out on their own and it is my hope and prayers that they will make wise decissions on how they live their lives. I am not prejudice against cultures but that does not mean that I have to go along with everything that others believe and what they practice. My post that was geared toward the witch post has nothing to do with speaking against other cultures and tolerance but encouraging to stick with our own convictions and not feeling that we have to be politically correct with society. Now, if a person wants to go out and practice witch craft that is their choice but I am not going to tell my kids that it is an ok thing to do as well as other things that I am against and I will back my beliefs with scripture and convictions as well as experiences in my life. I will not encourage my children to participate in something that is evil and against my faith as a christian as well as a mother, for that would be like me living one way but teaching another. No need to worry about my children when it comes to others and cultures, I have worked with several different cultures including those who worship buddah, but you bet, they knew better then to come to me and ask me to go worship with them but at the same time we respected each other, I never once have told these people that they were going to hell or whatever but I did not hesitate to tell them that I feel that they are worshipping a false God, therefore that is why I could never go with them. tolerance is loving and respecting others but at the same time not feeling pressured to conform, and this is what I will be teaching my kids. Some things just will not enter my home and as my children grow and mature, I will expect them to follow the rules of the home which is called respect and when they become adults they can decide how they want to live their lives and what they decide will be completely up to them as they will have been given the tools and info and such that they need and what they do with their teachings and up bringings is absolutely up to them. I am against witch craft and I expect things to do with that to be kept out of my home, it has nothing to do with tolerance of another person's belief. Believe me, I am the best parent, teacher and example for my children, I have been a part of "the world" and i know what is out there and I will do everything that I can to help my children grow in to good, mature adults and to encourage them to love, respect and be tolerarte of others but at the same time, not to give in to things just becasue society accepts it. We are ling in an everything goes society and my children have the right to know that not all things are right though society has a way of making them look like they are. Good parenting is loving and caring for our children and teaching and guiding them in to becoming good and productive adults, respecting and being honest and open with them and teaching them the difference between right and wrong, to encourage them to follow their hearts and making choices that will help them become the people that they are meant to be, and that is what me and my husband are doing. We also need to live by example and not be hypocritical in our teachings and able to back up our beliefs and teachings with answers and resources, being there for our children through ups and downs. I could go on and on with this but don't have the time.

Quote From: acscd21

Me and my husband have been married since I was 18 and know I'm  21 and we have 2 good kids, since our last baby 10 months ago we don't have sex anymore and he thinks he just goes to work come home and go to bed,  he hates when I ask him to do something with me  and the kids and I'm just about to give up on my marriage I don't know what else to do I mean when we got married  he was the sweet guy everybody wanted and we got married in Aug and had the baby that November and he wanted to be the dad but know it seems like he hates us..  I need help..

Quote From: jettav

it is early Sunday morning which I am never on this thing on Sunday's as it is a busy and family day, but I suppose that is what I get for going to sleep at 830 at night and now I am up bright and early and need a break already LOL............................... I honestly do not get on this thing to offend others as I am actually the easy going type person but I do stick up for my beliefs and convictions and sometimes I can get a little bold with what I believe and when I feel that others think I (any one for that matter) should just "conform" to the ways of society just becasue "every one is doing it" type attitude, that bothers me. I have reasons for my beliefs as does every one and I believe God puts convictions in our lives for various reasons, maybe to help us to trust and depend on Him more but for what ever reason, we must all learn to accept the differences of others and just because we don't celebrate, worship, believe (whatever) the same as one another, there is still such a thing as respect. Maybe I have done to much studying and research as far as some people are concerned (in which I have been told) but whatever the case, I have a happy and caring home and I intend to keep it this way. ........................... We also have to realize that the postings here are basically just "words" though they do have meaning behind them but as individuals who do not know each other personally, it can certainly be easy to read a post and get a whole different meaning from it becasue of the way we read them, I think for my self, It might depend on my mood for the day, I don't know. Any way, life goes on...........................I go by Jetta and I have two little girls Amy (hehehe)who will be 5 the third of Feb. and Anna who will be 3 the third of Jan. I have been married for almost 13 years to Ed who is a wonderful loving and caring father and husband and my family is the joy of my life and as I have stressed many times on these boards, parenting may not always be easy but we are all actually in the same boat, trying our best to love, care and guide our children into becoming the great and productive adults that God himself had intended them to be...............................Well, I gotta go and get showered and get the family up and ready to go, a big day at church today and the evening is full as welL.......................... At least I got a whole bunch of sleep and I am not tired for the day, I am ready to tackle the day. :)

Quote From: redy4help

I am all set to be married in one week to a man that I have been with for 7 years.  I am in my mid thirties.  He is a good, good man - everyone loves him - there are no issues of abuse, addictions, he is better at housework than me, and is very respectful. But we lack passion, and always have, and I have always felt in the back of my mind that I was 'settling', even though I didn't want to admit it.  About 1 month ago I started to feel panic at the idea of marriage.  It 'coincided' at a time when I had the opportunity to get to know someone I've always 'admired' from afar - and there was definate chemistry.  Through a group activity with mutual friends, we spent an evening laughing and goofing around and having a TON of fun together.   I had more fun with him that evening, and felt more of a connection with him than I have EVER felt with my fiance.  He finally asked if I was 'okay' and said I didn't seem like a bride about to get married - at which point our discussion turned to the obvious mutual attraction between us.   I walked around in a daze for a week or so until I finally talked to my fiance about the fact I was having 2nd thoughts about the wedding and nerves.  I didn't mention the attraction to someone else as I think in a lot of ways it is kind of irrelevant and would just be hurtful right now.  He suggested we go and see a local pastor to talk and we did, and I went to a couple of counselling sessions to try and sort through normal 'pre-wedding' nerves and serious doubt.  I have always felt in our relationship that I have 'pushed' things along (self esteem) and that he was never really in-love with me but that we have grown to a point of loving each other very much.    I feel like we are 'comfortable' and 'content' but that I have 'given myself away' somewhat in this relationship, and I felt with this new 'attraction' that I was finding myself again.  I guess its the age-old dilemma - to commit to marriage with a good, comfortable, man who will always treat me right, but lacking in passion and spark and excitement, or to pursue love with what feels like a soulmate.     We have spoken about postponing the wedding - not breaking up but postponing until we feel like we can talk all of this through and then decide if we are going to get married that we'll both do it knowing it's the best thing ever. - but I know he doesn't want to postpone- that he would be embarrassed as friends and family are travelling to the event.    

  

But I guess it comes down to this question: Should I take that walk down the aisle, and pledge our lives to each other before God, with all the doubts and fears as they are right now,  knowing that these issues aren't going to go away on their own and  thinking that 'well, we'll just keep working through this stuff and find out if the marriage will work or not?' .....or should we postpone - as painful and embarrassing that will be for everyone with such short notice - and make sure that when we do take that walk down the aisle that we are as sure as any couple can be when they pledge their love to one another.   

  

I am running out of time to make this decision - I wont leave him at the alter, so need to make a decision now!!  Any one been through the same thing as me??  Advice?? 

Quote From: firstamom

What is true love?  True love is when 2 people who are completely at ease with themselves, and who love themselves come into a relationship and can see the other person with eyes wide open.  They see the amazing things that person has to offer and they see that persons flaws - they CHOOSE to love that person.  Love is work.  I love my husband more than I ever thought I could love another person.  He is my best friend, he is my lover, he is my soul mate - he adds to my life without taking anything away.  I have not sacrificed anything for my relationship... because when you give to your true love - it is not a sacrifice - it is a love offering.  True love is when you are both willing to pull down walls that life has taught you to build - it is trusting that other person not to intentionally hurt you.   

  

Love at first sight?  Yes, I believe that there is love at first sight.  I loved my son at first sight, I loved my mother at first sight.  However, the kind of love that grows between a couple takes time... it takes getting to know one another.  The spark that you feel when you find "the one" - is the indicator that you're willing to TRY to get to know this person so that you CAN love them. 

  

Is it possible to cheat on your true love?  Yes.  Love takes work.  Love is like anything else - you get out of it what you put into it - the hard part is that both people have to be working on it from all sides - otherwise someone feels like they are giving too much and eventually either gives up or finds another place to focus that energy.  And it's then that affairs happen.  Communicate - talk, touch, write letters, journal.  Write down all the things that you love about your Significant Other.  Write down all the things that they do that fill you up.  When a time comes (and it will) that they can't give 100% - read your journal and remember WHY you fell in love with that person.  Remember that the average of a relationship is 50/50 - but that most of the time someone is giving 60 and someone else is giving 40.