Parents are not the only people involved in alienating children against other adults. I am currently involved in a case where the parents are both deceased. CPS took custody of the children shortly after the mothers death from their father because of abuse and neglect and placed the children with the paternal side of the family who never had anything to do with the children/family and stated on more then one occassion they DID NOT want the children including leaving the courtroom after an emergency hearing stating 'my wife is going to kill me' after telling the judge he would take placement of the children. CPS ignored the mothers will on who she wanted to raise her children if her husband could not stating 'wills have no legal standing in TX if they are involved' and the mother specifically said she DID NOT want the people CPS 'selected' to raise the children because they despised her and she felt they would take that out on her children which they do and they would not treat her children as they treat their own child and they do not.
I was named as guardian for the children in their mothers will and the paternal relative CPS placed the children with have bashed me and the maternal relatives from the beginning of the case. They tell the children 'they (meaning me and the maternal relatives) aren't good for anything but presents', 'they're nothing but a hill billy', 'they taught you to be bad', etc. in addition to 'hosting' a birthday party and NOT inviting anyone but telling the children they invited everyone they wanted so you have the children thinking no one wants to see them which couldn't be further from the truth. The paternal relative has admitted to lying to CASA/CPS but they have looked the other way probably not wanting to admit to the judge they made a mistake placing the children there and having to move them again. This paternal relative is actually the third place CPS had to place the children because the first paternal relative they placed the children with violated the placement agreement and their father had them back within 12-15 hours so they then went into foster care before placing with the second paternal relative. CPS actully stated they received too many calls from the maternal relatives and I and wanted the case closed and have left the children with the paternal relative permanently.
The children are nothing more then a mortgage payment to the SMC and I am now in a private suit against them to get either custody (which is in the best interest of the children) or at a minimum visitation. They will not let the children call me, have threatened a maternal aunt that CPS named as PC with taking her back to court and stopping her visitation if she lets me have/see the children during her weekend visit and continue to lie to the children and the courts. Their lawyer has actually stood in front of the judge and repeatedly knowingly perjured himself yet nothing is done.
These are children in crisis yet the SMC refuses to provide much needed counseling because one child wet the bed after court ordered counseling when CPS was involved. Clothes and shoes are purchased several sizes too large so they do not have to buy as much for the children. They are given smaller portions of food because they are 'younger' and one child is well on their way to an eating disorder because they are told they need to weigh less then their biological child but is right on target with growth charts. One child has extreme anger issues and has hurt themself and their siblings because of it and I fear for what the fuure holds for them if this is not addressed quickly.
The children have stated they DO NOT want to live with the SMC and have asked if they can say where they want to live but they are not old enough to go before the court and say where they want to live. Games they play with me if/when I do get to see them include them being puppies/homeless children on the side of the road that I see driving by and I stop to see if they are okay and take them home with me to live. These are not normal games children play and it breaks my heart that they are in a loveless environment and I cannot imagine how devastated their mother would be about how her children are living. They repeatedly say they want to come to my house yet they are not allowed contact with me. Thankfully the children and I have had a wonderful bond since birth and they have not been turned against me yet. All the while I have not said anything negative against the paternal relatives to the children.
Alienation is alive and well but it is not just among parents and it must stop for our childrens sake. Thank you Dr. Phil for airing the show about PAS.
