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May 11, 2006, 7:28 am PDT
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Quote From: sunibuniI have been dating this guy for the past 8 months, we were about to move in together, but I just broke up with him. He told me that he will never be able to tell me that he loves me more than his sister, because she is the most important person in his life. They sleep in the same bed together...he's 30, and she's 24...when they have separate beds to sleep in. At first I thought this was just due to a cultural difference, and I didn't really think much of it. He's Chinese, and says that family will always come first, which I partically understand. But my belief is that your wife, or soon to be wife, should be right up there with them. I broke it off with him because I refuse to be second to his sister for the rest of my life. He thinks I am just overreacting, and I am jealous of his sister. That I am trying to break up his family. I don't want to break anyone up, or come inbetween them. I just don't think that I should be pushed to the side, and disreguarded when she is around. He really thinks the world of her, and if you ask him, she is the greatest person alive. I am able to get along with her when we see each other, but she pouts if she thinks that he is spending too much time with me, instead of her. Most of the time she acts like I am not even there. I truely dislike her, but I am able to at least try to get along with her because I respect my boyfriend, but she makes it very difficult. She is rude, and discusting. She blows her nose in resturants..which my boyfriend thinks is cute...and tells everyone when she has to "use" the bathroom. The last time we were all three together, she ignored both of us, and later said that it was because we were making "googly eyes" at each other. I think that there is something wrong with the relationship that they share, and that he will have problems getting married. I don't know of any woman who wants to be told that they will never be more important than their husbands sister. Maybe it's just me, but I think that I have a good reason for breaking up with him. I just wanted to see if I really am overreacting...or if everyone else thought that there was a problem. I have always thought that when a man gets to a certain age, that they leave their mother, father, sisters and brothers, and get married...to create their own family. I don't think I can create a family with someone, who will always place his sisters needs above mine... That would just really make me mad. If he wants to put his family first when he is that old instead of a soon to be wife, then that just shows that he is obviously dependent on them and can not fend for himself. You need to try and get over him as soon as possible before you get more involved. If he pushes you to the side then tell him to go marry his sister. That is just ridiculous. What would he think if you slept with your brother or your father. That is just disgusting and I don't think they share a healthy relationship (him and his sister). Maybe they need a little information on what incest means. I don't know you but it sounds like you met the wrong kind of person. I think you are totally accuarte on what you did. Get away from that and stay as far away as possible.--Adrien
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