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January 25, 2006, 2:17 pm PST

Irrational Responses about the Dog

Its really frustrating to see people react with little or no knowledge about dogs and dog behavior, who are basically ignorant when it comes to animals.  If you are not a big animal fan  or don't treat your pets as a member of the family then you have no clue.  Its very ignorant to respond and say... Put the dog down or get rid of it.  That shows a lack of judgment and compassion.  There are a lot of people out there that do not get that to most animal lovers is when we adopt or take on a pet it becomes part of the family.  To say get rid of the dog because it bit the kid is like saying get rid of one kid because it hurt the other kid.  They also don't get the animal has become attatched to this family and thinks this family is it's PACK.  To get rid of the dog will believe it or not leave emotional scarring on the animal.  Animals are a lot like children.  They get jealous of each other, they get territorial over parents and who they share their affections with and they don't always like to share their toys.   

Not all but a lot of dog bites are cause by a lack of training or no training at all.  Different breeds need different training.  When we took our dog to dog school we were shocked to find a simple game of tug of war with a certain breed could lead to making them become more aggressive.  They are not JUST animals they are living beings who share and have emotions. 

         HERE'S AN IDEA OF WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION WITH DOGS & KIDS:   

My brother and his wife own 2 dogs that sometimes will snap at their 2 yr old.   They keep baby gates EVERYWHERE.... if their little girl is going to be in a certain room or part of the house they close the baby gates so the dogs can't be in there.  If they do let her around the dogs they keep a close eye on her but they try not to do it in a way where it will frighten her.  They don't want her to grow up with a fear of dogs or any animal for that matter.  (these are gates that actually are installed in the wall and you can open and shut them without as much hassle)  They even have a gate in front of the childs room so she can play with the door open without worry of them coming in there.  And they constantly teach her about the dogs and what she is allowed to do and not do around them or around any animal.  You don't have to choose between the two.  

 
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May 28, 2006, 9:24 am PDT

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I'm 26 yrs old, I have plenty of tatts and I go to punk shows.... thats my world.  My mom never judged me.  She was just thankful that I wasn't out on the street doing drugs. I got my first tatt at  16.  My mom was surprised but she knew I was my own person and she loved me regardless of how I choose to look.  Thats what mother's are suppose to do!!!! They are suppose to be unconditional love.  My mom even said she wouldn't want me any other way because I brought something new and interesting into her life.  She even liked some of the bands I listen to especially some of the irish punk ones.  Tattoos are beautiful!!!  My mom passed away from cancer a yr ago...  she was like my best friend and I find it silly this mother is willing to wreck having a close relationship with her daughter over tattoos.  Life is too short for that B.S.  I haven't seen this show yet but I sure hope Dr. Phil doesn't get on the girl for having tattoos and make her feel small for it.  I hope he tells that mom off!!!  If he doesn't I might have fightin' words for him cause thats just horrible to make this beautiful girl feel like a freak for having tatts.  We aren't the freaks.......  the rest of society are the freaks!!!
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:29 am PDT

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Quote From: ladybug11

tattoos  and periceings  make a person look  nasty and ugly!!   its not sexy at all.  
Actually tattoos are very sexy....... I'm more attracted to men with tattoos than I am to ones without them.  They aren't ugly.  But I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:33 am PDT

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Quote From: melodydane

 If you are wanting to be original in this day in age, you have to look around and see that the original kids are the ones without Tattoo's. Try that one on for size ppl
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Actually no.... because in this day and age there are still much more people without tatttos than with.  And even your "jocks" and "soriety" chicks may have one or two tattoos they aren't covered in them or have sleves of tattoos.... no thats reserved for the people in my world cause they will go there....... most people won't.  So therefore its much more original to have alot of tatts.   Plus the kids without the tatts are just plan boring anyways.
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:39 am PDT

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people that  like  the punk look, makes them look so ugly and nasty!    wearing nothing but black all the time  makes people look like the dead or halloween.   looks like they should be in a horror movie!!!  ya people change but  not to try and look ugly. like return  of the dead!!!   its makes  people look like devil  worshiperers!  evil! 
Actually its goths who normally wear black all the time not punks, though they do have alot of black in the closet.  Punks like plaid ALOT and I'm punk and my fav. color is pink!!!!!!   I have many pink shirts with skulls on it :)   Plus what you find ugly some find beautiful..... to me what you call "normal" looking is ugly to me.   OH and I LOVE LOVE LOVE horror movies!!!! And halloween is one of my all time favorite holidays!!!!!   Thing is don't judge... you can go about doing what you do and I'll pay no mind to it as long as you pay no mind to what I choose to do.
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:43 am PDT

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Quote From: ladybug11

no one says if you have tattoos  you are a bad  person!  its whats on the inside that counts. but  tattoos  and periceings   make people look  nasty  and  messes there looks up!!!   thats all i am saying!!!   god  did not want us to harm our bodys  and  put ink in your skin!  its a sin!!  
Okay don't get me started........ are you god???? don't be saying god doesn't want me to do this or that cause you don't know.   There are many religious people who hurt themselves in the name of god to feel the pain Jesus went through.   Tattoos are not harming my body!  Maybe you should be more concerned with people who smoke and eat a lot of junk and do things that actually do harm their body.   I would think smoking is much more a so called "sin" as you religious people would say than ink!!!!!
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:46 am PDT

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Quote From: ladybug11

well  tattoos    are   ok but  it harms your skin.  its a sin to mark on your body. jesus did not mean for us to  mess up our bodys!!!!   i  think  tattoos  make a person ugly.  tattoos are not sexy.  it makes a man or woman  ugly and nasty looking.  you may be a great person on the inside, but on the outside it makes you look  nasty.....  periceings   are nasty too.  they make people look like  they do drugs!!!     i just think  its all  nasty looking and i  am not judgeing for who you are!  i am just saying  it makes people ugly and nasty looking thats all!!
maybe you should point out Jesus's exact words in the Bible stating "don't tattoo yourself" because I can't find them.  Secondly... Jesus said not to judge........ and you are throwing stones.......  So I guess you are more in the wrong or "SIN" than I am for having tattoos.  
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:50 am PDT

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I'll start out by saying-I'm danish,and have been brouhgt up,not judging other people,just get along with them....I talk to anyone-I know that it sometimes could lead to misunderstandings,but if it goes, well,I'm happy....I once wanted a tatoo,but now,at age 28,I do not dare doing it.I can do without,because when I get older,it might be something I regret,and that is the last thing I wanna do-regret!-Learned that it's the last thing to do....don't regret things you have done,rather regret things you never did!!!!Hope you are all well-talk to you soon....Henriette from Denmark! 

You know one of my favorite psychobilly bands is from Denmark!!!!  Horrorpops... good band and they are covered in tattoos...... Lars Frederiksen is part Danish and he is covered in tattoos too!!!
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:52 am PDT

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Quote From: mari28

As a mother who has gone through this same dilema with my now 21 year old, I can sympathize. Speaking from experience and what friends & family members kept telling me, "They do it just to get a reaction and attention"  My son was into the "Goth" phase when he was 13 and talk about depressing  

He would wear black clothes all the time; painted his finger nails black & even dyed his already black hair darker  even though I didn't think that was possible.  His room was filled with Marilyn Manson posters.  

   

We would have some real doozy of arguments over his appearance.  There were times when I even dreaded going out with him in public.     

   

I finally got to the point where I kept my comments to myself and within a year, he changed gradually.  Gone are the black clothes, finger nails & Marilyn Manson posters.  He does have a lip ring which he occasionally removes.   

   

So hang in there, believe it or not she'll come around.   

   

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NO LONGER A GOTH KID'S MOM    

Thats not really true in some means.  I'm 26 yrs old and been into the punk thing since I was 13yrs old.  I don't plan on changing either.  And its not about a reaction those that do it for that are fake to begin with.  I do it because its what I love, I really enjoy it!!!!  And my mom never once acted ashamed of me nor would she have wanted to change me. 
 
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May 28, 2006, 9:56 am PDT

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Quote From: skgonzales

i can understand the frustration but do not cut her off she is still a child of God just like we are childeren of our God.  And our God forgives us personal i beleive if God whated us born with tatoo's on our body we would be born with them.  That is what i told me kids if they wanted any it will be after they are 18 and there decission not mine.  But i had four out of four that got tatoo's one realy bad i did not want to be seen with him and do not tell me it does not change a persons emtions, and the family and the ones around them because it does.  But for the mother u can not change what she had done and pls do not cut her off God forgives us and we have done a lot wrong.  For the daughter i feel that u did this to get your  moms attention for some reason my kids did.  But i cuted my one daughter off because this is what my late husband whated and two years later she commited sucide.  I never had a change to tell her i love her and forgive her.
This bothers me......... forgive her??? forgive her for what?? Having tattoos???  She did nothing wrong!!!!  Tattoos aren't something wrong!!!!!  Maybe you should hope she forgave you!!!!!! You could only hope to be so lucky!
 

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