Messages By: tinytimm4

 They both need to grow up and smell the roses around them.  Neither want to compromise and let things from the past go. I've been married to Jim almost 20 years now we met in June 18, 1980. Married May 31, 1986. We have had our good times together, deaths in the family, which was sad times and we had our indifferences. But we worked all these times through and are still a couple. We worked through hard times, Joyce being a stay at home mom, Loss of jobs, 2 major moves one to North Carolina when we were married for just one month. A major move from paradise to  snowy cold Michigan.  But we are surivors. Joyce lost her Grandmother in 1994, Jim lost  his grandmother in 1988. Joyce lost her father to cancer in 2002 and we became granparents to twin girls in 2002, 2003, and the next grandaughter is due anytime soon. we worked through these problems. Joyce hates to clean while Jim loves a clean house.Jim and Joyce both work full time and Jim does the Laundry, Vaccumes, Joyce cooks, does dishes. we still have our son  Mike at home who is a senior in high school and is a poole in the Marine Corp. Mike cleans our bathrooms, sweeps floors and washes them. Mike also unloads the dishwasher. Our children helped us clean the house starting with folding wash, keeping their bedroom clean and feeding their pets. It's Called Helping each other out and responsibility. That's what family life is all about. P.S.JIm has not worn his ring since 1988 due to his finger was almost cut off in a factory . Joyce does not mind this or the fact that he takes a trip every year to Vegas, Reno with his best friend STEVE ,  BERT or BRIAN. since 1986. Joyce takes trips to see her friends, or family. every year since 1986 also It 's cal compromise in LIFE.

 Charles get a life you have a wonderful woman. whom you are married for better or worse. get rid of your mistress and take a vacation with your loving wife. Mistress find some one who is not already committed.

 YOUR CHILDREN ARE OUT OF CONTROL AND SPANKING THEM IS NOT THE ANSWER. THIS ONLY TEACHES THEM VIOLENT IS ALRIGHT TO DO . IT ALSO TEACHES THEM THAT I"M BIGGER THAN YOU SO THEREFORE I CAN HURT YOU. WHAT THESE PARENTS NEED TO DO IS FIND A TIMEOUT AREA FOR THE UNRULY CHILD AND LET THEM PITCH THEIR FITS OF RAGE IN A PLACE WERE THEY CANNOT HURT THEMSELVES OR ANYONE ELSE.. GIVE THEM WHEN THE CALM DOWN COTTON BALLS AND A SMALL BASKETBALL HOOP THAT YOU MAKE OUT OF CARD BOARD TO TAKE OUT THAT RAGE ON.DEPENDING ON THE AGE OF THE CHILD OF COURSE.HITTING, SPANKING,ONLY ADDS FUEL ON THE FIRE THAT IS IN THEM.YOU THE PARENT MUST ALWAYS STAY IN CONTROL. WHEN YOU GIVE UP CONTROL ON ANY CHILD YOU REAP THE RESULTS. TIMEOUT AREA MUST HAVE SOFT PILLOWS, A MAT OR CARPET NO TOYS. OR YOU CAN EVEN HAVE A MATTRESS ON THE FLOOR. FOR THE CHILD OR CHILDREN MUST BE ON.

 DATING ON LINE CAN BE GOOD SOME OF THE TIMES ,BUT NOT ALWAYS. YOU COULD BE TALKING TO A CHILD MOLESTER, A STALKER, OR EVEN WORSE. NEVER GIVE OUT PERSONAL INFORMATION. WHEN YOU BEGIN THE DATING SERVICE BE WARE OF THESE ARE STRANGER AND REMEMBER WHAT YOUR MOTHER SAID ABOUT STRANGERS. FIND A GOOD DATING SERVICE WITH BACK ROUND CHECKS IT MAY COST YOU BUT BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY. IF THEY SEEM TO WANT TO MEET YOU IN A PLACE THAT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE DON'T GO. IF THEY SEEM TO GOOD TO BE TRUE IT WILL BE JUST THAT. AND ABOVE ALL BE HONEST TO THEM DON'T MAKE YOURSELF TO BE WHO YOU ARE NOT.IF YOUR ARE MARRIED WHAT'S MAKING YOU WANT TO DATE SOMEONE ELSE? IF IT BOREDOM TRY TO SPICE UP YOUR LIFE TO YOU MATE. ABOVE ALL REMEMBER BE SAFE AND MEET IN SAFE PLACES.

 my younger brother is thirty -four years of age and like the moocher derek.  my brother has my widow mom paying for everything since he dropped / kicked out of college for bad grades and under age partying mainly drinking.  Derek you need to grow up, get a job and be independent. Mom and Dad you need to assert tough love and let Derek fly on his own. break those apron strings Mom and Dad and let Junior fly away. In Life you don't see baby birds still in the nest after they are no longer babies. the mama bird lets them fly away otherwise birds nest would have to be huge multilevel for all the birds.You will have a child like my mom has that never will leave. That's why the call it empty nest,,,,,, Mom and Dad you have a life explore it . go to a beach, climb a mountain do things you wish you could do without children.this is your time. As far as my brother is concerned, mom just does not get it.  She could have so much more, if my brother would get a life of his own. She could be with people of her own age and enjoy life once again instead she has monting credit card debit. and it's effecting her health. she is 75 years of age retired and broke all the time.

 My husband and I have been together 26 years married 20 years. Take it from us: marriage is a symbol of two people becoming one in spirit. That means as a team you must give and take, be willing to compromise. Set up date night, one or two nights a week that is set a side just for the two of you to explore each other.  Be open about what you want and discuss your wants and needs in your relationship. Be truthful about what you like and dislike and above all. Hire a babysitter to care for children who are home. Go to a hotel and act out your needs. So your children are not bother or bother you and  by all means enjoy each other. As parents of empty nesters we are having the time of our lives.

 We live in a society that if you are not perfect you are not whole.  Meet the world of barbie and ken two figuresI played with as a child they were made of plastic. I truly never wanted to look like a plastic  barbie nor did I even think about my body not being perfect .Because my parents instilled in me everybody is perfect in their own way. Inner beauty is far more powerful  and beautiful than outter beauty. How can this be you ask well have you ever met some one who was not perfect but touched your heart in way that words cannot describe? I can many women including my grandmother she was a beautiful woman in her teens and twentys ,but it never went to her head. she worked until she married when she was 37. had her first child at 39 and her second at 40 and her third and last at 45. She had more beauty in her than any plastic surgeon could ever fix. It's too bad she died when she was 99 years young in 1994. your beautiful just because you are who you are stop trying to be the next plastic barbie doll.

I would like to change one thing in my life that is I have had 4 major surgeries'"two life threating problemS" that  the surgeries saved my life.  The scars on my belly remind me of how lucky I am to be alive, but the scar tissue inside is very painful.  I cannot gain or lose weight because it cause me much pain , and no family doctors will give me a plastic surgeon name they would recommend. If these people want to see people like me that need to correct a problem that is one thing but to change everything why not just clone yourself with a perfect clone. it's alot cheaper.

 meet Annie , Annie died on October 13, 1974 the cause of death run over by her boyfriend derick. meet OTTO, ANNIE'S grandfather he died October 17,1974 the day of annie's funeral. meet Lucy she died on August  8, 1976. of a broken heart lucy was married to Otto and grandmother of Annie. what do these three people have in common you ask? They are my DEAD RELATIVE that didn't have to die because of one mans actions. who was never charged in Annies death due to tampered evidence dericks father was a police sargent at the police department that derick was brought into two days after the accident. they found annie's body smashed against a bridge post.with a car tire print where he struck her. Annie is now resting with God Please don't let this be you. It will effect more than just your mom and dad. I never  really got to say goodbuy to annie, otto or lucy. due to they all had to have closed coffins.........

children in so called pageantry dressing up like expensive hookers parade-ing their bodies around no wonder why we have children porn sites. let these children be just that children. if the want to play dress up . then do with with respect to their bodies. when you dress up an 4 -8 years old vegas show girl you are exploiting them. they look like two bit hookers but with more flare. no more flashy crap let these children wear nice frilly dresses the pageantry sponsors and judges need to send children home who look like vegas show girls packing home.. we need more moral and we need these children to look just that children ,,,I have four granddaughters and these children were my grandchildren i would not allow my daughter to dress them to look like vegas show girls, hookers, ect . I would not tollerate this and I will not let my granddaughters be exploited in this fashion. this has got to stop let little girls be little girls and little boy be little boys.....