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February 27, 2006, 1:19 pm CST

Decision's

I think manipulators like that mother in law should be beaten' at their own game, should be hurt as much or as more than her "victims" because they should feel the same way because they brought on them selves. So take a moment to think do I want to be a "victim" of that mother in law/someone else,or do I want to stand up and say something that would hurt and manipulate that $#%*#. Even though that just walking away might be the best option, nothing is resolved. The conflict is still in progress. Even though I want to manipulate and hurt her in places where there is no hurt in them, that would probably increase the rage in that women and would want to hurt you more and more. Me, well I would just go up to her face and tell her "that's It. I don't want this in my life. I don't want nothing to do with you. NOT ANYMORE!!" Maybe it's resolved if you do that but it's all about choices. Life is about choices and it's up to you to make that choice. What are you going to do? 

 
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March 1, 2006, 5:53 pm CST

Stop ruining your child

Alright let's get down to it. you two sisters(i think they are) arguing all the time, that's one thing but the way I see it, it's the picture that is written 1000 words. I look at the picture of this topic and what I see is two adults arguing about NOTHING!!!! and a little girl (a daughter perhaps?) in the middle of all this. My conclusion is: those 2 immature adults should stop arguing about parenting and actually do parenting(good parenting) peace out.
 
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March 2, 2006, 4:47 am CST

Be Calm/just a game

I think that millitary guy needs to relax or take a chill pill or something cause this is getting way out of hand. you don't go around telling what your wife should be doing all the time and it will leave a bad message for your children that being you can raise your voice to your wife and get away with it. That's not the way life goes. It is supposed to be talking to one another without rasing your voice to others and another thing is video games. Yes video games are addicting but if it comes down to it's runing your marriage then stop playing all together. You are in the real world now. Don't live in your fantacy world of video games. It is not healthy for your wife and it is not worth living your life. I mean it's just a game. Don't flip out on someone who doesn't know how to play it. It is just a game. I'll say that over and over if I have to.
 
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March 5, 2006, 11:39 am CST

Get over It

At one time I used to think that Dr.Phil is God! but now it's like I have gotten over it even though I still like watching the show. It's just a thing for me when I see something I like I'm obsessed with it but after a while It just get's boring and it's a very slow process. I hope there are people like me that are like that and if there are, I like to hear from you and tell me what celbs you are obsessed with and other things as well. My favourite celberties are from the series Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Angel, Vincent "Bobby Gorn" from Criminal Intent and I also like the superstars from the WWE
 
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March 5, 2006, 11:49 am CST

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I don't know if you have been in the military or not, but my guess would be that you have not.    The point I think a lot of civilians don't get is that this guy is not doing this on purpose!  He is going on 22 years of training and a lifestyle that worked for him.  He didn't know how to raise teens- he'd never had any before!  More than likely when he married his wife he felt that he could handle it because he had trained young airmen, many of who are 17 and 18.  To him, he was going into a familiar setting.  I am sure it was quite a shock when it didn't turn out to be like that at all. 

  

Do I think he should keep up what he is doing?  No.  He is going to have to re-learn how to deal with the people he lives with or else his marriage will suffer or, worse yet, end.  The man waited until later in life to marry his wife- clearly he loves her or else he'd have just stayed single.  I think he will try very hard to learn how to deal with his family in a new and more productive way, but it won't be easy.  On the other hand, he is a carreer miltary man, so he is accustomed to doing and accomplishing things that are not easy.  Therefore it is my guess is that they will all come out of this fine.  It will take work, but they will be Okay. 

  

I do understand wanting to take the tactics that work in the military and use them in your home.  I am former Air Force, and rules and regulations to me represent predictability and security.  I love rules, so I really get this guy.  I have even made lists of rules and responsibilities for the family to follow, thinking it would clear it all up, just like he has.  I love lists!  They enable me to go down them, check them off, and know that I got everything done and done and done correctly.  However, we have seven kids, four of whom are teenagers.  I am telling you that they do NOT think the same!   It just doesn't work because, unfortunately, you can't stick kids into a box and expect them to conform.   They won't:  They didn't sign up for this; They were born or married into it.  They didn't volunteer!  Dr. Phil made a very good point when he pointed this out to Jeff.  It took me a while to figure this fact out, and I birthed four of these children myself!    

  

The curious thing is that my husband is the carreer Air Force person, whereas I only spent a few years in, yet he is much more laid back and pretty much leaves the Air Force at the military base.  I think a lot of it has to do with personality. 

  

Having said that, I am totally "hands off" with discipline when it comes to my step-kids UNLESS my husband has to leave and hands the discipline baton over to me (this is figurative, not literal!  I'm not beating on kids, here!) in front of them.  In that case, I handle it for the sake of harmony, but drop the baton as soon as he walks back in.  And he does the same with my children.  We basically take the same disciplinary position when we are alone with our step-kids that a babysitter would.  As a step mom I am his wife, but not their parent.  I learned this the hard way, but it has made for imporved relations with both my husband and my step-kids.  I try to be their advocate with their father, and I think they (and he) appreciate it. 

  

Anyhow, that's my two cents.  Jeff, if you are reading this, I understand where you were coming from and I admire you for prostrating yourself in front of the entire nation to talk about your family issues.  I pray that your family is able to work past this, because I really do believe that you have some great kids and a wonderful wife.  I am pretty sure you will, tough.  You seem like a man who wants to do the right thing. 

  

My two cents, anyhow. 

  

Nancy Anne 

  

  

Thanks for the quote. I have a new perspective on ti now
 
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March 5, 2006, 11:59 am CST

What's gonig On!! really.

I really don't get humans!!!!! Really!!!!! humans!!!!! I'm really confused. Someone tell me what's really going on. I hear one side that the Millitary guy is a Master minulipator and I hear another thing that his X wife(i think) told him what to watch on tv and she threw away his clothes. Are they both out of their minds? I'm really confused!!!!!
 
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March 5, 2006, 3:59 pm CST

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i  hate a man thats controling!   things can't work for couples if they are like that..  you got to beable to trust each other!  if theirs no trust, then you should  leave each other. find someone else... 

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March 8, 2006, 4:42 pm CST

Forget something?

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But I think that girls & women don't care about anyone but themselves when it comes to something like this. No wonder a lot of men get used by a lot of women these days, and also being hurt, and being penniless, because they fail to see what they're really capable of. I wonder why men like Michael allows his wife to use him & to spend up all of his money. She doesn't really love him or care about him, as she admitted that the first time that they appeared on the show. She's just using him!
Are you forgeting about the daughter having or had porn parties?
 
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March 12, 2006, 6:33 am CST

All I have to say is......

I don't know about you but all I have to say is that people who cheat on their husband/wife, girlfriend or boyfriend are just out of their mind's and don't know the concequences of their actions. Maybe they do. They just don't know how serious the situation is or maybe they do but they only know half of it.
 
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March 12, 2006, 6:59 am CST

What is normal?

The first words I read when I read this topic was can you love your child too much. I believe that the more love you give to your child, the more love you will recieve from your child even when they grow up as an adult but what I also read I think is way beyond love. In fact it is not love. I also read a part of a story that a parent has to call the police to let her know where her daughter is every time she is late (or something like that). What ever her situation is, if it is a major crises yes I would call the police. What is this parent's major crises? I don't know. Is this normal for a parent to do this every time? That is for you to decide. What is normal? That is a question also a matter of opinion because everyone's answer is always different. Not right and not wrong. It's just an opinion to a question and open to debate as well. I just think that don't call the police every time your daughter is late (or something like that). That is just wasting the law's time and there is more people on this planet that need saving and protecting. What do you think?
 

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