Messages By: pnl_36

Amber, 

   after seeing you on the show my heart broke for you. You seem to really want thanks to work out but I think in your heart you know it is over. You are to good for him. I noticed no matter how upset you got.... I NEVER SEEN HIM REACH OUT TO YOU. He is not worthy of you or your love. I know that is not what you want to hear.  I thank that if he is willing to change his bad habits it could work out. He does not have the right to degrade you in front of your kids.  why does he feel the need to look at trash on line? never could understand that gee get a life and grow up. that is what young boys do. TIME TO BE A REAL MAN!!!!  You looked so sad so lost. I have been hurt before and was lucky to have worked it all out. I wish  I knew exactly what to say. I sure do not have all the answers to the perfect happy life. I know we all make mistakes and have regrets but we have to learn from them, and do not keep making the same mistakes over and over.  A very special person in my life says "Don't tell me your sorry and keep doing the same thing over and over cause your not sorry (sorry you got caught) but not sorry" sorry demands a change, It takes 2 to make a marriage and only 1 to destroy it. I will be praying for you and your family I hope you get what makes you happy  that may mean moving on, and I'm sure that scares you. the uncertainty of the unknown, scared you are making the wrong choice. Just follow your heart. I believe families should stay together but sometimes staying together would be worse. I have been told in the past that one person can't fight alone. If the other person wants to fight fine smile nod and say my favorite words."yes dear what ever you say" smile and agree to every thing. Turn to god pray and i will be praying for you. God loves you and is there with you reach out to him and he will never let you down. he will never put more on your plate then you can handle. 

  I'm sorry about all the pain you are feeling. I really think you need to step back and look at your life. Is this where you want to be? No of course it is not. I do not really know what to say to you there is a song Radney Foster sings "Easier Said Than Done". NO one will be able to tell you what to do no one will have all the right answers. I went threw a hard time with my husband about a year ago...  And some one very special to me talked to. she told me, only you know when you have had to much, only you can say thats it..no more. She also told me that if  you are truly sorry for what you have done than you will change your ways, if you don't than your only sorry you got caught. I decided to stay with my husband for me no one else. we will be married 17 years at the end of this month we have 3 kids. If you could just take the time to find out what is in your heart. If you love him thats natural 11 1/2 years 2 kids thats a lot of good times. there is such a huge difference in loving and being in love..Maybe you love him for what he has given you...(2 kids). You might just be scared of letting go, moving on. I don't know but I see you say he continues to cheat sleep around, and that is not no way to treat the woman he "loves" I took my husbands hand put it on my heart and said." you broke it you fix it" he did not know what to say.  I have a very hard time trusting him. Please know that if you want this then you both will have to work things out, one can't do it alone. If he is still sleeping around I'm not sure I would want to be with him, but you have to follow your heart. I gave my husband 2nd yes 2nd chance if he messes up he has to end it.. tell family. our kids. we are doing good, I feel like I'm holding my breath waiting just waiting.. I stayed for me not the kids, I did not want Satan having victory over my life. Pray turn to God he will never fail you. He loves you and is there with you lean on him. And follow your heart. please keep me posted on how things are going. You will be in my prayers. PNL_36 

  Christy, 

     KICK Micheal to the curb!!!!!  Where does he get off pointing out all your flaws? Does he ever look in a mirror? Nope he can't... cause if he did he would beg you to for give him and thank GOD he has such a beautiful wife.. You can do SO much better than the likes of him. Tell your self every day I'm beautiful and Michael is very lucky to have me.... If you do this daily you will believe it cause it is very true. he should be loving you and treating you like a queen. Best of luck. 

I THINK THIS IS SICK!!!!!! YOU ARE IN NEED OF SOME MENTAL HELP!!!!! 

    YOUR KIDS HAVE NO BUSINESS LOOKING AT OR EVEN KNOWING ABOUT SEX TOYS... AND TO KNOW YOU PLAN ON BREAST FEEDING SOME ONE ELSE BABY....... GROSS!!!!! 

     THIS IS ONE SICK FAMILY. TO HAVE SEX IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS. I'M SICK.. THE STATE  SHOULD INVESTIGATE AND REMOVE THE KIDS...... I  THINK YOU SHOULD GET REAL... A MOTHER THAT TRULY LOVED AND CARED FOR HER KIDS WOULD NEVER PUT THEM THREW WHAT YOU ARE.... YOU ARE SELF CENTERED NASTY............AND SHOULD NOT HAVE KIDS 

I agree I'm so ticked off and hope DR.PHIL will read enough of the post on his show to help the kids find safety in a real home... i hope the sick  NITWIT  parents are to embarrassed to ever show there face any where... i would also lose all respect for DR.Phil if he supports her..