Messages By: otter58

I think it's a shame that this mother has judged her daughter by the tattoos on her body.  I am 48 and have two tattoos; not many, but I do want more. I also have a pierced nose, ears and tongue.  I see these things as a form of art and self expression, not something to be ashamed of. I also have noticed that society is becoming more tolerant overall of different forms of self expression.  I have an older daughter, 24, who has several tattoos, and has done many other things in her short life.  she lived with her dad after we divorced and i found out later that she had gone through almost every drug you can think of.  It had nothing to do with the tattoos; the drugs were her reaction to our divorce and later, her father's alcoholism.  If this young woman has done nothing but tattoos, colored her hair different colors and tried on the "goth" scene without the drugs or alcohol, then mom really doesnt have anything to be upset about.  There is a "but" to this though, because I haven't seen the show, and don't know what the "secret" is.  And I also know that support done in a loving and nonjudgemental way can help a person get their life back on the "right" track, and ONLY if they want to.  It has to be this young woman's decision; not mom's.  Whatever the problems and solutions that come up, I wish them both the best of life!!