Messages By: momthanguv2

As the single mom of a spoiled 19 year old son, I know how these kids get spoiled. It's not because they throw a fit, but because we can give them these things. It is when we can't that they act out. When there's not enough money, There's not enough money. Although the spoiled kid acts out, that's all he will do. All the  yelling and bad mouthing can't get more money. All a mom can do is to use the strong shoulders shedeveloped s a single parent and bear the the  childish rampages. Although my son has not gotten past his entitlement, I hope he will someday.  I let his tirades roll off my back like water off a ducks'. 

 Momthanguv2

Like most of the responses here, I married an abusive man. I was with him for 7 years of hell. But he was just like my Dad and brother. I literally didn't know better. I divorced my husband, but can't divorce my Dad. It is very hard for me to have much interaction with him. With my Mom dead, and him in a "home", I struggle to visit him.  I feel guilty about not visiting very often,  and  am pretty sure that my inheritance gets slimmer by the day. The abused feeling never really goes away. Oh and that brother, he lives in Houston, and I live in North Carolina. I don't see or hear from him very often, which suits me well. Whenever we're together he doesn't miss an opportunity to put me down. I am sure glad he's a long way away

Now I have a really sweet guy.Life is too short to put up with this stuff.

Attention from a manager at work is always welcome. When the manager becomes romanticallly involved, visions of finer things to come start to dance in your head. But when romance becomes obsession, ffear begins to dance.  Chance meetings and "i was just thinking about you, so I thought I'd stop by" , get creepier and the stalking is creepier. The frustrated out bursts become real threats, and often injuries. Introspection seems to say : too short, too blonde, too stupid, too this, too that" Wait, it's not meewith a problem, It's him. . . . Time to confront. . . . Denial, and false accusation begin to escalate, until physical pain is the next feeling you have.    Your only choice is the Magistrates office. In our county, the abuser of a relationship can be arrested, whether it is male or female, young or old. In this suburban setting the abusor can easily found. Especially if they like to stalk. Get help, get out ! 

Only aging movie stars should be so concerned with their looks that they get plastic surgery. And those peple disfigured by birth or accident.

 A 12 year old has so much emotional growth yet to do. Her self esteem should not be centered around her looks, or her boobs.  A psychologist or psychiatrist needss to become involved with this young lady to work on her self esteem. No one has only one redeeming quality, and boobs are never that one.

 Middle school kids can be cruel and ostricize someone for almost any reason at all. If the "in crowd" seems to be having more fun, find fun things to do with current  friends.

  But if this is not a self esteem issue then it must be a "monkey see, monkey do" The Mom might consider the message she is sending this youngster.

 Boobs grow at different times on different girls. Some 1`2 year olds are still budding while others are in full bloom.

Remember "patience is a virtue" and "don't judge a book by its cover "

Self esteem is a slippery slope. It doesn't take much to ruin it.

My daughter, a beautiful bright 5 year old started kindergarten. A jealous classmate started putting her down. Criticizing everything about her. The next thing I knew, my beautiful daughter started pulling her hair out. Then it was her eyebrows, finishing with her eyelashes. Finally  Duke University Dr. Grant diagnosed it as Trichitllomania.  Essentially a result of low self esteem. With several years of therapy and great angst on her mother's part, her self esteem recovered. All of the lost hair has replaced itself, thank goodness, and I have my beautiful daughter back again. But she still worries when criticized, and has developed a defensive attitude with  a sharp tongue.

Low self esteem brought on by ridicule is lethal. Lots of help is needed to overcome the devastation. If you know someone hurting with this problem, be kind to them.