Messages By: unionbabe

I am so glad to see something positive about being overweight!  I have met men like the one on the show that finds fat as something disgusting.  I have been called a fat bitch, fat whore, fat slut, fat ass, and other names that I care not to repeat.  These were strangers.  People who had no idea I have an IQ of 140+, and a Bachelor's Degree.  All these pigs were concerned about was what I looked like.  Forget the fact I have the reading level of a college professor; and that was BEFORE I started college.  Just because we have more weight, does not mean we are less than worthy of love and acceptance.  Believe it or not, WE FIND YOU EVEN MORE REPULSIVE THAN YOU FIND US.  You are a bigot from the get go.  I find this an interesting paradox since you are a person of color.  If anyone should understand prejudice, racism, and hatred, you should.  This only shows how shallow and hollow you really are.  You should be happy your brother has found someone to love and loves him in return. 

While I must concede your comments are compelling, I must point out that we bbw's are looked at as though we are slow witted, ignorant, selfish and spoiled.  I am none of the above (the reason I pointed out my IQ). One thing so many fat haters fail to reason through is the fact we are fighting heredity.  All of the women on my fathers' side were large, and both of my mother's parents were heavy.  You cannot fight heredity.  Just like the brothers who are black.  There are many who want you to be white.  Nothing will change your skin color, no matter how hard you try.  People who are skinny TRY to PUT ON WEIGHT only to be frustrated by no results. 

Women in general must try twice as hard as a man to get half as much men take for granted.  The only way bbw's will be accepted as we are is for society to give up its grandiose ideas of perfection.  However, society must give up other grandiose ideas of "perfection" as well. It must adopt the idea of acceptance; I don't care if you are white, black, tall, short, fat, thin, gay, straight.  I don't care if you are pink with purple polka dots, and you shouldn't either. While this is difficult to obtain for society, I believe it is possible...one person at a time.  Prejudice, malice, and intolerance are for the ignorant-and those who have called me those names are truly ignorant.  

I really feel for these women.  Although I have the opposite problem with weight, I know what it is like to have an eating disorder since I am a binge eater.  One thing everyone needs to know about eating disorders is you are like an alcoholic or compulsive gambler; you are never cured; you are always a recovering alcoholic, gambler, eater, or anorexic.  Once you realize that, you move to the next step and so on.  Every day is a constant battle for me just like these women.  However, I want to eat all the time, but they want to avoid food all the time.  We are still the same since we think about food all the time. 

Please ladies, get help and take it seriously.  No addiction or disorder is worth dying for.  There is too much life for you to live and live well.  Don't concentrate on the negative.  Thank God every day for your life; it is the only time you will live it.

What I want to know is have Cindy and Randy witnessed the allegations they make themselves?  If you are hearing information from others, you should know there are people who thrive on anger and love to see people fight.  In order for you to back up your information, you need to see it for yourself.  Both of you are control freaks who would love to get your grandchildren under your control.  Your behavior on the show indicates you have no respect for anyone.  Stop the whining Cindy!  Your voice sounds as irritating as running fingernails down a chalkboard!  Randy; you need to get off your ultra-conservative ultra-religous pious high horse.  You cannot expect others to hold to the same degree of piety that you have.

My heart goes out to these women since I too have an eating disorder.  When I was diagnosed, binge eating was just starting to become a real eating disorder.  Not only was I diagnosed a binge eater, I also have bulimic tendency's; meaning I would purge by going on severely restrictive diets. 

I began to binge when I was growing up.  My parents were not happy in their marriage, and unconsciously put me in the middle and used me as a pawn. Consequently, I felt responsible for their unhappiness and thought that if I could just be a perfect child, perfect little girl, they would get along.  So, I stuffed my anger down with food so I could be that perfect child.  Not only did it not work, my parents then focused on my weight gain.  Then I would eat because I was angry, and be angry because I ate, etc, etc, etc. Round and round on the vicious cycle.

These women deserve compassion, self-love, hope, and above all a future.  Being thin, popular, or pretty is not the end all for women.  It is the beginning of an unreachable unattainable fairy tale that has deadly consequences. All women, no matter what our size, age, socio-economic status, color, are beautiful creatures.  We are unique complex individuals that deserve the same happiness no matter what, and deserve acceptance from all we come in contact with.