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October 26, 2005, 1:08 pm CDT

i love dr phil!

i have the self matters book and i did the exercises but it didnt work, i am trying to find out who i am, i thought i knew but now im not sure. i have been modeling off and on for eight years, and now i want to stop because i have not got where i thought i would be by now and the industry has seemed to have gotten really sexual. i dont want to be in porn i am into fashion. well so for eight years it has been about how i look my "image". i think that has had an effect on me and the rejection you deal with because of the competition on who gets the job. so now i have to figure out what i want to do now, and i feel i wasted eight years of my life chasing a dream. so im depressed that i didnt try or pursue a "real" career. All i want is to take care of my family and help my mom out. so thats my career issue that effects me, ill get some feedback on that before i go into my personal issues. :) thank you.


 
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October 26, 2005, 1:16 pm CDT

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 i now have a negative self image, rather than four years ago when i seemed happy enough. what happen four years ago? not sure, major life maybe? lets see i moved from my hometown to a much larger city, i broke up with a boyfriend of five years and jumped into another long term relationship which is now four years, i started changing jobs like you would clothes, which was not normal for me. i left a job i worked at for two years and after that never had one that lasted more than six months. seems like i moved here and things started going downhill, i often wanted to move back but couldnt leave my boyfriend, would things have changed if i moved back? or was it leaving a long term relationship that caused the spiral? im lost.
 
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November 1, 2005, 8:35 pm CST

Self Image

Quote From: sunshine80

Making major life changes like that can cause or be caused by depression.  It sounds like you have had a great amount of change to deal with.  You know the old saying, "Everywhere you look there you are."  You probably would have dealt with the same things anywhere.  The question is not as much how you got to the point that you are at as how you are going to heal your self-image.  Best Wishes! 

Smile! 

Sunshine 

 Thanks! yea i think i will be fine, i have expectations that usually are not met so maybe they are just too high or non flexible.
 
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November 1, 2005, 8:42 pm CST

cool show

 i hope she gets some help i feel bad for her husband, he loves her so much.
 
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November 1, 2005, 8:44 pm CST

who

Quote From: railroaded

I am fighting the same issue, only I stand to loose my only grandchild,and my daughter, how do people with limited means fight things like this?
who's taking them?
 
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November 3, 2005, 9:26 am CST

depression/anxiety

 what is the difference between depression and anxiety?
 
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November 3, 2005, 9:33 am CST

Dealing with the Added Stress

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I feel for you!!  It is tough being a young mother, especially with the added stress of family conflict!  My husband and I were married at 21.  We have an almost 5 year old, a 2 year old, and a 1 year old.  I just turned 25.  The babies are 11 months apart to the day.  Right after we got married (we were staying with my parents) my parents divorced after 30 years of marriage.  My dad moved out, and we have little contact with him (my choice as well as my husband's.....he can't stand my dad.)  We have a great relationship with my mom (we've been in our own home for almost 4 years now).  My extended family is a different story.  My husband's upbringing was very different than mine, and he just doesn't like the way my family seems to act, in his point of view.  He thinks they are all fake, and I agree somewhat, but I still love them and want to do things, and he just doesn't normally go.  One of my cousins, who is one of my best friends, won't come over with her husband anymore because they don't agree with our parenting style.  They don't have any children of their own yet.  That is painful, but if that is their decision, so be it.  You know what is best for your children.  Just try to take it 1 day at a time, and don't stress yourself.  It's not good for your daughter or the baby you're carrying.  It does get easier, and things will work out.  Your family and husband should not put you in the middle of the issues they have.  If you love him and want to be with him, it is your choice to make and if they can't respect and accept your decision, it is their problem.  (as long as he treats you and your kids good!!)  Good luck and hang in there!!
 why do men feel they can control you? you should not have to decide between your family/friends and him, ridiculous. "im my opinion"
 
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November 4, 2005, 6:32 pm CST

Depression

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Im new this this message board and this is my first time posting... i wanted to talk to someone asap... maybe someone going through what im going through... and im not sure on how to post a new message or start a thread.. if someone can help me i would apreciate it :)   

I just feel like im not gonn a make it in ths worlk anymore 

whats up? why do you feel depressed right now?
 
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November 9, 2005, 9:30 am CST

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Quote From: beachsmile

You can look up on medlineplus.gov and here is an excellent link on depression. Plus you can click "General and Mental Health Resources" above. How are you?

www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003213.htm

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 THANX!
 
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November 10, 2005, 5:44 pm CST

answers

 how do you feel comfortable as a housewife in this day and age with rent so high and women working around you? how do you not feel guilty or depressed?
 

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