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Quote by ceildh1: " (although I don't get why you would get married if you don't "DO" Monogomy)." -End quote Swinging is different for many different people. But for some people, myself included, it is simply something we are doing together. It's not that I am having sex with other people. WE are having sex with other people. It's a shared experience. That being said, I have a monogamous relationship with my wife in an emotional aspect. And sex with her is truly unique because of that. But expanding the non-emotional aspect of our sexlife up with other people is quite different. I expect to see people come onto this show and have difficulties with swinging because their marriage wasn't sound to begin with. They were looking into swinging as a possible cure for a problem, or perhaps looking for something their relationship didn't provide. It's sad really, because those are the completely wrong reasons to get into the lifestyle. Stability first, and remember to always go back to a typical marriage at the onset of problems.

How do I explain it to my kids?  I don't.   Just as I don't discuss any other details of my sexlife with my children.

When my kids ask me what I am going to be doing after they go to bed, I usually say, your mom and I will be watching TV and shortly going to bed.  I certainly don't reply that we are going to be having sex in the bedroom down the hall.   Why should my night out with my wife and our friends be any different? 

I do believe that honesty is the best policy.  And I would love to share this with the whole world, but because most people don't understand, nor would they respect our wishes, it makes things a tad more complicated. 

Could you take your children to a place where people walked around totally nude?  Most people would say no.  Yet, in many other countries (let alone select areas inside the US)  that is normal.  Children are brought up with nude beaches, nudity on television, and in magazines.  It's so normal that they look at us and think we're the weirdos with our censoring of the human body.

But that is our culture and to try to buck the system isn't going to be accepted overnight. 

So the majority of swinging will simply continue to be the "secrets in the suburbs."  

-Mr Truelove

Can't agree more.   If thats the way he feels about her, perhaps she is better off finding someone else.  What Brent should realize is that swinging isn't for everyone, and if he truly loved his wife, he would respect her feelings and not pursue this.   Unfortunatly he loves his own goals more than he loves her it would appear.

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