Well ours is a little different lol..My fiance and I are due to be married on 10-10-10. He is finishing up his divorce and both of our lives have changed dramatically. His ex didnt take care of things or keep up her end in parenting or the relationship and neither did mine in any capacity (i wont go into specifics, or it would be a book and off topic ;D). Now, as a result of us being together all 4 of our kids have a wonderfull home life now. Now before when he was with his x, his mother hated her and she hated his mother for over 10 years. All they did was badmouth eachother (in front of the children no less) and put eachother down nasty as anything you could imagine, putting David in a horrible in the middle predicament. Now I do eveything his mother complained about her about (basics, cleaning the house, caring for the kids, cooking,etc). Now his parents came over for thanksgiving and Stephies b-day party..went over to his X's house ONCE to see the kids there and never came back?!?!?! I though we all got along fine but now they refuse to come over, call, no b-day parties..we have them and invite EVERONE in their families and they refuse to come to the cookouts and make the kids split parties for no reason. His parents and grandparents will only visit the children at their mothers house ( she only takes them by her choice only 8 days a mnth..I feel this is robbing their time with their mother, though the kids have told us their mother calls and asks them too.) despite the fact that we have an open door policy to all family members. I dont get it..all I can think of is his X had t lie to them and lie t them something BAD, they hated eachother all thoose years and now all of the sudden they are best buddies? Am I missing something? This is so hard on the kids, and all we can really tel lthem is its thier choice, we keep reaching out and they refuse to be bothered with us and we dont evenknow WHY..any thoughts or advice woudl help...I am at a loss to try and make this better for the kids....
~Chrissie
