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May 27, 2006, 8:34 am PDT

Tattoos and getting older

My daughter is almost 40.  She is the administrator at a posh day care in an Alabama town.  She is alway needing to find clothes to hide her tatoos that she got after she was a married person. She's not embarrased by her tattooes.  She just doesn't want to draw unnecessary attention to them at work.   As her mother and as a person who grew up at a time when doing something like this was done mostly by uneducated, unambitious, nerdowells of a certain class of people, it hurt a little to see what she had done to her beautiful skin.  I know that reads like a snobbish thing to say but I grew up in a generation that looked down on people who would do that to their bodies.  My daughter had the skin of an angel.  Still does.  I would never say something negative to her about her tattoos and she will never read this because she is very busy and will not see the show coming up Monday or come to this site to read the messages.  Her daughter who will turn 20 late this year has her tongue peirced.  I have another granddaughter who will be 15 next February.  They are all so wonderful and smart and very easy on the eyes, one might say.  My daughter and her girls were never "out of control".  My daughter graduated college the same year her daughter graduated high school.  It was a week of joy and celebration.  I would get a glimpse of my daughter's tattoos and be sad for a minute but I would alway get quickly back to the love and joy of the moment.  Young people need to think of the time ahead before deciding to do such a permanently altering thing to their bodies.  People do judge, unfortunately.  Pretty people do get the jobs over someone who is plain. I don't believe it's fair either.  I'm fat and have psoriasis.  I know my chances over someone else who is not.  :)  And where was the mother when this teen got her first tattoo?  Rebellious teens will find someone to do the deed.  Forget the idea that a reputable "artist" would require a parent's consent.  Even so, it is still a risk.  Even a reputable "artist" can cause an infection.   Unless a person is in the entertainment business, tattoos are still looked on as common in a few circles.  Models who got them have changed their minds and had them removed.  When I saw that photo of the tattooed lady, all I could think was, "Oh my goodness.  Why would she need to do that?"  What drives a person, man or woman, to get so many of those things they would make it to the Guiness Book of World Records?  And I have to say that I am very grateful that my daughter doesn't seem to be interested in getting any more tattooes.  But there's always tomorrow.  She may change her job and go for it.  I love her, so I'll deal.  I'm sorry, I don't want to see that on her or my granddaughers.  I don't want to see their peirced tongues flicking in and out.  I see that many times where I work and I'm not impressed with those tongues that look as if they could use a good cleaning.  Listen guys, if you must peirce the tongue and you must flick that thing in and out so others can see it, please clean them regularly.  Thank you.
 
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October 15, 2006, 5:29 pm PDT

I am no man's chattle

I've been with John for over 37 years and he tries that business from time to time and I will not have it.  I have worked just as hard if not harder to make this life be the best we can have and if I want to take $60 to the flea market with me, I take $60 with me to the flea market.  He can bark about money all he wants to.  He smokes like a freight train and loves to be intoxicated on a regular basis and all he wants to do is sit out on the screened in porch with his sports TV.  After working most of my life and rearing two wonderful children, I deserve to be treated with respect and trust.  I have earned this life and I'm going to enjoy what's left of it.  Hugs from Florida
 
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March 21, 2007, 4:20 pm PDT

God loves mother-in-laws, too

I've been a mother-in-law three times and am looking to another time when I will welcome another one into the fold.  :)  The situations I saw on the show today were too shameful for words.  I find it hard to believe that adults are behaving so badly and even criminal.  Unfortunately, it was a sad reminder ot how things were with my own mother-in-law many, many moons ago.  She died in March 1991 after a brief battle with cancer.  Her son, my husband, had to go to  the Gulf with his battalion and I came to her from Germany to be her care-giver with Hospice.   At first she tried to make it as hard on me as she could.  And I wanted to leave that place and go back to Germany where my little doggie was and pray for my husband's safe return,  but I knew I couldn't.  My husband was in a dangerous place and his mother was terminally ill.  Finally I had had it and made plans to return to Germany.  Before I was to leave her, I sat down in front of her and told her what would might be like after I left.  Strangers would be taking care of her and they would not put up with her shannigans.  She relented and asked me to stay.   It was hard being there and still stressful but minus the animosity like before.  I could deal.  After years of having this woman verbally abuse me and try to break up my marriage, the last thing she told me before she died was, "I love you".  
 
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September 1, 2007, 9:34 am PDT

Behavior and Nutrition

My frustration at seeing and hearing and reading about kids who behave like this or kids who have ADD/ADHD is that these kids are malnourished.  Studies have proved that omega 6 fatty acids are deficient in people who exhibit such behaviors.  We are not getting proper nutrition in today's society.  That means no processed foods, no soda pop, in many cases no dairy especialy the kind that is sold in supermarkets and no fake oils.  If you are in an area that gets less sun than say Florida, and good cod liver oil supplement is a must.  If you don't have access to certified organic produce and good whole food vitamin/mineral supplement is a must.  We should be eating fresh raw produce and grass fed beef and free range poultry and by products from those sources.  Organic extra virgin olive oil and  virgin coconut oil and palm oil.  Those are the nutritous oils we should be consuming.  Soy is not a health food.  It over sexes our girls and under sexes our boys because of the phyto estrogens found in soybeans, and phytochemicals cause us to not absorb vital nutrients.  Over weight people are malnourished people.  Hyper active, violent, depressed, etc people are malnourished people.  We are a people who have been duped by TV, magazine, and newspaper ads that tell us that sugary cereals are a good after school snack.  NOT!!!  I tell you this because I was one of them and I continue to remind myself that I'm fat, I have diabetes, I have psoriasis, I had a heart attack because I drank soda pop and ate Doritos and cream cheese and smoked like a freight train and caused these things to happen by my own stubborness and ignorance.  Now there is a TV ad that tells us Hellman's is real.  It's not real because it's made with soybean oil.  And I realize that we are all individuals by what we "choose" to believe.  That there are no absolutes except for those we allow to reside in our minds.  When people ask me if I believe there is a God of the Bible and my answer is ABSOLUTELY!!  Satan lied to Eve and TV lies to its viewers.  Believe what TV says we should eat or believe what the Bible says we should eat.  Hugs from Florida

 
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November 26, 2007, 2:31 pm PST

Katherine's Return

I am so glad Katherine is home safe and sound with her family.  I know it's going to be hard but what she left there is Palestine could have been her burial in some unmarked grave after Abdullah did his worst with her.  Men like that do not deserve the love of a good woman.  I say this because I know first hand how bad it can get.  I'm lucky to be alive.  Many years ago, I pledged my love to a man just like that is this very country.  My little girl was born five weeks early because he tried to push me down some stairs.  I was in a nightmare.  I should have ran from him like running from a pack of wild dogs.  Fortunately, I had and dad and three brothers who helped me escape the nightmare.  Embrace your family and their love and their courage to do what they could to incorporate Dr. Phil's help to get you home if at all possible.  I saw the first show.  I'm amazed he even "allowed" you to board that plane and I suspect he had everything to do with the two failed attempts to get you on a plane before.  He's a smooth talker.  He's probably very charming when he needs to be.  I know he's also very mean and violent when crossed.  Be happy with yoru family.  Begin your life with joy and gratitude that you are safe and alive and free of that aweful person.
 
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November 26, 2007, 2:59 pm PST

Being 16 is being stupid sometimes

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When Katherine was 16 and pulled this stunt the young man's father should of been banned from the United States. If I heard correct his father goes to America 6 months out of the year. Why hasn't he been punished?

As for Katherine she is infuriately a typical female. Many of us females seek love. Many of times in the wrong way and wrong places. Young and old.

 

Donna

Ont, Canada

Girls that young and grown women sometimes do stupid things in the name of love.  I don't doubt for a minute that Katherine believed she loved this person.  She believed he loved her.  Why would she have tried to go there the first time only to fail and then wait two years to successfully united herself with her love?  I believe she has now faced the total reality of the situation.  He was abusive.  She is staying here and I hope she will be allowed to make amends with her family.  To Katherine's momma, embrace your daughter.  Help her get passed this.  She needs your forgiveness and your love and your affection.  I have a daughter.  She is 41 years old now and we also have our history.  She made her share of bad choices for herself beginning with marriage right out of high school to a man we would have never chosen for her in a million years.  They are divorced and she also has since divorced a second husband because he wanted to be with other women.  We make mistakes in our youth.  And sometimes we make mistakes in our old age. lol. 
 
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December 9, 2007, 2:46 pm PST

Christmas is from pagan customs

People, you need to first read your dictionaries and see what's said about this "traditional" holiday and then see what God says about people incorporating pagan customs instead of  God's true Holy Days, Leviticus 23.  The whole bible is about God's promises to Abraham and his generations.  Jews were the first Christians.  Paut took his message to the Gentiles after Jesus has ascended to be with His and our Father in Heaven.  God is not the author of confusion.  We have allow ourselves to be lead into confusion like sheep to the slaughter.  God warns us to repent and be baptized and keep HIS commandments and Holy Days.  Constantine first changed the weekly day of worship to the first day instead of the seventh day to separate the Gentiles from the Jews.  He was a rank pagan.  But don't believe me.  Believe history and your Bibles.  Hugs.
 
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December 30, 2007, 4:57 pm PST

12/12 Christmas Chaos

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What is the POINT of your post? Yes, Dec 25 was once a pagan holiday, which is why the Church chose it as the official birth of Christ (which is really in January). It was to take something AWAY from the pagan celebration. And it worked quite nicely.

 

God doesn't care about lights, trees, presents, etc AS LONG AS we never forget the true meaning of Christmas. I spend CHristmas day in a nursing home taking Communion to the elderly. I help out at food pantries and donate to two migrant families. I STILL love the parties, the trees, the lights, the kids' gifts from SANTA (he was a Christmas man from Europe) and I put up secular (as well as Christian) decorations.

 

God will judge me accordingly...not you or anyone else who thinks s/he knows more than Christ. God bless you, but please stop trying to turn people away from Christian religions. Your rhetoric scares people, including this practicing and devout Christian!!!

ONCE???  No mam/sir.  It is still a pagan custom and God hates it.  And Jesus was NOT born in the dead of winter, "Shepards were abiding in the field"?  They don't do that in the dead of winter.  God says, if I do these things even if I feed the poor and tithe to the penny, He does not know me.  He also warns us, if I want truth and pray and meditate on it, I will receive truth.  If I choose to believe lies He will let that happen, too.  Read your Bible from Genesis to Revelations.  Pray for truth and understanding and see what happens.  Otherwise, God says we are lawless when we refuse to keep His laws and Holy Days.  Jesus gave humans living back then the same truths.  And except that He (Jesus) became the Passover lamb, nothing has changed.  Jesus lived the law.  He kept the true Holy Days.  He was without sin. 
 
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March 14, 2008, 2:24 pm PDT

airline attendants

Back when my son was five, I had to fly to German with my two children.  I was exhausted already and so looking forward to being reunited with my military husband and having the whole ordeal behind me. I had flown from Colorado to South Carolina to visit my parents because I was being the dutiful daughter and visiting my parents before I had to leave the country for the first time in my life to be in a foreign country at least three years.  My parents didn't see it that way.  I was using them as a hotel stopover.  What????  I was devastated.  I could have gone straight to Germany from Colorado. It was the first time I had ever been on an airplane.   I was 30 years old.  My children were 10 and 5 years.  I was emotionally and physically drained. 

 We were on the plane and after a while, our meals were brought to us with what the kids were eating arriving first.  I had my son's plate in front of me cutting his meat and an attendant came up to me and practically growled at me, "that's food for the children".  It was embarrassing by the way she talked to me.and my hackles started rising. I wanted to give her a peice of my mind but I didn't want to get arrested for being "out of line".   Don't tell me airline attendants aren't ever snotty.  Because I was chubby, she thought I was going to eat my son's food???  When my brain starts working overtime, I would even imagine that these people are so bored with what they do because they aren't educated to do anything different, they have to make some drama and they can spot a target and make it happen.  I know I'm being melodramatic and I know that all airline attendants aren't bored or even on a power trip.  I have a very dear friend who use to be one. She has so much going for her in personality and special gifts and knowledge, she could entertain the president if she needed to.   What burns my butter is that these girls kept saying they were accompanied by their parents and there were girls behind them who were being loud and obnoxious.  I believe they deserve a hearing on this insident and restitution and an apology.  But I wasn't there and I'm not sure I like the way Dr. Phil handled the whole interview.  It was obvious he is sympathic toward the airline people.  People say things about an embarrassing moment and later on, don't even remember what they said on the subject.  He kept trying to intimidate them and insisting they were lying about what they said by reading "his notes". It was like he was more interested in his notes and not what they were saying.   I "listened" to what they said and I didn't get that they were trying to be deceptive about the situation.  I got that they were totally distressed about the way they were treated and totally confused about why they were treated so badly.   And what's with that other previous guest??  She was totally off in left field. 

 
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July 16, 2008, 2:48 pm PDT

Abusive, bullying husbands

I saw this show when it first aired.  I would be interested in knowing how things worked out for them after counseling.  Are they still together?  Did she walk away?  Does he get to pay child support? lol. 

 

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