She may not know what she's talking about, but I do. Having adopted children myself and having a neice who is from the Ukraine. I have quite a bit of experience in the adoption arena.
Children are not puppies or furniture you can return to the store. I'm so tired of people saying they are too tired, out of ideas, or just don't want to deal with it anymore and then giving up on children.
Yes, we all, as parents, have every right to whine, cry, scream, be frustrated and have a hard time dealing with things at times. But, get it out (away from the child), then be an adult and suck it up!! You chose to be a parent. What if you had problems with a child you gave birth to, are you going to "send them back" when the going gets rough??!! And where, precisely, are you going to send them too?
When we adopted, one of the things the very wise judge said at the finalization was that we will be responsible for this child as though we had given birth to them ourselves. We said we certainly hope so.
I am not discounting the people who need help - but then GET HELP!! There are so many resources out there if you just look. There are no magic cures, but there is help. Get off your duff, scream, cry, hit the wall if you need to and then quit whining, and make some changes.
