12/16 My Spouse Let Themselves Go
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Posted by: patches55
Posted on: 2002-12-16 11:25:02
My husband has gained so much weight. He now weighs 383# but he can't exercise due to his health. He is living with the idea this is the year he was suppose to be dead. He sits in chair all day, but also is on oxygen. I can't push him in wheelchair anymore. Our lives are going downhill fast,cause I can't keep up doing it all. We really need help. He used to have such a good attitude, now i keep things from him just so I don't hear him yell. Dr.s said he would only live about 5 yrs. (This is the 5th yr.)His attitude is dragging me down with him, & I really don't like it. Can you help us? I try to get him to watch you every day. But he doesn't like your overweight shows. He does feel bad about it, & doesn't eat that much. Just no exercise. Thanks Dr. Phil
Posted by: patches55
Posted on: 2002-12-16 11:25:02
My husband has gained so much weight. He now weighs 383# but he can't exercise due to his health. He is living with the idea this is the year he was suppose to be dead. He sits in chair all day, but also is on oxygen. I can't push him in wheelchair anymore. Our lives are going downhill fast,cause I can't keep up doing it all. We really need help. He used to have such a good attitude, now i keep things from him just so I don't hear him yell. Dr.s said he would only live about 5 yrs. (This is the 5th yr.)His attitude is dragging me down with him, & I really don't like it. Can you help us? I try to get him to watch you every day. But he doesn't like your overweight shows. He does feel bad about it, & doesn't eat that much. Just no exercise. Thanks Dr. Phil
overweight men
Posted by: bword44
Posted on: 2002-12-16 12:05:12
I sympathize with you, patches55. My spouse too is so obese he's threatening his health, not to mention how physically undesirable he's become to me (I can't breathe if he's on top!). Unfortunately, society doesn't put the same feelings about weight onto men as it does women. I've actually seen my 80 lbs.+ overweight husband & some equally overweight guy friends of his stand around and talk about an overweight woman as "that cow" or say things like "she needs to do something about her weight..." Yet they think they are still sexy and desirable to every woman on earth! Nothing I do makes a difference. We go out to eat, he orders the largest meal on the menu. Fast food, supersize it all (but have a Diet Coke to drink!). I cook fairly healthy at home, but he just keeps gaining & gaining so there must be some closet eating going on. The really sad thing for you (and all of us spouses) is that not only is death a possibility, but mutilation and being bed-ridden as well. I stay with my guy because I do love him; he's a great person; but life would be so much more enjoyable if he were healthier & able to participate more in our lives. Hang in there, patches; I guess we just have to wait until they "get it."
Posted by: bword44
Posted on: 2002-12-16 12:05:12
I sympathize with you, patches55. My spouse too is so obese he's threatening his health, not to mention how physically undesirable he's become to me (I can't breathe if he's on top!). Unfortunately, society doesn't put the same feelings about weight onto men as it does women. I've actually seen my 80 lbs.+ overweight husband & some equally overweight guy friends of his stand around and talk about an overweight woman as "that cow" or say things like "she needs to do something about her weight..." Yet they think they are still sexy and desirable to every woman on earth! Nothing I do makes a difference. We go out to eat, he orders the largest meal on the menu. Fast food, supersize it all (but have a Diet Coke to drink!). I cook fairly healthy at home, but he just keeps gaining & gaining so there must be some closet eating going on. The really sad thing for you (and all of us spouses) is that not only is death a possibility, but mutilation and being bed-ridden as well. I stay with my guy because I do love him; he's a great person; but life would be so much more enjoyable if he were healthier & able to participate more in our lives. Hang in there, patches; I guess we just have to wait until they "get it."
gained 50 lbs in 1.5 yrs.
Posted by: taiwangirl
Posted on: 2002-12-16 12:37:43
I am not married but i am in a long term relationship. I have graduated college.
When i used to be relatively fit, however i was big boned. This discouraged me, because being of taiwanese background, there is pressure for me to be small & petite and a size 1. Despite working out often, i could never fit into skirts or nice clothes that were in style. I was never found attractive or accepted by people i wanted to be friends with. So i just gave up. I figured if working this hard, gets me nothing why bother. and so 50lbs later, my story continues.
Posted by: taiwangirl
Posted on: 2002-12-16 12:37:43
I am not married but i am in a long term relationship. I have graduated college.
When i used to be relatively fit, however i was big boned. This discouraged me, because being of taiwanese background, there is pressure for me to be small & petite and a size 1. Despite working out often, i could never fit into skirts or nice clothes that were in style. I was never found attractive or accepted by people i wanted to be friends with. So i just gave up. I figured if working this hard, gets me nothing why bother. and so 50lbs later, my story continues.
gained 50 lbs in 1.5 yrs
Posted by: dying4love
Posted on: 2004-11-26 13:39:04
Hi, girl from Taiwan, I am from Taiwan also. I have to say that Asians are very critical of other people body's part. Agree?They just say whatever they want not regarding other peoples feeling. So I am what you are going thru.
As long as you are happy and healthy you should enjoy your body. I am a mom with 2 kids and I am not overwight or anything. But sometimes I still let the media or my snobby neighbors get to me. I am petite and a size 2; so to make a long story short. Women in general will never be please with their body type. While other people try hard to make us feel bad, we should not do that to our selves. Agree?
As far as those people who does not find you attractive to be friends, screw them. You do not need people like that. My new philosophy is only to care about people who cares about me.
Posted by: dying4love
Posted on: 2004-11-26 13:39:04
Hi, girl from Taiwan, I am from Taiwan also. I have to say that Asians are very critical of other people body's part. Agree?They just say whatever they want not regarding other peoples feeling. So I am what you are going thru.
As long as you are happy and healthy you should enjoy your body. I am a mom with 2 kids and I am not overwight or anything. But sometimes I still let the media or my snobby neighbors get to me. I am petite and a size 2; so to make a long story short. Women in general will never be please with their body type. While other people try hard to make us feel bad, we should not do that to our selves. Agree?
As far as those people who does not find you attractive to be friends, screw them. You do not need people like that. My new philosophy is only to care about people who cares about me.
Appearances
Posted by: viewer35
Posted on: 2002-12-16 13:27:10
I lost 80lbs after my husband said some very mean things. The problem is he is overweight and hasn't changed himself and has no desire to. He takes all the credit for my weight loss for "motivating" me. As I begin to gain respect for myself and make myself a better person, I lose more and more respect for him. We are growing apart and has each pound has dropped off, the gulf between us increases. I really view my weight loss with mixed feelings and believe a spouse who saids such things has a responsibility to care about their appearance too.
Posted by: viewer35
Posted on: 2002-12-16 13:27:10
I lost 80lbs after my husband said some very mean things. The problem is he is overweight and hasn't changed himself and has no desire to. He takes all the credit for my weight loss for "motivating" me. As I begin to gain respect for myself and make myself a better person, I lose more and more respect for him. We are growing apart and has each pound has dropped off, the gulf between us increases. I really view my weight loss with mixed feelings and believe a spouse who saids such things has a responsibility to care about their appearance too.
Appearances
Posted by: lindasce3
Posted on: 2002-12-16 16:46:18
Dear viewer35,
I applaud your weight loss, for whatever reasons you did it. Be proud of yourself. It sounds to me like your husband intends to create this gulf between you. If it is his choice not to lose weight, then so be it. No one deserves to have mean things said about them for any reason. It sounds like your communication is in jeopardy and that hurt feelings are very acute. Try to do somethings that make you happy. Ignore his negative comments...surround yourself with positive people. At some point, he will get the message that his life needs some changing as well. Good luck.
Posted by: lindasce3
Posted on: 2002-12-16 16:46:18
Dear viewer35,
I applaud your weight loss, for whatever reasons you did it. Be proud of yourself. It sounds to me like your husband intends to create this gulf between you. If it is his choice not to lose weight, then so be it. No one deserves to have mean things said about them for any reason. It sounds like your communication is in jeopardy and that hurt feelings are very acute. Try to do somethings that make you happy. Ignore his negative comments...surround yourself with positive people. At some point, he will get the message that his life needs some changing as well. Good luck.
Cut the excess weight
Posted by: lindacan1
Posted on: 2002-12-16 17:32:59
Hi viewer35...congratulations on losing the weight!! You have NOBODY to thank other than yourself. Believe that!! Sounds like you need to drop about 200 or more pounds from your life......your husband. I'm not the type to usually say something like that but I can't stand men who down on their wives so much and never take a good long look at themselves. My husband looks like he swalled a basketball but he sometimes says stuff to me about my butt. I just tell him oh well, and may even pull down my pants and tell him to kiss this big ole butt!! =)
Posted by: lindacan1
Posted on: 2002-12-16 17:32:59
Hi viewer35...congratulations on losing the weight!! You have NOBODY to thank other than yourself. Believe that!! Sounds like you need to drop about 200 or more pounds from your life......your husband. I'm not the type to usually say something like that but I can't stand men who down on their wives so much and never take a good long look at themselves. My husband looks like he swalled a basketball but he sometimes says stuff to me about my butt. I just tell him oh well, and may even pull down my pants and tell him to kiss this big ole butt!! =)
Lost Weight, Gained Anger
Posted by: amycrazy
Posted on: 2002-12-17 00:33:53
I can totally relate with what you are saying. I was 255 pounds and have gotten down to 162. My husband didn't openly berate me or criticize me, he just acted like I wasn't there. He certainly never held my hand or kissed me in public. I was so furious. And now since I have gained so much confidence, I find myself really resentful of the way he behaved and treated me when I was really down on myself - that's why it took me awhile to do something about it in the first place. When I finally did, it wasn't for him - it was to feel better about myself. It's ironic that it has backfired on him - I am distant and angry sometimes now when he is kissing my ass because I look good again!
Posted by: amycrazy
Posted on: 2002-12-17 00:33:53
I can totally relate with what you are saying. I was 255 pounds and have gotten down to 162. My husband didn't openly berate me or criticize me, he just acted like I wasn't there. He certainly never held my hand or kissed me in public. I was so furious. And now since I have gained so much confidence, I find myself really resentful of the way he behaved and treated me when I was really down on myself - that's why it took me awhile to do something about it in the first place. When I finally did, it wasn't for him - it was to feel better about myself. It's ironic that it has backfired on him - I am distant and angry sometimes now when he is kissing my ass because I look good again!
weight
Posted by: rmknlp
Posted on: 2002-12-17 12:16:56
Not all men are jerks, I married my wife at her heaviest. I love my wife because of who she is, strong, smart, beautiful, loving and caring. True beauty in a man or woman, is how we treat the world and the people in it.
Posted by: rmknlp
Posted on: 2002-12-17 12:16:56
Not all men are jerks, I married my wife at her heaviest. I love my wife because of who she is, strong, smart, beautiful, loving and caring. True beauty in a man or woman, is how we treat the world and the people in it.
debbie53
Posted by: debbie53
Posted on: 2002-12-19 16:45:46
You are grand to love your wife for her not her body or weight. If all people, male or female, could get that, there would be so much more love in this world and not all the divorces. We are in there no matter what size we are. I commend you. PS this is Debbie who was on the show
Posted by: debbie53
Posted on: 2002-12-19 16:45:46
You are grand to love your wife for her not her body or weight. If all people, male or female, could get that, there would be so much more love in this world and not all the divorces. We are in there no matter what size we are. I commend you. PS this is Debbie who was on the show
LOSING WEIGHT, GAINING ANGER
Posted by: photorn
Posted on: 2002-12-20 10:48:10
You really hit home with me.Invitations were turned down, introductions were not made.My spouse is handsome, successful,well-loved business man in a small town. He still is a fast walker, always in front of me. 242 and now 15# less in 1 mo. after beginning treatment from a pyschiatrist for possible ADD. After reading about women & ADD I feel this is me. I heard for most of our 30yr. "If you only CARED enough for me you'd lose the weight", "You'd better lose or else", etc. I'm sure you've heard all the comments. "It's not the dress,...." I was constantly feeling overwhelmed, not good enough and hopeless, depressed thus, contributing to the eating, I'm sure. I pray that this treatment may finally help. I feel like a "normal person" again. But, looking back, I'm feeling some resentment for all the time I've "missed" by not knowing I had this and anger at those trying so desperately to change me into doing things I just plain couldn't do. Right now, I do see, the weight is going. I'm kinda worried about what happens when it's gone. I know, honey will treat me differently, but it may not feel as good anymore after all this time. So, I guess that's what therapy is for. How are you doing? Do you feel like the marriage will adjust????
Posted by: photorn
Posted on: 2002-12-20 10:48:10
You really hit home with me.Invitations were turned down, introductions were not made.My spouse is handsome, successful,well-loved business man in a small town. He still is a fast walker, always in front of me. 242 and now 15# less in 1 mo. after beginning treatment from a pyschiatrist for possible ADD. After reading about women & ADD I feel this is me. I heard for most of our 30yr. "If you only CARED enough for me you'd lose the weight", "You'd better lose or else", etc. I'm sure you've heard all the comments. "It's not the dress,...." I was constantly feeling overwhelmed, not good enough and hopeless, depressed thus, contributing to the eating, I'm sure. I pray that this treatment may finally help. I feel like a "normal person" again. But, looking back, I'm feeling some resentment for all the time I've "missed" by not knowing I had this and anger at those trying so desperately to change me into doing things I just plain couldn't do. Right now, I do see, the weight is going. I'm kinda worried about what happens when it's gone. I know, honey will treat me differently, but it may not feel as good anymore after all this time. So, I guess that's what therapy is for. How are you doing? Do you feel like the marriage will adjust????
appearances
Posted by: rmknlp
Posted on: 2002-12-17 12:07:51
Whether your 130 lbs or 235 lbs, a relationship is about respect and support. Good for you that you've gotten yourself healthier! Giving feedback to your husband might be the best thing for you and your marriage. Let him know how his comments impact you, ask him to be responsibile for his comments and the impact it may have. Then set boundaries, Dr.Phil says we let people treat us a certain way. How do you want your husband to treat you? Give yourself permission to derserve more out of a relationship. "When you decide it is possible, you will do..." Part of loving yourself is setting boundaries about how people treat you. If the comment isn't of love, ask for what purpose is that comment?
My wife and have a very open relationship and we speak our truth to each other from a place of love. Our comments to each other are feedback in order to assist each other to grow as individuals, and to be the best we can be to each other for the long run. I wish you the best.
rmknlp@yahoo.com
Posted by: rmknlp
Posted on: 2002-12-17 12:07:51
Whether your 130 lbs or 235 lbs, a relationship is about respect and support. Good for you that you've gotten yourself healthier! Giving feedback to your husband might be the best thing for you and your marriage. Let him know how his comments impact you, ask him to be responsibile for his comments and the impact it may have. Then set boundaries, Dr.Phil says we let people treat us a certain way. How do you want your husband to treat you? Give yourself permission to derserve more out of a relationship. "When you decide it is possible, you will do..." Part of loving yourself is setting boundaries about how people treat you. If the comment isn't of love, ask for what purpose is that comment?
My wife and have a very open relationship and we speak our truth to each other from a place of love. Our comments to each other are feedback in order to assist each other to grow as individuals, and to be the best we can be to each other for the long run. I wish you the best.
rmknlp@yahoo.com
"I'm a married man now"
Posted by: turnups
Posted on: 2002-12-21 22:28:20
Thats what my husband told me after I tried to discuss his weight problem with him in a very understanding and caring way. I am 29 years old and we have been married now for almost 2 years. In that time my husband has gained almost 100 lbs. I dont' even know what he weights because he won't weight himself. He hasn't been to the Dr. for over a year now. He only goes to the emergency room when he gets really bad indigestion and he thinks that he is having a heart attack. To me that means that he does not care about me enough to care about how he appears to me. Which latley is becomming repulsive. I find myself going to bed early just so I don't have to have sex with him. I hate myself and feel like a terrible wife but I feel that if he has no respect for himself how can he respect me. I try to reason with him and explain to him that I am concerned about his health more than anything(heart desease and diabeates runs in his family) and I wish for him to be able to do things with our son. I don't know what else to do. I have tried everything I cook low fat try to get him to come for walks with me and our son, but he works shift work and I know for a fact that he eats nothing but junk food when he is working. I am praying that someone out there might have any ideas on how to approach this.
Posted by: turnups
Posted on: 2002-12-21 22:28:20
Thats what my husband told me after I tried to discuss his weight problem with him in a very understanding and caring way. I am 29 years old and we have been married now for almost 2 years. In that time my husband has gained almost 100 lbs. I dont' even know what he weights because he won't weight himself. He hasn't been to the Dr. for over a year now. He only goes to the emergency room when he gets really bad indigestion and he thinks that he is having a heart attack. To me that means that he does not care about me enough to care about how he appears to me. Which latley is becomming repulsive. I find myself going to bed early just so I don't have to have sex with him. I hate myself and feel like a terrible wife but I feel that if he has no respect for himself how can he respect me. I try to reason with him and explain to him that I am concerned about his health more than anything(heart desease and diabeates runs in his family) and I wish for him to be able to do things with our son. I don't know what else to do. I have tried everything I cook low fat try to get him to come for walks with me and our son, but he works shift work and I know for a fact that he eats nothing but junk food when he is working. I am praying that someone out there might have any ideas on how to approach this.
I let myself go too!
Posted by: virginiabr
Posted on: 2002-12-16 14:05:40
Dear Dr. Phil,
I was Married November 1989 separated June 1990, my mother died June 1991. I have had at least twenty five jobs since 1989. I have been losing control for years. I finally divorced Dec 2001. I have a great primary physician. We organized my medical priorities. I tried to organize my SELF. I finally quit smoking. My blood pressure is under control. I just took myself off Zoloft. The best drug in the whole wide world. I decided to quit the accounting profession(Controller) and become a school teacher. I re-enrolled in college for a second bachelors in education and eventually my first masters. I need to lose 100 pounds easy. At 5'8" weighing in at 283 pounds. I am a forty two year old sexy black women. With the right mentality I can effectively restructure my life. How to restructure stressful eating? Cutting stressful people out is horrible. I love them but I must let them go. My husband betrayed me when he said he did not like my weight. I thought I looked good to him. He lied. He couldn't touch me on the inside. In fact he made me hurt on the inside. I went to this party this weekend and when I danced with this man he touched me in such a way I melted in his arms. I loved every squeeze, touch, embrace, hug, hold, caress. A stranger touched me on the inside, brought joy to my sad spirit. I control my spirit and all that affects it. If you can't come with joy then leave. I can be sad all by myself. I love you Dr.Phil. Lets lose weight. Virginia Brisbane
Posted by: virginiabr
Posted on: 2002-12-16 14:05:40
Dear Dr. Phil,
I was Married November 1989 separated June 1990, my mother died June 1991. I have had at least twenty five jobs since 1989. I have been losing control for years. I finally divorced Dec 2001. I have a great primary physician. We organized my medical priorities. I tried to organize my SELF. I finally quit smoking. My blood pressure is under control. I just took myself off Zoloft. The best drug in the whole wide world. I decided to quit the accounting profession(Controller) and become a school teacher. I re-enrolled in college for a second bachelors in education and eventually my first masters. I need to lose 100 pounds easy. At 5'8" weighing in at 283 pounds. I am a forty two year old sexy black women. With the right mentality I can effectively restructure my life. How to restructure stressful eating? Cutting stressful people out is horrible. I love them but I must let them go. My husband betrayed me when he said he did not like my weight. I thought I looked good to him. He lied. He couldn't touch me on the inside. In fact he made me hurt on the inside. I went to this party this weekend and when I danced with this man he touched me in such a way I melted in his arms. I loved every squeeze, touch, embrace, hug, hold, caress. A stranger touched me on the inside, brought joy to my sad spirit. I control my spirit and all that affects it. If you can't come with joy then leave. I can be sad all by myself. I love you Dr.Phil. Lets lose weight. Virginia Brisbane
I understand
Posted by: sockotaco
Posted on: 2002-12-16 16:00:26
I must say that I understand where you are coming from when it comes to letting yourself go. I think there are several issues with this. One I think that it is a lack of self esteem and the other is not feeling important from the other partner. When people gain weight or they tend to let themselves go it usually has something to do with how they are feeling or how their partner is making them feel. When you are in a marriage or relationship it is important to remember how the other person feels in the way you treat them or how you conduct yourself towards them. Making them feel wanted and needed is usually the biggest. That is usually the case when it comes to those who do not care about what they look like because, they feel so bad inside. It is important to all of us that we feel needed in some way. No matter how small the compliment ( it does wonders )!
Posted by: sockotaco
Posted on: 2002-12-16 16:00:26
I must say that I understand where you are coming from when it comes to letting yourself go. I think there are several issues with this. One I think that it is a lack of self esteem and the other is not feeling important from the other partner. When people gain weight or they tend to let themselves go it usually has something to do with how they are feeling or how their partner is making them feel. When you are in a marriage or relationship it is important to remember how the other person feels in the way you treat them or how you conduct yourself towards them. Making them feel wanted and needed is usually the biggest. That is usually the case when it comes to those who do not care about what they look like because, they feel so bad inside. It is important to all of us that we feel needed in some way. No matter how small the compliment ( it does wonders )!
Let myself go!!
Posted by: mickieg1
Posted on: 2002-12-16 16:23:57
WOW- what an awakening. I have let myself go - not all my fault. I have parkinson did have brain surgery in 3/2002 plus knee replacement in 8/2002, so my movement is limited - but I always manage to make it to the refrigerator for comfort. I have the best husband works 6 days aweek plus takes care of me, still calls me gorgeous, even when I don't even comb my hair all day. Hearing your guests made me think about my situation and what I can do so thank you Dr Phil - the choice is mine and I make the choice to change...... Thanks again Mickie
Posted by: mickieg1
Posted on: 2002-12-16 16:23:57
WOW- what an awakening. I have let myself go - not all my fault. I have parkinson did have brain surgery in 3/2002 plus knee replacement in 8/2002, so my movement is limited - but I always manage to make it to the refrigerator for comfort. I have the best husband works 6 days aweek plus takes care of me, still calls me gorgeous, even when I don't even comb my hair all day. Hearing your guests made me think about my situation and what I can do so thank you Dr Phil - the choice is mine and I make the choice to change...... Thanks again Mickie
debbie53
Posted by: debbie53
Posted on: 2002-12-16 18:08:30
Hi Mickie this is Debbie that was on the show. I hope that my bearing it all helps you and others. I have been home almost 3 months since it was taped and I still have not figured out how to lose. Dr. Phil promised us a book or instructions and I am still waiting on it. But I have to make up my mind to do it and get with it. It is live or death with me and I have to get busy with it. Perhaps together we can do. My email is debbie53@tampabay.rr.com and you can write me and we can keep in touch. Dona is doing great, she got a job and is getting out more. I am doing better too and my husband is staying home more with me. I never looked at it as "letting myself go" but it is time to stare it in the face and fix it. On the TV I noticed that i did not have a jaw line and I want one NOW and I am going to get it. I hope you write me and thanks again for the positive note
Posted by: debbie53
Posted on: 2002-12-16 18:08:30
Hi Mickie this is Debbie that was on the show. I hope that my bearing it all helps you and others. I have been home almost 3 months since it was taped and I still have not figured out how to lose. Dr. Phil promised us a book or instructions and I am still waiting on it. But I have to make up my mind to do it and get with it. It is live or death with me and I have to get busy with it. Perhaps together we can do. My email is debbie53@tampabay.rr.com and you can write me and we can keep in touch. Dona is doing great, she got a job and is getting out more. I am doing better too and my husband is staying home more with me. I never looked at it as "letting myself go" but it is time to stare it in the face and fix it. On the TV I noticed that i did not have a jaw line and I want one NOW and I am going to get it. I hope you write me and thanks again for the positive note
Nice to meet you
Posted by: virginiabr
Posted on: 2002-12-16 22:56:47
Hi Debbie,
It is great meeting you. I am Virginia. I might be the fifth message on this board. Before my mom died and during the breakup of my marriage, I was on the telephone with my mother just crying. She said what will it take to make you feel better? She told me to do whatever it took to make myself feel better. That was a weight watchers portion of chocolate ice cream you were eating. That is not poison if you do it once a week. Time to treat yourself. You want treadmill, a one month spa retreat in Jamaica. I go to an all female gym in my town. My reward for completing my second degree will be a spa pampering vacation where Enrie gives me the most magical massage. I love you.
Posted by: virginiabr
Posted on: 2002-12-16 22:56:47
Hi Debbie,
It is great meeting you. I am Virginia. I might be the fifth message on this board. Before my mom died and during the breakup of my marriage, I was on the telephone with my mother just crying. She said what will it take to make you feel better? She told me to do whatever it took to make myself feel better. That was a weight watchers portion of chocolate ice cream you were eating. That is not poison if you do it once a week. Time to treat yourself. You want treadmill, a one month spa retreat in Jamaica. I go to an all female gym in my town. My reward for completing my second degree will be a spa pampering vacation where Enrie gives me the most magical massage. I love you.
CURVES!
Posted by: surfnsand
Posted on: 2002-12-17 00:49:00
Hi ladies, I have been reading the comments and want to thank you for being on the show today. I have found a FABULOUS fitness center for women that is only a 30 minute workout and it is SO FUN! It is called Curves, The women are of all ages and sizes, you get a Total Body Work out and Cardio too. The machines are hydralic so if you need to start slow....you do, then you can slowly build up. I love it there, I have made lots of new friends and they have a weight loss program too. It is the perfect place to go, the ladies that work there are fun, supportaive and "real".
I hope that you will look into it, as I know you too will love it.
Best of luck ladies.
Surfnsand
Posted by: surfnsand
Posted on: 2002-12-17 00:49:00
Hi ladies, I have been reading the comments and want to thank you for being on the show today. I have found a FABULOUS fitness center for women that is only a 30 minute workout and it is SO FUN! It is called Curves, The women are of all ages and sizes, you get a Total Body Work out and Cardio too. The machines are hydralic so if you need to start slow....you do, then you can slowly build up. I love it there, I have made lots of new friends and they have a weight loss program too. It is the perfect place to go, the ladies that work there are fun, supportaive and "real".
I hope that you will look into it, as I know you too will love it.
Best of luck ladies.
Surfnsand
to debbie53
Posted by: rmknlp
Posted on: 2002-12-17 12:30:23
I want to thank you debbie for having the guts to get up there are talk about things, I am a personal development coach and your story and the show assisted me with my learning and my clients. Instead of "weight loss" I like to say it is a "weight shift" then we see it not as a "loss", a shift into what we want. Think of a realistic weight you like to be, "Goal", "Plan" for it to happen; a walk around the block, down the street and back, even around the yard.
then watch that your Behavior supports your Plan, that in turn supports your Goal.
And love yourself for every little step you take to get to the Goal. Even little steps are a success. If my goal is to drink more water, when I drink one more glass of water a day, then I have been, that's a success. It leads our minds with compassion. It motivates us to do more. "When you decide that it is possible, you will do.." rmknlp@yahoo.com
Posted by: rmknlp
Posted on: 2002-12-17 12:30:23
I want to thank you debbie for having the guts to get up there are talk about things, I am a personal development coach and your story and the show assisted me with my learning and my clients. Instead of "weight loss" I like to say it is a "weight shift" then we see it not as a "loss", a shift into what we want. Think of a realistic weight you like to be, "Goal", "Plan" for it to happen; a walk around the block, down the street and back, even around the yard.
then watch that your Behavior supports your Plan, that in turn supports your Goal.
And love yourself for every little step you take to get to the Goal. Even little steps are a success. If my goal is to drink more water, when I drink one more glass of water a day, then I have been, that's a success. It leads our minds with compassion. It motivates us to do more. "When you decide that it is possible, you will do.." rmknlp@yahoo.com
