11/14 Moments of Crisis
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6Posted by: funnygirl4
Posted on: 2002-11-14 08:38:42
I was kidnapped and raped at gun point 10yrs ago and i got over that because of my positive thinking and my sence of humor.
He was put in jail let out on bail, jumped bail and was never found.
5YRS ago my ex-boyfriend at the time tried to murder me in my sleep and beat me also, it went to trial he got 3yrs and did 5mos. I GOT through the pts by giving myself the respect i needed and working to fight the pts and a sence of humor aways helped me.
Now i face the possiblity of being in a wheelchair for the rest of my life and no relations with a man either, but i will embrace this instead of fighting it.IM ONLY 46 but it could be worse and its just good to be alive.ITS just another adventure with some gliches to deal with, we call all survive our ordeals with faith and a sence of humor
THANKS
FUNNYGIRL4
Finding the strength in laughter
Posted by: lnance28
Posted on: 2002-11-14 18:33:27
You know what, I have found that in times of hard times it is easier for me to cope with my sense of humor. It keeps me cheery when I want to be cring.
I am amazed by you and others like you that have survived far more than I ever had thus far and still are going. I applaude you for your strength!
Posted by: lnance28
Posted on: 2002-11-14 18:33:27
You know what, I have found that in times of hard times it is easier for me to cope with my sense of humor. It keeps me cheery when I want to be cring.
I am amazed by you and others like you that have survived far more than I ever had thus far and still are going. I applaude you for your strength!
breakup
Posted by: qb13fan
Posted on: 2005-05-20 19:39:07
I am new here and hope someone is out there that can help me breakup with my BF. He is in New York right now, and yes, he is seeing another woman while he is there. I have known about this for about 2 years. Now it has gotten to the point where he expects me to put up with it. He still denies it but I am tired of it but it still hurts.
Posted by: qb13fan
Posted on: 2005-05-20 19:39:07
I am new here and hope someone is out there that can help me breakup with my BF. He is in New York right now, and yes, he is seeing another woman while he is there. I have known about this for about 2 years. Now it has gotten to the point where he expects me to put up with it. He still denies it but I am tired of it but it still hurts.
43 With Wheels Attached to My Butt
Posted by: wheels43
Posted on: 2003-03-07 07:19:25
I am 43 years old and have been a paraplegic for over 20 years. My paralysis was caused by syringomyelia (spinal cords cysts). Balance problems began when I was pregnant with my second child. After two, very serious, and unsuccessful spinal cord surgeries, I progressively lost use of my legs. Shortly thereafter, my husband and I divorced. I raised two children, as a single mother with no financial or emotional support from their out-of-state father. My kids were two and five then. It was difficult, but we managed. Life in a wheelchair isn't the end of the world. I had to accept that there were things that I would never be able to do, however, I managed to find a lot of things I could.I have gone on two white water river trips, which lasted several days. You haven't lived till you have had to rinse the sand out of your underwear and your wheelchair!
I have also tried snow skiing, though I could never figure out why people would want to hurtle themselves down a snow-packed moutain. My most exciting adventure was when I did a tandem 9,000 foot sky dive. Not only did I feel as if I had really accomplished something, it was a ******* blast! You just have to "Go For It!" Let nothing stand in your way. I survive with a warped sense of humor, a good support group and a job that I love. (I am a 911 dispatcher). You have won half the battle with your determined attitude. Good luck and my prayers are with you.
Posted by: wheels43
Posted on: 2003-03-07 07:19:25
I am 43 years old and have been a paraplegic for over 20 years. My paralysis was caused by syringomyelia (spinal cords cysts). Balance problems began when I was pregnant with my second child. After two, very serious, and unsuccessful spinal cord surgeries, I progressively lost use of my legs. Shortly thereafter, my husband and I divorced. I raised two children, as a single mother with no financial or emotional support from their out-of-state father. My kids were two and five then. It was difficult, but we managed. Life in a wheelchair isn't the end of the world. I had to accept that there were things that I would never be able to do, however, I managed to find a lot of things I could.I have gone on two white water river trips, which lasted several days. You haven't lived till you have had to rinse the sand out of your underwear and your wheelchair!
I have also tried snow skiing, though I could never figure out why people would want to hurtle themselves down a snow-packed moutain. My most exciting adventure was when I did a tandem 9,000 foot sky dive. Not only did I feel as if I had really accomplished something, it was a ******* blast! You just have to "Go For It!" Let nothing stand in your way. I survive with a warped sense of humor, a good support group and a job that I love. (I am a 911 dispatcher). You have won half the battle with your determined attitude. Good luck and my prayers are with you.
Sexual abuse can destroy the spirit
Posted by: buffy95
Posted on: 2005-01-19 16:29:45
You are an amazing person to go through what you've been through and come out of it okay. I too have suffered from sexual abuse, throughout my childhood and through some of my adult years too; and it amazes me to read stories like yours, where you have overcome tragedy to triumph! I've found that sexual abuse is one of the worst forms of abuse anyone can suffer from, as it links directly into your soul, and can destroy the spirit. When my repressed memories surfaced, I went through a hell of an ordeal, in accepting the memories as truth, and then dealing with it, and moving on. Actually, I'm still dealing with it, and suffering from it, through an eating disorder, but like most of us at Dr Phil Dot Com, I'm trying to overcome that and hope to put my yo yo-ing weight into some sort of management, and control, where I can be trully free, to be thin, and not fear being sexually attractive, which has been my brick wall, for so many years. It's stories like yours that gives me hope for the future, and that I can overcome the pains of the past, to a brighter and happier future, thanks for sharing; and thanks for your humour too! I believe it's far better to laugh than to cry, and try to do this myself, wherever I can, so keep laughing girl, coz the whole world is smiling with you. Thanks for reading, cheers - Buffy95
Posted by: buffy95
Posted on: 2005-01-19 16:29:45
You are an amazing person to go through what you've been through and come out of it okay. I too have suffered from sexual abuse, throughout my childhood and through some of my adult years too; and it amazes me to read stories like yours, where you have overcome tragedy to triumph! I've found that sexual abuse is one of the worst forms of abuse anyone can suffer from, as it links directly into your soul, and can destroy the spirit. When my repressed memories surfaced, I went through a hell of an ordeal, in accepting the memories as truth, and then dealing with it, and moving on. Actually, I'm still dealing with it, and suffering from it, through an eating disorder, but like most of us at Dr Phil Dot Com, I'm trying to overcome that and hope to put my yo yo-ing weight into some sort of management, and control, where I can be trully free, to be thin, and not fear being sexually attractive, which has been my brick wall, for so many years. It's stories like yours that gives me hope for the future, and that I can overcome the pains of the past, to a brighter and happier future, thanks for sharing; and thanks for your humour too! I believe it's far better to laugh than to cry, and try to do this myself, wherever I can, so keep laughing girl, coz the whole world is smiling with you. Thanks for reading, cheers - Buffy95
Survivor!
Posted by: johnfe
Posted on: 2002-11-14 10:11:00
In 1985, I was leaving work as a diemaker and got ran over by a semi...or he attempted too. After the initial impact, I had enough awareness to grab onto an axel to stop from being totally ran over and if it weren't for the first EMT response, I wouldn't be typing this today. I almost died 3 times as a result of this...my father being called to come see his son die. My body, from my chest on down was serverly scared, ripping the skin from my legs and buttocks like someone taking their socks off at night...I was treated in every sense like a burn patient and know the true meaning of PAIN!
I spent 2 mo.'s in ICU, another in Med surg. and then spent another 3 mo.'s learning how to walk on crutches. I was told I'd never walk again, have children or a normal life by the doctors. I kicked them out of my room.
Today, I've had over 32 surgeries as a result, am disabled, but only in a physical aspect. I walk with a noticable limp, have 3 wonderful children and do as much as I can ...being told by most that they don't see me as handicapped because of my attitude.
Some of us have lessor or worse stories, but I thank God for the ability to get through all of it, forgive the truck driver and to be able to move on in life. I lost alot...but I gained in a whole other way....where we loose in one area, we gain in others.....our solice is knowing that we were spared for a REASON.
Posted by: johnfe
Posted on: 2002-11-14 10:11:00
In 1985, I was leaving work as a diemaker and got ran over by a semi...or he attempted too. After the initial impact, I had enough awareness to grab onto an axel to stop from being totally ran over and if it weren't for the first EMT response, I wouldn't be typing this today. I almost died 3 times as a result of this...my father being called to come see his son die. My body, from my chest on down was serverly scared, ripping the skin from my legs and buttocks like someone taking their socks off at night...I was treated in every sense like a burn patient and know the true meaning of PAIN!
I spent 2 mo.'s in ICU, another in Med surg. and then spent another 3 mo.'s learning how to walk on crutches. I was told I'd never walk again, have children or a normal life by the doctors. I kicked them out of my room.
Today, I've had over 32 surgeries as a result, am disabled, but only in a physical aspect. I walk with a noticable limp, have 3 wonderful children and do as much as I can ...being told by most that they don't see me as handicapped because of my attitude.
Some of us have lessor or worse stories, but I thank God for the ability to get through all of it, forgive the truck driver and to be able to move on in life. I lost alot...but I gained in a whole other way....where we loose in one area, we gain in others.....our solice is knowing that we were spared for a REASON.
johnfe survivor
Posted by: use2bme
Posted on: 2002-11-14 21:02:54
Your story touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes. I am very sorry for your accident and the pain it caused, I truly am.
I wish I had it in me still to pull out of my dilemma. I have changed not the same person anymore and feel I am lost. That I have lost me. I did not have such a horrendous life event such as yourself but mine devastated me and still paralyses me from moving on even though I have had counselling and medications for the last 2 yrs. I feel for you and I am very happy you have been able to move on/find the positiveness of it all. GOD BLESS! SIGNED JUDY- USE2BME
Posted by: use2bme
Posted on: 2002-11-14 21:02:54
Your story touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes. I am very sorry for your accident and the pain it caused, I truly am.
I wish I had it in me still to pull out of my dilemma. I have changed not the same person anymore and feel I am lost. That I have lost me. I did not have such a horrendous life event such as yourself but mine devastated me and still paralyses me from moving on even though I have had counselling and medications for the last 2 yrs. I feel for you and I am very happy you have been able to move on/find the positiveness of it all. GOD BLESS! SIGNED JUDY- USE2BME
POST TRAMATIC SYMDROM
Posted by: peggy333
Posted on: 2002-11-14 21:49:00
IT HAS BEEN 7 YEARS FOR ME AND I STILL AM UNABLE TO COPE. i CAME HOME FROM WORK AND FOUND MY 21 YEAR OLD SON DEAD..HE DIED IN BED OF A MASSIVE HEART ATTACK. THE ROOM HE WAS IN IS BURNED IN MY MEMORY..I CAN STILL SEE HIM AND WHERE EVERYTHING WAS, HOW HE WAS LAYING...I STILL CAN SEE IT ALL...I HAD JUST LOST MY FATHER A COUPLE OF MONTHS BEFORE THAT, HAD A HEART ATTACK..THEN LOST MY SON AND A WEEK AFTER HIS FUNERAL I HAD TO PUT MY MOTHER WHO WAS MY BEST FRIEND INTO THE HOSPITAL..SHE DIED IN METHODIST HOSPITAL IN HOUSTON..ALMOST 2 MONTHS TO MY SON'S EXACT DATE OF HIS DEATH...I HAVE SINCE HAD TO STOP WORKING, SUFFER FROM DEEP DEPRESSION, PANIC AND ANXIETY ATTACKS AND MY HEALTH HAS TOTALY GONE DOWN HILL..I SUFFER FROM HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, HIGH CHOLESTEROL, DIABETIS, 2 COLON DISEASES, OBESITY.HAVE STOPPED SEEING AND TALKING TO ALL MY FRIENDS...I NEVER GET DRESSED OR LEAVE THE HOUSE UNLESS IT'S TO GO TO DOCTORS...I DO BELIEVE THAT MY OTHER SON WHO WAS 19 AT THE TIME OF HIS BROTHERS DEATH BLAMES ME DUE TO ALL THE HEART CONDITIONS ON MY SIDE OF THE FAMILY...HE IS 27 NOW AND VERY RARELY TALKS TO ME...SO I FEEL LIKE I REALLY LOST BOTH MY SONS...THANK GOD FOR MY HUSBAND OF 30 YEARS...I HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING AND AM ALWAYS CHECKING ON MY SON AND HUSBAND TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE BREATHING DURING THE NIGHT...I CAN NOT GO INTO THE BEDROOM WHERE MY SON DIED..WHICH IS WHERE MY OTHER SON SLEEPS NOW..I CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO OPEN THE DOOR ....I HAVE TO STAND THERE FOR A FEW MINUTES THEN OPEN THE DOOR
Posted by: peggy333
Posted on: 2002-11-14 21:49:00
IT HAS BEEN 7 YEARS FOR ME AND I STILL AM UNABLE TO COPE. i CAME HOME FROM WORK AND FOUND MY 21 YEAR OLD SON DEAD..HE DIED IN BED OF A MASSIVE HEART ATTACK. THE ROOM HE WAS IN IS BURNED IN MY MEMORY..I CAN STILL SEE HIM AND WHERE EVERYTHING WAS, HOW HE WAS LAYING...I STILL CAN SEE IT ALL...I HAD JUST LOST MY FATHER A COUPLE OF MONTHS BEFORE THAT, HAD A HEART ATTACK..THEN LOST MY SON AND A WEEK AFTER HIS FUNERAL I HAD TO PUT MY MOTHER WHO WAS MY BEST FRIEND INTO THE HOSPITAL..SHE DIED IN METHODIST HOSPITAL IN HOUSTON..ALMOST 2 MONTHS TO MY SON'S EXACT DATE OF HIS DEATH...I HAVE SINCE HAD TO STOP WORKING, SUFFER FROM DEEP DEPRESSION, PANIC AND ANXIETY ATTACKS AND MY HEALTH HAS TOTALY GONE DOWN HILL..I SUFFER FROM HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, HIGH CHOLESTEROL, DIABETIS, 2 COLON DISEASES, OBESITY.HAVE STOPPED SEEING AND TALKING TO ALL MY FRIENDS...I NEVER GET DRESSED OR LEAVE THE HOUSE UNLESS IT'S TO GO TO DOCTORS...I DO BELIEVE THAT MY OTHER SON WHO WAS 19 AT THE TIME OF HIS BROTHERS DEATH BLAMES ME DUE TO ALL THE HEART CONDITIONS ON MY SIDE OF THE FAMILY...HE IS 27 NOW AND VERY RARELY TALKS TO ME...SO I FEEL LIKE I REALLY LOST BOTH MY SONS...THANK GOD FOR MY HUSBAND OF 30 YEARS...I HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING AND AM ALWAYS CHECKING ON MY SON AND HUSBAND TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE BREATHING DURING THE NIGHT...I CAN NOT GO INTO THE BEDROOM WHERE MY SON DIED..WHICH IS WHERE MY OTHER SON SLEEPS NOW..I CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO OPEN THE DOOR ....I HAVE TO STAND THERE FOR A FEW MINUTES THEN OPEN THE DOOR
death
Posted by: aviator
Posted on: 2002-11-15 11:17:10
I lost my father about a year ago and had many of the same responses you did. I have a sister whom, I feel, irrationally blames me for his death. In my case, I found that reading a book about grief helped a little (The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James, Russell Friedman) as well as making a huge scrapbook of my Dad's life experiences. Finally, I'm starting to slowly talk to this sister and figure out what she's been thinking. I think you should talk to your 27 year old ASAP to see how he feels, from his lips. He may not be blaming you for the death. He may be feeling like he lost his mother as well as his brother. It is hard to live in the shadow of a sibling's death. My condolences on the major losses in your family. (hug)
Posted by: aviator
Posted on: 2002-11-15 11:17:10
I lost my father about a year ago and had many of the same responses you did. I have a sister whom, I feel, irrationally blames me for his death. In my case, I found that reading a book about grief helped a little (The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James, Russell Friedman) as well as making a huge scrapbook of my Dad's life experiences. Finally, I'm starting to slowly talk to this sister and figure out what she's been thinking. I think you should talk to your 27 year old ASAP to see how he feels, from his lips. He may not be blaming you for the death. He may be feeling like he lost his mother as well as his brother. It is hard to live in the shadow of a sibling's death. My condolences on the major losses in your family. (hug)
Parental and Sibling Death
Posted by: buffy95
Posted on: 2005-01-19 21:39:59
I was moved by your message, in trying to help another, in their grieving process. And I'm glad that you're starting to reach out to your sister a little more than you had been. I've suffered with a lot of family death, I've lost my grandparents, my husband's grandparents, most of my uncles and aunties, my parents (that was the hardest death to overcome) and I've lost a couple of siblings along the way. Throughout my vast experience with grief, I've found that people grieve in many ways and at differing time lengths. I'll never forget how I naively said to a friend once that "it's been 3 months since my mother's death, I should be over it by now!" What I have since learnt, is that you never get over a parental death (child or sibling's passing) but you learn to live with it. You learn to live each day without bursting into tears every time you hear their name; you learn to live with being able to talk about them without feeling like you're gonna break down with the mere mention of their name; you learn to laugh again and find joy in the little things; you learn that you can be happy, without guilt, over their passing, and you dont' always have to remain sad, etc. I've learned lots about the human spirit, through my experiences with death, and how people feel about it. The most valuable lesson to be learned here, is to not stress over the small stuff, and never take anyone for granted, coz you never know when it might be the very last time you see them. One more final lesson, I've learned that just because of the way a fellow sibling responds to a parental death, doesn't mean they'll be that way forever, people and circusmtances do change, no matter how difficult that person might be to live with, at the time of the parental (or family member's) death. Be blessed, thanks for reading me and I hope your relationship with your sister continues to improve - Buffy95
Posted by: buffy95
Posted on: 2005-01-19 21:39:59
I was moved by your message, in trying to help another, in their grieving process. And I'm glad that you're starting to reach out to your sister a little more than you had been. I've suffered with a lot of family death, I've lost my grandparents, my husband's grandparents, most of my uncles and aunties, my parents (that was the hardest death to overcome) and I've lost a couple of siblings along the way. Throughout my vast experience with grief, I've found that people grieve in many ways and at differing time lengths. I'll never forget how I naively said to a friend once that "it's been 3 months since my mother's death, I should be over it by now!" What I have since learnt, is that you never get over a parental death (child or sibling's passing) but you learn to live with it. You learn to live each day without bursting into tears every time you hear their name; you learn to live with being able to talk about them without feeling like you're gonna break down with the mere mention of their name; you learn to laugh again and find joy in the little things; you learn that you can be happy, without guilt, over their passing, and you dont' always have to remain sad, etc. I've learned lots about the human spirit, through my experiences with death, and how people feel about it. The most valuable lesson to be learned here, is to not stress over the small stuff, and never take anyone for granted, coz you never know when it might be the very last time you see them. One more final lesson, I've learned that just because of the way a fellow sibling responds to a parental death, doesn't mean they'll be that way forever, people and circusmtances do change, no matter how difficult that person might be to live with, at the time of the parental (or family member's) death. Be blessed, thanks for reading me and I hope your relationship with your sister continues to improve - Buffy95
TO PEGGY
Posted by: arlene753
Posted on: 2002-11-16 22:42:31
I WAS SO SORRY TO READ YOUR LETTER. I KNOW THE WORST THING IS TO LOSE YOUR CHILD. IF I EVER LOST MY CHILD,I FEEL I WOULD NOT WANT TO LIVE CAUSE I LOVE HIM MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE. SO I FELT VERY SAD TO READ THAT YOUR SON DIED AT AGE 21. MAYBE YOU CAN JOIN A GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP TO HELP YOU THROUGH THIS. YOUR HUSBAND AND OTHER SON STILL NEED YOU VERY MUCH I AM SURE.GOD BLESS YOU.
Posted by: arlene753
Posted on: 2002-11-16 22:42:31
I WAS SO SORRY TO READ YOUR LETTER. I KNOW THE WORST THING IS TO LOSE YOUR CHILD. IF I EVER LOST MY CHILD,I FEEL I WOULD NOT WANT TO LIVE CAUSE I LOVE HIM MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE. SO I FELT VERY SAD TO READ THAT YOUR SON DIED AT AGE 21. MAYBE YOU CAN JOIN A GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP TO HELP YOU THROUGH THIS. YOUR HUSBAND AND OTHER SON STILL NEED YOU VERY MUCH I AM SURE.GOD BLESS YOU.
Peggy
Posted by: cherieamc
Posted on: 2003-01-21 23:21:47
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son.My 15yr.old daughter was killed in a car accident last year and like you it is so hard to continue with everyday life. I am married and have a 13 yr.old daughter, and I feel a lot of quilt for not being the kind of wife & mother they deserve, but it is so hard. I loved my daughter so much and she was such a good kid and loved life and I hurt for her. I too have the thoughts of her death, she was not with me when she died and I wish I could have been there to hold her. We always told each other " I love you", as we did that day, which I am grateful for, but it hurts so much!! I wish there was something I could tell you to help ease your pain, but I know how you feel and you will be in my Prayers.
Posted by: cherieamc
Posted on: 2003-01-21 23:21:47
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son.My 15yr.old daughter was killed in a car accident last year and like you it is so hard to continue with everyday life. I am married and have a 13 yr.old daughter, and I feel a lot of quilt for not being the kind of wife & mother they deserve, but it is so hard. I loved my daughter so much and she was such a good kid and loved life and I hurt for her. I too have the thoughts of her death, she was not with me when she died and I wish I could have been there to hold her. We always told each other " I love you", as we did that day, which I am grateful for, but it hurts so much!! I wish there was something I could tell you to help ease your pain, but I know how you feel and you will be in my Prayers.
Survivor?
Posted by: clowee
Posted on: 2003-04-11 13:26:16
Hello, my name is Sabina K. Ehrenhardt. I am a survivor of a car accident that occured March 23, 1998. I was in a coma for 2 1/2 months, collapes one lung and partically the other. Broke my whole right side of my body including my shattered pelvis! I lost 14 pts. of blood and have had a brain injury. All I have to say is Phewww! It is five years since the accident and a lot of therapies like physical and occupational as well as speech. I went to Hiram G. Andrew (in Johnstown P.A.) to get my Medical Office Associates degree. I am a survivor but am I mentally? I can never just let go it seems. Does anyone or Dr. Phil and Jay have any advice? I get so upset and frusterated about it because there are times I just think about ending it all. Every night when I go to bed, I think of the accident that I do not recollect it happing. I only remember what people have told me so I imagine how it was. I also get a fear of my parents and friends getting into a accident and my best-friend did get into one. She's find but still. I sometimes imagine about things happening and they seem to happen a week or so down the line. What's that about?
I am working on a book about my accident on 3-23-98 and on... I do not expect to be finished with it until I at least have kids. I want to include everything but at the same time I just want to write about the accident and coping skills. Help me first if you can!
Posted by: clowee
Posted on: 2003-04-11 13:26:16
Hello, my name is Sabina K. Ehrenhardt. I am a survivor of a car accident that occured March 23, 1998. I was in a coma for 2 1/2 months, collapes one lung and partically the other. Broke my whole right side of my body including my shattered pelvis! I lost 14 pts. of blood and have had a brain injury. All I have to say is Phewww! It is five years since the accident and a lot of therapies like physical and occupational as well as speech. I went to Hiram G. Andrew (in Johnstown P.A.) to get my Medical Office Associates degree. I am a survivor but am I mentally? I can never just let go it seems. Does anyone or Dr. Phil and Jay have any advice? I get so upset and frusterated about it because there are times I just think about ending it all. Every night when I go to bed, I think of the accident that I do not recollect it happing. I only remember what people have told me so I imagine how it was. I also get a fear of my parents and friends getting into a accident and my best-friend did get into one. She's find but still. I sometimes imagine about things happening and they seem to happen a week or so down the line. What's that about?
I am working on a book about my accident on 3-23-98 and on... I do not expect to be finished with it until I at least have kids. I want to include everything but at the same time I just want to write about the accident and coping skills. Help me first if you can!
WOW!!!
Posted by: zahn123
Posted on: 2002-11-14 10:43:38
Triumph over tragedy, wow. Your all so strong and courageous. My heart and respect goes out to all of you.
Posted by: zahn123
Posted on: 2002-11-14 10:43:38
Triumph over tragedy, wow. Your all so strong and courageous. My heart and respect goes out to all of you.
Opportunities!
Posted by: denzdoll
Posted on: 2002-11-14 12:14:11
I have so much respect for those who suffer tragedies and tell about it. Each experience is a GIFT or a BURDEN. The choice is yours alone.
We have no problems, only OPPORTUNITIES to overcome! What a GIFT!
"You ain't gotta like it, you only have to deal with it" is a quote I hear my brother who passed away 10 years ago, telling me each time I go thru trials in my life.
I had surgery on both knees last year and it was successful. However, a disease called RSD developed which left me totally and permanently disabled. God has given me yet another OPPORTUNITY to become the person He wants for some unknown reason.
Don't dwell on the burdens of your lives, give God the glory of the GIFTS OF OPPORTUNITIES!!
God bless you all!
Posted by: denzdoll
Posted on: 2002-11-14 12:14:11
I have so much respect for those who suffer tragedies and tell about it. Each experience is a GIFT or a BURDEN. The choice is yours alone.
We have no problems, only OPPORTUNITIES to overcome! What a GIFT!
"You ain't gotta like it, you only have to deal with it" is a quote I hear my brother who passed away 10 years ago, telling me each time I go thru trials in my life.
I had surgery on both knees last year and it was successful. However, a disease called RSD developed which left me totally and permanently disabled. God has given me yet another OPPORTUNITY to become the person He wants for some unknown reason.
Don't dwell on the burdens of your lives, give God the glory of the GIFTS OF OPPORTUNITIES!!
God bless you all!
suan104
Posted by: suan104
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:23:06
Thank You all for sharing your courage! I've raised a wonderful daughter who is mildly developmentally delayed.She is,and continues to overcome this. At 17,she went through kidney failure and being put on a machine for 9 hours every night . Then just 7 months later she was in an auto accident and lost her right arm. And with faith,family,friends,wonderful medical care and tons of positive thinking , she has stayed strong. She graduated with her class,lives on her own ,recieved a new kidney and works with children. Overcoming these unexpected events has'nt slowed her down. I'm so happy to believe that tragic does'nt have to be tramatic,for anyone!!!
Posted by: suan104
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:23:06
Thank You all for sharing your courage! I've raised a wonderful daughter who is mildly developmentally delayed.She is,and continues to overcome this. At 17,she went through kidney failure and being put on a machine for 9 hours every night . Then just 7 months later she was in an auto accident and lost her right arm. And with faith,family,friends,wonderful medical care and tons of positive thinking , she has stayed strong. She graduated with her class,lives on her own ,recieved a new kidney and works with children. Overcoming these unexpected events has'nt slowed her down. I'm so happy to believe that tragic does'nt have to be tramatic,for anyone!!!
faith
Posted by: saragainey
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:26:26
todays show was wonderful, dr. phils sister in law and many more like her are to be admired for thier courage and determination.just when you think your life is bad you hear of someone else thats in worse shape than you, i admire you all.when ever times get tough i always try to remember the saying " THIS TOO SHALL PASS " .GOD bless and continued happiness to you all and your families.
Posted by: saragainey
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:26:26
todays show was wonderful, dr. phils sister in law and many more like her are to be admired for thier courage and determination.just when you think your life is bad you hear of someone else thats in worse shape than you, i admire you all.when ever times get tough i always try to remember the saying " THIS TOO SHALL PASS " .GOD bless and continued happiness to you all and your families.
Hit and Run
Posted by: bluebeam
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:26:30
August long weekend 1978, my friend and self were going out for coffee. At one intersection, the light turned green, we edged forwards on his motorcycle only to be greeted by a car that ran a red light. We later found out the estimated speed was 90 mph and the driver was never caught. My friend’s injuries was a fractured left foot, deep cuts and road rash, he was off work for 3 months. I dislocated my right shoulder, had a double compound fracture of my left leg and my left calf muscle looked like a shark bit a chunk from it. I spent one month in hospital and one and a half years not able to use my left leg. 24 years later I’m still thankful that the medical staff were able to sew my leg back together, set my bones and give me a chance to heal, I knew they honestly thought my leg would have to be removed that evening. The hurtful part while in hospital was comments by a nurse who told me because of the damage to the back of my leg, I would never be able to wear a dress, or shorts and as far as dating goes, good luck. Well was she ever wrong. This new friend (who’s motorcycle was toasted) spent everyday of that one month at my hospital bed, holding my hand and talking me through the physical and emotional pain. We got married and to this day share a strong love for each other and our 2 children. One area I’ve not been able to conquer is I know I’m still a nervous passenger in all vehicles. The physical scars I can live with, this nervous feeling has got to go. Any
Posted by: bluebeam
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:26:30
August long weekend 1978, my friend and self were going out for coffee. At one intersection, the light turned green, we edged forwards on his motorcycle only to be greeted by a car that ran a red light. We later found out the estimated speed was 90 mph and the driver was never caught. My friend’s injuries was a fractured left foot, deep cuts and road rash, he was off work for 3 months. I dislocated my right shoulder, had a double compound fracture of my left leg and my left calf muscle looked like a shark bit a chunk from it. I spent one month in hospital and one and a half years not able to use my left leg. 24 years later I’m still thankful that the medical staff were able to sew my leg back together, set my bones and give me a chance to heal, I knew they honestly thought my leg would have to be removed that evening. The hurtful part while in hospital was comments by a nurse who told me because of the damage to the back of my leg, I would never be able to wear a dress, or shorts and as far as dating goes, good luck. Well was she ever wrong. This new friend (who’s motorcycle was toasted) spent everyday of that one month at my hospital bed, holding my hand and talking me through the physical and emotional pain. We got married and to this day share a strong love for each other and our 2 children. One area I’ve not been able to conquer is I know I’m still a nervous passenger in all vehicles. The physical scars I can live with, this nervous feeling has got to go. Any
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Posted by: jayspin
Posted on: 2002-11-14 18:28:27
HI, Your story is one that seems to me happens more than any of us know. A similar thing happened to our neighbor's fiance about 20 years ago...he died. It's unsafe enough to ride in a vehicle. Why, I wonder, would anyone ride a motorcycle in a busy area? I realize it's a person's choice. I just think people have to make better choices. You are not protected at all riding a motorcycle, and your injuries sounded horrendous. You are fortunate to have healed and survived. I would discourage anyone from motorcycle riding because of what I know is happening out there. My son recently purchased a racing bike. He's a grown man and makes his own choices. It wouldn't, however, be my choice. Just pray to God to ease your fears. Our lives our in His hands every day, no matter where we are. jayspin
Posted by: jayspin
Posted on: 2002-11-14 18:28:27
HI, Your story is one that seems to me happens more than any of us know. A similar thing happened to our neighbor's fiance about 20 years ago...he died. It's unsafe enough to ride in a vehicle. Why, I wonder, would anyone ride a motorcycle in a busy area? I realize it's a person's choice. I just think people have to make better choices. You are not protected at all riding a motorcycle, and your injuries sounded horrendous. You are fortunate to have healed and survived. I would discourage anyone from motorcycle riding because of what I know is happening out there. My son recently purchased a racing bike. He's a grown man and makes his own choices. It wouldn't, however, be my choice. Just pray to God to ease your fears. Our lives our in His hands every day, no matter where we are. jayspin
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Posted by: downdeb
Posted on: 2002-11-14 22:45:12
This reply is to mostly to Jayspin.... I have to wonder if you would of said the same thing only if it was a car accident....why would anyone choose to ride in a car. Just because a motorcycle accident happened doesn't mean they are unsafe to the point of not riding. I am 52, a grandmother, have riden motorcycles since a young girl, my husband is a big motorcycle buff... our 3 grown children were raised to respect them, drive safely, and wear protective gear.. Everyday we get into our cars and drive..and wouldn't think of NOT driving them because someone got seriously hurt in a car accident.
My nephew died this past summer due to a motorcycle accident, he was 32yrs old,father of two children, an excellent driver, a racer actually and knew how to ride.. but his accident was just that an accident. His family is devastated but they have not ever said to anyone don't drive a motorcycle. We all make important choices, but sometimes it isn't the car or the vehicals fault, there are many things that happen that are responsible. Sometimes we just can't change it. I learned a lot about my nephew and his life. He was too young to go but knowing him he would of been happy he went doing what he loved. Life is about living, LIVE and try to not be paralized by fear, that is a slow death.
Posted by: downdeb
Posted on: 2002-11-14 22:45:12
This reply is to mostly to Jayspin.... I have to wonder if you would of said the same thing only if it was a car accident....why would anyone choose to ride in a car. Just because a motorcycle accident happened doesn't mean they are unsafe to the point of not riding. I am 52, a grandmother, have riden motorcycles since a young girl, my husband is a big motorcycle buff... our 3 grown children were raised to respect them, drive safely, and wear protective gear.. Everyday we get into our cars and drive..and wouldn't think of NOT driving them because someone got seriously hurt in a car accident.
My nephew died this past summer due to a motorcycle accident, he was 32yrs old,father of two children, an excellent driver, a racer actually and knew how to ride.. but his accident was just that an accident. His family is devastated but they have not ever said to anyone don't drive a motorcycle. We all make important choices, but sometimes it isn't the car or the vehicals fault, there are many things that happen that are responsible. Sometimes we just can't change it. I learned a lot about my nephew and his life. He was too young to go but knowing him he would of been happy he went doing what he loved. Life is about living, LIVE and try to not be paralized by fear, that is a slow death.
