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Posted by: shzskpdtwn
Posted on: 2003-01-23 08:56:21
Dear Dr. Phil,
I can't wait to see your show today on talking to your teens. I have two teenage boys 15 and 18 and just cant seem to get through to them. They are traveling down the path to destruction with drugs and my younger one just dosnt seem to even care. I have grounded him, pleaded with him to go to therapy, and nothing works. I dont want to wait until hes in jail or worse. What can I do?
My older boy has been using cyrstal meth and I think hes addicted. Hes been violent, with moood swings, loss of appetite, and days of not sleeping and eating. He said hes stopped but can he on his own?
I have called everywhere, talked to everyone and no one has offered much hope unless the boys are willing to go voluntarily. I spoke with my family doctor, and some drugs they cant even test for with Urine like ecstasy? Is this true? Please Dr. Phil, help me help them before its too late.
Posted by: shzskpdtwn
Posted on: 2003-01-23 08:56:21
Dear Dr. Phil,
I can't wait to see your show today on talking to your teens. I have two teenage boys 15 and 18 and just cant seem to get through to them. They are traveling down the path to destruction with drugs and my younger one just dosnt seem to even care. I have grounded him, pleaded with him to go to therapy, and nothing works. I dont want to wait until hes in jail or worse. What can I do?
My older boy has been using cyrstal meth and I think hes addicted. Hes been violent, with moood swings, loss of appetite, and days of not sleeping and eating. He said hes stopped but can he on his own?
I have called everywhere, talked to everyone and no one has offered much hope unless the boys are willing to go voluntarily. I spoke with my family doctor, and some drugs they cant even test for with Urine like ecstasy? Is this true? Please Dr. Phil, help me help them before its too late.
BE CALM
Posted by: sheljd
Posted on: 2003-01-23 10:38:45
Take time to sit and talk with your boys. I have a 15 year old.. He is a nightmare. I found a moped (BIKE outside.) He swears he never knicked it..(HE DID) I sat for 4 hours until i got the truth.. He felt so bad that he cried all the time.I never gave in.. he has tried drugs, I never get angry. Just talk loads.. He is off drugs and swears he wont pinch again. If I think he is hiding something ..We will talk again.. BE CALM ASK THEM AGAIN AND AGAIN TILL THEY GIVE IN. THEY WILL ...... GOOD LUCK..BE BRAVE..BE CALM.. THEY NEED YOUR HELP..HELP THEM..XX
Posted by: sheljd
Posted on: 2003-01-23 10:38:45
Take time to sit and talk with your boys. I have a 15 year old.. He is a nightmare. I found a moped (BIKE outside.) He swears he never knicked it..(HE DID) I sat for 4 hours until i got the truth.. He felt so bad that he cried all the time.I never gave in.. he has tried drugs, I never get angry. Just talk loads.. He is off drugs and swears he wont pinch again. If I think he is hiding something ..We will talk again.. BE CALM ASK THEM AGAIN AND AGAIN TILL THEY GIVE IN. THEY WILL ...... GOOD LUCK..BE BRAVE..BE CALM.. THEY NEED YOUR HELP..HELP THEM..XX
Re: be calm
Posted by: starfriend
Posted on: 2003-01-23 19:37:53
Hi..... after reading your post I realized you are from the U.K. ( I think?) anyhow, I was just wondering if you get Dr. Phil in the U.K or do you live in or around the U.S.
Just wondering.....thanx!
Posted by: starfriend
Posted on: 2003-01-23 19:37:53
Hi..... after reading your post I realized you are from the U.K. ( I think?) anyhow, I was just wondering if you get Dr. Phil in the U.K or do you live in or around the U.S.
Just wondering.....thanx!
lost teens
Posted by: shzskpdtwn
Posted on: 2003-01-27 10:36:04
I am from California. Dr. Phil airs here at 3pm.
There are no rehabs in my area that are volunteer. I have spoken to my son about going. He dosnt want to admit he has a problem which is very similar to the boy viewed on the show. The rahb place told me if he wants to leave they will not stop him. I dont want to alienate him more that he already is so for now Im keeping him inside and grounded. Hes ran off once already and Im not sure whats next. I just wanted to reply yot your question. Where are you from? thanks
Posted by: shzskpdtwn
Posted on: 2003-01-27 10:36:04
I am from California. Dr. Phil airs here at 3pm.
There are no rehabs in my area that are volunteer. I have spoken to my son about going. He dosnt want to admit he has a problem which is very similar to the boy viewed on the show. The rahb place told me if he wants to leave they will not stop him. I dont want to alienate him more that he already is so for now Im keeping him inside and grounded. Hes ran off once already and Im not sure whats next. I just wanted to reply yot your question. Where are you from? thanks
State help
Posted by: lksmile
Posted on: 2003-02-26 23:43:25
Just curious if there is such thing as a CHINS (child in need of services) in California?? We have them in Massachusetts and a parent can file with the state when there child is in need of state services. I myself, work in a residential behavioral treatment center for teens and feel that a CHINS order against a child who is in need of services is sometimes the only way parents can seek help from the state when they feel they have no where else to turn in looking for help and support for their child. With a CHINS order, the state can force a child in need to go to services wether it be a treatment facility or therapy. Good luck!
Posted by: lksmile
Posted on: 2003-02-26 23:43:25
Just curious if there is such thing as a CHINS (child in need of services) in California?? We have them in Massachusetts and a parent can file with the state when there child is in need of state services. I myself, work in a residential behavioral treatment center for teens and feel that a CHINS order against a child who is in need of services is sometimes the only way parents can seek help from the state when they feel they have no where else to turn in looking for help and support for their child. With a CHINS order, the state can force a child in need to go to services wether it be a treatment facility or therapy. Good luck!
Wishing you Luck
Posted by: ang3828
Posted on: 2003-07-10 15:15:42
I watched this show today. The boy on the show really touched home with me. I wish he, or your son could meet my husband. He started smoking pot when he was 16. It was cool, his friends did it. He did not have a problem. Well one thing leads to another. After 11 years he is finally able to say he is drug free, but it has not been an easy road and of course it did not stop at pot. It went to crack, crystal meth, pretty much anything he could get his hands on. He didn't think he had a problem until it was too late. He has been through rehab, and even still it is a daily battle that he fights within himself to stay clean. But he now has criminal charges that will stay with him for the rest of his life
I wish you the best of luck with your son. If anyway possible get him in rehab as soon as you can. 1 day can mean the difference in his life.
God Bless,
Angie
Posted by: ang3828
Posted on: 2003-07-10 15:15:42
I watched this show today. The boy on the show really touched home with me. I wish he, or your son could meet my husband. He started smoking pot when he was 16. It was cool, his friends did it. He did not have a problem. Well one thing leads to another. After 11 years he is finally able to say he is drug free, but it has not been an easy road and of course it did not stop at pot. It went to crack, crystal meth, pretty much anything he could get his hands on. He didn't think he had a problem until it was too late. He has been through rehab, and even still it is a daily battle that he fights within himself to stay clean. But he now has criminal charges that will stay with him for the rest of his life
I wish you the best of luck with your son. If anyway possible get him in rehab as soon as you can. 1 day can mean the difference in his life.
God Bless,
Angie
try another area
Posted by: prkchop79
Posted on: 2003-07-10 18:05:15
there are volunteer drug rehabs and low cost or no costcenters all over try going slightly out of your area most of them are way out of town any ways and if your son has never been there then maybe he will be less likely to run california is very pro drug rehab and the have alot of options for you look in your phone book the narcotics anonymous hotline and the may be able to help you with more numbers to call if not they can tell you where a meeting is in your area alot of young people go in my area im 24 myself i hope this helped
Posted by: prkchop79
Posted on: 2003-07-10 18:05:15
there are volunteer drug rehabs and low cost or no costcenters all over try going slightly out of your area most of them are way out of town any ways and if your son has never been there then maybe he will be less likely to run california is very pro drug rehab and the have alot of options for you look in your phone book the narcotics anonymous hotline and the may be able to help you with more numbers to call if not they can tell you where a meeting is in your area alot of young people go in my area im 24 myself i hope this helped
Be Calm
Posted by: karenda
Posted on: 2003-05-11 06:28:09
I am from the UK as well. We get Dr.Phil on daytime TV, and on the odd occasion when I get the chance to watch, I am invariably impressed by Dr.Phil's advice and amused by his comments.
Unfortunately, I have no idea of the time span- how long ago were the items I am currently viewing actually recorded?
Anyway, I have a troublesome teen. At 14, I suspect that he is frequently smoking dope, but as he consistently denies it, I don't really know where I go from here. We are a stable two parent family, both working in education, and with a younger daughter who is a dream, and whose life is often disturbed by her parents' worries and concerns for her older brother. We are very concerned, but trying to stay calm(notg always successfully) and keep channels open. Any adviced?
Posted by: karenda
Posted on: 2003-05-11 06:28:09
I am from the UK as well. We get Dr.Phil on daytime TV, and on the odd occasion when I get the chance to watch, I am invariably impressed by Dr.Phil's advice and amused by his comments.
Unfortunately, I have no idea of the time span- how long ago were the items I am currently viewing actually recorded?
Anyway, I have a troublesome teen. At 14, I suspect that he is frequently smoking dope, but as he consistently denies it, I don't really know where I go from here. We are a stable two parent family, both working in education, and with a younger daughter who is a dream, and whose life is often disturbed by her parents' worries and concerns for her older brother. We are very concerned, but trying to stay calm(notg always successfully) and keep channels open. Any adviced?
Lost Teens
Posted by: bbkare41
Posted on: 2003-01-23 12:11:54
I also have two sons, 15 and 18. My 15 year old son is into drugs, cigarettes, and running around places without our permission. It has been a nightmare! We are making the decision today as to what treatment program we can put him in or someplace that can help him before it is too late. He doesn't care about school, hates it; is failing sophomore English and math. He doesn't want to be home on the weekends, but we have been able to make him come home, or at least call to tell us where he is. But we have a huge problem on our hands too. Seek outside help. Good luck to you. We need help for our son too.
Posted by: bbkare41
Posted on: 2003-01-23 12:11:54
I also have two sons, 15 and 18. My 15 year old son is into drugs, cigarettes, and running around places without our permission. It has been a nightmare! We are making the decision today as to what treatment program we can put him in or someplace that can help him before it is too late. He doesn't care about school, hates it; is failing sophomore English and math. He doesn't want to be home on the weekends, but we have been able to make him come home, or at least call to tell us where he is. But we have a huge problem on our hands too. Seek outside help. Good luck to you. We need help for our son too.
troubled teens
Posted by: smessina
Posted on: 2003-01-24 00:37:46
Have you looked on the internet under troubled teens. There are programs available that sound wonderful. But they are 12 to 15 months long. My 17 year old son has given us problems, and if it weren't for the fact that he turns 18 in april and would be able to check him out, we would put him in this program.
good luck
Posted by: smessina
Posted on: 2003-01-24 00:37:46
Have you looked on the internet under troubled teens. There are programs available that sound wonderful. But they are 12 to 15 months long. My 17 year old son has given us problems, and if it weren't for the fact that he turns 18 in april and would be able to check him out, we would put him in this program.
good luck
Troubled teens
Posted by: bbkare41
Posted on: 2003-01-24 10:20:24
Yes, I have looked throughly through the programs and schools offered on the internet. Even have talked to parents. But the schools are extremely expensive, $3,000. to $6000, a month! We are trying to work things out with local agencies just to see the options. We are talking to our son and he has begun to open up. He has a lot of anger issues with his dad. So, we are taking it one day at a time.
Posted by: bbkare41
Posted on: 2003-01-24 10:20:24
Yes, I have looked throughly through the programs and schools offered on the internet. Even have talked to parents. But the schools are extremely expensive, $3,000. to $6000, a month! We are trying to work things out with local agencies just to see the options. We are talking to our son and he has begun to open up. He has a lot of anger issues with his dad. So, we are taking it one day at a time.
Talking to your kids means it's two ways
Posted by: brusco01
Posted on: 2003-01-24 18:58:22
I have taught school for twenty five plus years and had two of my own children. When I hear of parents whose children are doing things they think are unhealthy, immoral, or against their wishes, I wonder how this came about. When did they lose contact with their children? Why haven't they stayed in their kids' lives? Honest and open conversations with our children keep us involved in their lives so that changes don't happen without our being aware. My kids asked me about drugs and sex both before and after I had introduced the subjects. I couldn't go to school with them to see if they used drugs or not, so I kept our relationship open all the time and learned about their interest in marijuana, speed,sexual situations etc. and talked honestly with them about each substance and situation. When they heard the truth, they decided not to use any drugs and to talk about any sexual encounter. There was no rude awakening because they were respected in their natural curiosity and given information and mutually agreed upon rules. Rules they told me they would be able to keep. And further discussion was always welcome. Kindness and respect kept our kids unafraid and willing to talk about ANYTHING. Our children are happy -most of the time, adjusted, doing well in school, and talking to us continually about their concerns and what they are hearing from other kids.
Posted by: brusco01
Posted on: 2003-01-24 18:58:22
I have taught school for twenty five plus years and had two of my own children. When I hear of parents whose children are doing things they think are unhealthy, immoral, or against their wishes, I wonder how this came about. When did they lose contact with their children? Why haven't they stayed in their kids' lives? Honest and open conversations with our children keep us involved in their lives so that changes don't happen without our being aware. My kids asked me about drugs and sex both before and after I had introduced the subjects. I couldn't go to school with them to see if they used drugs or not, so I kept our relationship open all the time and learned about their interest in marijuana, speed,sexual situations etc. and talked honestly with them about each substance and situation. When they heard the truth, they decided not to use any drugs and to talk about any sexual encounter. There was no rude awakening because they were respected in their natural curiosity and given information and mutually agreed upon rules. Rules they told me they would be able to keep. And further discussion was always welcome. Kindness and respect kept our kids unafraid and willing to talk about ANYTHING. Our children are happy -most of the time, adjusted, doing well in school, and talking to us continually about their concerns and what they are hearing from other kids.
Posted by: curtlyn
Posted on: 2003-01-24 20:22:48
I read your letter with interest, it sounds very idealistic. I have a son who has just turned 21, he was identified with many learning disabilities when he was in 1st grade. I read all the books and tried everything with him so he would not become that textbook case, but guess what, inspite of all my efforts, he is a textbook case. Over the years he has seen countless therapists and psychiatrists, been on an off of medications suposed to help him, and he and I have always maintained an open communication, he is fairly comfortable telling me what he is doing, even if I do not like it. I have gone from trying everything with him that I can think of to letting him do as he pleases and suffer the consequences. He has repeatedly made very poor choices in friends, but is so socially inept that he is glad for any friends. We have taken Eric to church all of his life and he has participated in christian youth groups. He has spent many weeks and months grounded in his room as well. In spite of all of this, my son is most definitely on drugs, and headed for the dumpster, and I do not know what to do because now he is 21 and I am sure that I can not commit him. So your advice sounds great, but please be aware that your approach dosen't work with every child. By the way I have 2 other boys who are very well adjusted and wouldn't dream of drinking, smoking or drugs, I have an open line of communication with them too, and one of them slept in the same bedroom with Eric.
Eric and you
Posted by: brusco01
Posted on: 2003-01-25 12:33:38
Thank you for your reply. It was honest and clear. I hope you aren't against being idealistic, unless you see this word in a negative way. Ideals are what talking honestly with our kids is all about isn't it? Since Eric was your first born, perhaps you learned more about raising the next two. I can see that you have doubts about being honest with children since you tell me that "my approach doesn't work well with evey child." The child isn't the only one involved in a parent-child relationship so both child and parent need to step back and see how they REALLY did. Asking a child what he or she wants to do, given several options offered by a parent almost always results in the best choice. Close observation is part of our, the parents, responsibility after the choice is made. We do make mistakes in raising our kids. Our main source of information - idelibly written on our minds - comes from our parents. Books and teachers add to that, but when the chips are down, we usually revert, right? Thanks again for your precious insights.
Posted by: brusco01
Posted on: 2003-01-25 12:33:38
Thank you for your reply. It was honest and clear. I hope you aren't against being idealistic, unless you see this word in a negative way. Ideals are what talking honestly with our kids is all about isn't it? Since Eric was your first born, perhaps you learned more about raising the next two. I can see that you have doubts about being honest with children since you tell me that "my approach doesn't work well with evey child." The child isn't the only one involved in a parent-child relationship so both child and parent need to step back and see how they REALLY did. Asking a child what he or she wants to do, given several options offered by a parent almost always results in the best choice. Close observation is part of our, the parents, responsibility after the choice is made. We do make mistakes in raising our kids. Our main source of information - idelibly written on our minds - comes from our parents. Books and teachers add to that, but when the chips are down, we usually revert, right? Thanks again for your precious insights.
there is support out there...
Posted by: vturner51
Posted on: 2003-07-31 15:07:33
I read your message and my heart goes out to you. My daughter is 25 years old and just got out of jail three weeks ago. She was locked up for 7 months. A friend recommended a book "When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us" by Jane Adams. In the book was a support group that was highly recommended - Nar-Anon - they are all over the United States and one met very near my home. I have attended one meeting and plan on attending more. There are many parents like you and me out there. Please don't give up hope. Good Luck to you...
Posted by: vturner51
Posted on: 2003-07-31 15:07:33
I read your message and my heart goes out to you. My daughter is 25 years old and just got out of jail three weeks ago. She was locked up for 7 months. A friend recommended a book "When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us" by Jane Adams. In the book was a support group that was highly recommended - Nar-Anon - they are all over the United States and one met very near my home. I have attended one meeting and plan on attending more. There are many parents like you and me out there. Please don't give up hope. Good Luck to you...
TALKING TO YOUR KIDS MEANS IT'S TWO WAYS
Posted by: shzskpdtwn
Posted on: 2003-01-27 10:49:57
Yes I agree but I am not sure when the lines of communication ended. He seems like he dosnt care about anything. School,life, where did we go wrong? I see this happening all around me with the kids. My husband and I have tried everything from the time they were little to present to give them things to keep them away from the drugs)love, hobbies, help with shcool, and always have talked and listened to them) and then know how we feel about the subject. Yes Dr. Phil is right, there is a big gap going on and I am determined to get his book on closing the gap and see if I can reopen the lines of communications. Yes rehab isnt cheap. We are refinacing our home in order to free up cash for rehab for both boys. But first they have to want to go! I just wanted to tell everyone one how much I appreciate your feedback. It helps to know I am not alone.
Posted by: shzskpdtwn
Posted on: 2003-01-27 10:49:57
Yes I agree but I am not sure when the lines of communication ended. He seems like he dosnt care about anything. School,life, where did we go wrong? I see this happening all around me with the kids. My husband and I have tried everything from the time they were little to present to give them things to keep them away from the drugs)love, hobbies, help with shcool, and always have talked and listened to them) and then know how we feel about the subject. Yes Dr. Phil is right, there is a big gap going on and I am determined to get his book on closing the gap and see if I can reopen the lines of communications. Yes rehab isnt cheap. We are refinacing our home in order to free up cash for rehab for both boys. But first they have to want to go! I just wanted to tell everyone one how much I appreciate your feedback. It helps to know I am not alone.
Act Now!
Posted by: jsinggal
Posted on: 2003-01-28 01:55:42
When my son was 15 he got into drugs,skipping school, stealing, you name it. We tried everying. We finally forcibly took him at midnight to a lock-down in-patient drug rehab facility. As you said, many of them the kids can just walk away from, but this one kept them for two weeks under lock & key, & started the rehab process. Then we moved him to an inpatient facility out in the middle of nowhere in Eastern Oregon, figuring if he decided to run he wouldn't have a clue where to go! We had to take a second mortgage on our home. After 4 months of inpatient anger management, drug rehab, behavior modification, etc., we got the beginnings of a new son back. He's not perfect, and we had to make many behavior modifications as well. There MUST be a lock-down facility SOMEWHERE in California! It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, physically & emotionally, but it was worth it. My son is now 21, out on his own, and one of my best friends. Don't give up! Though he'd never admit it, your son needs you to be tough! For yourself, learn the Serenity Prayer. It helps!
Posted by: jsinggal
Posted on: 2003-01-28 01:55:42
When my son was 15 he got into drugs,skipping school, stealing, you name it. We tried everying. We finally forcibly took him at midnight to a lock-down in-patient drug rehab facility. As you said, many of them the kids can just walk away from, but this one kept them for two weeks under lock & key, & started the rehab process. Then we moved him to an inpatient facility out in the middle of nowhere in Eastern Oregon, figuring if he decided to run he wouldn't have a clue where to go! We had to take a second mortgage on our home. After 4 months of inpatient anger management, drug rehab, behavior modification, etc., we got the beginnings of a new son back. He's not perfect, and we had to make many behavior modifications as well. There MUST be a lock-down facility SOMEWHERE in California! It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, physically & emotionally, but it was worth it. My son is now 21, out on his own, and one of my best friends. Don't give up! Though he'd never admit it, your son needs you to be tough! For yourself, learn the Serenity Prayer. It helps!
Posted by: 4hkymnkys
Posted on: 2003-07-10 23:15:16
Hi,
When I read your post, it reminded me of how things were at my house, before my daughter was diagnosed with leukemia. Up until May 1st 2000, my kids and I were able to talk to eachother about anything and everything. My oldest, who was 14 at the time, was a straight A student in the GATE (gifted) program and a very gifted hockey player. About 1/2 way through my daughter's 2 1/2 yrs. chemo treatment, I got a call from his school saying that he was caught with marijuana and woul be expelled for the duration of the semester. It was only the 2nd week of school, right after he asked whether he could stay with his knew friends(while we were in the hospital) that lived closer to his high school. He was so trustworthy and responsible that I didn't hesitate when I said it would be OK to stay with them. My mind, body, and soul were with my daughter at the time and I guess I had blinders on and didn't see that he needed me just as much at the time. Anyways, I immediately put him in a 30 day rehab where he quickly realized what he needed to do and say in order to be released after he got wind of the fact that the rehab felt he needed a year program. After coming home he did well for about 6 months but then his tests came back dirty. My insurance changed and that 1 yr program that used to be available is no longer an option as I'm responsible for 30 percent of 2.4 million. Does anyone know of a program in California or anywhere that accepts kids who don't want to go for a
Posted by: ddconant
Posted on: 2003-02-27 12:56:48
I have a 19 year old son who was in two treatment facilities for 2 1/2 years..along with 3 wilderness programs. It cost us dearly..both financially and emotionally. While he was in the program he did well and we had hope that he would turn himself around. The summer he turned 18 he walked out of the program and it has been downhill ever since. We are broken hearted and because of his age can no longer force him into treatment or to get help. This has been going on since he was 15... I can only hope that time will help. The programs are good to separate the child and the adults in very stressful situations but the success rate is not 100%. It is very hard on us!
Don't Rely on the Internet
Posted by: graphicsue
Posted on: 2004-11-12 12:34:30
The internet search words "troubled teens" have been taken over, in my opinion, by The Worldwide Assoc of Specialty Schools (WWASP). I have been researching WWASP for 5 months. I can tell you some things for sure. It is expensive. Of the over $2000/month you spend, one Director who quit says WWASP only sent her $500 per child. Parents who send referrals either get a free month's tuition or $1000 cash. At least 6 of their foreign programs have been shut down for allegations of abuse. They 'spam-dex' the internet, and have created a pyramid of supposed independent websites that refer parents to their programs. These are mostly former parents, who after attending their many Seminars, which are led by a former LifeSprings (cult) trainer, are brainwashed and feel compelled to bring others into the Program. There are other, respectable treatment programs available. Choose carefully. There are many warning signs to watch for. Some examples: They claim they can help your child, without even knowing your child. They discourage you from visiting prior to enrollment. They encourage using a transport. There is no qualified mental health professional on staff full time. There are many extra fees. You must give up a major portion of custody. You must agree to a variety of "punishments" like 'restraint' and "observation placement". The definitions of those are not what you would assume. Please parents -- choose a facility wisely. Do not simply go on a parents advise. One WWASP program director said that only 10% of students complete the "Program". And -- just because you heard of WWASP on Dr. Phil's bulletin board, in no way means he personally endorses it. My best wishes go to you as you seek to look beyond the internet spam-dexing and choose a treatment program that is right and good.
Posted by: graphicsue
Posted on: 2004-11-12 12:34:30
The internet search words "troubled teens" have been taken over, in my opinion, by The Worldwide Assoc of Specialty Schools (WWASP). I have been researching WWASP for 5 months. I can tell you some things for sure. It is expensive. Of the over $2000/month you spend, one Director who quit says WWASP only sent her $500 per child. Parents who send referrals either get a free month's tuition or $1000 cash. At least 6 of their foreign programs have been shut down for allegations of abuse. They 'spam-dex' the internet, and have created a pyramid of supposed independent websites that refer parents to their programs. These are mostly former parents, who after attending their many Seminars, which are led by a former LifeSprings (cult) trainer, are brainwashed and feel compelled to bring others into the Program. There are other, respectable treatment programs available. Choose carefully. There are many warning signs to watch for. Some examples: They claim they can help your child, without even knowing your child. They discourage you from visiting prior to enrollment. They encourage using a transport. There is no qualified mental health professional on staff full time. There are many extra fees. You must give up a major portion of custody. You must agree to a variety of "punishments" like 'restraint' and "observation placement". The definitions of those are not what you would assume. Please parents -- choose a facility wisely. Do not simply go on a parents advise. One WWASP program director said that only 10% of students complete the "Program". And -- just because you heard of WWASP on Dr. Phil's bulletin board, in no way means he personally endorses it. My best wishes go to you as you seek to look beyond the internet spam-dexing and choose a treatment program that is right and good.
