10/03 What's Your Personality?
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Posted by: rockerrose
Posted on: 2003-10-03 09:45:21
DR.Phil
I just watched your show about chicken little. What do you do if these things do happen. My first pregnancy was fine but my best friends son died in a car reck at I started babysitting him when he was a year old. A year after that my friend died of cancer. My second Pregnancy was 3 years later i had twins but in the 24th week one of the twins died i cared both of the babys till we thought that the other one would live. The baby did live and doing great. But 5 month later i was pregnant again. This time when i was 5 months pregnant my husban had the first a 3 heart attacks.We had the baby on time and he was just fine. But i live everday hoping that my husban will make it thought the day people ask how he is doing but who Knows. Last november he played golf on friday, he walkes the course. The very next day he could not play. After a few test we found out he had a blockege it was 99% closed. How do you live each day when you wounder if this will be the last time. I know that no one is promised tomorrow. But how can i think any other way my past is not to good the people that i love or will love are gone I am afraid that something will happen to my children they do not know this but i think this why i am unhappy i am scard I hope that you can read this i am not a good speller
Posted by: rockerrose
Posted on: 2003-10-03 09:45:21
DR.Phil
I just watched your show about chicken little. What do you do if these things do happen. My first pregnancy was fine but my best friends son died in a car reck at I started babysitting him when he was a year old. A year after that my friend died of cancer. My second Pregnancy was 3 years later i had twins but in the 24th week one of the twins died i cared both of the babys till we thought that the other one would live. The baby did live and doing great. But 5 month later i was pregnant again. This time when i was 5 months pregnant my husban had the first a 3 heart attacks.We had the baby on time and he was just fine. But i live everday hoping that my husban will make it thought the day people ask how he is doing but who Knows. Last november he played golf on friday, he walkes the course. The very next day he could not play. After a few test we found out he had a blockege it was 99% closed. How do you live each day when you wounder if this will be the last time. I know that no one is promised tomorrow. But how can i think any other way my past is not to good the people that i love or will love are gone I am afraid that something will happen to my children they do not know this but i think this why i am unhappy i am scard I hope that you can read this i am not a good speller
Concerned
Posted by: maggerz
Posted on: 2003-10-03 10:18:04
rockerrose,
sounds like youve had some bad things happen to you. I dont know if DR Phil will respond to you message, but Ill do my best to give you some insight. I used to live every day wondering what bad was going to happen to me today. Everytime I heard a siren I thought Which one of my relatives or family relatives has been hurt or possibly died. After several years of living in this misery, I came to the conclusion that I had no control. The only thing I had control over was how I was going to deal with what ever was thrown in my lap when it was thrown there. Not before, but at the time it happend. I am a strong believer that what does not kill us can only make us stronger. I have watched many people die over the past 25 years. Yes I am young, btu Ive had to grow up pretty fast. There is nothing that can change today, tomorrow or last weeks destiny. What can change is your outlook on tomorrow. Live everyday like its your last. Love, Live and Enjoy the people most important to you. The memories of the time you have spent together is what will keep you going not the thought of "What IF" But the thought that " I did the best I could for everyone including myself" SO enjoy today! ENjoy your husband, your children and you rfamily. theres no telling when any of our time will come.
Posted by: maggerz
Posted on: 2003-10-03 10:18:04
rockerrose,
sounds like youve had some bad things happen to you. I dont know if DR Phil will respond to you message, but Ill do my best to give you some insight. I used to live every day wondering what bad was going to happen to me today. Everytime I heard a siren I thought Which one of my relatives or family relatives has been hurt or possibly died. After several years of living in this misery, I came to the conclusion that I had no control. The only thing I had control over was how I was going to deal with what ever was thrown in my lap when it was thrown there. Not before, but at the time it happend. I am a strong believer that what does not kill us can only make us stronger. I have watched many people die over the past 25 years. Yes I am young, btu Ive had to grow up pretty fast. There is nothing that can change today, tomorrow or last weeks destiny. What can change is your outlook on tomorrow. Live everyday like its your last. Love, Live and Enjoy the people most important to you. The memories of the time you have spent together is what will keep you going not the thought of "What IF" But the thought that " I did the best I could for everyone including myself" SO enjoy today! ENjoy your husband, your children and you rfamily. theres no telling when any of our time will come.
i know the feeling
Posted by: phatter04
Posted on: 2003-10-03 14:49:14
dr. phil i know how they feel about being chicken little for i am the same way i feel that im not supposed to be happy it all stared in 93 when i lost my uncle then a few days later i lost my daughter i thought if i looked ahead there wouldnt be a future took it day by day then after my son was born i had another daughter and i thought okay i can think of the fture wrong i lost my 5 year old daughter two years ago and its been hard i ask why me i watch my 12 year old daughter sleep and my 9 year old son sleep i dont any more i lost myself in the process can you help me
Posted by: phatter04
Posted on: 2003-10-03 14:49:14
dr. phil i know how they feel about being chicken little for i am the same way i feel that im not supposed to be happy it all stared in 93 when i lost my uncle then a few days later i lost my daughter i thought if i looked ahead there wouldnt be a future took it day by day then after my son was born i had another daughter and i thought okay i can think of the fture wrong i lost my 5 year old daughter two years ago and its been hard i ask why me i watch my 12 year old daughter sleep and my 9 year old son sleep i dont any more i lost myself in the process can you help me
I understand
Posted by: decjuly
Posted on: 2003-10-05 00:43:07
Two years ago I lost my 26-year-old son. I also lost his brother because of so many reasons. His brother is alive, but hates me. I do feel like I lost myself, and wonder if I will ever get myself back again. I think about my son every single day. I think God is trying to teach me lessons at the expense of my family. Nothing seems to make sense anymore.
Posted by: decjuly
Posted on: 2003-10-05 00:43:07
Two years ago I lost my 26-year-old son. I also lost his brother because of so many reasons. His brother is alive, but hates me. I do feel like I lost myself, and wonder if I will ever get myself back again. I think about my son every single day. I think God is trying to teach me lessons at the expense of my family. Nothing seems to make sense anymore.
Posted by: lariccia
Posted on: 2003-10-05 10:16:03
Don't blame yourself AT ALL.
you can't hold yourself responsible for the "acts of God" or the actions of others. your only responsibility is to take action for yourself.
you know you have loved them and that is all you can do. don't beat yourself up because you cannot control things that happen around you.
love yourself a little more.
you deserve it.
and sometimes those we most love cannot see that we deserve their love and respect too.
so stop fretting and move on.
use your energy for something hopeful and positive.
good luck.
I can relate
Posted by: joyful2391
Posted on: 2003-10-18 20:45:28
I once had a foster daughter, who was just like my own. I loved her very much, although she did not die. She had to leave our home after 5 years.
It took me 5 years to get over losing her. Though counseling, grieving the lose, and with God's help I got thru it all. It wasn't easy.
I finally had to say to God that I place her in his hands, and I let her go.
Not long after I did this, she came back into our lives. And, now we are friends.
Grieving is the hardest thing to do.
May God help you in this matter.
Jeremiah 29:11
Posted by: joyful2391
Posted on: 2003-10-18 20:45:28
I once had a foster daughter, who was just like my own. I loved her very much, although she did not die. She had to leave our home after 5 years.
It took me 5 years to get over losing her. Though counseling, grieving the lose, and with God's help I got thru it all. It wasn't easy.
I finally had to say to God that I place her in his hands, and I let her go.
Not long after I did this, she came back into our lives. And, now we are friends.
Grieving is the hardest thing to do.
May God help you in this matter.
Jeremiah 29:11
personality show
Posted by: dolphin870
Posted on: 2003-10-04 11:25:48
Dr.Phil,I,watched,your,show,on,personalitys.I,am,only,16,years,old,but,I,feel,I,have,the,personality,of,chicken,little,and,porcupine.I,constantly,go,through,everyday,thinkin,what,thing,is,going,to,go,wrong,today.I,am,so,uptight,and,I,expload,sometimes,for,no,reason.I,also,wrote,you,about,not,being,able,to,say,what,is,on,my,mind.I,just,let,it,sit,until,I,go,crazy.My,stepdad,has,had,hepatitis,and,been,sick.I,have,had,5,family,members,closest,to,my,moms,side,of,the,family,die,within,2,years.I,don't,know,how,to,control,this,and,what,I,should,do.Please,help,me
Posted by: dolphin870
Posted on: 2003-10-04 11:25:48
Dr.Phil,I,watched,your,show,on,personalitys.I,am,only,16,years,old,but,I,feel,I,have,the,personality,of,chicken,little,and,porcupine.I,constantly,go,through,everyday,thinkin,what,thing,is,going,to,go,wrong,today.I,am,so,uptight,and,I,expload,sometimes,for,no,reason.I,also,wrote,you,about,not,being,able,to,say,what,is,on,my,mind.I,just,let,it,sit,until,I,go,crazy.My,stepdad,has,had,hepatitis,and,been,sick.I,have,had,5,family,members,closest,to,my,moms,side,of,the,family,die,within,2,years.I,don't,know,how,to,control,this,and,what,I,should,do.Please,help,me
Believe
Posted by: thomnl
Posted on: 2003-10-04 20:03:09
Dear Rockerose,
I spent a lot of time as a young person worrying over everyone in my family, too. I had to practice not worrying. That may seem funny, but we can choose our thoughts and we must not obsess about things we cannot control or allow ourselves to imagine the worst. I am 56 and nothing I worried myself to death over ever happened. Yes, I have had family members die, a young sister, my father last month, my parents divorced, my husband is disabled and I could go on, but I have learned that even when these things happen which is a part of life we can do nothing about, God has given me the grace and strength to get through, and he has also given me the wisdom through these experiences to help others going through the same thing. Remember the song: Yesterday is gone, Sweet Jesus, and tomorrow may never be mine, so for my sake, help me to take, One Day at a Time. Take the day and make it the most memorable day for your family and for yourself, and refuse, STOP, thinking about things that worry you and you cannot control. Fill your mind with other thoughts, think of all the things you are thankful for when these thoughts creep in. Believe that God will help you, and ask Him to. Believe with your heart, BELIEVE. God Bless you.
Posted by: thomnl
Posted on: 2003-10-04 20:03:09
Dear Rockerose,
I spent a lot of time as a young person worrying over everyone in my family, too. I had to practice not worrying. That may seem funny, but we can choose our thoughts and we must not obsess about things we cannot control or allow ourselves to imagine the worst. I am 56 and nothing I worried myself to death over ever happened. Yes, I have had family members die, a young sister, my father last month, my parents divorced, my husband is disabled and I could go on, but I have learned that even when these things happen which is a part of life we can do nothing about, God has given me the grace and strength to get through, and he has also given me the wisdom through these experiences to help others going through the same thing. Remember the song: Yesterday is gone, Sweet Jesus, and tomorrow may never be mine, so for my sake, help me to take, One Day at a Time. Take the day and make it the most memorable day for your family and for yourself, and refuse, STOP, thinking about things that worry you and you cannot control. Fill your mind with other thoughts, think of all the things you are thankful for when these thoughts creep in. Believe that God will help you, and ask Him to. Believe with your heart, BELIEVE. God Bless you.
Thank you
Posted by: lilphoto
Posted on: 2003-10-27 19:28:49
Reading your message has really helped me as I have really been doing it these last weeks instead of enjoying and apprciate the gift I have been given for today. What you said will stay in my mind and heart.
Posted by: lilphoto
Posted on: 2003-10-27 19:28:49
Reading your message has really helped me as I have really been doing it these last weeks instead of enjoying and apprciate the gift I have been given for today. What you said will stay in my mind and heart.
to rockerrose
Posted by: babbain
Posted on: 2003-10-05 20:06:06
I hope Dr. Phil responds to you. Just know that alot of people are thinking of you and praying for a turnaround in your life. You should be proud because you have survived these events. It takes a strong person to deal with these things and reach out for help. No one knows why bad things happen to good people, but they do. Bad things happen to everybody. Look at documentaries about famous people who we think have EVERYTHING. Most every successful person had one or more bad things happpen. It does seem some folks get more than their share. Once again, we don't know why. Just hang in there, write down ten things that are positive in your life. You might not be able to think of ten things all at once, but keep trying until you get ten, no matter how small. I am proud of you and I read your letter just fine, don't worry about the spelling, Phil will know what you are saying. I will be thinking of you daily.
Posted by: babbain
Posted on: 2003-10-05 20:06:06
I hope Dr. Phil responds to you. Just know that alot of people are thinking of you and praying for a turnaround in your life. You should be proud because you have survived these events. It takes a strong person to deal with these things and reach out for help. No one knows why bad things happen to good people, but they do. Bad things happen to everybody. Look at documentaries about famous people who we think have EVERYTHING. Most every successful person had one or more bad things happpen. It does seem some folks get more than their share. Once again, we don't know why. Just hang in there, write down ten things that are positive in your life. You might not be able to think of ten things all at once, but keep trying until you get ten, no matter how small. I am proud of you and I read your letter just fine, don't worry about the spelling, Phil will know what you are saying. I will be thinking of you daily.
off the hook
Posted by: 2matthew
Posted on: 2003-10-04 09:09:53
Dr. Phil,
I watch your show almost every day and I have never had a complaint before, untill now... You had just let that man off the hook when you said none of this is your problem. He said He was staying to protect the kids, well if he was so concerned about the safty of them phyically or mentally why doesn't he take them out. Good question for myself. I had seen alot of anger in her that I see in myself. I dont want to be another divorced person in America so I do try. He will disagree with me and that is one of the probles, He looked at me when you were talking to that man and making her the whole problem if I would of said anything it would of started something I have not the energy for. My husband will not take off his shoes at the door, He walks in over the carpet and about 1 1/2 yard sticks away in the kitchen he will take them of there, do you want to know why? because the dog does not have to take off his paws.... does he wash the carpet no he just tells me how bad it looks. My anger is truely because of him and why dont I get out??? when I am happy he is not when he can break me down then he is content. I have a appointment with a divorce lawyer and He became nice to me untill He thought it was canceled. He fights with me on my nights and weekends that I have off of work and then He says I am ripping him off of a sex life He does not get that I have no desire for him because of him, nor will he except he is the porcipine, He wont go to council because heis not goi
Posted by: 2matthew
Posted on: 2003-10-04 09:09:53
Dr. Phil,
I watch your show almost every day and I have never had a complaint before, untill now... You had just let that man off the hook when you said none of this is your problem. He said He was staying to protect the kids, well if he was so concerned about the safty of them phyically or mentally why doesn't he take them out. Good question for myself. I had seen alot of anger in her that I see in myself. I dont want to be another divorced person in America so I do try. He will disagree with me and that is one of the probles, He looked at me when you were talking to that man and making her the whole problem if I would of said anything it would of started something I have not the energy for. My husband will not take off his shoes at the door, He walks in over the carpet and about 1 1/2 yard sticks away in the kitchen he will take them of there, do you want to know why? because the dog does not have to take off his paws.... does he wash the carpet no he just tells me how bad it looks. My anger is truely because of him and why dont I get out??? when I am happy he is not when he can break me down then he is content. I have a appointment with a divorce lawyer and He became nice to me untill He thought it was canceled. He fights with me on my nights and weekends that I have off of work and then He says I am ripping him off of a sex life He does not get that I have no desire for him because of him, nor will he except he is the porcipine, He wont go to council because heis not goi
2matthew: I was you...
Posted by: andrea1975
Posted on: 2003-10-07 18:44:58
I read your post and although it was short, I saw some of myself in your words. I should say my old self. I was a porcupine, always angry, about to go off, always irritated, my husband was making me crazy. I was fortunate enough that my husband went to counceling with me and I gradually began to realize that I was making myself crazy, not my husband. I saw my doctor and was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and with counceling and medication my marraige has completely turned around and what's even better is that I am finally, after years and years of tension, am relaxed and happy. I still have bad days, but I'm human. Why don't you go to counceling by yourself? Maybe your husband will see your self-improvment and join you?
When you were complaining about the carpet I totally related. I used to look for things my husband did wrong so I could rip him for it. What would your husband say or do if for a week you ignored his actions of wearing his shoes on the carpet? It's just carpet.
I am no psychiatrist, but it sounds like you and your husband go back and forth trying to control eachother. You control him by being angry at him and threatening divorce and he controls you by antagonizing you and purposly doing the opposite of what you tell him. It's a vicious cycle and I know because I played that game for about ten years. It's not fun at all. Good luck.
Posted by: andrea1975
Posted on: 2003-10-07 18:44:58
I read your post and although it was short, I saw some of myself in your words. I should say my old self. I was a porcupine, always angry, about to go off, always irritated, my husband was making me crazy. I was fortunate enough that my husband went to counceling with me and I gradually began to realize that I was making myself crazy, not my husband. I saw my doctor and was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and with counceling and medication my marraige has completely turned around and what's even better is that I am finally, after years and years of tension, am relaxed and happy. I still have bad days, but I'm human. Why don't you go to counceling by yourself? Maybe your husband will see your self-improvment and join you?
When you were complaining about the carpet I totally related. I used to look for things my husband did wrong so I could rip him for it. What would your husband say or do if for a week you ignored his actions of wearing his shoes on the carpet? It's just carpet.
I am no psychiatrist, but it sounds like you and your husband go back and forth trying to control eachother. You control him by being angry at him and threatening divorce and he controls you by antagonizing you and purposly doing the opposite of what you tell him. It's a vicious cycle and I know because I played that game for about ten years. It's not fun at all. Good luck.
"the poser"
Posted by: monkeystew
Posted on: 2003-10-03 10:04:41
How old was 'the poser' girl? Her face was very young-looking, but her clothes made her look older.
Posted by: monkeystew
Posted on: 2003-10-03 10:04:41
How old was 'the poser' girl? Her face was very young-looking, but her clothes made her look older.
poser girl con't
Posted by: dalino
Posted on: 2003-10-03 15:14:51
I wondered that, myself. I think she would have to at least be 18, because her age didn't seem to play as much of a concern in her issue. However, it looks like she still lives with her mother. So, I guess she'd be in her early 20's... ish.
My heart goes out to her, if it's taken her that long to reanalyze her value system. I wonder what it was that initially triggered her behavior. Poor girl.
Posted by: dalino
Posted on: 2003-10-03 15:14:51
I wondered that, myself. I think she would have to at least be 18, because her age didn't seem to play as much of a concern in her issue. However, it looks like she still lives with her mother. So, I guess she'd be in her early 20's... ish.
My heart goes out to her, if it's taken her that long to reanalyze her value system. I wonder what it was that initially triggered her behavior. Poor girl.
Shallow...with bad taste.
Posted by: wellcrud
Posted on: 2003-10-03 16:07:52
I live in Dallas via South Beach and I know a thing or two about shallow women. I could have easily become one had it not been for a close friendship with the ultimate 'user'. Her life was completely devoid of all warmth, substance or honesty when I finally gave up and had to remove her from my life. She went from being a beautiful girl with a bright future to a vapid, hollow, broke & broken shell with no one to help her.
If I could have an hour with that little girl I'd open her eyes to what she had in her future if she chose to continue down that path.
Furthermore, if she really does want to pursue her idea of a lifesyle...she'd better change her idea of high end. Express & Steve Madden won't cut it.
(Tacky, I know...but I seriously laughed when she left the house in her "she's in high school, she doesn't know better" mini-skirt & WetSeal shirt. Honey, get a hair cut and get a real job....laziness won't attract success.)
Posted by: wellcrud
Posted on: 2003-10-03 16:07:52
I live in Dallas via South Beach and I know a thing or two about shallow women. I could have easily become one had it not been for a close friendship with the ultimate 'user'. Her life was completely devoid of all warmth, substance or honesty when I finally gave up and had to remove her from my life. She went from being a beautiful girl with a bright future to a vapid, hollow, broke & broken shell with no one to help her.
If I could have an hour with that little girl I'd open her eyes to what she had in her future if she chose to continue down that path.
Furthermore, if she really does want to pursue her idea of a lifesyle...she'd better change her idea of high end. Express & Steve Madden won't cut it.
(Tacky, I know...but I seriously laughed when she left the house in her "she's in high school, she doesn't know better" mini-skirt & WetSeal shirt. Honey, get a hair cut and get a real job....laziness won't attract success.)
What's your point?
Posted by: lexy01
Posted on: 2003-10-05 04:04:10
Are you saying you are better at posing that she is?
Posted by: lexy01
Posted on: 2003-10-05 04:04:10
Are you saying you are better at posing that she is?
Beautiful? I think not!
Posted by: ampoherium
Posted on: 2003-10-03 17:59:13
The girl on today's show was a disgrace to women, and I am glad she realizes that she has a problem, but I am having a VERY difficult time finding ANY sympathy for her! She amused me with her tales of "beauty" and the "higher" life, but shocked me with her UNBELIEVABLY SHALLOW comment, "If I were disformed in any way I would rather be dead." Oh cry me a river little one! Her problem lies not in the fact that she is losing friends, but that she has lost ALL sense of the real world. My brother is handicapped, but he is also handsome, accomplished, loving, intelligent, outgoing, etc. I know that he is more "beautiful" on the inside than she will EVER be on the outside, and that is what really matters, right?
Posted by: ampoherium
Posted on: 2003-10-03 17:59:13
The girl on today's show was a disgrace to women, and I am glad she realizes that she has a problem, but I am having a VERY difficult time finding ANY sympathy for her! She amused me with her tales of "beauty" and the "higher" life, but shocked me with her UNBELIEVABLY SHALLOW comment, "If I were disformed in any way I would rather be dead." Oh cry me a river little one! Her problem lies not in the fact that she is losing friends, but that she has lost ALL sense of the real world. My brother is handicapped, but he is also handsome, accomplished, loving, intelligent, outgoing, etc. I know that he is more "beautiful" on the inside than she will EVER be on the outside, and that is what really matters, right?
Poser girl
Posted by: bdippp
Posted on: 2003-10-03 18:56:28
I kinda felt like her mother condoned her actions by saying they all do it? Like that makes it ok
Talk about shallow, I'm disabled and for her to say I would just soon be dead as to loose a toe, I wish that was all that was wrong!
This world is full of people like her tho and that's sad!
Watch what we look down on, we never know whats comeing our way.
Posted by: bdippp
Posted on: 2003-10-03 18:56:28
I kinda felt like her mother condoned her actions by saying they all do it? Like that makes it ok
Talk about shallow, I'm disabled and for her to say I would just soon be dead as to loose a toe, I wish that was all that was wrong!
This world is full of people like her tho and that's sad!
Watch what we look down on, we never know whats comeing our way.
Posted by: rufffian
Posted on: 2003-10-05 23:43:06
She's 21. I was in the audience for the taping...in fact, you can see my raised eyebrows and my friend's dropped jaw when the "Poser" said she'd rather be dead than minus one pinkie toe. At the end of the taping, Dr. Phil asked if we had questions--my only one was her age. I couldn't fathom her being over 18. When she said she was 21, I was stunned and just said "Um...okay" and sat down. Dr. Phil asked why age was relevant, and someone else stood up and said something about how we expect that more from a teenager, not an adult.
I wanted to throttle her. Half the stuff she said didn't make it on the air--my favorite was when Dr. Phil asked her what she gets from this "posing" if she's losing friends, etc. She said "I look better." That's what she said..."I look better." I wanted to charge the stage. BTW, he asked the audience at the end of the taping to raise our hands for those we thought would make an effort to change. Half raised their hand for the porcupine, almost the whole audience for Chicken Little, and about 4 hands for Poser.
But to be fair, both the doc and an audience member had some good comments to her. Helped me be a little more sympathetic--wouldn't do any good to yell at her the way I wanted to, heh! They basically just emphasized that she needed to believe she was worth more and had more to offer than that. Really, it's a very sad thing to think that's ALL she feels she has to offer ("I look better.") I hope, for her happiness as well
