10/27 Weight Loss Challenge, Part 10
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Posted by: dindy4
Posted on: 2003-10-27 08:06:42
well i did it Friday was such a good day.. which led into Saturday(which i had to go to a wedding).. but i was able to not dwell on the food, but instead sat back and really enjoyed the people and wedding and just having fun.. without worrying about how to handle eating.. and ijust ate sensible and was fine! Last week was one where is was working on the external, making my environment fail proof..it really really helped me concentrate on making my environment good.. instead of concentrating on my next eating fix.. it made me feel really good about myself.. that i had the choice of making my enviormnet safe ..
most cool! keep truckin everyone!
Dindy
Posted by: dindy4
Posted on: 2003-10-27 08:06:42
well i did it Friday was such a good day.. which led into Saturday(which i had to go to a wedding).. but i was able to not dwell on the food, but instead sat back and really enjoyed the people and wedding and just having fun.. without worrying about how to handle eating.. and ijust ate sensible and was fine! Last week was one where is was working on the external, making my environment fail proof..it really really helped me concentrate on making my environment good.. instead of concentrating on my next eating fix.. it made me feel really good about myself.. that i had the choice of making my enviormnet safe ..
most cool! keep truckin everyone!
Dindy
I cannot stop the internal dialog
Posted by: rams2ooo
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:01:21
October 27, 2003 I woke up and I keep wanting to eat. Imagine that. I keep saying to myself "why do you need to eat". This internal dialog stuff is irritating. I know exactly why I want to eat. I am bored, hungry, depressed, etc. So now that I know that...........why can't I eat. I just made coffee and decided to not eat. Now when lunch comes I will be going crazy.
Posted by: rams2ooo
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:01:21
October 27, 2003 I woke up and I keep wanting to eat. Imagine that. I keep saying to myself "why do you need to eat". This internal dialog stuff is irritating. I know exactly why I want to eat. I am bored, hungry, depressed, etc. So now that I know that...........why can't I eat. I just made coffee and decided to not eat. Now when lunch comes I will be going crazy.
Rams2000
Posted by: be_art
Posted on: 2003-10-27 14:08:10
Hi there Rams2000!
My heart goes out to you.
I am confused. Did you wake up and decide it was wrong to eat breakfast? Or, did you eat breakfast and want to keep eating?
If you did not eat breakfast of course you will be going crazy by lunch time. In order to loose weight and stop cravings you HAVE TO EAT! Internal dialogue aside, if you eat fewer calories than your body requires for proper functioning you will binge eventually, and, because you were depriving your body of what it needs your metabolism will slow down and grab every calorie from a binge it can and hang on to it for dear life. Starving yourself can make you fatter.
If you did eat breakfast, what did you have? Maybe you need a food choice that leaves you satified.
As for the boredom and depression --maybe finding activites which help address those would be more helpful than verbally attacking yourself because you are wanting to eat. You also said you were hungry....that's when you should eat, when you are truly hungry.
You can eat. You can do this without craziness!
I am rooting for you,
Wendy
Posted by: be_art
Posted on: 2003-10-27 14:08:10
Hi there Rams2000!
My heart goes out to you.
I am confused. Did you wake up and decide it was wrong to eat breakfast? Or, did you eat breakfast and want to keep eating?
If you did not eat breakfast of course you will be going crazy by lunch time. In order to loose weight and stop cravings you HAVE TO EAT! Internal dialogue aside, if you eat fewer calories than your body requires for proper functioning you will binge eventually, and, because you were depriving your body of what it needs your metabolism will slow down and grab every calorie from a binge it can and hang on to it for dear life. Starving yourself can make you fatter.
If you did eat breakfast, what did you have? Maybe you need a food choice that leaves you satified.
As for the boredom and depression --maybe finding activites which help address those would be more helpful than verbally attacking yourself because you are wanting to eat. You also said you were hungry....that's when you should eat, when you are truly hungry.
You can eat. You can do this without craziness!
I am rooting for you,
Wendy
you are not doing anything
Posted by: kitty8
Posted on: 2003-10-27 16:35:11
Get out and volunteer if you do not work. If you work, focus on that. There is plenty of things "to do" that will keep you busy - go to the library and volunteer, volunteer for an afternoon tutor for a school child - the schools will love you! Big Brothers/Sisters have waiting lists of kids waiting - just call the United Way and they will hook you up. Just DO SOMETHING TO STAY BUSY!
Posted by: kitty8
Posted on: 2003-10-27 16:35:11
Get out and volunteer if you do not work. If you work, focus on that. There is plenty of things "to do" that will keep you busy - go to the library and volunteer, volunteer for an afternoon tutor for a school child - the schools will love you! Big Brothers/Sisters have waiting lists of kids waiting - just call the United Way and they will hook you up. Just DO SOMETHING TO STAY BUSY!
Relax, help is on the way
Posted by: tkonopko
Posted on: 2003-10-27 19:39:06
Of course you wanted to eat, that is what we do. I am an all or nothing person. I fixed my morning gorges with a French Vanilla canned Protein shake 2 grams of carbs, 100 calories. I add this to my coffee instead of cream or milk. It keeps me full and I have 2 to 3 cups of coffee and go on about my day and my stomach is not going crazy. Because it full, full with protein. Try this it helped me. GOOD LUCK
Posted by: tkonopko
Posted on: 2003-10-27 19:39:06
Of course you wanted to eat, that is what we do. I am an all or nothing person. I fixed my morning gorges with a French Vanilla canned Protein shake 2 grams of carbs, 100 calories. I add this to my coffee instead of cream or milk. It keeps me full and I have 2 to 3 cups of coffee and go on about my day and my stomach is not going crazy. Because it full, full with protein. Try this it helped me. GOOD LUCK
msjackie58
Posted by: msjackie58
Posted on: 2003-10-29 13:56:30
I do the very same. I get up hungry and I don,t eat in the morning, but I'll tell you by the middle of the day I could eat a horse. I am going to but that protien drink, if I can at least try it. The big thing for me is to turn off that old dialog and replace it with new thinking. Boy, it's hard but we owe it to ourselves, right? Good Luck all. From hungryjackie58
Posted by: msjackie58
Posted on: 2003-10-29 13:56:30
I do the very same. I get up hungry and I don,t eat in the morning, but I'll tell you by the middle of the day I could eat a horse. I am going to but that protien drink, if I can at least try it. The big thing for me is to turn off that old dialog and replace it with new thinking. Boy, it's hard but we owe it to ourselves, right? Good Luck all. From hungryjackie58
what beverages are ok?
Posted by: rosebudddd
Posted on: 2003-11-05 19:46:49
Hi:
Was wondering what you can drink that is low cal. I know about water. How bout smoothies? There is nothing to drink on all of Dr. Phil's weekly recipes.
Thanks,
Posted by: rosebudddd
Posted on: 2003-11-05 19:46:49
Hi:
Was wondering what you can drink that is low cal. I know about water. How bout smoothies? There is nothing to drink on all of Dr. Phil's weekly recipes.
Thanks,
Drinks
Posted by: lgoldstar
Posted on: 2003-11-06 18:47:58
Hi rosebuddd! When it comes to drinks, water is your first priority. Then there are some nice herbal teas out there that would be okay occasionally. I don't eat a lot of dairy products so I drink Dannon fat-free smoothies for my snack occasionally. I'm talking about the 7oz. size. They are about 70 or 80 calories and really hit the spot after a hard work-out! They come in several fruit flavors. I bet you could make some really good ones in your blender by using your favorite fruit and apple or orange juice.
Posted by: lgoldstar
Posted on: 2003-11-06 18:47:58
Hi rosebuddd! When it comes to drinks, water is your first priority. Then there are some nice herbal teas out there that would be okay occasionally. I don't eat a lot of dairy products so I drink Dannon fat-free smoothies for my snack occasionally. I'm talking about the 7oz. size. They are about 70 or 80 calories and really hit the spot after a hard work-out! They come in several fruit flavors. I bet you could make some really good ones in your blender by using your favorite fruit and apple or orange juice.
Yeah for Dindy4!
Posted by: wvberry
Posted on: 2003-10-27 20:32:16
I'm so glad to hear about your great Friday. Every success makes it that much easier to make the next good choice. Keep making those good choices and lets hear about your future successes too.
Posted by: wvberry
Posted on: 2003-10-27 20:32:16
I'm so glad to hear about your great Friday. Every success makes it that much easier to make the next good choice. Keep making those good choices and lets hear about your future successes too.
working on it
Posted by: scout_mom
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:00:48
I've been following the shows, reading the book and working on my weight. I've joined Curves and lost 8 inches (several different measurements added together) the first month. It made me a curves star. I'm down 2 sizes and my husband took me shopping for 3 new outfits. (Yes scoutdad took time off from Boy scouts to go shopping!!)
Posted by: scout_mom
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:00:48
I've been following the shows, reading the book and working on my weight. I've joined Curves and lost 8 inches (several different measurements added together) the first month. It made me a curves star. I'm down 2 sizes and my husband took me shopping for 3 new outfits. (Yes scoutdad took time off from Boy scouts to go shopping!!)
Yahoo!!!
Posted by: imp_girl
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:36:11
Way to go, Scout Mom! I hope you didn't put him through the torture for too long. :)
Posted by: imp_girl
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:36:11
Way to go, Scout Mom! I hope you didn't put him through the torture for too long. :)
Way to go Scout Mom
Posted by: apilsner
Posted on: 2003-10-27 11:33:22
Hi there.
I am also a Scout leader and am working on the weight loss challenge.
It feels so good to be dropping those sizes doesn't it?
I look forward to the day when people take me seriously as a Scout leader because I look fit.
Before I started the Challenge I know they all thought that this little dumpling of a woman (I am only 5 feet tall) couldn't possibly hike or lead anything other than the marshmallow patrol.
Keep up the good work.
Posted by: apilsner
Posted on: 2003-10-27 11:33:22
Hi there.
I am also a Scout leader and am working on the weight loss challenge.
It feels so good to be dropping those sizes doesn't it?
I look forward to the day when people take me seriously as a Scout leader because I look fit.
Before I started the Challenge I know they all thought that this little dumpling of a woman (I am only 5 feet tall) couldn't possibly hike or lead anything other than the marshmallow patrol.
Keep up the good work.
curves is awesome
Posted by: miz299
Posted on: 2003-10-27 20:43:22
Good for you scoutmom, i also go to curves and this past month they had a challenge and i lost 6lbs,4,25 ins and 4%body fat. scout mom keep up the good work
Posted by: miz299
Posted on: 2003-10-27 20:43:22
Good for you scoutmom, i also go to curves and this past month they had a challenge and i lost 6lbs,4,25 ins and 4%body fat. scout mom keep up the good work
Is curves really worth it?
Posted by: 2beteacher
Posted on: 2003-10-27 22:29:34
I have been looking into joining curves but I'm not completly convinced. My mother even offered to give it to me as a Christmas gift. I'm worried about alot of things. First the money. If I quit I or my mom loose that money. Also, what if it doesn't work, and yes part of me knows that it is more exrcise than I do now so of course it will work. I think that more than I am worried I am coming up with excuses. Can anyone help me? I am getting married in June and I don't want to look like this.
Posted by: 2beteacher
Posted on: 2003-10-27 22:29:34
I have been looking into joining curves but I'm not completly convinced. My mother even offered to give it to me as a Christmas gift. I'm worried about alot of things. First the money. If I quit I or my mom loose that money. Also, what if it doesn't work, and yes part of me knows that it is more exrcise than I do now so of course it will work. I think that more than I am worried I am coming up with excuses. Can anyone help me? I am getting married in June and I don't want to look like this.
curves rules!!
Posted by: thisbe777
Posted on: 2003-10-27 23:13:24
does curves work? YESSSSSSS! i joined january 8th of this year... i changed nothing in the way i ate and lost a pants size and a half... i didn't lose pounds, but i've been building a lot of muscle... i started dr phil's program on october 2nd, and i am down 9.5 lbs since then (just weighed in tonite!! woo hoo! look at me!) and i am someone who absolutely detested exercising.. now i love to go!
Posted by: thisbe777
Posted on: 2003-10-27 23:13:24
does curves work? YESSSSSSS! i joined january 8th of this year... i changed nothing in the way i ate and lost a pants size and a half... i didn't lose pounds, but i've been building a lot of muscle... i started dr phil's program on october 2nd, and i am down 9.5 lbs since then (just weighed in tonite!! woo hoo! look at me!) and i am someone who absolutely detested exercising.. now i love to go!
For your self for life vs. For a dress for a day
Posted by: rissington
Posted on: 2003-10-28 05:10:48
Good morning to you, 2beteacher:
Are you 'suffering' from the 'yeah.... but' syndrome? It takes a lot of energy to step out on a limb and do something different, but if we don't put one foot in front of the other and try, we'll never know what the 'limb' has to offer. This is so important when we are trying to do something good for ourselves. If your mother gives you Curves as a gift, accept it graciously. She knows how important it is to you, to become a healthier person. Your mother, recognizing your goals is indeed a gift. Next... You are getting married in June. Your husband to be knows who you are now, and knows what you look like. Is your goal to look differently in a wedding dress, or is your goal to start this new chapter in your life a healthier, more vibrant person? It is hard to think that we should do things for ourselves... it is sometimes perceived as selfish.... I think that addressing your health issues, such as weight, should be for yourself. If you don't give to your self, or take care of your self, then the potential energy you can give to others will be inhibited. I think it's wonderful that you have voiced your concerns and have expressed your goal. You stepped out on a limb to do that. Go girl!!
Posted by: rissington
Posted on: 2003-10-28 05:10:48
Good morning to you, 2beteacher:
Are you 'suffering' from the 'yeah.... but' syndrome? It takes a lot of energy to step out on a limb and do something different, but if we don't put one foot in front of the other and try, we'll never know what the 'limb' has to offer. This is so important when we are trying to do something good for ourselves. If your mother gives you Curves as a gift, accept it graciously. She knows how important it is to you, to become a healthier person. Your mother, recognizing your goals is indeed a gift. Next... You are getting married in June. Your husband to be knows who you are now, and knows what you look like. Is your goal to look differently in a wedding dress, or is your goal to start this new chapter in your life a healthier, more vibrant person? It is hard to think that we should do things for ourselves... it is sometimes perceived as selfish.... I think that addressing your health issues, such as weight, should be for yourself. If you don't give to your self, or take care of your self, then the potential energy you can give to others will be inhibited. I think it's wonderful that you have voiced your concerns and have expressed your goal. You stepped out on a limb to do that. Go girl!!
Curing the yeah-buts
Posted by: wvberry
Posted on: 2003-10-29 11:38:34
Loved your reply. It's great.
I had the yeah,but's... I was so afraid I would fail again. Then I decided, just losiing 20 pounds would be a great improvement. After the first twenty, I have the confidence that I can lose even more.
Just don't sit there wondering, do something. If not Curves, walking or something else. Just do it.
Posted by: wvberry
Posted on: 2003-10-29 11:38:34
Loved your reply. It's great.
I had the yeah,but's... I was so afraid I would fail again. Then I decided, just losiing 20 pounds would be a great improvement. After the first twenty, I have the confidence that I can lose even more.
Just don't sit there wondering, do something. If not Curves, walking or something else. Just do it.
ANGELA
Posted by: teddyb1942
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:07:38
HI ..MY NAME IS ROBERTA,,,MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU..ANGELA. I SEE HOW SINCERE YOU ARE AT LOOSING WEIGHT. I PRAY FOR YOU TO HAVE THE STRENGTH TO DO THIS. ANGELA, YOUR MOTHER DOES NOT SEEM SINCERE...SHE LOOKS LIKE SHE IS INDIFFERENT, AND COLD.ALMOST GUILTY. YOU MUST NOT LET THIS AFFECT YOU. YOU ARE A SWEET LOVING WOMAN, WITH A WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU. PUT THE PAST IN THE PAST. I ALSO HAD A TRAUMA..NOT AS BAD AS YOURS, BUT SIMILAR.
I AM TRYING TO LET MY PAST GO. I ALSO FEEL LIKE A NOTHING....UNWORTHY.. BECAUSE OF THIS I MADE SOME POOR CHOICES TOO. .SO I AM WORKING THIS OUT AS YOU ARE. LETS MAKE THIS HAPPEN ..TOGETHER....YOU MAY NEVER KNOW ME, BUT I AM ROOTING FOR YOU! WE ALL WANT OUR PARENTS TO CARE, BUT SOME ARE INCAPABLE, SOME JUST DONT CARE...SO WHAT...GOD CARES, OUR CHILDREN CARE AND MOST OF ALL WE CARE!
GOOD LUCK...WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS FOR ALL OF US..TOGETHER WE STAND! ROBERTA
Posted by: teddyb1942
Posted on: 2003-10-27 10:07:38
HI ..MY NAME IS ROBERTA,,,MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU..ANGELA. I SEE HOW SINCERE YOU ARE AT LOOSING WEIGHT. I PRAY FOR YOU TO HAVE THE STRENGTH TO DO THIS. ANGELA, YOUR MOTHER DOES NOT SEEM SINCERE...SHE LOOKS LIKE SHE IS INDIFFERENT, AND COLD.ALMOST GUILTY. YOU MUST NOT LET THIS AFFECT YOU. YOU ARE A SWEET LOVING WOMAN, WITH A WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU. PUT THE PAST IN THE PAST. I ALSO HAD A TRAUMA..NOT AS BAD AS YOURS, BUT SIMILAR.
I AM TRYING TO LET MY PAST GO. I ALSO FEEL LIKE A NOTHING....UNWORTHY.. BECAUSE OF THIS I MADE SOME POOR CHOICES TOO. .SO I AM WORKING THIS OUT AS YOU ARE. LETS MAKE THIS HAPPEN ..TOGETHER....YOU MAY NEVER KNOW ME, BUT I AM ROOTING FOR YOU! WE ALL WANT OUR PARENTS TO CARE, BUT SOME ARE INCAPABLE, SOME JUST DONT CARE...SO WHAT...GOD CARES, OUR CHILDREN CARE AND MOST OF ALL WE CARE!
GOOD LUCK...WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS FOR ALL OF US..TOGETHER WE STAND! ROBERTA
Angela
Posted by: twoobie
Posted on: 2003-10-27 12:33:42
Angela you are not alone. I have gone through some of the same things that you have dealt with in your life. My father molested me and my grandfather and an uncle. My dad lived right in the same home and I find it hard to believe that my mom didn't know. I told her about my grandfather, but she continued leaving me in his home when they went out. Just told me not to sit on his lap anymore (I was 7). I eat to confort myself and at 5' 2" am struggling to stay under 200 lbs. I am a mother of five and only felt 'safe' when I was pregnant and large. Had three babies by the time I was 21. Now I haven't had a child in 3 1/2 years and feel vulnerable. Some of the weight comes off and then I get a few compliments and I put it right back on again. My husband and I have always struggled with my 'issues'. I don't like sex, don't want it, don't enjoy it and he does. I can't explain to him that for the 18 years before I met him I had ENOUGH sex for a lifetime, and enough pain from that.
Posted by: twoobie
Posted on: 2003-10-27 12:33:42
Angela you are not alone. I have gone through some of the same things that you have dealt with in your life. My father molested me and my grandfather and an uncle. My dad lived right in the same home and I find it hard to believe that my mom didn't know. I told her about my grandfather, but she continued leaving me in his home when they went out. Just told me not to sit on his lap anymore (I was 7). I eat to confort myself and at 5' 2" am struggling to stay under 200 lbs. I am a mother of five and only felt 'safe' when I was pregnant and large. Had three babies by the time I was 21. Now I haven't had a child in 3 1/2 years and feel vulnerable. Some of the weight comes off and then I get a few compliments and I put it right back on again. My husband and I have always struggled with my 'issues'. I don't like sex, don't want it, don't enjoy it and he does. I can't explain to him that for the 18 years before I met him I had ENOUGH sex for a lifetime, and enough pain from that.
twoobie
Posted by: folker
Posted on: 2003-10-27 19:59:48
Reading your story, I just had to answer! You were sexually abused by three relatives??? and you told your mother and nothing was done? I am totally outraged! I am a male who has worked in law enforcement for twenty eight years and a good deal of time, with convicted sexual abusers. The number one important thing is for the criminals to be exposed and prosecuted. These cowards and predators will not stop with the abuse of one child if the opportunity presents itself. Secondly, it is also important for your emotional healing and recovery. Obviously by your post, you are in so much pain and not only are you paying for it but so are your husband and children. Sex with your husband should not be "painful" but a celebration of joy. From what you say, you are in serious trouble and I strongly urge you to do something about it now, for you and your whole family's sake. I would also urge you to take action against all who abused you if that is still possible, if for no other reason than to exorcise this emotional demon that you carry within your soul. Only then, can you begin to heal. By the way, I would also sugest you confront your mother because she also has to take some responsibility for not taking action in protecting a young defenseless seven year old. Just my opinion.
Posted by: folker
Posted on: 2003-10-27 19:59:48
Reading your story, I just had to answer! You were sexually abused by three relatives??? and you told your mother and nothing was done? I am totally outraged! I am a male who has worked in law enforcement for twenty eight years and a good deal of time, with convicted sexual abusers. The number one important thing is for the criminals to be exposed and prosecuted. These cowards and predators will not stop with the abuse of one child if the opportunity presents itself. Secondly, it is also important for your emotional healing and recovery. Obviously by your post, you are in so much pain and not only are you paying for it but so are your husband and children. Sex with your husband should not be "painful" but a celebration of joy. From what you say, you are in serious trouble and I strongly urge you to do something about it now, for you and your whole family's sake. I would also urge you to take action against all who abused you if that is still possible, if for no other reason than to exorcise this emotional demon that you carry within your soul. Only then, can you begin to heal. By the way, I would also sugest you confront your mother because she also has to take some responsibility for not taking action in protecting a young defenseless seven year old. Just my opinion.
