01/05 Resolutions Revisited
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Posted by: rixiegirl
Posted on: 2004-01-05 12:38:43
I thought that today's show was the best that I've seen in awhile. I could relate when Dr. Phil said that the chewing releases seratonin that relaxes you. That's what I do with food. My counselor told me to get some relaxation tapes. I'm having a hard time finding some. Dr. Phil staff....any suggestions? I also believe that these habits are just the symptoms, you have to get to the root of the problem to solve it. I go to Weight Watchers and they just don't get this kind of stuff! I also went through the shopping thing. Now I have a house full of junk! Best of luck to everybody in dealing with their behavioral changes in the new year! Bobbie, I saw your story in the Holland Sentinel, good luck local gal!!
Posted by: rixiegirl
Posted on: 2004-01-05 12:38:43
I thought that today's show was the best that I've seen in awhile. I could relate when Dr. Phil said that the chewing releases seratonin that relaxes you. That's what I do with food. My counselor told me to get some relaxation tapes. I'm having a hard time finding some. Dr. Phil staff....any suggestions? I also believe that these habits are just the symptoms, you have to get to the root of the problem to solve it. I go to Weight Watchers and they just don't get this kind of stuff! I also went through the shopping thing. Now I have a house full of junk! Best of luck to everybody in dealing with their behavioral changes in the new year! Bobbie, I saw your story in the Holland Sentinel, good luck local gal!!
T.V.
Posted by: ccbrantley
Posted on: 2004-01-05 13:46:11
Lisa, leave Gregg alone about the t.v.!! Men need their space and time to be alone. That just happens to be his time. If you want his attention and affection, quit nagging him. That will never work with men. My mother-in-law nagged my father-in-law for 30 years about things and he would never do any of it. She finally gave up and left and guess what he did? He did most of the stuff she had wanted him to do for 30 years. Men don't want to feel like they are being told what to do. I also enjoy watching television quite a bit, but my husband enjoys his hobbies too. It's ok to be alone and do something for yourself. Find a hobby, Lisa.
Posted by: ccbrantley
Posted on: 2004-01-05 13:46:11
Lisa, leave Gregg alone about the t.v.!! Men need their space and time to be alone. That just happens to be his time. If you want his attention and affection, quit nagging him. That will never work with men. My mother-in-law nagged my father-in-law for 30 years about things and he would never do any of it. She finally gave up and left and guess what he did? He did most of the stuff she had wanted him to do for 30 years. Men don't want to feel like they are being told what to do. I also enjoy watching television quite a bit, but my husband enjoys his hobbies too. It's ok to be alone and do something for yourself. Find a hobby, Lisa.
It will never work with men
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-05 16:18:50
That's because They're too hardheaded. At least, the men I've known. My father, the boyfriends I've had, and now my husband of 14 months. Usually, his butt can't touch the couch without him turning on the TV. Reminds me of my late mother who, at one time, couldn't start a car without also lighting a cigarette. My husband and I live in a very nice doublewide. He can't watch TV in the den without it disturbing me in the bedroom on the other end. The den, dining room, and kitchen are one big open space. Sometimes, even with the bedroom door closed, I can make out every word, he's got it so loud. It keeps me from being able to read or sleep.
Anyway, I think Gregg's TV watching far exceeds yours. And it, and Lisa's reading and nagging are really symptoms of their marital problems. Instead of dealing with them, this couple is escaping into TV and books, living in a state of emotional divorce.
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-05 16:18:50
That's because They're too hardheaded. At least, the men I've known. My father, the boyfriends I've had, and now my husband of 14 months. Usually, his butt can't touch the couch without him turning on the TV. Reminds me of my late mother who, at one time, couldn't start a car without also lighting a cigarette. My husband and I live in a very nice doublewide. He can't watch TV in the den without it disturbing me in the bedroom on the other end. The den, dining room, and kitchen are one big open space. Sometimes, even with the bedroom door closed, I can make out every word, he's got it so loud. It keeps me from being able to read or sleep.
Anyway, I think Gregg's TV watching far exceeds yours. And it, and Lisa's reading and nagging are really symptoms of their marital problems. Instead of dealing with them, this couple is escaping into TV and books, living in a state of emotional divorce.
man who watches tv all the time
Posted by: heymav
Posted on: 2004-01-05 18:11:28
Watching the show today taught me something BIG. I just recently divorced after 35 years because my husband was into everything but his family. It started with tv and work, then progressed to the computer and then other women. I never realized that it was a power struggle thing until Dr. Phil said that today. I still love my husband but there is no way we can repair the damage nor does he even realize what he has lost in his marriage and family. I realize it every day and now I have to teach myself "to love and care for myself enough to be first". Thank you Dr. Phil.
Posted by: heymav
Posted on: 2004-01-05 18:11:28
Watching the show today taught me something BIG. I just recently divorced after 35 years because my husband was into everything but his family. It started with tv and work, then progressed to the computer and then other women. I never realized that it was a power struggle thing until Dr. Phil said that today. I still love my husband but there is no way we can repair the damage nor does he even realize what he has lost in his marriage and family. I realize it every day and now I have to teach myself "to love and care for myself enough to be first". Thank you Dr. Phil.
Bobbie
Posted by: josiecmd
Posted on: 2004-01-05 13:48:22
Will we be able to get an update on Bobbie in a few months? I am really sure she is motivated to change that shopaholic habit! I just loved her!!!!
Posted by: josiecmd
Posted on: 2004-01-05 13:48:22
Will we be able to get an update on Bobbie in a few months? I am really sure she is motivated to change that shopaholic habit! I just loved her!!!!
I Am Overweight!!!
Posted by: num1girl04
Posted on: 2004-01-05 15:09:26
Hi, I am 14 years old and i have been overweight!!!! I want help with being overweight!!! I am treased all the time at school and i just want some people to reasser me why i a on this earth!!!
Posted by: num1girl04
Posted on: 2004-01-05 15:09:26
Hi, I am 14 years old and i have been overweight!!!! I want help with being overweight!!! I am treased all the time at school and i just want some people to reasser me why i a on this earth!!!
YOUR WORTH IT,
Posted by: lynn618
Posted on: 2004-01-05 16:52:08
A true friend, will stand by you!!! No matter what. Do not let those people who tease you ,get you down. You be who you want to be. Stand up for you. You make your mind up to do or be something ,Do it. Do not let anyone control you. You be you, Do what makes you happy. think positive, move forward. p.s. Talk with your mom and dad. they will be the best bet. I will cheer you on in reaching your goal, There are many beauiful reasons that you are here.Think about it o.k. Lynn
Posted by: lynn618
Posted on: 2004-01-05 16:52:08
A true friend, will stand by you!!! No matter what. Do not let those people who tease you ,get you down. You be who you want to be. Stand up for you. You make your mind up to do or be something ,Do it. Do not let anyone control you. You be you, Do what makes you happy. think positive, move forward. p.s. Talk with your mom and dad. they will be the best bet. I will cheer you on in reaching your goal, There are many beauiful reasons that you are here.Think about it o.k. Lynn
Love yourself
Posted by: cinjibean
Posted on: 2004-01-06 00:00:56
I would suggest getting the weight loss for teens book written by Jay, Dr. Phil's son. I think you might gain from it, both emotionally and physically. Second, I want you to know that size isn't a representation of your worth, just as money isn't. Also, you might be suprised at how many other people, even the ones that tease you, feel the same way you do. In high school I felt quite alone, misfit, and I found myself with the wrong crowd of friends. I made a choice my sophmore year to branch out and stretch my wings a bit, even though the thought was scary. I told myself to "fake" it if I had to and just see what happened. So everyday I made an effort to smile and say hello to EVERYONE that came close to making eye contact with me. I maintained eye contact and forced myself to not look down. It didn't feel natural what I was doing, at least not at first. Eventually I didn't have to force myself and it did come naturally. At first I also had to pretend that I didn't hear those who teased me, and I would say hi to them too. I chose to break free of my comfort zones and really free myself of self-imposed barriers. My senior year I was both student body president and homecoming queen. Nothing is impossible if you are willing to replace one behavior for another; one that is healthier for you and your goals. Take it a day at a time. Listen to your heart and dreams. For every negative thing you say to yourself or hear from someone else, come up with 3-5 positives.
Posted by: cinjibean
Posted on: 2004-01-06 00:00:56
I would suggest getting the weight loss for teens book written by Jay, Dr. Phil's son. I think you might gain from it, both emotionally and physically. Second, I want you to know that size isn't a representation of your worth, just as money isn't. Also, you might be suprised at how many other people, even the ones that tease you, feel the same way you do. In high school I felt quite alone, misfit, and I found myself with the wrong crowd of friends. I made a choice my sophmore year to branch out and stretch my wings a bit, even though the thought was scary. I told myself to "fake" it if I had to and just see what happened. So everyday I made an effort to smile and say hello to EVERYONE that came close to making eye contact with me. I maintained eye contact and forced myself to not look down. It didn't feel natural what I was doing, at least not at first. Eventually I didn't have to force myself and it did come naturally. At first I also had to pretend that I didn't hear those who teased me, and I would say hi to them too. I chose to break free of my comfort zones and really free myself of self-imposed barriers. My senior year I was both student body president and homecoming queen. Nothing is impossible if you are willing to replace one behavior for another; one that is healthier for you and your goals. Take it a day at a time. Listen to your heart and dreams. For every negative thing you say to yourself or hear from someone else, come up with 3-5 positives.
Be Strong!
Posted by: ccbrantley
Posted on: 2004-01-09 11:09:14
I know how you feel! I was overweight at 14 and teased. They called me bulldog because they said my cheeks were so fat like a bulldog, but this will be over soon. I know it feels horrible and alone, but when high school is over there is such a big world out there. I never stopped believing in myself and being strong. I have become very successful in my late 20's and would have never thought it, but I've lost my weight and get complimented all the time on my looks. Have faith in yourself. This time in your life only lasts a little while and a new chapter will begin soon. Those kids that tease you now will be fat and ugly at your 10 year reunion and you will be gorgeous. That's what happened at mine!!
Posted by: ccbrantley
Posted on: 2004-01-09 11:09:14
I know how you feel! I was overweight at 14 and teased. They called me bulldog because they said my cheeks were so fat like a bulldog, but this will be over soon. I know it feels horrible and alone, but when high school is over there is such a big world out there. I never stopped believing in myself and being strong. I have become very successful in my late 20's and would have never thought it, but I've lost my weight and get complimented all the time on my looks. Have faith in yourself. This time in your life only lasts a little while and a new chapter will begin soon. Those kids that tease you now will be fat and ugly at your 10 year reunion and you will be gorgeous. That's what happened at mine!!
Horrified about Nicotine Gum
Posted by: magnoliany
Posted on: 2004-01-05 15:29:38
The man who chews the nicotine gum should be told that this is not only disgusting but a danger to your child as well. If your son by accident chews the gum he could get sick. Poison Control will tell you the dangers of this. I got very nervous when I saw his son put his gum next to his. If he chews enough of the gum he could get extremely sick. Also sons like to imitate their Dads he could be chewing his gum behind his back and get addicted also. I know this may sound extreme but it could happen.
Posted by: magnoliany
Posted on: 2004-01-05 15:29:38
The man who chews the nicotine gum should be told that this is not only disgusting but a danger to your child as well. If your son by accident chews the gum he could get sick. Poison Control will tell you the dangers of this. I got very nervous when I saw his son put his gum next to his. If he chews enough of the gum he could get extremely sick. Also sons like to imitate their Dads he could be chewing his gum behind his back and get addicted also. I know this may sound extreme but it could happen.
Posted by: DrPhilBoard3
Posted on: 2004-01-05 15:41:12
Enjoyed the show, as usual. Just wanted to let ya know Doc!
Deal breaker spending
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-05 15:47:49
Bobbie really pissed me off! When she told Dr Phil it was her husband's credit cards she was using, I literally screamed "@$# you! And @$# your husband for not divorcing you!" SHE's $15,000 in debt? No way! She's got her HUSBAND $15,000 in debt! And this is the SECOND time she's done it to him. The first time, she has him $22,000 in debt!
And, she HIDES purchases from him. What's she smokin'? Has she never heard of a credit card bill? That thing that comes to her husband every month. With every one of her purchases itemized.
Getting him in debt for at least $15,000 not once, but twice, along with her deviousness, is a deal breaker in my book. She proven herself to be unworthy of anyone's trust. She certainly doesn't have mine. I'm with the majority in Dr Phil's audience who voted against any likelihood that she'll ever change.
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-05 15:47:49
Bobbie really pissed me off! When she told Dr Phil it was her husband's credit cards she was using, I literally screamed "@$# you! And @$# your husband for not divorcing you!" SHE's $15,000 in debt? No way! She's got her HUSBAND $15,000 in debt! And this is the SECOND time she's done it to him. The first time, she has him $22,000 in debt!
And, she HIDES purchases from him. What's she smokin'? Has she never heard of a credit card bill? That thing that comes to her husband every month. With every one of her purchases itemized.
Getting him in debt for at least $15,000 not once, but twice, along with her deviousness, is a deal breaker in my book. She proven herself to be unworthy of anyone's trust. She certainly doesn't have mine. I'm with the majority in Dr Phil's audience who voted against any likelihood that she'll ever change.
Too Right!!!
Posted by: phaedra77
Posted on: 2004-01-05 16:58:25
What made me angriest is that she is LYING to her husband and he allows her to keep doing it! In my opinion, you aren't really married if you use lies and subterfuge against your partner! I have never hidden a reciept nor a purchase from my husband, and he doesn't hide his from me, either. We balance the checkbook together a couple times a week so that we both know our financial status, and we are at last living within our means. My problem is that I can't justify buying things for myself! Thoughts?
Posted by: phaedra77
Posted on: 2004-01-05 16:58:25
What made me angriest is that she is LYING to her husband and he allows her to keep doing it! In my opinion, you aren't really married if you use lies and subterfuge against your partner! I have never hidden a reciept nor a purchase from my husband, and he doesn't hide his from me, either. We balance the checkbook together a couple times a week so that we both know our financial status, and we are at last living within our means. My problem is that I can't justify buying things for myself! Thoughts?
That's me, too!
Posted by: kimsue25
Posted on: 2004-01-06 10:38:36
Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in not being able to justify buying things for yourself. I often feel guilty about buying things for myself, as I rarely splurged on myself while going through college. Luckily, my husband knows that I need things and will encourage me to get them. Still, I feel guilty. Odd, huh?
Posted by: kimsue25
Posted on: 2004-01-06 10:38:36
Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in not being able to justify buying things for yourself. I often feel guilty about buying things for myself, as I rarely splurged on myself while going through college. Luckily, my husband knows that I need things and will encourage me to get them. Still, I feel guilty. Odd, huh?
Ramair...Bobbie Is An Approval-a-holic....
Posted by: donnybaby
Posted on: 2004-01-05 17:51:36
By her own admission Bobbie confessed one of her surface problems...needing approval by compliments from others. Underneath her wanting (needing) approval, her main issue (IMO) is her not loving and/or approving of herself. (What else is new?)
True, she does lie about running up bills, however, her husband (without hearing from him) must be an enabler. The question for him is, what is it about you has you continue to allow her use of your credit cards? I have much compassion for both of them but his continued behavior surely only encourages her.
What are you committed to?
IMO, unless Bobbie and hubby get some professional help and both resolve their self-worth issues, nothing's going to change. Love & peace, Donny
Posted by: donnybaby
Posted on: 2004-01-05 17:51:36
By her own admission Bobbie confessed one of her surface problems...needing approval by compliments from others. Underneath her wanting (needing) approval, her main issue (IMO) is her not loving and/or approving of herself. (What else is new?)
True, she does lie about running up bills, however, her husband (without hearing from him) must be an enabler. The question for him is, what is it about you has you continue to allow her use of your credit cards? I have much compassion for both of them but his continued behavior surely only encourages her.
What are you committed to?
IMO, unless Bobbie and hubby get some professional help and both resolve their self-worth issues, nothing's going to change. Love & peace, Donny
Bobbie's enabler
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-06 15:40:36
Great response as usual, Donny! Yours always make lots of sense. It didn't occur to me yesyterday but now, I do think Bobbie's husband IS an enabler. It's GOT to be the only reason the man is still married to her. He needs professional help as badly as she does.
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-06 15:40:36
Great response as usual, Donny! Yours always make lots of sense. It didn't occur to me yesyterday but now, I do think Bobbie's husband IS an enabler. It's GOT to be the only reason the man is still married to her. He needs professional help as badly as she does.
Deal breaker spending???
Posted by: akparker
Posted on: 2004-01-05 19:35:24
First of all I do not know who you are to judge this woman. OBVIOUSLY she has a PROBLEM....DUH...That is why she was on the show...to get help. I think you should try to have a little empathy for people. Unless you have walked in her shoes...you have no idea what kind of person she is. Please remember that these people have feelings too. How would you feel if you had the guts to finally face your problems and read a message like the one you posted. Would you be encouraged? No I don't think so. I hope they do a follow-up show on Bobbie and you will have to eat your words!
Posted by: akparker
Posted on: 2004-01-05 19:35:24
First of all I do not know who you are to judge this woman. OBVIOUSLY she has a PROBLEM....DUH...That is why she was on the show...to get help. I think you should try to have a little empathy for people. Unless you have walked in her shoes...you have no idea what kind of person she is. Please remember that these people have feelings too. How would you feel if you had the guts to finally face your problems and read a message like the one you posted. Would you be encouraged? No I don't think so. I hope they do a follow-up show on Bobbie and you will have to eat your words!
Hear Hear!
Posted by: klenhart
Posted on: 2004-01-05 20:06:55
I agree with you whole heartly. Does this woman have issues? Of course, don't we all. Should she be publicly flogged for them? Absolutly not. I feel for her and for anyone dealing with self esteem issues. It is a hard road to travel, especially when unkind people block your way. I too would love to see a follow up with her. I am confident that she will take this experience and turn it into something positive in her life and dedicate to serving others as the Dr. suggested and prove all of the negitive people wrong.
Posted by: klenhart
Posted on: 2004-01-05 20:06:55
I agree with you whole heartly. Does this woman have issues? Of course, don't we all. Should she be publicly flogged for them? Absolutly not. I feel for her and for anyone dealing with self esteem issues. It is a hard road to travel, especially when unkind people block your way. I too would love to see a follow up with her. I am confident that she will take this experience and turn it into something positive in her life and dedicate to serving others as the Dr. suggested and prove all of the negitive people wrong.
An American
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-06 15:56:34
I'm an American with a constitutional right, freedom of speech, that I exercized yesterday. And, I was a pretty damn pissed off one, too. She's just like all the other shopaholics Dr Phil has had on his show, men and women who hide purchases and get their spouses in debt. She's just got her husband worse in debt than any of the others.
I DO have empathy. For husband she has gotten in debt to the tune of $15,000+ TWICE. That's why I cussed her out yesterday.
Sometimes a person needs to be shook up, given a wake up call before they can be encouraged. If Bobbie does no better than the vast majority of yesterday's audience expects her to, I won't have to be eating any words!
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2004-01-06 15:56:34
I'm an American with a constitutional right, freedom of speech, that I exercized yesterday. And, I was a pretty damn pissed off one, too. She's just like all the other shopaholics Dr Phil has had on his show, men and women who hide purchases and get their spouses in debt. She's just got her husband worse in debt than any of the others.
I DO have empathy. For husband she has gotten in debt to the tune of $15,000+ TWICE. That's why I cussed her out yesterday.
Sometimes a person needs to be shook up, given a wake up call before they can be encouraged. If Bobbie does no better than the vast majority of yesterday's audience expects her to, I won't have to be eating any words!
An American?
Posted by: akparker
Posted on: 2004-01-06 19:44:19
But...do you have a life? Hard for me to believe someone can be that pissed off at someone they don't even know!
Posted by: akparker
Posted on: 2004-01-06 19:44:19
But...do you have a life? Hard for me to believe someone can be that pissed off at someone they don't even know!
