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Posted by: reepslady
Posted on: 2004-02-10 08:53:15
My heart goes out to the kids in this family. What a situation for them to be growing up in. Home is supposed to be a safe and secure place, as well as a place where children learn how to function as adults, and as a family. I am truly afraid for these kids and the messages they are picking up. Stacy you need to grow up and start being responsible for your actions as well as for your kids. Micheal needs discipline and love, not a mother who is too messed up to deal with him, and just sends the other kids away for their safety. And Chris, you must be a saint to be sticking around. These children are lucky to have you in their lives, but you need to show them you deserve to be respected.
Posted by: reepslady
Posted on: 2004-02-10 08:53:15
My heart goes out to the kids in this family. What a situation for them to be growing up in. Home is supposed to be a safe and secure place, as well as a place where children learn how to function as adults, and as a family. I am truly afraid for these kids and the messages they are picking up. Stacy you need to grow up and start being responsible for your actions as well as for your kids. Micheal needs discipline and love, not a mother who is too messed up to deal with him, and just sends the other kids away for their safety. And Chris, you must be a saint to be sticking around. These children are lucky to have you in their lives, but you need to show them you deserve to be respected.
Posted by: winton42
Posted on: 2004-02-10 09:47:52
I am afraid for these kids, and the message they are getting from their parents. Stacy does need to grow up, but I dont see that happening. She is selfish. As for Chris, I wouldnt exactly call him a saint. It is one thing to take your marriage vows very serious, but I think he is a doormat. He needs some self respect.
Chris, RUN! as fast as you can...
Posted by: medicsuzy
Posted on: 2004-02-10 20:28:54
Chris you need to run very fast for the hills,and not look back. Stacy has some serious mental health issues that only years of therapy, and or antipsychotic medications could help.
You are in an abusive relationship and you need to get out ASAP.Maybe some counseling for yourself to find out why you would want to stay,is needed.
Sometimes it's easier to stay than go through the pain of a divorce,but in the end it is so worth it. You seem like such a good man, and you certainly don't deserve what this woman and her crazy kid areputting you through.Let your friends and family and Dr.Phil help you so you can go on and have the life you deserve.
This woman has a Masters in family counseling? What a discredit to the profession.
I'll be watching and good luck to you.
Posted by: medicsuzy
Posted on: 2004-02-10 20:28:54
Chris you need to run very fast for the hills,and not look back. Stacy has some serious mental health issues that only years of therapy, and or antipsychotic medications could help.
You are in an abusive relationship and you need to get out ASAP.Maybe some counseling for yourself to find out why you would want to stay,is needed.
Sometimes it's easier to stay than go through the pain of a divorce,but in the end it is so worth it. You seem like such a good man, and you certainly don't deserve what this woman and her crazy kid areputting you through.Let your friends and family and Dr.Phil help you so you can go on and have the life you deserve.
This woman has a Masters in family counseling? What a discredit to the profession.
I'll be watching and good luck to you.
I agree!!
Posted by: jakester12
Posted on: 2004-02-10 21:19:09
I am not sure if this case can be helped in a few shows...you would need 5 years for this. I agree that both Stacy and her oldest son have serious mental health issues. I would go as far and say that they both have personality disorders - probably Borderline Personality/Histronic for Stacy and perhaps anti-social for her son. Some personality disorders you cannot help(anti-social)..there is no medication or therapy than can cure them. They may live a bit better with the disorder but will always have it. Other may stand a shot but after many,many years of therapy. Serious, serious mental health issues here and a few shows or even one year are not going to change things. They need years and years of serious counselling to MAYBE put a dent in this.
What is the matter with Chris? Why does he think he deserves this..who told him that this is acceptable behaviour. He is more than likely co-dependent and that is an issue in itself. He needs to leave with his son..get into serious therapy where he learns to set healthy boundaries for himself and start anew. Why does he think abuse - from both his wife and step-son- are acceptable. He should not even have to think about this. RUN..Right now and Run fast..never looking back. My heart truly goes out to the daughter..perhaps she could move in with her father..it may be a more stable,secure environment for her.
Posted by: jakester12
Posted on: 2004-02-10 21:19:09
I am not sure if this case can be helped in a few shows...you would need 5 years for this. I agree that both Stacy and her oldest son have serious mental health issues. I would go as far and say that they both have personality disorders - probably Borderline Personality/Histronic for Stacy and perhaps anti-social for her son. Some personality disorders you cannot help(anti-social)..there is no medication or therapy than can cure them. They may live a bit better with the disorder but will always have it. Other may stand a shot but after many,many years of therapy. Serious, serious mental health issues here and a few shows or even one year are not going to change things. They need years and years of serious counselling to MAYBE put a dent in this.
What is the matter with Chris? Why does he think he deserves this..who told him that this is acceptable behaviour. He is more than likely co-dependent and that is an issue in itself. He needs to leave with his son..get into serious therapy where he learns to set healthy boundaries for himself and start anew. Why does he think abuse - from both his wife and step-son- are acceptable. He should not even have to think about this. RUN..Right now and Run fast..never looking back. My heart truly goes out to the daughter..perhaps she could move in with her father..it may be a more stable,secure environment for her.
Run Chris Fast
Posted by: nushuzgrl
Posted on: 2004-02-10 21:59:59
I agree, Chris should run fast. This woman is toxic and does not want help. She is selfish and only concerned for her own wants. She has a good husband and lovely children which she takes for granted. Chris deserves someone who takes their marriage vows as serious as he does. He should take his son and leave. Cheating is a DealBreaker for sure!!!
Michael the son needs a good does of discipline and someone to show him who the boss is. He should be sent to his father so the other children can thrive. I feel sorry for the oldest daughter, she is very intelligent and stuck in this mess with a mother who does not practice what she preaches. I hope for the daughter's sake she does not turn out like her example of a mother (if you can call her a mother). My heart is with Chris and all the children in this mess. It is clean up time...leave Chris. Actions have consequences and now is the time to go. Dr. Phil is great but this has gone on too long.
Posted by: nushuzgrl
Posted on: 2004-02-10 21:59:59
I agree, Chris should run fast. This woman is toxic and does not want help. She is selfish and only concerned for her own wants. She has a good husband and lovely children which she takes for granted. Chris deserves someone who takes their marriage vows as serious as he does. He should take his son and leave. Cheating is a DealBreaker for sure!!!
Michael the son needs a good does of discipline and someone to show him who the boss is. He should be sent to his father so the other children can thrive. I feel sorry for the oldest daughter, she is very intelligent and stuck in this mess with a mother who does not practice what she preaches. I hope for the daughter's sake she does not turn out like her example of a mother (if you can call her a mother). My heart is with Chris and all the children in this mess. It is clean up time...leave Chris. Actions have consequences and now is the time to go. Dr. Phil is great but this has gone on too long.
about michael
Posted by: tripodtom
Posted on: 2004-02-12 11:24:43
I agree with everything except weather it is a good idea to send Michael to his father! If I remember correctly, Stacy said that his father was a control freak that never let her do anything. But then again that came from Stacy's mouth, so who knows how accurate that is. It could be that Stacy's first husband knows how Stacy is and kept her under lock and key cuz he knew she would cheat and be up to no good. But then again, that is not a healthy relationship either
Posted by: tripodtom
Posted on: 2004-02-12 11:24:43
I agree with everything except weather it is a good idea to send Michael to his father! If I remember correctly, Stacy said that his father was a control freak that never let her do anything. But then again that came from Stacy's mouth, so who knows how accurate that is. It could be that Stacy's first husband knows how Stacy is and kept her under lock and key cuz he knew she would cheat and be up to no good. But then again, that is not a healthy relationship either
Stacey's X
Posted by: laura32963
Posted on: 2004-02-17 20:50:31
I personally know Stacey's X and he is far from a control freak. Stacey is a person that doesn't want to take responsibility for her actions.
Posted by: laura32963
Posted on: 2004-02-17 20:50:31
I personally know Stacey's X and he is far from a control freak. Stacey is a person that doesn't want to take responsibility for her actions.
onstacey'sx
Posted by: walhup
Posted on: 2004-02-18 09:07:51
I'm curious to know if her x experienced the same kind of difficulties (for lack of a better term) as Chris. That woman is a head case. Do you know Chris? Hug him and let him know there is a whole pack of women in SC who think he needs to find some self confidence and put his foot down. And how dare her cling to relegion? Being from a relegious background, if she's going to live by the word it has to be all of it. Including being supportive, admiring, and faithful.
Posted by: walhup
Posted on: 2004-02-18 09:07:51
I'm curious to know if her x experienced the same kind of difficulties (for lack of a better term) as Chris. That woman is a head case. Do you know Chris? Hug him and let him know there is a whole pack of women in SC who think he needs to find some self confidence and put his foot down. And how dare her cling to relegion? Being from a relegious background, if she's going to live by the word it has to be all of it. Including being supportive, admiring, and faithful.
Chris is amazing
Posted by: lisashiner
Posted on: 2004-02-29 20:59:09
I wish that I could find some one like Chris who takes his wedding vows so seriously. It seems like Stacy is able to find some really great guys and then maniges to make them feel so bad about themselves that the put up with her crap. I have been where Chris is at on the reverce. I stayed with several bad people until I realized what a good and worthy person I am. I hope that Chris some day finds that knowledge for himself. Until then we can only pray that he will find peace. How come all the great guys have poor choice?
Posted by: lisashiner
Posted on: 2004-02-29 20:59:09
I wish that I could find some one like Chris who takes his wedding vows so seriously. It seems like Stacy is able to find some really great guys and then maniges to make them feel so bad about themselves that the put up with her crap. I have been where Chris is at on the reverce. I stayed with several bad people until I realized what a good and worthy person I am. I hope that Chris some day finds that knowledge for himself. Until then we can only pray that he will find peace. How come all the great guys have poor choice?
you didn't even need to defend him
Posted by: robinlaree
Posted on: 2004-02-18 10:28:45
It shows in everything she has said and done.
Posted by: robinlaree
Posted on: 2004-02-18 10:28:45
It shows in everything she has said and done.
Where is he?
Posted by: yoyomarg
Posted on: 2004-02-18 14:15:46
Laura,
I'm curious -- where is their father in all this? Doesn't he want to be in his children's lives? I was surprised that they are going to place Michael in a home without consulting the father which I assume means his father has no legal custody.
Marg
Posted by: yoyomarg
Posted on: 2004-02-18 14:15:46
Laura,
I'm curious -- where is their father in all this? Doesn't he want to be in his children's lives? I was surprised that they are going to place Michael in a home without consulting the father which I assume means his father has no legal custody.
Marg
Where is the father of the first 2 children?
Posted by: venessar
Posted on: 2004-07-27 23:43:41
Where is the father of the older 2 children? Why is he not helping with Michael?
Posted by: venessar
Posted on: 2004-07-27 23:43:41
Where is the father of the older 2 children? Why is he not helping with Michael?
Posted by: lisysilva
Posted on: 2004-03-11 15:27:18
you should have her ex go on the show and prove her to be a manipulative liar again. I am sure that will be a show we will all want to see. Especially since she is saying bad about this girls father. I know that one parent speaking ill about another can be damaging to the child and for it all to be lies?
Posted by: susanholdy
Posted on: 2004-03-14 10:09:31
Why don't the fathers--or other relatives of these children--take steps to give them a positive role model. Only after Stacey has gotten all her problems under control,should she be allowed to become involved in her children's lives. My guess is that she is keeping the children because she is getting state aide for their support--in addition to what she receives from the children's fathers and from the Mormon Church. Has Dr. Phil really looked into all the income sources coming into this family and thought about what will happen to the boy who has been removed from the home/whose expenses are not being paid by this family? Even if it is only a nominal amount, I would insist that any child support Stacey receives from this boy's dad should go toward the expenses of the group home rather than into Stacey's purse. I think Dr. Phil is being used and conned/ and that there are a lot more deserving families than this one--and that he should start insisting that they become more honest with him and that they follow his advise--rather than allowing Stacey to play her games and be a "know it all" when it comes to counselling. He threatens to drop them--but I don't think he has the GUTS!!!!
Posted by: sorahr
Posted on: 2004-02-15 00:06:58
I CAN NOT BELIVE SHE HAs a degree in councelling !OF ALL THINGS .YOU WOULD THINK THAT AFTER GETTING A DEGREE SHE WOULD KNOW BETTER!! HA HA!! BECAUSE OF HER MENTAL ILLINESS SHE IS MESSING UP HER KIDS AND HER HUSBAND. HE SHOULD YAKE HIS SON AND LEAVE. HER 2 OLDEST CHILDREN SHOULD GO TO THE FATHER OR A CLOSE REATIVE. AND THEY SHOULD ALL AND I MEAN ALL OF THEM NEED COUNCELLING. MAY GOD BLESS AND HELP THOSE KIDS. IT IS NOT THIER FAULT THAT THIER MOTHER IS A SCREW UP.
SARA
Posted by: tazzmama
Posted on: 2004-02-20 10:38:13
I'm sick to death of labeling all "disgusting" behavior has mental illness. This diminishes those who are truly ill.
We have a person with no morals - She wants what she wants when she wants it with no regard to others.
My concern is that this speaks poorly of our institutions of higher learning. If she can obtain a Masters...the program should be eliminated.
She's not sick
Posted by: ana_texas
Posted on: 2004-02-20 20:06:12
I agree with you 100%.
Of course she is not ill, she is doing this because she wants to, she is selfish and irresponsible, I am so disgusted with this woman. I can't stand watching her face on the screen, I guess I am still watching the show because I can't believe she has not yet apologized to Chris and the kids and every new episode I tell myself this time she will.. but I am lying to myself, she will never do, she feels proud of herself I guess.
Hey Chris, were is your dignity?
Posted by: ana_texas
Posted on: 2004-02-20 20:06:12
I agree with you 100%.
Of course she is not ill, she is doing this because she wants to, she is selfish and irresponsible, I am so disgusted with this woman. I can't stand watching her face on the screen, I guess I am still watching the show because I can't believe she has not yet apologized to Chris and the kids and every new episode I tell myself this time she will.. but I am lying to myself, she will never do, she feels proud of herself I guess.
Hey Chris, were is your dignity?
I agree, "She
Posted by: ibemomma
Posted on: 2004-07-03 07:19:58
She's a hypocrite. She does not understand the type of person that she is. She has some serious moral issues she has not dealt with. I think you treats Chris the way she does because she can. He lets her. He keeps coming back for more of her. For her to be so upset about the financial problems and then turn around and get pregnant again are gross contradictions of behavior on her part. I hope she never gets into the field of counseling. She is definitely not qualified to help anyone in that capacity.
Posted by: ibemomma
Posted on: 2004-07-03 07:19:58
She's a hypocrite. She does not understand the type of person that she is. She has some serious moral issues she has not dealt with. I think you treats Chris the way she does because she can. He lets her. He keeps coming back for more of her. For her to be so upset about the financial problems and then turn around and get pregnant again are gross contradictions of behavior on her part. I hope she never gets into the field of counseling. She is definitely not qualified to help anyone in that capacity.
