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Posted by: imp_girl
Posted on: 2004-03-03 09:34:31
I'm getting married when my father returns from Afghanistan some time next year. I will be happy when I get walked down the aisle and be given to the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life. As long as my family, the priest, the groom and I show up everything else is just water under the bridge.
Posted by: imp_girl
Posted on: 2004-03-03 09:34:31
I'm getting married when my father returns from Afghanistan some time next year. I will be happy when I get walked down the aisle and be given to the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life. As long as my family, the priest, the groom and I show up everything else is just water under the bridge.
To a Mature Girl
Posted by: milmarz
Posted on: 2004-03-03 15:54:43
Sounds like you've got it together. With a father in Afghanistan in the military?, I'm sure you have had the value of a person's life instilled into you rather than material goods like wedding frills.
I pray your father will return safely home as do our other military. May you WEDDING day be short and may your MARRIAGE day be long.
Married 25 yrs and counting.
Posted by: milmarz
Posted on: 2004-03-03 15:54:43
Sounds like you've got it together. With a father in Afghanistan in the military?, I'm sure you have had the value of a person's life instilled into you rather than material goods like wedding frills.
I pray your father will return safely home as do our other military. May you WEDDING day be short and may your MARRIAGE day be long.
Married 25 yrs and counting.
amen to that, kid!
Posted by: houndmom
Posted on: 2004-03-04 00:27:21
Goodness, you DO sound mature. You are so right. Marriage isn't all rose petals on the pillow and fairy tale endings. Too many girls spend years planning a wedding, but think nothing of the marriage to follow.
The wedding, when it comes right down to it, is only the kickoff. The marriage is the real game, and it can be the best thing that ever happened to you! May you be as happy in your new life as I have been in mine. I wish you much, much joy!
houndmom (who got it right the second time around)
Posted by: houndmom
Posted on: 2004-03-04 00:27:21
Goodness, you DO sound mature. You are so right. Marriage isn't all rose petals on the pillow and fairy tale endings. Too many girls spend years planning a wedding, but think nothing of the marriage to follow.
The wedding, when it comes right down to it, is only the kickoff. The marriage is the real game, and it can be the best thing that ever happened to you! May you be as happy in your new life as I have been in mine. I wish you much, much joy!
houndmom (who got it right the second time around)
Is the entertainment Important?
Posted by: ntrdj1
Posted on: 2004-06-08 18:01:06
There are lots of details involved in planning a wedding, why is it that every show, book, magazine, etc puts the least importance on the MOST important factor of having a reception. The main factor is the entertainment you hire. There are many DJ's and Band's to pick from. Don't get caught up in the idea that it's all "water under the bridge" after the ceremony. The entertainment you hire is a direct representive of you. They will/should coordinate the entire reception, so make sure they specialize in weddings. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE! Shop around and meet with them in person. If they refuse a face to face, move on.
Good luck and best wishes!
Posted by: ntrdj1
Posted on: 2004-06-08 18:01:06
There are lots of details involved in planning a wedding, why is it that every show, book, magazine, etc puts the least importance on the MOST important factor of having a reception. The main factor is the entertainment you hire. There are many DJ's and Band's to pick from. Don't get caught up in the idea that it's all "water under the bridge" after the ceremony. The entertainment you hire is a direct representive of you. They will/should coordinate the entire reception, so make sure they specialize in weddings. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE! Shop around and meet with them in person. If they refuse a face to face, move on.
Good luck and best wishes!
Way to go
Posted by: suzant
Posted on: 2004-06-08 21:46:21
I wish you all the luck and happiness you deserve. You sound like you really have it all together, priorities and all! Sue
Posted by: suzant
Posted on: 2004-06-08 21:46:21
I wish you all the luck and happiness you deserve. You sound like you really have it all together, priorities and all! Sue
You're not the only one
Posted by: amissa
Posted on: 2004-03-03 10:09:36
My family disowned me because they didn't like my husband. My sister even called my pastor and either threatened him or somehow talked him out of marrying us OR letting us use the church (THE DAY BEFORE MY WEDDING). I didn't want to go through it all again, and I wasn't going to let them cancel my wedding, so we found a preacher and got married on my neighbor's front porch LOL So I'd definitely say I had a memorable wedding. 4 years later, we have a baby and are doing fine, and my family loves us.
It doesn't matter to me anymore. I'm married to the man I love and I have a wonderful stepdaughter and son. So just get over it already.
Posted by: amissa
Posted on: 2004-03-03 10:09:36
My family disowned me because they didn't like my husband. My sister even called my pastor and either threatened him or somehow talked him out of marrying us OR letting us use the church (THE DAY BEFORE MY WEDDING). I didn't want to go through it all again, and I wasn't going to let them cancel my wedding, so we found a preacher and got married on my neighbor's front porch LOL So I'd definitely say I had a memorable wedding. 4 years later, we have a baby and are doing fine, and my family loves us.
It doesn't matter to me anymore. I'm married to the man I love and I have a wonderful stepdaughter and son. So just get over it already.
You Go Girl!
Posted by: sprottn
Posted on: 2004-06-08 18:02:50
I know just what you are talking about!
My husbands sister tried to talk him into spending the day at the beach with them instead of showing up for the wedding. Scary thing is we were to have the cake cutting a her house!
1 week after the wedding his parents got hold of my mom's UNLISTED phone number (his brother in law was a supervisor at the phone company) and called him trying to talk him into an anullment. They offered to get him his own apartment and buy him a car if he left me!
Needless to say, even 21 years later, we don't have much to do with them. That is hubby's choice, not mine. They showed NO interest in their 2 grandchildren last time we did visit them. Poor kids just do not understand.
I think hubby's parents are still waiting for him to leave me and come home!
Posted by: sprottn
Posted on: 2004-06-08 18:02:50
I know just what you are talking about!
My husbands sister tried to talk him into spending the day at the beach with them instead of showing up for the wedding. Scary thing is we were to have the cake cutting a her house!
1 week after the wedding his parents got hold of my mom's UNLISTED phone number (his brother in law was a supervisor at the phone company) and called him trying to talk him into an anullment. They offered to get him his own apartment and buy him a car if he left me!
Needless to say, even 21 years later, we don't have much to do with them. That is hubby's choice, not mine. They showed NO interest in their 2 grandchildren last time we did visit them. Poor kids just do not understand.
I think hubby's parents are still waiting for him to leave me and come home!
Keesha
Posted by: sandycje
Posted on: 2004-03-03 10:37:56
I feel your pain girl!! I also experienced a wedding disaster and I always wanted to redo it. It's been 14 years and it still bothers me whenever I think about it. I know I should put it behind me, but I know it is going to bother me until I put things right. My husband and I have decided we will wait until our 25th anniversary and have a small, special celebration with only our closest friends and families. We want
to renew our vows in the church and then
have a mini reception. We have 11 years toplan it and make it special.
I was so young and inexperienced then I relied too much on "The Books" and my mother. (I feel your pain too, Erin) This time I'm going to think about what I really want and not just go with whatever is popular at the time. I'm not going to try to squeeze in every tradition that means nothing to me just because someone says that's what you're supposed to do. Keesha, wait until a special occasion and do it again your way. You deserve your special day. You have a good man. Be happy!
Posted by: sandycje
Posted on: 2004-03-03 10:37:56
I feel your pain girl!! I also experienced a wedding disaster and I always wanted to redo it. It's been 14 years and it still bothers me whenever I think about it. I know I should put it behind me, but I know it is going to bother me until I put things right. My husband and I have decided we will wait until our 25th anniversary and have a small, special celebration with only our closest friends and families. We want
to renew our vows in the church and then
have a mini reception. We have 11 years toplan it and make it special.
I was so young and inexperienced then I relied too much on "The Books" and my mother. (I feel your pain too, Erin) This time I'm going to think about what I really want and not just go with whatever is popular at the time. I'm not going to try to squeeze in every tradition that means nothing to me just because someone says that's what you're supposed to do. Keesha, wait until a special occasion and do it again your way. You deserve your special day. You have a good man. Be happy!
I feel her pain too!!
Posted by: biblekitty
Posted on: 2004-03-03 15:36:40
Without my knowledge my MIL redid our whole wedding reception. My friends (knowing something was up as it was so obviously not my style) were trying to distract me and make up for the embarrassment! It was such a horrible situation and a crashing introduction of MILs future stunts. In spite of MIL, we have almost made it to 7 years. At year 10 we are considering a restatement of our vows so hopefully we can have a party that we can be proud of.
Posted by: biblekitty
Posted on: 2004-03-03 15:36:40
Without my knowledge my MIL redid our whole wedding reception. My friends (knowing something was up as it was so obviously not my style) were trying to distract me and make up for the embarrassment! It was such a horrible situation and a crashing introduction of MILs future stunts. In spite of MIL, we have almost made it to 7 years. At year 10 we are considering a restatement of our vows so hopefully we can have a party that we can be proud of.
MY PAIN IS BETTER NOW
Posted by: milmarz
Posted on: 2004-03-03 16:02:27
My son got married last year Sept. His bride, also named Erin, was the one with all the correct etiquete sp? book (a big three ring notebook). The stuff I pulled off the websites were totally not acceptable though they varied as to the duties. Not being told what to do then for the correct thing to do, I apparently didn't do what I was supposed to do and we weren't invited to the wedding and have no part in their life, not by choice. It's their choice to exclude us. They're young and have so much to learn.
Posted by: milmarz
Posted on: 2004-03-03 16:02:27
My son got married last year Sept. His bride, also named Erin, was the one with all the correct etiquete sp? book (a big three ring notebook). The stuff I pulled off the websites were totally not acceptable though they varied as to the duties. Not being told what to do then for the correct thing to do, I apparently didn't do what I was supposed to do and we weren't invited to the wedding and have no part in their life, not by choice. It's their choice to exclude us. They're young and have so much to learn.
milmarz:
Posted by: lyndish
Posted on: 2004-03-03 19:13:44
A big three ring notebook OR a big three ring circus?
Posted by: lyndish
Posted on: 2004-03-03 19:13:44
A big three ring notebook OR a big three ring circus?
Keesha
Posted by: mrsfrz
Posted on: 2004-03-04 00:21:41
Keesha, I was so impressed that even with all your disappointments you continued to keep a smile on your face and your sense of humor. You are such a beautiful person.I can't imagine how you must have felt when one disaster after another happened, but I do want to tell you one thing. You may not have gotten to do your wedding over, but seeing you and your husband dance together today, witnessed by millions, I could see so much love between the two of you. It felt like watching a wedding to me, so I hope you can replace the hurt of the past with the joy of that dance. And go buy your grandmother a chair!
Posted by: mrsfrz
Posted on: 2004-03-04 00:21:41
Keesha, I was so impressed that even with all your disappointments you continued to keep a smile on your face and your sense of humor. You are such a beautiful person.I can't imagine how you must have felt when one disaster after another happened, but I do want to tell you one thing. You may not have gotten to do your wedding over, but seeing you and your husband dance together today, witnessed by millions, I could see so much love between the two of you. It felt like watching a wedding to me, so I hope you can replace the hurt of the past with the joy of that dance. And go buy your grandmother a chair!
I am amazed!
Posted by: beckrogers
Posted on: 2004-03-03 11:12:41
My 22 wedding anniversary is May 22, 2004. We had a very big wedding because that is all Mom wanted. All I wanted was to marry the best guy I had ever met. I really didn't have much to say about the arrangements. I knew the party was for my parents and my future in-laws so I let my Mom run with it. I had a few small requests like the bouquets the bridesmaids carried and the colors that they wore but I really just wanted to get married to this wonderful man. I didn't even go to the reception hall to help decorate. I just showed up and that was fine with Mom. When I hear of all of these women with such dreams about their weddings it just amazes me. It is one day! Your marriage is hopefully for the rest of your life. As long as you have picked the right guy the rest shouldn't matter. When I think back on that day all that I can remember is seeing him standing there waiting for me to walk down the aisle and how happy we were. Now that is a joyful memory! My parents and his parents had a wonderful time at their big party and we have had a wonderful time for 22 years.
Posted by: beckrogers
Posted on: 2004-03-03 11:12:41
My 22 wedding anniversary is May 22, 2004. We had a very big wedding because that is all Mom wanted. All I wanted was to marry the best guy I had ever met. I really didn't have much to say about the arrangements. I knew the party was for my parents and my future in-laws so I let my Mom run with it. I had a few small requests like the bouquets the bridesmaids carried and the colors that they wore but I really just wanted to get married to this wonderful man. I didn't even go to the reception hall to help decorate. I just showed up and that was fine with Mom. When I hear of all of these women with such dreams about their weddings it just amazes me. It is one day! Your marriage is hopefully for the rest of your life. As long as you have picked the right guy the rest shouldn't matter. When I think back on that day all that I can remember is seeing him standing there waiting for me to walk down the aisle and how happy we were. Now that is a joyful memory! My parents and his parents had a wonderful time at their big party and we have had a wonderful time for 22 years.
Weddinng Dance
Posted by: peaturkey
Posted on: 2004-03-03 12:10:16
At first I thought...I wish Dr. Phil would have Robin up to join him and the couple in the dance ,then I thought...I'm glad he didn't...it was so perfect and touching. I loved it. The entire show was handled perfectly. I'm giving Dr. Phil an "A" on this one.
Posted by: peaturkey
Posted on: 2004-03-03 12:10:16
At first I thought...I wish Dr. Phil would have Robin up to join him and the couple in the dance ,then I thought...I'm glad he didn't...it was so perfect and touching. I loved it. The entire show was handled perfectly. I'm giving Dr. Phil an "A" on this one.
Oh How Sweet
Posted by: hills4him
Posted on: 2004-03-03 20:39:36
I am in agreement! That dance was one of the sweetest things I have seen on this show. The simplest acts are usually the most touching. As soon as he asked her to dance, the flood gates opened and I cried through the rest of the show.
Posted by: hills4him
Posted on: 2004-03-03 20:39:36
I am in agreement! That dance was one of the sweetest things I have seen on this show. The simplest acts are usually the most touching. As soon as he asked her to dance, the flood gates opened and I cried through the rest of the show.
Oh How Sweet
Posted by: sackiesue
Posted on: 2004-03-07 02:06:43
I was so touched by this couple. They look so happy together.I could feel their love for each other. When he walked out and asked her to dance I started to cry tears of joy and happiness for them.
Posted by: sackiesue
Posted on: 2004-03-07 02:06:43
I was so touched by this couple. They look so happy together.I could feel their love for each other. When he walked out and asked her to dance I started to cry tears of joy and happiness for them.
me too
Posted by: cathy31580
Posted on: 2004-06-08 16:27:54
I cried too...it was so sweet and how handsome he looked in that tux...
Posted by: cathy31580
Posted on: 2004-06-08 16:27:54
I cried too...it was so sweet and how handsome he looked in that tux...
Oh How Sweet
Posted by: hills4him
Posted on: 2004-03-03 20:39:40
I am in agreement! That dance was one of the sweetest things I have seen on this show. The simplest acts are usually the most touching. As soon as he asked her to dance, the flood gates opened and I cried through the rest of the show.
Posted by: hills4him
Posted on: 2004-03-03 20:39:40
I am in agreement! That dance was one of the sweetest things I have seen on this show. The simplest acts are usually the most touching. As soon as he asked her to dance, the flood gates opened and I cried through the rest of the show.
Wow! That's amazing!
Posted by: sunfox
Posted on: 2004-03-03 13:15:54
I'm getting married on May 22, 2004. Talk about coincidence! Well, it sounds like it's a very lucky day to get married or have an anniversary. Congratulations on your 22nd wedding anniversary. :)
Posted by: sunfox
Posted on: 2004-03-03 13:15:54
I'm getting married on May 22, 2004. Talk about coincidence! Well, it sounds like it's a very lucky day to get married or have an anniversary. Congratulations on your 22nd wedding anniversary. :)
birthday
Posted by: my_bubba
Posted on: 2004-03-03 17:15:04
I am turning 20 on May 22, 2004!
:o) Rachael
Posted by: my_bubba
Posted on: 2004-03-03 17:15:04
I am turning 20 on May 22, 2004!
:o) Rachael
