03/19 Marriage Hungry

Get a clue
Posted by: imp_girl
Posted on: 2003-11-07 08:17:13

I'm 26 years old and do not feel like an "old maid". I use to be like those girls until I found out the only person who can make me happy is me. Do I want a life partner? Sure. It would be nice to find someone compatible with me. Do I need someone to make me feel complete? Absolutely not. Hopefully, they get the hint and get a life before a marriage.
Here's a Clue for U!
Posted by: cab1976
Posted on: 2003-11-07 10:39:01

Excuse me, In response to your comments about the "Wedding Hungry Girls".....
You have not even seen the show yet, you are basing your opinions on a few sentences you read in the precap on this site.
The three of us girls, are all on, with a different feeling...and reaction to not being married yet, and each one of us is very different.... There is nothing wrong with having a feeling about something...even if it's a sad one,that's what makes us human, Ms. Complete!
Here's a clue for you, first watch the show today...NOTE:We are all fully alive, speaking & well...We are all beautiful,we each have our very own unique personalities and are all very educated women.....Last I checked...that constitutes having a LIFE...before marriage!
I am a very Happy person, I just wonder at times if I will ever find my future life partner....Like every other women dreams about!!! Though I respect your personal opinions when it comes to you and this issue, you must know all the facts before you place your judgement on other people.
I Have a life & a damn good one, it would just be complimented even more by a man!
Hint: Watch the show!!!
Sincerely, ConnieAnne
I felt the same
Posted by: shonadog
Posted on: 2003-11-07 16:00:25

I was 42 when I got married 2 years ago. When I was in my 30's I thought I was the jerk magnet. All girls think they will be married in their early 20's with the baby's and picket fence. It doesn't always turn out that way. I met my husband at work and I'm glad I waited to find the right guy. Believe me, I thought I was going to be by myself for the rest of my life. Just give your self time and the right guy will come and sweep you off your feet.
biological clock
Posted by: chessiep
Posted on: 2003-11-07 17:19:41

I'm 41, and I feel like I'm missing out on an important part of life because I've never found the right man. I've been a pediatric nurse for years and am about to graduate in the spring with a master of divinity degree and hope to be ordained in the ministry. I've had a full life, and I'm comfortable with being by myself, but I have always wanted a family of my own. There's no time deadline for marriage, but there is for children. As a single nurse preparing for the ministry with graduate school loans to pay back, I won't even have the option to adopt - I simply couldn't afford to support a child. So I feel very disappointed and worry about the future when I'm old and my only family left, if I have any at all, is my sister. I don't think Dr. Phil has addressed this issue at all. It's hard not to wonder why other women can find several husbands in a lifetime and I can't even find one.
bio clock....
Posted by: jazz2bm
Posted on: 2003-11-07 17:51:22

I totally understand where cheesiep is coming from...but, my bio clock already RAN OUT! I started menopause about 6 years ago...I cried for months. People have tried to comfort me and say... you can always adopt. It's not that simple, when your an older single woman and you'd still like to find Mr. Right. My biggest fear is still growing old and ALONE... I am NOT desperate... but its a very hard not to feel like your really missing out on alot of joy in your life NOT having someone to share it with.
bio clock
Posted by: 473366
Posted on: 2003-11-08 19:55:32

You know the old saying "sweet 16 and never been kissed" well I'm 38 now and can still say that.Can you inagine a life where you have NEVER been kissed, never had a date - how pathetic am I??? - would I like to have a Husband / partner? absolutly, the thought that I will remain alone into old age depresses me beyond words ..
473366 Never Been Kissed
Posted by: iknowhoiam
Posted on: 2003-11-10 20:16:17

Can I imagine a life where you have NEVER been kissed, never had a date? Yes, I can imagine that. I can also say that I'm living this in reality--and I'm 38 as well. But I chose to stop thinking of myself as pathetic. Each of us has a different path in life and I do my best to enjoy the one I've been given.

And yes, I want to get married, but I've stopped letting this become the "focus" of my existence. I have a life that's worth living, and with or without marriage, that life is/will still be worth living.

As to being alone in old age, I know people who WERE married and HAD children who are alone. My suggestion is, don't let yourself get depressed over something that hasn't happened. Focus on the good things you've got in your life and enjoy what you have.
Dear Never been kissed
Posted by: cab1976
Posted on: 2003-11-14 14:37:31

HEllo, Connie from the show here...How's it going? Listen, Is it really true that you have never been kissed,or been on a date?
I mean, I don't mean to be rude or anything of that nature...but 38, Are you a male or female?, just out of curiousity! What is the reason behind never dating? Is that just like a choice of yours, or are there just no men or women around to date? I couldn't imagine never going on a date, or never being kissed, Wow!!!! Hmmmm.......
I think we need to find you a date!!!???What do you think? And where are you from, if you don't mind me asking?
bellyjean7@hotmail.com
Have a pleasant Day! ~ConnieAnne
connie
Posted by: noidsleft
Posted on: 2004-03-22 20:46:43

hi connie,

i just wanted to tell you that i think you are so funny. you were cracking me up. you shouldn't worry so much about finding someone. i am 29 years old and finally met a great guy. an older woman once told me don't settle and i didn't and you shouldn't either. keep cracking people up. if you want email me so i can introduce you to my brother, i know he would get a kick out of you. asmokeyk@yahoo.com i will tell you more about him when you write to me.

hope to hear from you soon

ak
ak
Posted by: noidsleft
Posted on: 2004-03-22 23:54:44

ak
to the 2nd never been kissed
Posted by: noidsleft
Posted on: 2004-03-22 23:54:35

you have it right girl. focus on the good. i know a nice guy in the ny area. he is about your age, nice guy, great job. write to me asmokeyk@yahoo.com and i will give you some info about him and you guys could chat by email.

your friend
ak
Sweet 16
Posted by: hicks94515
Posted on: 2004-03-24 00:49:05

Yes I know the saying, and I am surprised to learn there are others out there with same situations as I. I have been kissed, but I can count the number of times on one hand. I will be 38 in August and it bothers me that I have never had a steady relationship. And it's not because I haven't wanted one. I had two big issues that kept me withdrawn or "shy" and that was my hearing and my weight. Well 5 years ago I had a cochlear implant so my hearing is better than ever and two years ago I had a gastric bypass. So the weight issue has been resolved, but still no man on the horizon. Don't know where to begin and I am told that guys look at me but I don't see them or respond. Well them looking does me no good, why don't they approach? Who knows, but anyhow it was reassuring to read there are other women who have the same issues. It was even good to hear of those who married at 40 for the first time. I have to believe and have hope that the future will not be alone and single.

Posted by: sushi1062
Posted on: 2004-11-27 10:22:55

It just gets tougher for women as they get older. I'm a 42 yr old divorced mother of one son. Talk about impossible to meet men.

When people are in their early 20s, they usually have no kids, no spouse, when they aren't in school or working they are out meeting each other. It's all they do.

35+ women usually have kids to take care of, they work, they sometimes have husbands/wives. Primarily it is because they have children and have no time to go out and meet others if they are single/divorced. What used to be the time slot for club-hopping, socializing, dancing, etc. is now reserved for housework and parenting time.

Hate to say it, but it is just harder in general for 35+ women. Men love those 25 year olds. Plus, majority of men who are 35+ themselves are likely to be married and aren't out on the single's scene.

It's rough but it's very possible--Just a tad harder--For everyone, even those with perfect hearing and a Barbie-doll figure.

Good luck!
Find lips
Posted by: sushi1062
Posted on: 2004-11-27 10:18:42

Find some lips to kiss. If you want "it" bad enough, keep persisting. I don't know your situation, but lips are out there to kiss if you want them bad enough. Hang in there.

I'm between lips right now and I can say that having lips to kiss everyday is much better! I love men and I love having a good man I care about to share life with, to be with me, physically/emotionally/mentally, and so I know that I definitely like being around them more than I like NOT being around them.
I say the same things you do everyday
Posted by: mickylov
Posted on: 2003-11-07 19:18:53

I am in my late 20's and everything you said I say to myself everyday, My new years wish for 2003 was to have a good date with a man which so far has yet to happen. Being single and dateing is awful, I have been on dates where he refused to pay for dinner, you name them I have had them all, bad. So I guess 2004 will be the same wish to have a good date. People ask me if I have children no I say ooooo you better hurry they whisper tick tock. I HATE IT.
The high cost of having dinner.
Posted by: kevinbac
Posted on: 2004-03-22 12:54:17

Why is it that a lot of women think that a man should pay for their dinner? Aren't you getting as much from it as he is? Why is your time and company so important that he should have to pay for the priviledge of your company? When I was 25, I took a woman (blind date) to a movie and then out for drinks. I paid for everything. In return, she probably said no more than 100 words to me all night. She couldn't understand why I had her home be 9:00. I could have did the same by myself, had a better time and saved money. Women complain that men who buy them dinner expect sex in exchange. Well duh!!! Quit trying to "sell" the priviledge of spending time with you. He can't expect anything in return if you haven't given him a reason too. You might get more and better dates as a result.
din din
Posted by: noidsleft
Posted on: 2004-03-22 23:55:16

hey buddy,

this is about the ladies try not bashing them anymore. nothing wrong if a woman pays but no need for the man to get all attitude about it and you know it. guys these days need a good lesson.

ak
equality
Posted by: koert1977
Posted on: 2004-08-17 17:10:26

Kevin, you are totally right. If women want to be treated as equal (which is a good thing) then they should also act with some shared responsibility.
I find it nice to pay / buy her things if the relation gets more serious. Then I consider it pampering, not buying her interest or her love. But it is usually wiser to split the bill now and then in the beginning.
Alone in San Anton
Posted by: cheesyjane
Posted on: 2003-11-10 14:39:29

I'm tired of being single, and on the verge of becoming 30!! Everywhere I look everyone is married with children. Girls I went to High School with, all have children and are married. My best friend and I were the last two non-married girls from our graduating class. Now however, she is married, and I'm still alone. I have a loser boyfriend, and I stay with him only because there is no one else out there for me. I'm tired of everyone telling me, "lose the zero, and get a hero"!! I've looked everywhere (under rocks, in the alley, at church, school, you name it, I've looked) I'm destined to be alone with 100 cats, and I should start getting use to it. My loser boyfriend speaks constantly of marriage, but does not act upon it. I feel that If he truly wanted to get married to me, we would have done it already. People that look like me don't have a long list of men to date. So, I'm stuck with my loser!! All I want is to be MARRIED!!!!
Get out!
Posted by: erinmariee
Posted on: 2003-11-10 17:37:21

You are selling yourself short. If you think your boyfriend is a loser than you need to get out now, especially if he is talking about marriage. If you don't see yourself with him in the future you are not only hurting yourself by staying with him but you're also hurting him. The longer you stay with him the harder it will be to leave.
There are tons of guys out there! Your prince charming will come when you least expect it. Don't look too hard, you'll only look desperate and push guys away. Have fun with the girls while you wait!! Don't worry, you'll find your match.