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Posted by: cstasia
Posted on: 2003-11-11 12:21:54
My caterer poisoned my guests and the wedding party at the dinner and we were all sick for a couple of days. One guest went into premature labor and balmed us for her miscarriage.My husbands grandmother broke her hip and was unable to ever return to her home and was placed in a nursing home.We never had a honeymoon as we felt we should spend the little money we had visiting the people poisoned.Our wedding is now case study in food handling service course. We didn't sue or anything because I don't believe it was a vicious thing but an accident.The Health Dept shut him down for a while and fined him for improper handling and reheating of the dinner.I do wish he had at least apologized but maybe he couldn't legally at the time.. I tried to take ..it in stride When I sent out my thank you's I wrote them on squares of toilet paper.Most of my guests were gracious and took being sick in good humor.I guess that is what it is really about . I would like to renew our vows this year at 10 years to replace this awful memory but finaci ally it isn't possible.. so maybe at our 25th anniversary god willing!!I am sure it could have been worse!!
Posted by: cstasia
Posted on: 2003-11-11 12:21:54
My caterer poisoned my guests and the wedding party at the dinner and we were all sick for a couple of days. One guest went into premature labor and balmed us for her miscarriage.My husbands grandmother broke her hip and was unable to ever return to her home and was placed in a nursing home.We never had a honeymoon as we felt we should spend the little money we had visiting the people poisoned.Our wedding is now case study in food handling service course. We didn't sue or anything because I don't believe it was a vicious thing but an accident.The Health Dept shut him down for a while and fined him for improper handling and reheating of the dinner.I do wish he had at least apologized but maybe he couldn't legally at the time.. I tried to take ..it in stride When I sent out my thank you's I wrote them on squares of toilet paper.Most of my guests were gracious and took being sick in good humor.I guess that is what it is really about . I would like to renew our vows this year at 10 years to replace this awful memory but finaci ally it isn't possible.. so maybe at our 25th anniversary god willing!!I am sure it could have been worse!!
Shawna
Posted by: judymagic
Posted on: 2003-11-11 12:48:11
My message is for Shawna. I got married on Oct 18, 2003 and I know exactly what you are going through. I am not tall but I am heavy( I went the other way) but may I add that you looked so beautiful in your dress and I am sure you will in any dress. I tried and tried to lose weight but the more I focused on it the more I would get frustrated. Finally I said "you know what they all know I am fat and it is ok for now". I will focus on that after the wedding and enjoy the best day of my life. I hated my picture taken and I just couldn't think about being the center of attention. I would panic just thinking about it. I would say " I can't talk about this right now or I will be sick". But I did want this big wedding (125 people) because it was my dream to have a big wedding and I knew somehow I would get through it. People offered me "happy pills" but I didn't want to be medicated and not remember anything. I went through this with the attitude the I know something will go wrong and it WILL be ok. This our wedding and SO What if I do something stupid...the guests will laugh and will know it is just me. I needed to take ammodium for "Insurance" and I knew that I would be ok. When I was ready to walk down aisle I almost broke into tears and then all the sudden this calmness came about and all my fears went away and it went perfectly. These people were all friends and family and they were happy to be a part of our day. I hope this helps in some way. Good Luck
Posted by: judymagic
Posted on: 2003-11-11 12:48:11
My message is for Shawna. I got married on Oct 18, 2003 and I know exactly what you are going through. I am not tall but I am heavy( I went the other way) but may I add that you looked so beautiful in your dress and I am sure you will in any dress. I tried and tried to lose weight but the more I focused on it the more I would get frustrated. Finally I said "you know what they all know I am fat and it is ok for now". I will focus on that after the wedding and enjoy the best day of my life. I hated my picture taken and I just couldn't think about being the center of attention. I would panic just thinking about it. I would say " I can't talk about this right now or I will be sick". But I did want this big wedding (125 people) because it was my dream to have a big wedding and I knew somehow I would get through it. People offered me "happy pills" but I didn't want to be medicated and not remember anything. I went through this with the attitude the I know something will go wrong and it WILL be ok. This our wedding and SO What if I do something stupid...the guests will laugh and will know it is just me. I needed to take ammodium for "Insurance" and I knew that I would be ok. When I was ready to walk down aisle I almost broke into tears and then all the sudden this calmness came about and all my fears went away and it went perfectly. These people were all friends and family and they were happy to be a part of our day. I hope this helps in some way. Good Luck
Shawna
Posted by: dibyv1
Posted on: 2003-11-11 16:20:16
Would someone PLEASE tell this lady that she does not have to wear a dress!!! Why can't she wear beautiful flowing pants and the type of top she would be comfortable in?!?!?
She wants to be at ease and that would take unbelievable pressure off of her so she could enjoy everything.
Posted by: dibyv1
Posted on: 2003-11-11 16:20:16
Would someone PLEASE tell this lady that she does not have to wear a dress!!! Why can't she wear beautiful flowing pants and the type of top she would be comfortable in?!?!?
She wants to be at ease and that would take unbelievable pressure off of her so she could enjoy everything.
Shawna
Posted by: thinker2
Posted on: 2003-11-11 17:13:16
Great suggestions from Dr. Phil and friends, BUT absolutely agree with dibyv! Find a beautiful pantsuit, maybe a rayon or crepe material, with a long duster, or an embroidered peplum that can be unattached, or palazzo pants that flow gracefully - lots of options. Shawna will be more comfortable and still make a lovely bride...dancing to her own music.
Posted by: thinker2
Posted on: 2003-11-11 17:13:16
Great suggestions from Dr. Phil and friends, BUT absolutely agree with dibyv! Find a beautiful pantsuit, maybe a rayon or crepe material, with a long duster, or an embroidered peplum that can be unattached, or palazzo pants that flow gracefully - lots of options. Shawna will be more comfortable and still make a lovely bride...dancing to her own music.
Shawna
Posted by: kathan
Posted on: 2003-11-11 18:25:26
I agree Shawna should do what makes her comfortable. I suggest she and her husband-to-be read The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron. I understand how she feels. Some of us feel overwhelmed by too much stimulation, such as a wedding. She should schedule some time-out during the day when she can get away by herself and have some quiet time away from the spotlight and regroup. This is not a character flaw; it is simply a different way of processing external stimulation and she shouldn't feel guilty about feeling uncomfortable in this situation. She could also use EFT to help with the jitters. This is an acupressure technique that can help remove anxiety, phobias and many kinds of discomfort. It can be learned from the website: www.emofree.com or she could find an EFT practitioner in her area, also on the website. A wedding should be a happy experience.
Posted by: kathan
Posted on: 2003-11-11 18:25:26
I agree Shawna should do what makes her comfortable. I suggest she and her husband-to-be read The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron. I understand how she feels. Some of us feel overwhelmed by too much stimulation, such as a wedding. She should schedule some time-out during the day when she can get away by herself and have some quiet time away from the spotlight and regroup. This is not a character flaw; it is simply a different way of processing external stimulation and she shouldn't feel guilty about feeling uncomfortable in this situation. She could also use EFT to help with the jitters. This is an acupressure technique that can help remove anxiety, phobias and many kinds of discomfort. It can be learned from the website: www.emofree.com or she could find an EFT practitioner in her area, also on the website. A wedding should be a happy experience.
Angst Ridden
Posted by: jtraveler
Posted on: 2003-11-12 09:33:25
I, too, have strong perfectionist tendencies. I have never been thin enough, smart enough, efficient enough, my house is never clean enough, and no one can ever do things to suit me. It does cause a ton of anxiety and way too much stress. I have reached the point where I am under control, most of the time, thanks to my great husband. He always makes the best of every situation and makes me laugh at how crazy I am being over nothing. Let Shawna get married to the man that obviously loves her no matter what. They can work through her issues together. It is so much easier with someone to hold your fat, skinny, wrinkled, chapped, ugly......hand!
Posted by: jtraveler
Posted on: 2003-11-12 09:33:25
I, too, have strong perfectionist tendencies. I have never been thin enough, smart enough, efficient enough, my house is never clean enough, and no one can ever do things to suit me. It does cause a ton of anxiety and way too much stress. I have reached the point where I am under control, most of the time, thanks to my great husband. He always makes the best of every situation and makes me laugh at how crazy I am being over nothing. Let Shawna get married to the man that obviously loves her no matter what. They can work through her issues together. It is so much easier with someone to hold your fat, skinny, wrinkled, chapped, ugly......hand!
Pants ARE ok!
Posted by: ibyoureyes
Posted on: 2004-04-01 11:29:13
Yesterday as I watched Shawna on the show, I told my hubby, "She'd look GREAT in a really nice pant suit with a hat." I am an organist and have always admired Diane Bish (who is a world renowned organist). She wears pants when she is playing (a bit of modesty ) and they always look super. She usually has them designed so that when she is standing, it looks like she's wearing a dress. (There's usually a panel in the front and back to disguise the pants.) Something like this would be beautiful! Have the panels made so that they are removable for the reception. Most importantly, BE COMFORTABLE! It's YOUR day and you can do whatever you want!!! best of luck to you both!
Posted by: ibyoureyes
Posted on: 2004-04-01 11:29:13
Yesterday as I watched Shawna on the show, I told my hubby, "She'd look GREAT in a really nice pant suit with a hat." I am an organist and have always admired Diane Bish (who is a world renowned organist). She wears pants when she is playing (a bit of modesty ) and they always look super. She usually has them designed so that when she is standing, it looks like she's wearing a dress. (There's usually a panel in the front and back to disguise the pants.) Something like this would be beautiful! Have the panels made so that they are removable for the reception. Most importantly, BE COMFORTABLE! It's YOUR day and you can do whatever you want!!! best of luck to you both!
My Story
Posted by: tracie918
Posted on: 2003-11-11 19:27:19
This is for the gal who doesn't want to wear a wedding dress: DON'T! I designed my own wedding outfit. I wore palazzo pants that had big wide legs. My top had antique Italian lace. The whole thing wasn't white, but candlelight instead. My bridesmaids wore palazzo pants and top too. They all still talk about how comfortable they were at the reception and how they could just relax and have fun! I felt the exact same way! Plan your wedding to be what YOU want it to be and have a blast!
Posted by: tracie918
Posted on: 2003-11-11 19:27:19
This is for the gal who doesn't want to wear a wedding dress: DON'T! I designed my own wedding outfit. I wore palazzo pants that had big wide legs. My top had antique Italian lace. The whole thing wasn't white, but candlelight instead. My bridesmaids wore palazzo pants and top too. They all still talk about how comfortable they were at the reception and how they could just relax and have fun! I felt the exact same way! Plan your wedding to be what YOU want it to be and have a blast!
I agree !
Posted by: lucia57
Posted on: 2003-11-14 08:57:45
I have been married for 25 years and still remember standing in front of the mirror for the first time in my wedding gown and I felt like I was dressing up for Holloween. I was not comfortable in that traditional gown. Please wear and do what ever you need to so you can enjoy your day!
Posted by: lucia57
Posted on: 2003-11-14 08:57:45
I have been married for 25 years and still remember standing in front of the mirror for the first time in my wedding gown and I felt like I was dressing up for Holloween. I was not comfortable in that traditional gown. Please wear and do what ever you need to so you can enjoy your day!
A White dress isn't an "old" tradition
Posted by: cijaym
Posted on: 2003-11-11 21:38:08
It was Queen Victoria who started that. Shawna, my sister in law made the most beautiful outfit for me for a fancy party. I can't stand wearing dresses and simply won't. Mine was in hunter green but it was just a satin 't-shirt' and flowing pants and a duster coat that was either one little shade darker or else it's because it was a different fabric (Chinese embossed kinda' stuff). It was so comfy and so "me". She also made a sash with the fabric from the shirt & pants, I tied it like cummerbund. I have never felt better at a fancy party. (I hate formal.) Good luck, you'll be beautiful and remember, you don't have to wear white!
Posted by: cijaym
Posted on: 2003-11-11 21:38:08
It was Queen Victoria who started that. Shawna, my sister in law made the most beautiful outfit for me for a fancy party. I can't stand wearing dresses and simply won't. Mine was in hunter green but it was just a satin 't-shirt' and flowing pants and a duster coat that was either one little shade darker or else it's because it was a different fabric (Chinese embossed kinda' stuff). It was so comfy and so "me". She also made a sash with the fabric from the shirt & pants, I tied it like cummerbund. I have never felt better at a fancy party. (I hate formal.) Good luck, you'll be beautiful and remember, you don't have to wear white!
Sensitive
Posted by: briana03
Posted on: 2003-11-12 12:26:43
I think Dr. Phil was off mark with the person who did not want to have a wedding and her fiance did.
I totally relate with this woman and had similar problems with situations for my whole life -- I hate being the center of attention, cried when attention was centered on me, etc.
Although some of the changes they suggested will be a little helpful, I still believe the wedding will not be a positive situation for her. But unfortunately unless her fiance changes his mind nothing will help except eloping.
It is very hard to be a over-sensitive person in the world today and I wish her luck.
Posted by: briana03
Posted on: 2003-11-12 12:26:43
I think Dr. Phil was off mark with the person who did not want to have a wedding and her fiance did.
I totally relate with this woman and had similar problems with situations for my whole life -- I hate being the center of attention, cried when attention was centered on me, etc.
Although some of the changes they suggested will be a little helpful, I still believe the wedding will not be a positive situation for her. But unfortunately unless her fiance changes his mind nothing will help except eloping.
It is very hard to be a over-sensitive person in the world today and I wish her luck.
I don't believe this sensitive woman!
Posted by: lacyseyes
Posted on: 2004-03-31 11:38:20
Give me a break! She is so shy and sensitive that she does not want to be in a situation where she is the center of attention??? I hardly believed my eyes and ears. OMG ... how ridiculous!!
She has the gall to get on National TV, where her story about her shyness makes her the center of attention, in front of hundreds in the audience and thousands upon thousands in the viewing audience, only to proclaim that she is TOO SHY to have a wedding!?!?!
OMG ... can she be anymore inconsistent???? She shows by her actions that she craves attention and is in no way shy!
Posted by: lacyseyes
Posted on: 2004-03-31 11:38:20
Give me a break! She is so shy and sensitive that she does not want to be in a situation where she is the center of attention??? I hardly believed my eyes and ears. OMG ... how ridiculous!!
She has the gall to get on National TV, where her story about her shyness makes her the center of attention, in front of hundreds in the audience and thousands upon thousands in the viewing audience, only to proclaim that she is TOO SHY to have a wedding!?!?!
OMG ... can she be anymore inconsistent???? She shows by her actions that she craves attention and is in no way shy!
Thank -You ..Saved Me Having To Say It
Posted by: gingerlb
Posted on: 2004-03-31 17:58:34
I agree...You don't go on national tv to tell people you dont like to be seen and have attention paid to you ...thats like saying you dont like to talk in public and then becoming a motivational speaker.....come lets be serious ..she just want to put on a big show and then have people make a big deal out of the fact shes gone through with it all....And the fact that she let some one video tape her complaining about having a picture taken was just so so so pathetic...
Posted by: gingerlb
Posted on: 2004-03-31 17:58:34
I agree...You don't go on national tv to tell people you dont like to be seen and have attention paid to you ...thats like saying you dont like to talk in public and then becoming a motivational speaker.....come lets be serious ..she just want to put on a big show and then have people make a big deal out of the fact shes gone through with it all....And the fact that she let some one video tape her complaining about having a picture taken was just so so so pathetic...
You Don't Get It
Posted by: curvybum
Posted on: 2004-03-31 18:55:41
Because you're not this type of person, you can't understand her thoughts and feelings; and therefore, since it's so different from YOUR own emotional makeup/way of dealing with/viewing the world, you discount it with incredulity.
There have been studies done which infer that introversion/extroversion/shyness and social aptitude may be a genetically influenced component. On TV she has Dr. Phil supporting her and only sees the seated and anonymous small audience (100 people, about the number of people who will be at her wedding) who she doesn't have to figure out how to interact with.
Posted by: curvybum
Posted on: 2004-03-31 18:55:41
Because you're not this type of person, you can't understand her thoughts and feelings; and therefore, since it's so different from YOUR own emotional makeup/way of dealing with/viewing the world, you discount it with incredulity.
There have been studies done which infer that introversion/extroversion/shyness and social aptitude may be a genetically influenced component. On TV she has Dr. Phil supporting her and only sees the seated and anonymous small audience (100 people, about the number of people who will be at her wedding) who she doesn't have to figure out how to interact with.
You do not know...
Posted by: lacyseyes
Posted on: 2004-04-01 00:20:26
How psychic of you to ASSume that I am not this kind of person. You do not know. However, I congratulate you on your "studies" and big words.
Generally, genetics has little to do with being shy. Outward situations, responses to youthful interaction, family dynamic and so many other events and personal contact play a part in this personality trait. Genetically speaking we could add "shyness" in the discrimination clauses of race, sex, religion, etc. if your were correct! LOL! Funny, it's not there!
Shyness would STOP her dead in her tracks from appearing on National TV. Don't for one minute think she does not know that a couple million people watch this show and that she will be "center stage" during this process.
She craves attention, which in no way denotes shyness. Get real!!
Posted by: lacyseyes
Posted on: 2004-04-01 00:20:26
How psychic of you to ASSume that I am not this kind of person. You do not know. However, I congratulate you on your "studies" and big words.
Generally, genetics has little to do with being shy. Outward situations, responses to youthful interaction, family dynamic and so many other events and personal contact play a part in this personality trait. Genetically speaking we could add "shyness" in the discrimination clauses of race, sex, religion, etc. if your were correct! LOL! Funny, it's not there!
Shyness would STOP her dead in her tracks from appearing on National TV. Don't for one minute think she does not know that a couple million people watch this show and that she will be "center stage" during this process.
She craves attention, which in no way denotes shyness. Get real!!
Your reply is based upon assumptions not knowledge
Posted by: curvybum
Posted on: 2004-04-11 15:18:13
Evidently you feel insecure when encountering educated language, therefore you feel threatened and attack instead of presenting a rational and respectful debate.
You have no scientific or research basis for your contention that shyness is not a genetically influenced trait, only your own assumptions. Such research does exist. As a shy person I know from personal experience that shyness, and the thoughts and behaviors related to it, can be far more multidimensional and varied than you imagine.
Posted by: curvybum
Posted on: 2004-04-11 15:18:13
Evidently you feel insecure when encountering educated language, therefore you feel threatened and attack instead of presenting a rational and respectful debate.
You have no scientific or research basis for your contention that shyness is not a genetically influenced trait, only your own assumptions. Such research does exist. As a shy person I know from personal experience that shyness, and the thoughts and behaviors related to it, can be far more multidimensional and varied than you imagine.
Shawna
Posted by: miragut
Posted on: 2004-03-30 00:09:39
I am very much like you - hate getting my picture taken, self-conscious, etc. For my wedding, my future husband and I had very little money but a lot of love. We decided to get married on a Wednesday afternoon, with 50 family & very close friends in attendance. We had an outdoor reception in my brother's backyard. Everyone in my family contributed to the buffet. My oldest brother acted as Master of Ceremonies and we opened our wedding gifts on the patio. I wore a sort white wedding dress, but the white high heels hurt my feet so during the reception, I changed into my loafers. Everyone laughed and said that NOW they finally believed it was really me! Go with what you really and truly want and are comfortable with. Just be yourself. The wedding day is not the be all and end all - it's the life ahead of you both that is important.
Posted by: miragut
Posted on: 2004-03-30 00:09:39
I am very much like you - hate getting my picture taken, self-conscious, etc. For my wedding, my future husband and I had very little money but a lot of love. We decided to get married on a Wednesday afternoon, with 50 family & very close friends in attendance. We had an outdoor reception in my brother's backyard. Everyone in my family contributed to the buffet. My oldest brother acted as Master of Ceremonies and we opened our wedding gifts on the patio. I wore a sort white wedding dress, but the white high heels hurt my feet so during the reception, I changed into my loafers. Everyone laughed and said that NOW they finally believed it was really me! Go with what you really and truly want and are comfortable with. Just be yourself. The wedding day is not the be all and end all - it's the life ahead of you both that is important.
This is Shawna Responding
Posted by: msfeebs
Posted on: 2003-11-11 19:17:41
Okay, time for a few words from the "Shy Bride" (it’s me – I promise!)
First of all, thank you for your kind words of support. I have a new appreciation for the people that go on this show (& shows like it) bearing their souls for the rest of the public to judge. After reading all the messages posted so far today, I'm pleasantly surprised that most people are understanding & kind.
The few people in the world who know me well could tell you how hard it was for me to sit in that chair & watch Dr. Phil try to figure out my situation in 11 minutes. (I'd like to think I'm much more complicated than that!) But because it's television, they had to try to boil it down to it’s because I’m tall or because I moved around a lot as a kid so that it's easier to address. The point I *WISH* I had pulled it together enough to express was that THIS IS HOW I AM. I'm shy. I don't make friends easily, if at all. I lack the requisite social graces. I'm not a person who 'fits in'. These things make having this wedding really hard for me. But instead, the fact that they're creating television (entertainment) AND the fact that I was too freaked out by the whole experience to speak up (I take responsibility for that), it ended up seeming like something that it really wasn't. Still an interesting, boundary-pushing event for me - absolutely - but based on the REAL issue? There's no way to do that in 11 minutes.
Still, thank you to those who offered kind words – I do appreciate
Posted by: msfeebs
Posted on: 2003-11-11 19:17:41
Okay, time for a few words from the "Shy Bride" (it’s me – I promise!)
First of all, thank you for your kind words of support. I have a new appreciation for the people that go on this show (& shows like it) bearing their souls for the rest of the public to judge. After reading all the messages posted so far today, I'm pleasantly surprised that most people are understanding & kind.
The few people in the world who know me well could tell you how hard it was for me to sit in that chair & watch Dr. Phil try to figure out my situation in 11 minutes. (I'd like to think I'm much more complicated than that!) But because it's television, they had to try to boil it down to it’s because I’m tall or because I moved around a lot as a kid so that it's easier to address. The point I *WISH* I had pulled it together enough to express was that THIS IS HOW I AM. I'm shy. I don't make friends easily, if at all. I lack the requisite social graces. I'm not a person who 'fits in'. These things make having this wedding really hard for me. But instead, the fact that they're creating television (entertainment) AND the fact that I was too freaked out by the whole experience to speak up (I take responsibility for that), it ended up seeming like something that it really wasn't. Still an interesting, boundary-pushing event for me - absolutely - but based on the REAL issue? There's no way to do that in 11 minutes.
Still, thank you to those who offered kind words – I do appreciate
Hi Shawna
Posted by: moon627
Posted on: 2003-11-11 19:31:20
I'm the same way but I wasnt always so shy. I also got tall and i always stick out in a crowd - especially because alot of my coworkers are petite asians. Somewhere along the way I became a social misfit and instead of saying what my head was thinking I'd blurt out something dumb and feel like an idiot so I stopped talking. I feel very much at ease at home and with friends and doing my job and typing online but in many social instances I turn to jello. In fact, I didnt have a wedding and instead we went to Reno so you are my hero and you are very brave and beautiful. Best wishes to you and your groom.
Posted by: moon627
Posted on: 2003-11-11 19:31:20
I'm the same way but I wasnt always so shy. I also got tall and i always stick out in a crowd - especially because alot of my coworkers are petite asians. Somewhere along the way I became a social misfit and instead of saying what my head was thinking I'd blurt out something dumb and feel like an idiot so I stopped talking. I feel very much at ease at home and with friends and doing my job and typing online but in many social instances I turn to jello. In fact, I didnt have a wedding and instead we went to Reno so you are my hero and you are very brave and beautiful. Best wishes to you and your groom.
I'm not alone!
Posted by: jdpfan
Posted on: 2003-11-11 20:23:18
I just wrote a letter to Dr. Phil thanking him for having Shawna on the show. I too, am dreading my wedding day! The thought of being the center of attention makes me really uncomfortable. And I HATE dancing, which seems rare for women (I can be at a function sitting at a table with my male relatives, and it never fails, I will be the only one asked "why aren't you out there dancing??" The guys aren't expected to like to dance, but ME, I'm a woman, so I should love it!)
Anyway,it feels really good to know that I am not alone. It seems like so many women look forward to their wedding day their whole lives. I thought I was the only one who cringed at the thought of it!
Also, I know it has to do with the fact that I am shy, but I feel like I can't help that!
Posted by: jdpfan
Posted on: 2003-11-11 20:23:18
I just wrote a letter to Dr. Phil thanking him for having Shawna on the show. I too, am dreading my wedding day! The thought of being the center of attention makes me really uncomfortable. And I HATE dancing, which seems rare for women (I can be at a function sitting at a table with my male relatives, and it never fails, I will be the only one asked "why aren't you out there dancing??" The guys aren't expected to like to dance, but ME, I'm a woman, so I should love it!)
Anyway,it feels really good to know that I am not alone. It seems like so many women look forward to their wedding day their whole lives. I thought I was the only one who cringed at the thought of it!
Also, I know it has to do with the fact that I am shy, but I feel like I can't help that!
